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Entry: 2014-04-17 08:58:17.479708-07 Sex and art by Dan Lyke comments 1

"The LOVE IS ART KIT - LUVTONE edition includes all of the materials you need to safely create a abstract painting while being intimate with the one you love."

Jackson Pollock without the cigarette ash and disdain for the audience.

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Entry: 2014-04-14 10:37:54.161315-07 Tom of Finland gets a stamp by Dan Lyke comments 0

Whoah! Check Out Finland’s New Graphic Gay Bondage Stamps. New Finnish stamps feature homoerotic themes.

Finland is releasing a new line of stamps based on the work of Touko Laaksonen, aka "Tom of Finland".

If the USPS wanted to revive interest in paper letters...

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Entry: 2014-04-14 09:10:26.458294-07 Porn & piracy by Dan Lyke comments 0

Fascinating: Why are porn performers scared to talk about Internet piracy?

Seems like yet another situation where the stigmatization of porn, which leads to making payment processing and hosting and all sorts of other technical issues very difficult, means that the performers can't take control of the economics of their performance.

[ related topics: Net Culture Erotic Theater & Plays Sexual Culture Economics ]



Entry: 2014-04-08 15:09:33.054059-07 Who gets to be the man by Dan Lyke comments 1

Metafilter: And sometimes the blonde likes to wear... is someone looking for a routine by Mae Martin answering the question "For a lesbian couple who gets to be the man of the relationship?", and says that in this video it starts around 7 minutes

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Entry: 2014-03-28 16:22:07.549353-07 Gay rights vs evangelical Christians by Dan Lyke comments 0

Greenberg Quinlan Rosner Research: Survey Charts Dramatic Change Toward Marriage Equality:

On Thursday, the Human Rights Campaign and Americans for Marriage Equality released the results of a bipartisan study of likely 2016 voters conducted by Greenberg Quinlan Rosner Research and TargetPoint Consulting. The study revealed that as support for marriage equality continues to grow, voters’ attitudes toward the LGBT community and the implications of marriage equality have also shifted. ...

But the big kicker is summarized as: Americans View Gay People More Favorably Than Evangelical Christians: Poll.

So, you know, as churches are talking about what's driving young people away and how to better lure back the 20-somethings who've left and all... well...

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Entry: 2014-03-28 06:39:22.610866-07 Cupcakes by Dan Lyke comments 1

RT Jennifer Gunter ‏@DrJenGunter

Rather limp -> @mpf2011: “@gnuman1979: I do not want!! http://pic.twitter.com/DxnPsyLtBH / Is it Nat'l Penis Day? #NotOnMyCalendar”

[Penis Cupcakes]

RT john. ┬─┬ノ( º _ ºノ) ‏@genehack:

@DrJenGunter I hate to be the one to break it to you doc, but that's how they spend most of their time. 8^)

RT Jennifer Gunter ‏@DrJenGunter:

@genehack but they are prettier erect so if the cupcakes want to be pretty...

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Entry: 2014-03-24 14:03:37.142968-07 orientation and repulsion by Dan Lyke comments 0

Saved off for later reading: Psychology Today: Sex Research Takes a Strange Turn: Sex orientation isn't only about what attracts us; what repels us also matters.

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Entry: 2014-03-13 16:29:39.444085-07 HIV between women by Dan Lyke comments 0

There's been a likely case of HIV spread through sexual contact.

"There were cases where it was suspected, but not all the pieces were there to say it so clearly as this one," says Patrick Sullivan, an epidemiologist at Emory University who wasn't involved in the study.

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Entry: 2014-03-10 15:55:35.50896-07 Terri Conley on sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

New York Magazine: Meet Terri Conley: The Psychologist With an Alternative Theory of Hookup Culture:

The reason women are turning you down for casual sex seems to be that, for one thing, a lot of you are calling them sluts afterward. A lot of you aren’t bothering to try to be good in bed. Until you can try to get that under control, it’s kind of hard to take seriously all these complaints about not having access to casual sex.

Via Elf Sternberg @ElfSternberg.

A number of good observations in there.

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Entry: 2014-03-06 13:16:08.348552-08 More Canadian by Dan Lyke comments 3

Canadian Regulators: Canadian Porn Isn’t Canadian Enough. Your porn is not Canadian enough, CRTC warns erotica channels.

Seems simple enough to fix: Just dub in "aboot" and end the occasional sentence with "eh?" or "hey?".

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Entry: 2014-03-05 07:53:39.158524-08 Trigger Warning by Dan Lyke comments 0

The New Republic: Trigger warnings have spread from blogs to college classes, and that's bad.

The term only spread with the advent of social media. In 2012, The Awl's Choire Sicha argued that it had "lost all its meaning." Since then, alerts have been applied to topics as diverse as sex, pregnancy, addiction, bullying, suicide, sizeism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, slut shaming, victim-blaming, alcohol, blood, insects, small holes, and animals in wigs. Certain people, from rapper Chris Brown to sex columnist Dan Savage, have been dubbed “triggering.” Some have called for trigger warnings for television shows such as "Scandal" and "Downton Abbey." Even The New Republic has suggested the satirical news site, The Onion, carry trigger warnings.

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Entry: 2014-03-03 18:17:15.543097-08 Project ROSE by Dan Lyke comments 0

In Arizona, Project ROSE is arresting sex workers to save them:

In law enforcement, language goes through the looking glass. Lieutenant James Gallagher, the former head of the Phoenix Vice Department, told me that Project ROSE raids were “programs.” The arrests were “contact.” And the sex workers who told Al Jazeera that they had been kidnapped in those windowless church rooms—they were “lawfully detained.”

The shaming and extrajudicial punishment happening here is horrific.

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Entry: 2014-03-03 15:08:36.426194-08 sex and age by Dan Lyke comments 0

WBUR's Common Health: Some 70-Something Women Having ‘Best Sex Ever’? Really? (Yes.).

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Entry: 2014-03-03 15:07:20.475227-08 Down our throats by Dan Lyke comments 0

Elf Sternberg ‏@elfsternberg:

When are the anti-gay-rights folks going to realize that every time they use the phrase "down our throats," the rest of us just giggle?

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Entry: 2014-02-28 07:28:14.355828-08 Tab dump by Dan Lyke comments 0

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Entry: 2014-02-27 14:31:41.360963-08 Snooping on web cam conversations by Dan Lyke comments 0

UK's GHCQ spied on millions of web cam conversations, many from Yahoo Messenger:

"It would appear that a surprising number of people use webcam conversations to show intimate parts of their body to the other person,'' another snippet of an intelligence document published said. It went on to say that an informal study had found that between 3 and 11 percent of all the images carried "undesirable nudity."

So I'm not making any accusations, I'm just asking questions, but I'm wondering where all of those reprehensible "revenge porn" sites get their content from. We've already strongly established that intelligence services are heavily involved in using blackmail and shaming to steer public discourse; I wonder how many of their employees are misogynist louts who want to continue our sexual repressions?

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Entry: 2014-02-26 11:48:09.105967-08 Trafficking and Sochi by Dan Lyke comments 2

I have long discounted people who talk about "trafficking" as anti-prostitution activists who are unwilling to admit that there are social and cultural situations which lead women to be coerced into prostitution in ways that are not charge-able as kidnapping, but in which clamping down on prostitution rather than solving those social and cultural situations in which women are reluctantly engaging in sex for money hurts those women more.

So I find XOJane: Britney Cason: IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Almost Became a Victim of Human Trafficking at the Sochi Olympics fascinating: that anyone would consider kidnapping, across national boundaries, into the former Soviet bloc countries, that the economics in any way support this, completely up-ends my worldview.

Via MeFi (among others), where they're trying to figure out the rest of the picture too.

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Entry: 2014-02-24 15:55:02.240133-08 VA rep Martin on women by Dan Lyke comments 7

Virginia state senator Steve Martin:

... And, I don't expect to be in the room or will I do anything to prevent you from obtaining a contraceptive. However, once a child does exist in your womb, I'm not going to assume a right to kill it just because the bearer of the child (some refer to them as mothers) doesn't want it to remain alive.

Via and Via and Via.

On the one hand it's refreshing, Martin seems to be one anti-choicer who claims to be not going after Griswold v. Connecticut[Wiki]. On the other hand...

There are a number of things I can point to as cracks in my formerly hardcore Libertarianism. However, part of the philosophy underlying that libertarian attitude, which was heavily steeped in the Objectivist philosophies of Ayn Rand, was that I get to make the decisions about when, and when not, to risk my own safety and well-being to help people. I've played in enough high adrenaline sports contexts that I've had, several times, to weigh the "how much risk am I willing to assume in order to help that person" decisions, where "risk" and "help" could be life vs death.

It is, therefore, inconceivable that anyone calling themselves "libertarian", or in any way holding up liberty as an ideal, could presume to impose that decision on someone else. Having had to make such decisions (often on the "I'll accept the risk" side) I will never judge someone who chooses to not assume risk, whatever their reasons.

Pregnancy has a huge cost and contains many risks.

Anyone against widely available easy abortion is, therefore, against liberty. Whether it's Ron Paul or any other politician. And, thus, it is my single defining issue: If I can't trust you to allow people their own decisions on that front, I cannot trust you to make any decisions for me.

