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Entry: 2014-07-18 16:09:15.720386-07 Legalized prostitution means less rape by Dan Lyke comments 2

Study: Rhode Island accidentally decriminalized prostitution, and good things happened:

More surprising was the finding that forcible rape offenses fell by 31 percent in Rhode Island from 2004 to 2009, as decriminalized indoor sex work scaled up in the state. This translates to 824 fewer reported rapes. The majority of the reduction in rapes came from Providence, where the state's sex work is concentrated.

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Entry: 2014-07-18 13:52:06.04028-07 Bubinga slab by Dan Lyke comments 0

Shadow forwarded along: I bought an 8ft long, 4ft wide, 12/4 thick slab of Bubinga... this IS that story.

Yeah, it's basically just wood porn, a love story to a 4x8 foot slab. I drooled.

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Entry: 2014-07-16 15:44:35.517141-07 by Dan Lyke comments 0

I hate Elon Musk for PayPal and the whole Hyperloop thing, but it's hard not to like the guy for Tesla: Musk on why the new Tesla will be the "3" and not the "E":

“We had the model S for sedan and X for crossover SUV, then a friend asked what we were going to call the third car,” Musk told us. “So I said we had the model S and X, we might as well have the E.

“We were going to call it model E for a while and then Ford sued us saying it wanted to use the Model E – I thought this is crazy, Ford’s trying to kill sex! So we’ll have to think of another name.”

(Which was quoting from Auto Express: Tesla Model 3 to challenge BMW 3 Series - World Exclusive

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Entry: 2014-07-15 09:51:08.429051-07 Abused children and the courts by Dan Lyke comments 0

Rogers Cadenhead: M.C. Moewe and the Story That Got Away is an intro to a series of stories over at Daily Kos about mandatory reporters who've faced retaliation for coming forward with reports of sex abuse, and situations where children's reports of abuse are not taken seriously.

My reading so far is mixed. The Most Powerful Person in a Child Custody Case Isn't the Judge points out that the judges are often making decisions based solely on the decision of a single custody evaluator, and offers as an example:

The Seattle forensic psychologist Stuart A. Greenberg helped build the multimillion-dollar court expert industry of today.

In 2007, Greenberg committed suicide after being arrested for secretly filming people in his office bathroom. If his staff had not become suspicious of an air purifier, Greenberg would probably still be commanding $450 an hour to determine what's best for children in custody cases. He was a well-respected past president of the American Board of Forensic Psychology, helped develop a national certification exam for his field and taught training classes to other experts.

To a large extent this feels like some of the stories I read about foster families. I both know adults who have been through foster homes who campaign against the abuses of that system, and many of those abuses are particularly egregious, and then I also know foster parents who have dropped everything to go pick up a toddler from horrific circumstances because the kid needs a roof.

There's room for improvement, obviously, and we need more exposure and examination of the processes.

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Entry: 2014-07-09 19:22:36.823514-07 Ancient graffiti by Dan Lyke comments 0

2,500-year-old erotic graffiti found in unlikely setting on Aegean island: Racy inscriptions and phalluses carved into Astypalaia's rocky peninsula shed light on very private lives of ancient Greece.

Gay porn has been around for two and a half millenia.


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Entry: 2014-07-09 11:48:46.27251-07 25 pictures by Dan Lyke comments 0

Bwahahahaha! 25 pictures of lesbian sex according to stock photography.

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Entry: 2014-07-08 10:26:05.853461-07 NSA abuse of the day by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Atlantic: Conor Friedersdorf: The Latest Snowden Leak Is Devastating to NSA Defenders:

But their narrative now contradicts itself. The Washington Post's latest article drawing on Snowden's leaked cache of documents includes files "described as useless by the analysts but nonetheless retained" that "tell stories of love and heartbreak, illicit sexual liaisons, mental-health crises, political and religious conversions, financial anxieties and disappointed hopes. The daily lives of more than 10,000 account holders who were not targeted are catalogued and recorded nevertheless."

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Entry: 2014-07-08 06:39:41.721049-07 kGoal by Dan Lyke comments 0

Meet the kGoal: A FitBit for your vagina.

the kGoal kickstarter.

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Entry: 2014-07-04 18:05:04.90329-07 And by Dan Lyke comments 1

And, appropriate to hanging out in Salt Lake City with a bunch of... uhhh... http://slightlywarped.com/crap...curiosities/2010/mormon_porn.htm

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Entry: 2014-06-28 07:53:44.983367-07 *Redbook* by Dan Lyke comments 1

Shadow forwarded along this Reddit thread on the FBI seizing MyRedbook.com and SFRedbook.com. I was actually vaguely aware of this because it's causing Bay Area sex workers to have to scramble to rebuild trust and accountability networks.

