Flutterby™! :

A new mouthorgan this morning, summarizing the results of their earlier sex survey. One of the quotes to come from that is this:

I think the last group that will out themselves are vanilla, monogamous heterosexuals; unfortunately, they are the group that needs it most.

Which ties back in to an e-mail conversation I'm having, where my correspondent mentioned that I have a lot of energy around sex. I'm working on a longer response, but I think we all do, it's just that so many of us are ashamed of it. I mentioned yesterday the "hot talk" workshop at Good Vibrations; people aren't comfortable with the "7" (or quite a bit more than that), we use sexual terms for violence ("fuck you"), in some cases words that were once loving have been perverted ("cunt"). As a child hearing mythology I was told that if you know something's secret name you have power over it. That's true, which means that it's also true that if you don't have a secret name then you don't put the "shame" handle out there for others to manipulate. Something to consider next time some authority starts preaching the "sex is sinful" line. Which is why I (Dan) often tag myself with "vanilla het monogamous pervert."