What state senator Martin is clearly saying here is that he believes women are somehow not worthy of the responsibility to make decisions of their own sovereignty. He deserves only our scorn.

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Entry: 2014-02-14 17:45:01.691496-08 Kink & Green Happy Valentines Day Flutterby by TC comments 0

Upcycle old bike parts into Kinky fun.

http://grist.org/list/get-your...toys-made-of-upcycled-bike-tires

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Entry: 2014-02-14 14:13:46.719989-08 Duke & porn by Dan Lyke comments 2

Duke student works as a porn actress to pay tuition, discovers that, largely, other Duke students are misogynist assholes:

“If I could do it again, I don’t know if I would’ve done porn. I don’t know if I would’ve gone to Duke,” said Lauren. “After how I’ve been treated, I sometimes find myself wondering…. I had scholarships to other schools where I would’ve had to pay nothing. But I chose Duke because I thought it would be a great place for me—I thought that I belonged here.”

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Entry: 2014-02-14 10:44:45.644099-08 STsea by Dan Lyke comments 0

Whoah: Sexually transmitted food poisoning exists, and it involves seafood.

We don’t know why anyone would want to have sex while experiencing stomach pains and diarrhea, but it seemed like a good idea 25 years ago, when two guys went out for a seafood dinner while tearing it up in the Bahamas. Shortly after their meal, they started experiencing symptoms of food poisoning, symptoms that they passed on to their wives through sexual intercourse. According to an entry in Clinical Toxicology, the men had ingested a toxin called ciguatera, which was passed on to their wives through their sperm.

And now you have your obligatory VD (no, it doesn't stand for "Valentine's Day" post for February 14th).

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Model Building Marriage Food ]



Entry: 2014-02-12 14:31:42.394638-08 All your sex are belog to Google by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Kyle Machulis ‏@qDot

"Him" interface for controlling underwear vibrator via Google Voice Recognition by @Vibease http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IOxPdnCTTks

...:

Send your moans to google, they process them, then ping your sex toy app to control your vibrator. No problems here. None at all. Nope.

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Entry: 2014-02-10 07:11:29.512269-08 Looking back at D&S by Dan Lyke comments 0

Gloria Brame posted her Keynote Address to the Leather Leadership Conference 2009 to Facebook (she had, of course, previously posted it to her blog, and I think it's worth a read.

On my Facebook feed, a 20 something acquaintance recently posted a "hey, any of you guys bi and wanna hang out?" Now I was a particularly repressed 20 something, but I'm trying to imagine that message in a generically public space in which people of all ages (ie: his parents, us, his peers) interacted back in the late '80s or early '90s, back before the Internet started connecting sub-groups and revealing critical masses of people.

Now, Charlene and I square dance with a predominantly gay culture, and in looking at the history of that community I see it forming as a "separate but 'equal'" sort of community under the extreme prejudices of the '80s, where callers who called for a gay club would likely not be invited back to their gay clubs.

I think Gloria's got some good musings on what it means to transition a community from the "other", the dangerous closeted spaces, losing large numbers to HIV, into something that's still got its own identity, but that feels inclusive.

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Entry: 2014-02-08 11:50:03.968299-08 A little gay by ebradway comments 0

Canada Fires back at Russian ban on gay propaganda

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Entry: 2014-02-05 10:20:17.641372-08 Sex work myths by Dan Lyke comments 0

Q&A: The Woman Debunking Myths About Sex Work:

“Going back to the Berlin World Cup in 2006, we have eight years of data to show that for all these major sporting events, there isn’t a major uptick in trafficking. There is a major uptick in the media about fear of trafficking,” says Melissa Gira Grant, the author of Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work, which comes out from Verso in March. A former sex worker, activist, and organizer, Grant’s writing takes the media to task for their role in perpetuating harmful misconceptions about sex work. “It’s such a macrocosm of all of the terrible reporting around sex work and all of the fears around trafficking that become focused around sex workers,” she says of recent coverage pegged to the Super Bowl. 

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Entry: 2014-02-02 08:05:10.366403-08 On consent by Dan Lyke comments 1

RT Elf Sternberg ‏@elfsternberg

Every middle school kid in America ought to read this. But America won't let them: http://www.newstatesman.com/vo...-porn-stars-guide-sexual-consent

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Entry: 2014-01-27 15:02:33.952899-08 Unfortunate Modesty by Dan Lyke comments 0

Sam Sykes - Unfortunate Modesty, on writing about sex:

To paraphrase Jessica:

“Rape is just there.  It’s in the story and there’s not a lot of ways to interpret it.  Whereas consensual sex is the beginning of something more, a lot of emotions coming out and making themselves known.  Fear, lust, desire, sometimes even hate.  Things don’t get less complicated after you introduce those.”

And that’s when it hit me.

We had been thinking about sex entirely wrong.  I had been thinking about sex entirely wrong.

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Entry: 2014-01-26 11:02:04.791298-08 Porn mainstream by TC comments 0

So pot has the inertia to become legal and accepted as a mainstream vice. Can this happen for Porn?? Personally I'd like to see more HBO style porn but realize the "Debby Does" variety has it's niche too. So education and normalization here we go.....

http://apac-usa.com/education

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Entry: 2014-01-20 07:57:32.081863-08 Sexability by Dan Lyke comments 0

David Steinberg sends around news of a calendar with photos that explore sex and disability: http://www.sexability.org/

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Entry: 2014-01-17 08:45:49.480045-08 Pew milestones 2013 by Dan Lyke comments 0

Pew Research Center: 13 data milestones for 2013. A bunch of obvious, marijuana legalization and same sex marriage have both reached the majority, but some are a little more surprising, like #5:

For the first time, a majority of the public (53%) says that the federal government threatens their personal rights and freedoms.

And... well... worth a click through.

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Entry: 2014-01-09 09:16:25.894738-08 Two on British Culture by Dan Lyke comments 0

Britain still at war over legacy of World War I:

In an article for the right-of-center Daily Mail newspaper, Education Secretary Michael Gove said "Blackadder" and other satires had created a public impression of the four-year war - in which more than 8 million troops and millions of civilians died - as "a misbegotten shambles - a series of catastrophic mistakes perpetrated by an out-of-touch elite."

Yeah, and?

Daisy Buchanan in The Guardian: Good on the Naked Rambler – more public nudity would be a good thing:

Stephen Gough. 'Why is it OK to hint at highly sexualised nudity all day long and then persecute a normal man for getting naked.'

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Entry: 2013-12-27 22:09:25.995358-08 Gay dancing by Dan Lyke comments 0

Slate.com: A Texas bar banning gay two stepping shows why gay bars still matter.

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Entry: 2013-12-25 16:41:07.205745-08 We can't make the yuletide gay by Dan Lyke comments 0

We can't make the yuletide gay, all we can do is show it love and acceptance however it wants to be.

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Entry: 2013-12-24 14:16:38.29834-08 Boy scouts redeemed? by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Steve Silberman ‏@stevesilberman

If you missed it: Boy Scouts handing out pizza to gay couples waiting for marriage licenses in Utah. http://goo.gl/3t7oNh

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Entry: 2013-12-20 10:22:28.216587-08 Prostitution now legal in Canada? by Dan Lyke comments 0

Canada supreme court strikes down all restrictions on prostitution:

The supreme court of Canada struck down all current restrictions on prostitution on Friday, including bans on brothels and on street solicitation, declaring that the provisions unconstitutionally violated prostitutes' safety.

Additional article at: http://www.theglobeandmail.com...ostitution-laws/article16067485/

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Entry: 2013-12-17 10:50:01.108137-08 Low speed Internet by Dan Lyke comments 0

Surviving The Internet on Low Speed DSL.

I've actually been thinking about this a bit recently. The high speed fiber gambits of various ISPs have seen tremendously low uptake because there just isn't enough to do with it, unless you're interested in self-hosting. And most ISPs take a dim view of self-hosting because they want to charge you extra for "business class" services.

But even more, as I watch the creeping issues with malware and viruses and privacy invasions (are you sure nobody's been watching you through your laptop webcam recently? Really sure?), I wonder if we're going to look back on this network, even with NAT and the firewalling we've got, as we look back on promiscuous unprotected sex in the late '70s and early '80s.

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Entry: 2013-12-17 08:01:13.549457-08 To boldly go by Dan Lyke comments 0

First Sex Doll Launched into Space Reaches New Heights, Then Blows over Nevada

HOLLYWOOD, Calif., Dec. 16, 2013 /PRNewswire/ -- CNV.com Inc., one of the world's largest distributors of adult products, successfully launched an inflatable doll named Missy into space. The doll launched from Burton Creek State Park, just west of Lake Tahoe using a 4.5-pound balloon filled with about 300 cubic feet of hydrogen. The doll achieved an ascent rate of approximately 1,400 feet per minute, with its flight path taking it directly over Lake Tahoe, Carson City, and then over the deep desert as it climbed to over 100,000 feet above earth.