It should also be noted that although phrases like "trafficking" and "children" are getting tossed around, those seem to be unrelated to this bust.

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Entry: 2014-06-26 13:12:46.564784-07 ...they'll play with it by Dan Lyke comments 0

Evolve - Playthings (YouTube). Promoting gun safety around children ... with dildos!

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Entry: 2014-06-24 07:10:06.062154-07 Live edge bookcase by Dan Lyke comments 1

Woodworking porn: Shadow passed along this set of pictures of making a live edge oak set of bookshelves, with a fairly simple support system. I think I'd have toned down the gloss a bit, but it's still pretty cool!

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Entry: 2014-06-13 14:32:55.223314-07 Another trafficking story falls apart by Dan Lyke comments 0

Mediaite: No Time to Fact Check, the NY Times Has Moral Panic to Cover.

And now we have another deluded trafficking “victim” — this one named Chong Kim. She was the “true story” behind Eden, a tale of “underage women conscripted into sexual slavery by a criminal enterprise from which there is seemingly no escape,” as described by the New York Times book review.

More on the exposing the Chong Kim fraud.

You may have also heard about Somaly Mam, who made a career and two Pulitzer Prizes out of making up stories of sex slavery in Cambodia.

As so many people have pointed out, if you want to address slavery, go after domestic and agricultural work, and if you want to go after prostitution then empower women (and men) and provide them with economic opportunities.

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Entry: 2014-06-03 10:34:04.617246-07 Beautiful Agony interview by Dan Lyke comments 0

Vice interviews the founders of Beautiful Agony

Previously on Flutterby.

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Entry: 2014-06-03 09:29:29.913663-07 Oh! You Kid! by Dan Lyke comments 0

Slate Sex and Pop: Oh! You Kid! How a sexed-up viral hit from the summer of ’09—1909—changed American pop music forever.

Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2014-05-29 15:10:57.84807-07 Maya Angelou's sex work history by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Erasure of Maya Angelou’s Sex Work History.

Via Eros Blog

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Entry: 2014-05-27 15:12:06.051558-07 On trafficking by Dan Lyke comments 0

I’m Katha Pollitt’s “Highly Educated” Leftist—And A Sex Trafficking Victim

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Entry: 2014-05-14 12:39:13.691636-07 sex trafficking by Dan Lyke comments 0

Well worth reading: As a sex trafficking survivor, I support full decriminalization of sex work.

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Entry: 2014-05-06 07:03:40.658197-07 Betty Dodson resurgence by Dan Lyke comments 0

Your "aging gracefully" read of the morning: The Guardian: Masturbation: the secret to a long life?

Betty Dodson says self-love keeps her young. Now the 85-year-old has a new audience of fourth-wave feminists enrolling in workshops she first ran in the 1970s

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Entry: 2014-05-02 10:28:57.492828-07 government up our ass by Dan Lyke comments 0

As I see it, the right wing cries "we don't want government up our ass," even as they write legislation that forces government up our vaginas. ‪#‎rightwinghypocrites‬

Gloria Brame, on Facebook

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Entry: 2014-04-29 16:53:51.394007-07 Goodbye separation of powers by Dan Lyke comments 2

Is the DOJ Forcing Banks to Terminate the Accounts of Porn Stars? It may be the US DOJ:

It’s called Operation Choke Point, and it has nothing to do with deep-throating.

Instead, it’s a targeted effort to shut down as many as 30 separate industries by making it impossible for them to access banking services.

In a Wall Street Journal op-ed Thursday, American Bankers Association CEO Frank Keating wrote that the Justice Department is “telling bankers to behave like policemen and judges.”

Extrajudicial punishment. What could possibly go wrong? Via Reason.

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Entry: 2014-04-28 12:46:54.176837-07 Driver had it coming by Dan Lyke comments 0

Bike vs Car in the Mill Valley bicycle road rage arrest: The rest of the story:

According to those who were there, Smock was indeed hit by the mirror on the pickup truck. The two drunk occupants of the truck then stopped, got out of the truck, and began swinging at Smock.

In other words, the unnamed drunk belligerents allegedly started it, and Smock finished it in this cowardly two-against-one attack. The drunk driver was tested during his brief 45 minute hospital visit and found to be over the limit for DUI.

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Entry: 2014-04-17 08:58:17.479708-07 Sex and art by Dan Lyke comments 1

"The LOVE IS ART KIT - LUVTONE edition includes all of the materials you need to safely create a abstract painting while being intimate with the one you love."

Jackson Pollock without the cigarette ash and disdain for the audience.