(Hat tip to http://www.researchbuzz.com/ )

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Entry: 2013-12-16 08:24:45.07962-08 Security links of the morning by Dan Lyke comments 0

Metaphone: The NSA Three Hop. In which a crowd-sourced study of phone metadata reveals that there are some huge nexus phone numbers, and the NSA reassurance that they only browse 3 levels out from people of interests are meaningless because these nexus numbers mean that we are all within three levels of contacts.

Errata Security: How we know the 60 Minutes NSA interview was crap. In which it is pointed out that whatever technobabble was spewed during that interview, in fact we're still very much back to "Trust us".

An NSA Coworker Remembers The Real Edward Snowden: 'A Genius Among Geniuses', also corrects some misconceptions about NSA security.

Eros Blog: Sex Toys And Infosec is a bit of an expansion of the widely passed around Charlie Stross: Trust me (I'm a kettle) note that now that everything, including a Russian tea kettle, has a WiFi interface, everything is a virus transmission vector.

Everything.

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Entry: 2013-12-13 16:15:12.700241-08 And a bucket of water perched on the door by Dan Lyke comments 0

We've been plotting out the built-ins for the office for a while now. We know we're going with a cherry look, we got a bunch of cabinet doors off of Craigslist we're going to use, and I'm building a ship model to integrate into the look of the place.

So I saw Wooden Boat Forums: Weird Request: Help Me Design a Boat Themed Study and dug in, to find probably the most practical advice I could:

If you want to make it truly accurate, you should probably allow a thin coat of mildew to grow over everything, build the deck beams 2 inches shorter than the top of your head, and occasionally have someone sneak up behind you and throw you into a bulkhead.

But Wooden Boat Forums: True Beauty Comes from Within does have some boat interior porn with referencing.

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Entry: 2013-12-10 12:32:21.056622-08 On politics and atheism by Dan Lyke comments 3

Politico: The Last Taboo:

... We were left wondering why a man who served 16 terms in Congress and who bravely came out as gay all the way back in 1987 felt the need to hide his atheism until he was out of office. Was it really harder to come out as an atheist politician in 2013 than as a gay one 25 years ago?

Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2013-11-28 15:56:36.797511-08 Mormon Women Bare by Dan Lyke comments 1

In reading those articles about Charlotte Laws going after Hunter Moore that I linked to I was reminded of how much the problem wasn't Hunter Moore and his revenge porn, but the fact that under the thin veneer of civilization, most people agree with that sort of hatred.

Mormon Women Bare is an attempt to address that misogyny head on. As about the project notes:

A young girl is shamed by her friends for not dressing “modestly” enough. A BYU student is chastised via note from a male student for wearing leggings. A BYU-Idaho student is not allowed to take a test because her jeans are “form fitting”. After hearing these stories and others in 2012, I threw up my hands in exasperation. What on earth is going on in this culture? I don’t remember it being like this when I was a child and teen growing up in the church. Why has the modesty culture of the LDS church gotten so extreme and what can we do about it?

Via Carina Kolodny ‏@carinakolodny:

This is jaw-droppingly beautiful, breathtaking, bold, brash, gutsy just go see. click. now. NOW. http://mormonwomenbare.com

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Entry: 2013-11-27 15:07:18.339792-08 NSA watching porn browsing habits by Dan Lyke comments 4

Hey there fellow radicalizers:

Via /..

Remember when the FBI was attempting to blackmail Martin Luther King, Jr.? Yeah, it sounds a lot like that.

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Entry: 2013-11-26 07:40:58.854532-08 Your pictures are scanned for matches by meuon comments 1

Google finds and turns in child molester/porn collector - While I'm glad this guy got caught, it's an eye opener to what happens to the images on Google servers, and apparently on your phone as well. Again, in some ways, Google and friends are the new "evil", as well as the new "good".

And while I have a technical interest in "darknets" and encryption, as well as a personal interest in them. I also have a fear of associating with socially irresponsible people that they often are used by (child porn, etc..).

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Entry: 2013-11-24 20:42:29.646301-08 Charlotte Laws' war on revenge porn by Dan Lyke comments 1

I have seen this tale on two online publications:

Both are about how Charlotte Laws got involved in going after Hunter Moore. Worth a read, but what struck me most was not how horrendously misogynistic an asshole Hunter Moore is, but how he's really just a reflection of a tremendously hateful society. These things wouldn't have nearly the power they did if the masses of people didn't essentially agree with Hunter Moore's view of women.

And that's the real crime.

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Entry: 2013-11-22 14:04:28.382813-08 How To Lose Your Virginity by Dan Lyke comments 0

Interesting: Meet the Filmmaker Convincing America That Virginity Doesn't Exist. An interview with the director of the documentary How To Lose Your Virginity. Looks fascinating.

Bonus link: Erika Moen's "which virgnity?" clip from that cartooning reality show "Strip Search" (YouTube)? The setup was "See how the contestants deal with reporters", so they had some tech reporter come in and ask various questions, including "when did you lose your virginity" which was supposed to be the "how does contestant shut down a reporter going too far"...

And if you're not familiar with Erika, http://ohjoysextoy.com/

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Entry: 2013-11-11 13:06:28.946892-08 GHCQ used LinkedIn to deliver malware by Dan Lyke comments 0

Britain's GHCQ targets engineers with fake LinkedIn pages, doing an MiTM attack to deliver malware with altered content.

Simultaneously, I was reading Erotic Scribes.com: Forbes Reports Google’s Illegal Revenue Over $1 Billion which felt a little axe-grindy, but did take on this CNN article that breathlessly talked about how malware via porn sites was a thing, when we all know that church websites are far more likely to be exploit vectors.

But it has gotten me to thinking about man-in-the-middle attacks, and it's made me even more sure that we need to be building personal public key web-of-trust mechanisms to be sure that the packets are actually coming from where we think we're getting them.

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Entry: 2013-11-10 09:15:24.733849-08 Call the fashion police! by Dan Lyke comments 0

Hey, you know those backward countries where the police arrest women for wearing the wrong sort of clothing? Like New York City?.

“Any current issue of a fashion magazine would display plenty of women similarly dressed,” wrote Judge Felicia Mennin in her Oct. 15 decision slamming cops for their sartorial arrest rationale. “However, the choice of such outfit hardly demonstrates the wearer’s proclivity to engage in prostitution.”

Via Jezebel.

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Entry: 2013-11-08 22:28:52.78166-08 Stone Nudes by Dan Lyke comments 0

Stone Nudes. Calendars and a book of nude people rock climbing.

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Entry: 2013-11-05 12:34:01.395012-08 by Dan Lyke comments 0

I've been thinking recently about "Personal Clouds" and social media, and how we're going to get to that future. I attribute a good portion of the growth of the early internet (and, before, that, the early BBS scene) to the ability to have the sorts of conversations we couldn't have in real-life.

To some extent, that meant that technical conversation was no longer geographically limited; I could talk about the minutiae of polygon rasterization on X86 architectures with people who weren't whitewater guides in Chattanooga TN, but another large portion was about the conversations outside of the social mores of that time and place.

For instance, Usenet groups like alt.sex.bondage (and alt.sex) were a huge step forward in how a sub-group of people found each other and started having conversations that in modern times are pretty mainstream, but at the time were totally revolutionary and subversive.

I have been hanging out with some of the "Internet Identity" crowd, and the "Personal Clouds" folks, and was a "social media" pioneer back when "weblogs" were called "micro portals", and there's a lot of talking about how we're going to take the net back from the FaceTwitSpacePlus centralization forces, and privacy, and all of that. But now that porn and sex are mainstream, and we've lost the filtering mechanism of the technological hurdle to connect that made some of those early forums special, there's nothing driving a social change to some new mechanism that will provide some of those privacy protections that people are talking about.

And privacy for its own sake doesn't seem to be much of a social motivator unless there are taboos.

Unfortunately, for the dark net right now, many of the taboos are ones I really don't want to enable. The driving forces behind things like Freenet seem to be child porn, not privacy for everyday projects, and givenhow much our social mores have relaxed over the past couple of decades, privacy isn't enough of a motivator that the participants on Flutterby would welcome or use such a presence.

So I've been thinking that the next technological and media revolution may very well be the first one that's not driven by porn and taboos.

But then this morning, Gloria Brame has been playing "what classic art conflicts with Facebook's standards?", Rouseau's Leda and the Swan, Salon de Paris.

And a few days ago I snarked on Twitter that:

.@Johannes_Ernst I'm just going to switch to MongoDB. All the features of http://devnull-as-a-service.com/ at a much lower price.

and have been inundated with MongoDB (it's "web scale") references and advertisements since.

I'm wondering if, perhaps, that sort of prudery coupled with the injection of ridiculously badly targeted ads into our conversations can help move us back towards less mediated conversations, and in the process we can find the way to build technological solutions that made those conversations more private.

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Entry: 2013-10-29 13:35:35.309605-07 Architecture gone wrong by Dan Lyke comments 0

That church looks like a penis! (Google Maps link).

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Entry: 2013-10-23 12:04:45.06002-07 Cost of unintended pregnancies by Dan Lyke comments 0

Reason #1 why both the fiscally conservative and the anti-abortion folks should be working as hard as they can to make contraception options freely available and socially acceptable: Guttmacher Institute: Births resulting from unintended pregnancies cost Federal and State governments $12.5 billion in 2008.

Although to put that in perspective, it is just, what, half a shutdown?

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Entry: 2013-10-23 05:38:58.813171-07 Cubano Politcs by meuon comments 2

On this trip I ran into "Joe", a proud politically active ex-cuban whom is proudly a little right of center. Spent a couple of solid hours talking with him. Listening mostly. He summed up something I hadn't understood: Why the cuban/latin culture in S. Florida was so Republican. "We've lived under communism, we came here to get away from it".

While I didn't agree with all of Joe's (Jose?) ideas, I was impressed with his concepts of ethics, his passion and breadth of knowledge. It was the most enjoyable 2+ hours I've spent in an airport. He's considered running for local Miami elections, but like many of us had a good time as a young man and fears he would not be electable. I'd vote for him. He also said many interesting/good things about Marco Rubio (Senator from Florida), and I need to do some research. I loved his spiel about how he was much less corrupt that other Miami politicians and then went on a rampage of the things others have been arrested for.

It really made me miss Friday "chia" lunches with Dan and friends, talking politics, religion, sex, technology, life...

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Entry: 2013-10-22 14:02:09.65112-07 Industry of Orgasm by Dan Lyke comments 0

Gawker: My Life With The Thrill-Clit Cult:

This was the first night of OMXperience, a three-day August conference meant to "kick off the industry of orgasm," with speakers including Naomi Wolf, New York Times bestselling author Dr. Sara Gottfried, and Robbie Richman, the former "culture strategist" at Zappos. Roughly 1,400 people had paid between $200 and $400 to attend.

"...industry of orgasm"? Really? Because we don't have nearly enough commercialization and commodification of sex, and we need some sort of large social structure with which to institutionalize the economic exploitation of orgasm?

Color me dubious.

Via JWZ.

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Entry: 2013-10-11 14:41:01.419774-07 Lap dances on the taxpayer dime by Dan Lyke comments 0

Seattle Post Intelligencer: Skinvestigation claim: Detective gets 130 lap dances, makes no arrests. For some reason apparently the FBI, a national law enforcement agency, is going after prostitution in some Seattle strip clubs:

Tvedt also alleged that one undercover detective visited Talents West clubs more than 160 times during the investigation, paying somewhere between $16,835 and $18,170 to the clubs. The officer, Tvedt claimed, received "over 130 documented VIP dances and an undetermined additional number of undocumented dances."

Those dances, she claimed, did not prompt a single arrest.

Kinda gives an answer to what law enforcement is really going after when they make a big noise about wanting to clamp down on "trafficking".

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Seattle Law Enforcement ]



Entry: 2013-10-11 13:01:10.255278-07 Told that it's National Coming Out day by Dan Lyke comments 0

Told that it's National Coming Out day, which means y'all can assume that I'm not hitting on you mainly because I'm monogamous. Sorry.

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Entry: 2013-10-10 18:21:11.163865-07 I don't run AdBlock because I like the by Dan Lyke comments 0

I don't run AdBlock because I like the reminders that my demographic is sought after by mortgage brokers, penis enlargers, and poop perfume.

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Entry: 2013-10-10 07:23:47.998511-07 Giggle of the moment by Dan Lyke comments 0

Tee hee hee:

meladoodle: me after sex: hey how much exp did i just earn

nooktoobomb: not enough but that’s okay we can just keep level grinding

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Entry: 2013-10-07 16:58:00.105185-07 Police officer opens fake substation by Dan Lyke comments 0

If you're a police officer gonna get involved in a sex scandal, the last name "Beavers" is ill-advised: Darrell Beavers, Cincinnati police officer indicted on charges involving nude photos of teen, fake substation

In an interview with 9 On Your Side's Jay Warren, apartment manager Marti Burcham said Beavers approached her earlier this year and asked if she would like a substation.

For Burcham, the thought of extra police security was a no-brainer.

"Two weeks later, he came back and said, 'yes, we were approved’ and we had to furnish an apartment and the electricity," Burcham said.

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Entry: 2013-10-07 13:10:36.780732-07 Police state links OTD by Dan Lyke comments 0

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Entry: 2013-10-04 07:56:47.083007-07 Trolling Westboro Baptist by Dan Lyke comments 0

Punk band Get Shot! films porn film on the lawn in front of Westboro Baptist Church:

“ The Phelps family and Westboro Baptist Church are ridiculous and do nothing except spread hate and cause controversy. As a bisexual woman and the bass player of a ridiculous punk band, I wanted to spread my legs and cause controversy.” - Laura Lush, Get Shot!

Video is here: http://www.xvideos.com/video59...32/westboro_baptist_finger_bang_

Via Gawker.

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Entry: 2013-09-27 11:48:38.012528-07 Nina Hartley on condoms in porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Nina Hartley on porn, HIV, condoms in porn, and job safety. Well worth a read.

... The great advantage porn in California enjoys over other forms of sex work in other places is its legality. We can call 911 if we have an accident or an altercation on set (not that these are common occurrences by any means) and not get arrested for doing so. If we are named as contacts in a potential contagion pool, we can be asked to confirm that we were or were not contacts without admitting to violating the law because we didn’t use condoms, and in admitting this, subject our employers to potential legal consequences that would put them out of business.

Alt link.

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Entry: 2013-09-16 08:21:12.043464-07 May be a little late to pile on the by Dan Lyke comments 0

May be a little late to pile on the backlash against Miley Cyrus's attempt to appeal to a now post-tween fan base with sexual imagery in her performances, but... back in my day we didn't have these disgusting pop performers and their oversexualized imagery. For instance, let's go three decades back and look at Grace Jones and her 1981 song "Back Up To My Bumper": The early ྌs were the highlight of automobile culture in America (this was, after all, the era of the Chrysler "K" car) and this song was clearly about introducing teenagers to the challenges of driving. Lyrics like "Back up to my bumper, baby, and slip it in between" are the sort of instruction welcomed by any adolescent learning to park, and "Lubricate, lubricate, lubricate" is certainly good advice for anyone responsible for regular maintenance of a Volvo.

Next time we'll look at the exercise benefits of Elvis's pelvic thrusts, how Elton John's "Goodbye Yellow Brick Road" is about Frank Baum's series of classic children's stories, and the Village People's "In The Navy" as a recruiting tool.

[ related topics: California Culture Erotic Sexual Culture Sociology Ziffle Education Children and growing up Automobiles ]



Entry: 2013-09-13 14:02:21.830299-07 FBI behind TOR malware by Dan Lyke comments 0

FBI admits that it was behind the TOR malware attack:

“The attackers spent a reasonable amount of time writing a reliable exploit, and a fairly customized payload, and it doesn’t allow them to download a backdoor or conduct any secondary activity,” said Vlad Tsyrklevich, who reverse-engineered the Magneto code, at the time.

The attack was used to map IP addresses, nominally for a crackdown on child pornography downloaders.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Government Law Enforcement Civil Liberties Writing Maps and Mapping Privacy ]



Entry: 2013-09-10 10:09:08.495306-07 Circles by Dan Lyke comments 0

Making friends with a paedophile: 'We can't kill him, so we help him not to do it again'.

Circles of Support and Accountability started out as a Mennonite church project in a town in Ontario, Canada, in 1994. Realising that a low‑IQ sex offender called Charlie was about to be released into the community, church volunteers formed a group to support him. The method soon expanded across Canada, where studies demonstrated a 70 per cent reduction in reoffending rates.

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Entry: 2013-08-30 14:20:07.829346-07 ...a little old place where we can... by Dan Lyke comments 0

But... but... I thought that's what those little buildings outside the home improvement stores were for! Duo caught having sex in Home Depot display shed.

(Hat tip to Tara Calishain)

Edit: I'd have thought they'd be more receptive to this sort of thing given the slogan "You can do it, we can help."

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Entry: 2013-08-23 18:21:08.15878-07 Attention Bob Filner by Dan Lyke comments 0

Attention Bob Filner: If you're male and accused of sexual harassment, "hysteria" is probably a term to avoid.

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Entry: 2013-08-13 10:29:44.931355-07 Dear Daughter by Dan Lyke comments 0

Dear Daughter, I Hope You Have Some Fucking Awesome Sex.

There’s a piece of twaddle going around FetLife called 10 Rules For Dating My Daughter, which is packed with “funny” threats like this ...

In which Ferrett Steinmetz takes apart the "boyfriends need to be run off" trope.

(alt link)

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Entry: 2013-08-11 19:28:32.826066-07 Implants by meuon comments 2

A story about Filipino "Do It Yourself" Penile Implants just needed to be on Flutterby. I'd never heard of such things (like these).

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Entry: 2013-08-05 06:51:46.822393-07 Puppycide as a service by Dan Lyke comments 0

FBI posts fake hyperlinks to snare child porn suspects. Oooh, I see a fantastic iframes application...

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Current Events Law Enforcement ]



Entry: 2013-08-02 17:25:02.667472-07 Porn filter by Dan Lyke comments 0

Tee hee hee: Don't Worry Government, I Got This Porn Filter Sorted.