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Entry: 2014-04-14 10:37:54.161315-07 Tom of Finland gets a stamp by Dan Lyke comments 0

Whoah! Check Out Finland’s New Graphic Gay Bondage Stamps. New Finnish stamps feature homoerotic themes.

Finland is releasing a new line of stamps based on the work of Touko Laaksonen, aka "Tom of Finland".

If the USPS wanted to revive interest in paper letters...

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Entry: 2014-04-14 09:10:26.458294-07 Porn & piracy by Dan Lyke comments 0

Fascinating: Why are porn performers scared to talk about Internet piracy?

Seems like yet another situation where the stigmatization of porn, which leads to making payment processing and hosting and all sorts of other technical issues very difficult, means that the performers can't take control of the economics of their performance.

[ related topics: Net Culture Erotic Theater & Plays Sexual Culture Economics ]

Entry: 2014-04-08 15:09:33.054059-07 Who gets to be the man by Dan Lyke comments 1

Metafilter: And sometimes the blonde likes to wear... is someone looking for a routine by Mae Martin answering the question "For a lesbian couple who gets to be the man of the relationship?", and says that in this video it starts around 7 minutes

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Entry: 2014-03-28 16:22:07.549353-07 Gay rights vs evangelical Christians by Dan Lyke comments 0

Greenberg Quinlan Rosner Research: Survey Charts Dramatic Change Toward Marriage Equality:

On Thursday, the Human Rights Campaign and Americans for Marriage Equality released the results of a bipartisan study of likely 2016 voters conducted by Greenberg Quinlan Rosner Research and TargetPoint Consulting. The study revealed that as support for marriage equality continues to grow, voters’ attitudes toward the LGBT community and the implications of marriage equality have also shifted. ...

But the big kicker is summarized as: Americans View Gay People More Favorably Than Evangelical Christians: Poll.

So, you know, as churches are talking about what's driving young people away and how to better lure back the 20-somethings who've left and all... well...

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Entry: 2014-03-28 06:39:22.610866-07 Cupcakes by Dan Lyke comments 1

RT Jennifer Gunter ‏@DrJenGunter

Rather limp -> @mpf2011: “@gnuman1979: I do not want!! http://pic.twitter.com/DxnPsyLtBH / Is it Nat'l Penis Day? #NotOnMyCalendar”

[Penis Cupcakes]

RT john. ┬─┬ノ( º _ ºノ) ‏@genehack:

@DrJenGunter I hate to be the one to break it to you doc, but that's how they spend most of their time. 8^)

RT Jennifer Gunter ‏@DrJenGunter:

@genehack but they are prettier erect so if the cupcakes want to be pretty...

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Entry: 2014-03-24 14:03:37.142968-07 orientation and repulsion by Dan Lyke comments 0

Saved off for later reading: Psychology Today: Sex Research Takes a Strange Turn: Sex orientation isn't only about what attracts us; what repels us also matters.

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Entry: 2014-03-13 16:29:39.444085-07 HIV between women by Dan Lyke comments 0

There's been a likely case of HIV spread through sexual contact.

"There were cases where it was suspected, but not all the pieces were there to say it so clearly as this one," says Patrick Sullivan, an epidemiologist at Emory University who wasn't involved in the study.

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Entry: 2014-03-10 15:55:35.50896-07 Terri Conley on sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

New York Magazine: Meet Terri Conley: The Psychologist With an Alternative Theory of Hookup Culture:

The reason women are turning you down for casual sex seems to be that, for one thing, a lot of you are calling them sluts afterward. A lot of you aren’t bothering to try to be good in bed. Until you can try to get that under control, it’s kind of hard to take seriously all these complaints about not having access to casual sex.

Via Elf Sternberg @ElfSternberg.

A number of good observations in there.

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Entry: 2014-03-06 13:16:08.348552-08 More Canadian by Dan Lyke comments 3

Canadian Regulators: Canadian Porn Isn’t Canadian Enough. Your porn is not Canadian enough, CRTC warns erotica channels.

Seems simple enough to fix: Just dub in "aboot" and end the occasional sentence with "eh?" or "hey?".

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Entry: 2014-03-05 07:53:39.158524-08 Trigger Warning by Dan Lyke comments 0

The New Republic: Trigger warnings have spread from blogs to college classes, and that's bad.

The term only spread with the advent of social media. In 2012, The Awl's Choire Sicha argued that it had "lost all its meaning." Since then, alerts have been applied to topics as diverse as sex, pregnancy, addiction, bullying, suicide, sizeism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, slut shaming, victim-blaming, alcohol, blood, insects, small holes, and animals in wigs. Certain people, from rapper Chris Brown to sex columnist Dan Savage, have been dubbed “triggering.” Some have called for trigger warnings for television shows such as "Scandal" and "Downton Abbey." Even The New Republic has suggested the satirical news site, The Onion, carry trigger warnings.