So i hear the UK government wants to make a porn filter. About bloody time i reckon. I’m fed up of happily browsing the Internet for boobs, only to have non-porn related subject matter thrust down my face hole.

On whipping up a Python+twisted library to build a filter that presents only porn.

[ related topics: Books Erotic Language Sexual Culture Weblogs Net Culture moron Python Monty Python ]



Entry: 2013-07-31 06:54:59.562608-07 Morning sex news by Dan Lyke comments 0

Your morning's shunga fix: Huffington Post: Japanese Erotic Art Goes On View At Sotheby's In 'Beyond The Paper Screen' (NSFW PHOTOS)

Mental Floss: 17 Euphemisms for Sex From the 1800s. (Via).

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Entry: 2013-07-30 13:37:16.434526-07 FBI roundups by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT ErosBlog Bacchus ‏@ErosBlogBacchus:

All those "youth" sex workers the FBI just "rescued" by handcuffing and hauling them away? About 1.38 per city. http://eminism.org/blog/entry/387

In our area, they apparently got 3 between the ages of 15 and 17, who'd either run away from home or left group homes. I'm never a fan of forced sex, but I'd really like to see us work on addressing this from a supply standpoint. It's quite conceivable to me that whatever circumstances they were in were better, to them, than the group homes or family lives that they left.

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Entry: 2013-07-29 09:04:49.396464-07 Louisiana rejecting basic civil liberties and the Supreme Court. by Dan Lyke comments 0

The longer I live in the Bay Area, the more I feel reluctant to travel outside of it to places without the basic protections of law or civil liberties. Today's example: Baton Rouge, Louisiana, where sheriff's deputies are cruising and then arresting men who agree to consensual sex in private residences without the exchange of money.

Tommy Damico, a defense lawyer who represents the man arrested this month, said he had been prepared to challenge the attempted crime against nature charge under the 2003 U.S. Supreme Court ruling in Lawrence v. Texas, which legalized same-sex sexual activity. Moore, however, said he has already decided formal charges will not be brought in the case.

“For the Sheriff’s Office to be setting these kinds of sting operations up is a waste of time because they can’t prosecute these things,” Damico said. “I think the statute itself has incredible problems.”

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Entry: 2013-07-26 12:10:13.492409-07 Of course he'll get a lawyer... eventually. by Dan Lyke comments 0

Eric Holder: Well, Maybe Just a Little Forced Nudity and Solitary Confinement… looks at Eric Holder's letter to Russian Minister of Justice Alexander Valdimirovich Konovalov regarding the extradition of Edward Snowden (PDF).

The comments go further.

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Entry: 2013-07-25 15:07:33.659975-07 RIP Virginia Johnson by Dan Lyke comments 0

Sex researcher Virginia Johnson, who collaborated with William H. Masters, dies at 88.

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Entry: 2013-07-24 19:57:00.22407-07 "...must be the cobblestones." by Dan Lyke comments 0

Shadow forwarded along a Daily Mail article about the Happy Seat vibrating bike seat from SexShop365.

Assorted press release rewrites:

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Entry: 2013-07-22 08:21:27.880512-07 The state of anti-abortion discourse by Dan Lyke comments 0

I'm The 14-Year-Old Who Wrote The "Jesus Isn't A Dick So Keep Him Out of My Vagina" Sign In Texas And Was Labeled A "Whore" By Strangers Online:

I'm going to be honest about what it feels like to be called that as a 14-year-old girl who has never had sex and who doesn't plan to have sex anytime soon.

I feel disappointed.

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Entry: 2013-07-22 08:14:31.409529-07 Making it worse by Dan Lyke comments 2

U.K. government strong-arming ISPs on filtering and intercept technologies, and UK Prime Minister David Cameron announces that internet providers will "block porn" by default. Households will have to ask to actually get an internet connection.

In addition, the prime minister said possessing online pornography depicting rape would become illegal in England and Wales - in line with Scotland.

Which is the context for RT linkshund ‏@linkshund

Weird how we're criminalising consensual sex being portrayed as rape, when actually the major cultural problem is the opposite way round.

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Entry: 2013-07-21 08:12:01.601265-07 Their customs are not like ours by Dan Lyke comments 2

Norwegian woman visits Dubai, reports rape, now faces prison sentence for sex outside of marriage and illegal consumption of alcohol. And frankly, I love y'all who live in flyover country, but I feel like this sort of thing is a threat every time I leave the Bay Area.

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Entry: 2013-07-19 14:41:37.643757-07 Pardoning Alan Turing by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Charles Stross ‏@cstross:

Alan Turing to receive posthumous pardon: http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk-n...er-alan-turing-posthumous-pardon … (Now what about the 49,000 other gay men persecuted by the 1885 law?)

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Entry: 2013-07-02 13:37:10.014005-07 A Christian view of amazing sex by Dan Lyke comments 6

Wow... Christians are not called to have amazing sex:

Sexual incompatibility, therefore, is a cross that some couples bear, and Christian communities could lighten this burden if we made an effort to put sex in its rightful place. If sex were viewed as a gift that, like everything else in this world, is marred by sin, it may be easier for couples to accept that bad sex is neither a reason for divorce nor an excuse to stop investing in a marriage. As with other trials, bad sex is an opportunity to rejoice in suffering (1 Peter 4:13) and to be further conformed to the image of Christ (Romans 8:29).

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Entry: 2013-07-01 11:58:25.735516-07 Better dead than red (state)? by Dan Lyke comments 0

So first we had Vladimir Putin defending the U.S. on spying programs and crackdowns on domestic dissent (Previously), now we have some U.S. Conservatives praising Russia's crackdowns on gay rights.

Remember when supporters of the Soviet Union were harassed and run out of their professions?

In a sign of Russia's evolving stature among some U.S. social conservatives, the Illinois-based World Congress of Families plans to hold its eighth Advertisement international conference at the Kremlin's Palace of Congresses in Moscow next year. Past conferences in Europe, Mexico and Australia have brought together opponents of abortion and same-sex marriage from dozens of countries.

"The Kremlin used to be a no-no for conservatives," said Larry Jacobs, managing director of the World Congress. "We're going to redeem that building."

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Entry: 2013-06-28 11:10:35.474077-07 On our knees for America by Dan Lyke comments 0

AmericaBlog: The most unfortunate anti-gay logo and slogan in the history of politics looks at the Family Research Council's "Call 2 Fall" campaign:

[On our knees for America]

"On our knees" and "I'm in" indeed!

By the way, it's the 44th anniversary of the Stonewall riots.

And we're just now getting drag storytime. Well, I mean, if you don't count Pee Wee Herman...

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Entry: 2013-06-28 07:59:18.378188-07 Reporting Harassment by Dan Lyke comments 3

A friend of John Scalzi talks about what the process and fallout from reporting sexual harassment at a convention looks like: Reporting Harassment at a Convention: A First-Person How To. Of critical note:

Although their behavior was professional and respectful, I was stunned when I found out that mine was the first formal report filed there as well. From various discussions in person and online, I knew for certain that I was not the only one to have reported inappropriate behavior by this person to his employer. It turned out that the previous reports had been made confidentially and not through HR and Legal. Therefore my report was the first one, because it was the first one that had ever been formally recorded.

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Entry: 2013-06-27 19:53:53.360497-07 The party of small government striking again by Dan Lyke comments 0

Virginia Attorney General Ken Cuccinelli, also GOP candidate for governor, is petitioning the Supreme Court to rehear Lawrence v. Texas so that VA can reinstate its ban on oral and anal sex:

... Cuccinelli claims he will only use the sodomy law to bring cases involving minors or sexual assault, and argues that Virginians need not worry about him prosecuting "consenting adults," because the part of the law that would enable him to do so was defanged by the Supreme Court's Lawrence decision. ...

However, he's fought to keep any such restrictions out of that law.

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Entry: 2013-06-27 09:05:37.600133-07 Blogger & BlogSpot clamp down on adult content by Dan Lyke comments 0

So two things of interest here:

  1. The line on monetization is going to be a very grey one. Affiliate links? Links in to your favorite commercial site where the relationship is less clear?
  2. Does this mean that Google has a way to monetize sex sites now?

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Entry: 2013-06-27 07:31:18.959925-07 Categorization fail by Dan Lyke comments 0

Categorization fail: "Nude body suit large" in Amazon's "Home & Kitchen" section.

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Entry: 2013-06-26 09:51:04.976837-07 anti-porn law history by Dan Lyke comments 0

History Lesson: What happened when Canada enacted a feminist anti-porn law. A good reminder of the ways that Canada's Butler decision was used to harass LGBT bookstores, counter-culture groups, and, yes, feminists.

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Entry: 2013-06-15 10:27:48.93905-07 Suppression leads to vice by Dan Lyke comments 1

PBS: The American Experience: Why Did the Mafia Own the Stonewall Bar? (and other gay bars in New York City)

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Entry: 2013-06-14 09:50:06.881106-07 On Square Dancing and women in the military by Dan Lyke comments 2

On gay and straight square dancing, heterosexual male privilege, and Australian Chief of Army Lieutenant General David Morrison's message regarding unacceptable behavior (YouTube) and Morrison's speech to the 2013 United Nations International Women's Day Converence in the comments.

(Please click through, if only for the pull-quote I grabbed from that latter speech trascript.)

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Entry: 2013-06-12 15:15:32.518299-07 Rule 34 as a service by Dan Lyke comments 0

Proving Rule 34 as a service.

(And in case you need a refresher, Rule 34: There is porn of it.)

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Entry: 2013-06-07 11:48:04.235032-07 Gamification and Masturbation by Dan Lyke comments 1

Gamification.co: Can the Gamification of Female Masturbation Remove Its Social Stigma? – GCo Exclusive. Immediately presents me with a pop-up telling me I can earn badges for reading articles. Uh. Yeah. It's a piece pimping Happy Play Time (just click outside of the "give us your personal data now!" thingie to make it go away).

The real question is: Can female masturbation remote the stigma that gamification seems hell bent on acquiring?

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Entry: 2013-06-06 13:56:05.787204-07 NY Times comes out swinging at the by Dan Lyke comments 1

NY Times comes out swinging at the Obama administration on the NSA call data flap: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06...dragnet.html?_r=0&pagewanted=all

[Edit: The cowards have retconned the editorial to soften it]

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Entry: 2013-06-05 17:19:18.080136-07 Porn Stars without makeup by Dan Lyke comments 2

Porn Stars Without Makeup: More Before and After Pictures by Melissa Murphey (SFW), although some of them seem to be wearing lipstick in their "without makeup" shots, so I'm not sure they qualify.

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Entry: 2013-06-05 08:50:44.777117-07 social acceptance and promiscuity by Dan Lyke comments 1

Since you're undoubtedly going to run across commentary based on articles badly rewritten from this press release: Cornell Chronicle: Study: Women reject promiscuous female peers as friends.

For the study, 751 college students provided information about their sexual experience and views on casual sex. They read a near-identical vignette about a male or female peer, the only difference being the character’s number of lifetime sexual partners (two or 20). When asked about the person on a range of friendship factors, female participants – regardless of their own promiscuity – viewed sexually permissive women more negatively on nine of 10 friendship attributes, judging them more favorably only on their outgoingness.

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Entry: 2013-06-04 16:53:33.751869-07 Warrior Princess by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Atlantic Wire: The Latest Navy SEAL Book Could Impact the Military's Transgender Rules. Puff piece on a new book called Warrior Princess: A U.S. Navy SEAL's Journey to Coming Out Transgender[Wiki] written by Kristin Beck.

Healing Grounds is Kristin (formerly Chris) Beck's organization to help Iraq and Afghanistan veterans.

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Entry: 2013-06-03 09:31:31.565411-07 Scouts in uniform at Salt Lake City pride by Dan Lyke comments 0

Boy Scouts march in uniform at Utah gay pride parade. This following Rick Barnes, chief scout executive of the Great Salt Lake Council, stating that:

"We as a Scouting movement do not advocate any social or political position, so I reminded Mr. Brownstein that we do not wear uniforms at an event like this," Barnes said. "We do not, as Boy Scouts, show support for any social or political position. We're neutral. If he wants to attend the parade and others do that are Scouts or Scouters, they're welcome to do so as private citizens wearing whatever they want except their uniform."

No social position except that I seem to remember things about "obedient", and "morally straight"...

Anyway, good for Peter Brownstein (who didn't wear a uniform), Neil Whitaker, Kobe McDonald, and the others who took a stand. I've seen Eagle Scouts in the SF pride parade, but Utah is a different place.

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Entry: 2013-06-03 06:04:00.246769-07 Oral sex and cancer by Dan Lyke comments 1

Dr Jen Gunter: What Michael Douglast neglected to mention about oral sex and cancer. A little bit of musing on HPV, oral sex, and head and neck cancers.

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Entry: 2013-06-02 08:04:37.662366-07 "If you’re not getting porn in your system, it doesn’t work." by Dan Lyke comments 0

Eros Blog: The Pornocalypse Comes For Us All links to Ethan Zuckerman: The Cute Cat Theory Talk At eTech:

Based on my Tripod experience, I’d offer the hypothesis that any sufficiently advanced read/write technology will get used for two purposes: pornography and activism. Porn is a weak test for the success of participatory media – it’s like tapping a mike and asking, “Is it on?” If you’re not getting porn in your system, it doesn’t work. Activism is a stronger test – if activists are using your tools, it’s a pretty good indication that your tools are useful and usable.

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Entry: 2013-06-01 17:30:16.39779-07 Why Young Adult Sex Scenes Matter by Dan Lyke comments 0

Foz Meadows: Why YA Sex Scenes Matter:

But the point, the point, is that whenever I hear someone talking about how it’s wrong to have sex and sexiness in YA novels, what I actually hear is this:

I’m terrified that the first fictional sex a teenage girl encounters might leave her feeling good about herself. I’m terrified that fictional sex might actually make teenage girls think sex can be fun and good, that reading about girls who say no and boys who listen when they say it might give them the confidence to say no, too – or worse still, to realise that boys who don’t listen to ‘no’ aren’t worth it. I’m terrified that YA novels might teach teenage girls the distinction between assault and consensual sex, and give them the courage to speak out about the former while actively seeking the latter. I’m terrified that teenage girls might think seriously about the circumstances under which they might say yes to sex; that they might think about contraception before they need it, and touch themselves in bed at night while fantasising about generous, interesting, beautiful lovers who treat them with consideration and respect. I’m terrified of a generation of teenage girls who aren’t shy or squeamish about asking for cunnilingus when they want it, or about loving more than one person at once, and who don’t feel shame about their arousal. I’m terrified that teenage girls might take control of their sexuality and, in so doing, take that control of them and their bodies away from me.

Via Vaginal Fantasy, by way of Jay's twitter feed.

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Entry: 2013-05-31 10:07:27.122697-07 GOP and abortion by Dan Lyke comments 0

Oklahoma State Rep. Doug Cox: The GOP and abortion legislation:

Is my thinking too clouded by my experiences in the real world? Experiences like having a preacher, in the privacy of an exam room say, “Doc, you have heard me preach against abortion but now my 15-year-old daughter is pregnant, where can I send her?” ...

Worth reading the whole damned thing.

Via The National Memo: This May Be The Greatest Letter Any Elected Republican Has Ever Written.

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Entry: 2013-05-28 11:08:47.740374-07 Maps, personalization and subversion by Dan Lyke comments 8

Slate: My Map or Yours? Google’;s plan to personalize maps could end public space as we know it.

This might seem liberating and empowering—;that, at any rate, is how Google wants us to see this new development. “;In the past,”; reads the company's announcement, “;a map was just a map, and you got the same one for New York City, whether you were searching for the Empire State Building or the coffee shop down the street. What if, instead, you had a map that’;s unique to you, always adapting to the task you want to perform right this minute?”;

And then, of course, goes into the usual pearl-clutching that we've become so used to from newspaper editors about how personalization is going to create separated spaces and isolated silos of interests and all of that, but...

I've been a bit thinking recently about the need for deliberate cultural transgression. After the weekend at the Stumptown Stomp two weekends ago, and this weekend at the straight square dancing Golden State Roundup, we were forwarded a "what to expect at the IAGSDC international convention" that we're going to in July. The fascinating lore of that led me to reading a bit of the history of the International Association of Gay Square Dance Clubs (in the form of the Ten Years IAGSDC Digital Edition), which goes into some of the struggles of gay square dancing in the '80s, trying to find CALLERLAB callers who'd take the social risk of calling for a gay club, trying to convince hotels that they weren't going to get cooties from the attendees, and so forth.

And we've had some talks with folks at our club, Redwood Rainbows, about the struggles of making gay square dancing attractive to straight people (fears that "...and spank the bottom!" as a response to the call "Fan The Top" might drive people off), about the conflicts between the gay clubs rejuvenating interest in resources like Wischemann Hall and the traditionalism from the people who built this resource hating that "the queers" are invading those spaces (Redwood Rainbows was apparently formed in 2007(!), as a sub-group of "Saucy Squares", and just in those six years has become the caretakers of the hall and the source of all of the new blood, and now accounts for nearly all the active members, but there's a lot of delicacy over the relationship between those clubs).

So keeping a culture fresh and relevant requires pioneers, deliberate transgressors, people who are willing to step outside the social frameworks and say "what else is there out there?"

I suspect that in the future of scanning all of your social media and personalizing your news and maps and advertising, we'll have to have carefully partitioned alternate identities through which we can discover the holes and gaps in the culture, and the ways which we can subvert the resources of the mainstream to create new and vibrant cultures to replace the ones which will, inevitably, ossify and die.

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Entry: 2013-05-28 08:50:41.980245-07 National Masturbation Month by Dan Lyke comments 0

[Saves Money. Saves Time. Minimizes Stress. Hurts Nobody. Angers The Pope. Masturbate.]

Thank you, Violet Impudence...

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Entry: 2013-05-23 13:29:10.073241-07 Get it off! Get it off! by Dan Lyke comments 0

Ionian Dolphin Project: Naughty octopus. In which we see pictures of an airborne dolphin with an octopus hanging on to its genital area for dear life.