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Entry: 2014-03-03 18:17:15.543097-08 Project ROSE by Dan Lyke comments 0

In Arizona, Project ROSE is arresting sex workers to save them:

In law enforcement, language goes through the looking glass. Lieutenant James Gallagher, the former head of the Phoenix Vice Department, told me that Project ROSE raids were “programs.” The arrests were “contact.” And the sex workers who told Al Jazeera that they had been kidnapped in those windowless church rooms—they were “lawfully detained.”

The shaming and extrajudicial punishment happening here is horrific.

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Entry: 2014-03-03 15:08:36.426194-08 sex and age by Dan Lyke comments 0

WBUR's Common Health: Some 70-Something Women Having ‘Best Sex Ever’? Really? (Yes.).

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Entry: 2014-03-03 15:07:20.475227-08 Down our throats by Dan Lyke comments 0

Elf Sternberg ‏@elfsternberg:

When are the anti-gay-rights folks going to realize that every time they use the phrase "down our throats," the rest of us just giggle?

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Entry: 2014-02-28 07:28:14.355828-08 Tab dump by Dan Lyke comments 0

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Entry: 2014-02-27 14:31:41.360963-08 Snooping on web cam conversations by Dan Lyke comments 0

UK's GHCQ spied on millions of web cam conversations, many from Yahoo Messenger:

"It would appear that a surprising number of people use webcam conversations to show intimate parts of their body to the other person,'' another snippet of an intelligence document published said. It went on to say that an informal study had found that between 3 and 11 percent of all the images carried "undesirable nudity."

So I'm not making any accusations, I'm just asking questions, but I'm wondering where all of those reprehensible "revenge porn" sites get their content from. We've already strongly established that intelligence services are heavily involved in using blackmail and shaming to steer public discourse; I wonder how many of their employees are misogynist louts who want to continue our sexual repressions?

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Entry: 2014-02-26 11:48:09.105967-08 Trafficking and Sochi by Dan Lyke comments 2

I have long discounted people who talk about "trafficking" as anti-prostitution activists who are unwilling to admit that there are social and cultural situations which lead women to be coerced into prostitution in ways that are not charge-able as kidnapping, but in which clamping down on prostitution rather than solving those social and cultural situations in which women are reluctantly engaging in sex for money hurts those women more.

So I find XOJane: Britney Cason: IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Almost Became a Victim of Human Trafficking at the Sochi Olympics fascinating: that anyone would consider kidnapping, across national boundaries, into the former Soviet bloc countries, that the economics in any way support this, completely up-ends my worldview.

Via MeFi (among others), where they're trying to figure out the rest of the picture too.

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Entry: 2014-02-24 15:55:02.240133-08 VA rep Martin on women by Dan Lyke comments 7

Virginia state senator Steve Martin:

... And, I don't expect to be in the room or will I do anything to prevent you from obtaining a contraceptive. However, once a child does exist in your womb, I'm not going to assume a right to kill it just because the bearer of the child (some refer to them as mothers) doesn't want it to remain alive.

Via and Via and Via.

On the one hand it's refreshing, Martin seems to be one anti-choicer who claims to be not going after Griswold v. Connecticut[Wiki]. On the other hand...

There are a number of things I can point to as cracks in my formerly hardcore Libertarianism. However, part of the philosophy underlying that libertarian attitude, which was heavily steeped in the Objectivist philosophies of Ayn Rand, was that I get to make the decisions about when, and when not, to risk my own safety and well-being to help people. I've played in enough high adrenaline sports contexts that I've had, several times, to weigh the "how much risk am I willing to assume in order to help that person" decisions, where "risk" and "help" could be life vs death.

It is, therefore, inconceivable that anyone calling themselves "libertarian", or in any way holding up liberty as an ideal, could presume to impose that decision on someone else. Having had to make such decisions (often on the "I'll accept the risk" side) I will never judge someone who chooses to not assume risk, whatever their reasons.

Pregnancy has a huge cost and contains many risks.

Anyone against widely available easy abortion is, therefore, against liberty. Whether it's Ron Paul or any other politician. And, thus, it is my single defining issue: If I can't trust you to allow people their own decisions on that front, I cannot trust you to make any decisions for me.

What state senator Martin is clearly saying here is that he believes women are somehow not worthy of the responsibility to make decisions of their own sovereignty. He deserves only our scorn.

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