Via jwz: Today in aquatic hentai miscegenation news.

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Entry: 2013-05-19 18:16:07.871922-07 Gay square dancing and I only get my by Dan Lyke comments 2

Gay square dancing and I only get my ass grabbed once: Impressed with finely tuned gaydar, or disappointed that I'm not hot?

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Entry: 2013-05-17 08:38:21.280214-07 Testing leads to hard drug use? by Dan Lyke comments 1

Journal of Adolescent Health: Middle and High School Drug Testing and Student Illicit Drug Use: A National Study 1998–2011:

Because the study design is observational and the data are cross-sectional, no strong causal conclusions can be drawn. However, there is evidence of lower marijuana use in the presence of SDT, and evidence of higher use of illicit drugs other than marijuana. Until further research can clarify the apparent opposing associations, schools should approach SDT with caution.

Sounds to me like if kids think they may get caught, they figure why not get caught for the hard stuff?

Via Student Drug Testing Programs Linked To Spikes In ‘Hard’ Drug Use by way of a Scarleteen tweet.

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Entry: 2013-05-16 12:05:00.075102-07 Sex in Advertising by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Ethical Adman - This is how you do sex in advertising.

Highlighting a series of absurdist commercials from SLO Down Wines.

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Entry: 2013-05-13 16:49:14.99703-07 A Logic Named Joe by Dan Lyke comments 0

In 1946 there was a deep exploration of data mining, network privacy, internet porn, and all sorts of other details. No, I'm not talking about Vannevar Bush's As We May Think, this is A Logic Named Joe

.. She was blonde an' fatal to begin with. She had got blonder and fataler an' had had four husbands and one acquittal for homicide an' had acquired a air of enthusiasm and self-confidence. That's just a sketch of the background. Laurine was not the kinda former girlfriend you like to have turning up in the same town with your wife. ...

Via MeFi, the comment thread suggests that there's an audio version in the X Minus One singles.

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Entry: 2013-05-12 15:35:08.727298-07 Tesk by meuon comments 4

Woodworker porn on the day is a table that becomes a desk with subtle compartments and workings.

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Entry: 2013-05-06 10:05:08.166378-07 Elizabeth Smart on "abstinence only" sex ed by Dan Lyke comments 1

Elizabeth Smart speaks on "abstinence only" sex education:

"I thought, 'Oh, my gosh, I'm that chewed up piece of gum, nobody re-chews a piece of gum, you throw it away.' And that's how easy it is to feel like you know longer have worth, you know longer have value," Smart said. "Why would it even be worth screaming out? Why would it even make a difference if you are rescued? Your life still has no value."

Via.

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Entry: 2013-05-03 06:50:28.114736-07 John Williamson dies by Dan Lyke comments 0

Sexual revolution pioneer John Williamson, co-founder of Topanga Canyon's Sandstone Retreat, dead at 80

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Entry: 2013-05-01 08:51:03.559078-07 Hooray, Hooray! by Dan Lyke comments 0

Stop the OTHER War on May Day, Too!

Back in the century which I most often inhabit, May Day was about dancing, drinking, erecting ludicrously phallic May-poles, bedecking every bedamned thing in town with flowers, and sneaking off into the woods to have sex–for the sheer fun of it and for the added delight of really annoying the Puritans who hated the phallic symbolism, the pagan origins, the public intoxication, the illicit sex…and just about everything about May Day.

References Robert Herrick: Corinna's Going A-Maying.

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Entry: 2013-04-22 16:48:24.86228-07 Healthy Penis by Dan Lyke comments 2

San Francisco Department of Public Health brings back the "healthy penis" costumed mascot.

That is all.

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Entry: 2013-04-22 09:05:05.034839-07 Magic Wand by Dan Lyke comments 0

Hitachi is removing its name from the Magic Wand vibrator/massager. Via ErosBlog.

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Entry: 2013-03-29 09:43:22.331037-07 Stay classy, Michigan by Dan Lyke comments 0

Michigan judge: ‘Gap tooth skank hoes’ was a compliment:

In a response to a formal complaint, Wayne County Circuit Judge Wade McCree admitted that to the Michigan Judicial Tenure Commission that he may have sent a text message to his mistress, saying, “C’mon, U’r talking about the ‘docket from hell,’ filled w/tatted up, overweight, half-ass English speaking, gap tooth skank hoes … and then you walk in.”

The "you" in this case was a woman appearing as a witness in a child support case filed against the father of her child.

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Entry: 2013-03-28 13:45:57.064995-07 Sex no longer sells by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Telegraph: Hollywood has kissed goodbye to the steamy sex scene:

According to Vincent Bruzzese of Ipsos, a market research company, sex has been all but eradicated from Hollywood scripts over the past 18 months. “Sex scenes used to be written, no matter the plot, to spice up a film trailer,” he said in an interview at the weekend. “But all that does today is get the film an adult-only rating and lose a younger audience.”

Or: Now that the occasional flash of boob doesn't really titillate 'cause every 12 year old has found more porn on the net, it's all about the CG effects.

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Entry: 2013-03-21 10:48:06.183175-07 big dongles and forking repositories by Dan Lyke comments 16

I'm not sure whether I hit "Post Comment" and it got deleted, or whether I wavered back and forth for a while and never posted, but in either case I'm kinda glad that I didn't end up entombed for eternity in the shitstorm that is this MeFi thread on the recent PyCon incident.

"Technology Evangelist" Adria Richards (website currently responding slowly, presumably because it's being DDOSed) took offense at the conversation between two guys at PyCon who were sitting behind her, and snapped a photo, commenting:

Not cool. Jokes about forking repo's in a sexual way and "big" dongles. Right behind me #pycon http://pic.twitter.com/Hv1bkeOsYP

According to her blog entry about the incident, she then asked, on Twitter, "Can someone talk to these guys about their conduct?", and the PyCon organizers did.

A commenter on news.ycombinator.com claims to be one of the men in the photo, and claims that he got fired because of the resulting uproar (Edit: PlayHaven has confirmed that a developer was fired), and of course this has turned into a tremendous shitstorm on all the social medias.

There's disagreement over exactly what was said, the context in which it was said, and we only have Adria Richards' report to understand how it was heard. SendGrid has now publicly announced that they've fired Adria Richards.

So I'm trying to sort out my own feelings on this. On the one hand, I've been at tech conferences where I was deliberately avoiding approaching the one or two women at the mixer because I didn't want to be perceived as the creepy guy hitting on the coder chicks, but I also realize that that is not productive. Women are working on cool projects, there's room for synergy there, we can have technical discussions, and being stand-offish has as many negatives as being stalkerly (albeit in different ways).

I have also been in entirely male large groups of developers, in which the flamboyantly gay guys are saying "that's what she said" far too often, where there's been tremendous eye-rolling over the incredibly sexist behavior of members of the (mixed gender) sales team.

And, a little over-share and self-exposure here: my first reaction to The PyCon code of conduct is "that sounds like a lot of work, I'm gonna go hang with the neckbeards instead".

It should also be noted that Adria Richards had previously Tweeted a dick size joke from an account in which she named SendGrid as her employer.

So I don't know where to move forward from this. I want to create a welcoming environment for everyone who wants to contribute to a community. I want to participate in communities where everyone is welcome. I totally understand that in a room filled with guys with poor social skills that she felt like she had to ask the organizers to step in rather than taking solo action. I hate that we have DDOS attacks and rape and death threats and firings.

I don't understand how we can move forward if we have this tremendously polarized environment in which people seem to be deliberately talking past each other, and in which we seem to be elevating the right to be aggrieved over the pragmatic notion that dwelling in that doesn't move us.

Any help?

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Entry: 2013-03-12 15:17:18.460322-07 Tracy Quan interviews by Dan Lyke comments 0

A Nation of Sex Workers: An Interview with Tracy Quan starts out strong, with a discussion of under-age prostitution:

Teenagers often recoil from things that are intended to be helpful. Being housed by the state in a location you did not choose sounds demoralizing, and it’s often dangerous. We prefer to live with a companion, however temporary, who has no legal authority over us. The boyfriend or customer of a 16-year-old cannot legally prevent that teenager from finding a better deal. In all the options offered by the state, a teenager is dealing with adults who have far more legal power than a customer or a pimp. For some teenagers, that would be reason enough to run away.

And gets better from there. Via MeFi, which also links to Former Call Girl Tracy Quan Explains the 'Half-Hooker' Economy.

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Entry: 2013-03-07 09:34:31.819565-08 In Genesis... by Dan Lyke comments 0

I don't wanna turn Flutterby into Tumblr, but I snickered when I first saw this floating around, and Shadow just brought it back to my attention and I thought it was worth sharing:

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Source: http://imgur.com/XoCURE8

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Entry: 2013-03-07 03:14:14.9475-08 Stingray Sam by meuon comments 2

Stingray Sam is the bested strangest gayest low budget musical cowboy themed retro space cereal serial/movie I've ever seen. Loads of tacky fun.

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Entry: 2013-03-06 15:56:10.898755-08 Electronics vendor or porn purveyor? by Dan Lyke comments 0

Electronics vendor or porn purveyor?: "Visit our large array of packages"

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Entry: 2013-02-27 08:20:25.178926-08 Trigger warnings used to target Violet Blue by Dan Lyke comments 4

Violet Blue: What happened with my Security BSides talk.

I found out a few hours later that I had been targeted by a feminist organization, The Ada Initiative. I learned that the woman who smiled at me while talking to the BSides SF organizer was Valerie Aurora, from the Ada Initiative.

I also learned that what happened with my talk wasn’t a case where someone who happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time as a survivor of sexual trauma or abuse, which is how it was presented to me. Instead, it was an organization that had planned to get my talk removed. I wonder, if I had offered to omit the section about GHB from my talk, which they did not know about, would the talk have been permitted by these people and the threat of problems for the organization lifted?

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Entry: 2013-02-22 18:56:00.627859-08 Letter from a prostitute by Dan Lyke comments 0

I could swear I've linked to a different version of this, but it bears re-reading: Letter from the prostitute that didn’t want saving, 1858

Now, what if I am a prostitute, what business has society to abuse me? Have I received any favours at the hands of society? If I am a hideous cancer in society, are not the causes of the disease to be sought in the rottenness of the carcass? Am I not its legitimate child; no bastard, Sir? Why does my unnatural parent repudiate me, and what has society ever done for me, that I should do anything for it, and what have I ever done against society that it should drive me into a corner and crush me to the earth?

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Entry: 2013-02-14 13:05:51.726761-08 Maker by meuon comments 1

Some things in the maker movement can make you go Hmmm...Mmmmm..

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Entry: 2013-02-14 09:17:26.801043-08 Valentine's Day by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Emily Nagoski, PhD @enagoski:

Roses are red/ violets are blue/ they're both hermaphroditic sex organs/ and that's perfectly normal. Happy Sex Nerd Valentine!

And when people mention "VD" I think "Venereal Disease", but unlike fellow Petaluman @DrJenGunter who said:

When you tweet "V Day" I think "Vagina Day."

When I hear "V Day", I think "Vulva Day".

But whatever associations you have with it, Charlene and I are coming up on 14 years of hanging out together, and I continue to enjoy her company, and am glad that our continually evolving relationship continues to be fun and fulfilling.

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Entry: 2013-02-14 08:51:02.66522-08 Toledo Blade fail by Dan Lyke comments 0

On BoingBoing, Rob Beschizza looks at the Toledo Blade lashing out against the blog that scooped it and provided the more in-depth story.

The original story was Deadspin: “I’m Down For Drinks, Laughs, Sex”: The Sexual Harassment Claims That Brought Down Toledo’s Running Coach.

And yes, the Toledo Blade has a really strong history of repeating what its sources tell it without doing even the basic sanity checking on stories they're getting told. This is just yet another example of Toledo Blade fail.

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Entry: 2013-02-14 08:36:08.872804-08 World's Oldest Porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Slate: The World’s Oldest Pornography: It’s at least 3,000 years old, and it’s bi-curious.

The Kangjiashimenji Petroglyphs are bas-relief carvings in a massive red-basalt outcropping in the remote Xinjiang region of northwest China. The artwork includes the earliest—and some of the most graphic—depictions of copulation in the world.

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Entry: 2013-02-10 07:21:51.026773-08 Contra Syncretist by Dan Lyke comments 0

So Charlene and I were digging through the underbelly of the web last night looking for some square dancing stuff, and we discovered a few things. The most interesting of which seems to be that "Gay Square Dancing (Wikipedia)" is a split of square dancing that, within the genre or at least here on the west coast isn't necessarily labeled as such, but in the eastern U.S. is seen as a division of the form that has become distinct enough, and with enough heterosexual participants, that "gay" has just become a label for it, and not necessarily attached to sexual orientation.

It's not just bears and leather and drag. Which explains a lot about the culture we're seeing, and why when I mentioned square dancing previously on Flutterby, Meuon and I saw it so differently.

But we were looking for flourishes and stylings, and stumbled across the Contra Syncretist YouTube feed, a lot of detail work from contra dancing that could be equally applicable to square dance.

Although with a number of these moves I commented "and here's the part where she gets dizzy and pukes on your shoes", because there's an awful lot of spinning there.

Bonus: Meosis Square Dance, an educational video that... well... the uploader notes:

"If you have watched to this point you deserve a f***ing medal or some s**t like that"

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Entry: 2013-02-08 10:31:22.559639-08 Steven Chu and The Onion by Dan Lyke comments 0

[From The Onion article: Steven Chu in bed next to a solar panel]The Onion: Hungover energy secretary wakes up next to solar panel.

Energy Secretary Steven Chu's Facebook update:

I just want everyone to know that my decision not to serve a second term as Energy Secretary has absolutely nothing to do with the allegations made in this week’s edition of the Onion. While I’m not going to confirm or deny the charges specifically, I will say that clean, renewable solar power is a growing source of U.S. jobs and is becoming more and more affordable, so it’s no surprise that lots of Americans are falling in love with solar.

Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2013-02-01 09:26:14.299898-08 Web site safety, again by Dan Lyke comments 1

Last year I linked to Symantic's Threat Activity Trends which pointed out that church websites were more likely to try to infect you with viruses than porn websites (and that's ignoring infectious memes...).

Now Cisco says that porn, piracy and gambling sites are safer for your web browsing than clicking on online ads.

The highest concentration of online security targets do not target pornography, pharmaceutical, or gambling sites as much as they affect legitimate sites such as search engines, online retailers, and social media. Users are more 21 times more likely to get hit with malware from online shopping sites and 27 more times likely with a search engine than if they'd gone to a counterfeit software site, according to Cisco.

So much like the social media trend of robots following robots, it makes me wonder what the product of this ecosystem is?

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Entry: 2013-01-28 10:32:56.099118-08 Porn fans evolving by Dan Lyke comments 0

Slate: Reporting from the Adult Entertainment Expo: Porn Fans Aren’t What They Used To Be:

In addition to reaching out to gun owners, the AEE has made strides to corner the young, douchebag market by expanding the convention experience beyond autograph signings and DVD racks. ...

Now that pornography is more socially acceptable, and there's so much porn available for free, performers and producers are struggling to differentiate themselves and create an individual brand in an oversaturated commodity market.

Especially interested because in various online discussions there's been question of "the porn star look", and who finds that particular aesthetic attractive. I think a case can be made that those of us who critique those things aren't the paying audience, and a lot of what we're seeing is an industry tailoring itself to a very specific set of demographics because those are the people who aren't seeing their vision of sexuality in every-day life or their other media options.

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Entry: 2013-01-25 08:14:18.764552-08 burlesque and not by Dan Lyke comments 1

Via Debra Hyde: Flavorwire: Revealing Photos of Burlesque Stars Nude and in Costume [NSFW]

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Entry: 2013-01-24 09:57:49.819055-08 restitution & child porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

New York Times: How much can restitution help victims of child pornography?. Fascinating read. I'm trying to find a pull-quote, but the context of the discussion is important.

Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2013-01-24 07:51:06.429905-08 Mapping abortion availability by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Daily Beast - Interactive Map of America's Abortion Clinics.

Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2013-01-16 13:22:28.669902-08 Interventions on pregnant women by Dan Lyke comments 1

New Study Reveals the Impact of Post-Roe v Wade and "Pro-Life" Measures

On January 15, 2013, the Journal of Health Politics, Policy and Law published a study, "Arrests of and Forced Interventions on Pregnant Women in the United States, 1973- 2005: Implications for Women's Legal Status and Public Health," written by Lynn M. Paltrow, NAPW Executive Director, and Jeanne Flavin, Professor of Sociology at Fordham University and NAPW Board President. This study makes clear that post-Roe anti-abortion and "pro-life" measures are being used to do more than limit access to abortion; they are providing the basis for arresting women, locking them up, and forcing them to submit to medical interventions, including surgery. The cases documented in our study, as well as recent cases, make clear that, 40 years after Roe v. Wade was decided, far more is at stake than abortion or women's reproductive rights. Pregnant women face attacks on virtually every right associated with constitutional personhood, including the very basic right to physical liberty.

Well, yeah.

Via Guardian.co.uk: Study finds widespread 'criminalisation of pregnancy' in US institutions

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Entry: 2013-01-11 14:10:11.080457-08 Pornographer's Daughter by Dan Lyke comments 0

Interesting little interview with Liberty Bradford Mitchell, daughter of Artie Mitchell. Artie, with his brother Jim, was one of the (in)famous Mitchell Brothers, of the porn theater on O'Farrell in San Francisco, the film Behind The Green Door[Wiki], and all sorts more Bay Area and '70s hijinks, and was eventually shot and killed by Jim. Bradford is doing a show called "The Pornographer's Daughter" down in LA, and is looking for a way to bring that up to SF.

I'd be fascinated to go see it.

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Entry: 2013-01-09 08:15:35.207306-08 "Coming Out" as a business strategy by Dan Lyke comments 0

Dan Pallotta in the Harvard Business Review:

... The new Microsoft Surface tablet reportedly rips at the seam where keyboard cover meets tablet. Was it tested for durability? If not, why not? If it was, why was it allowed to go to market with such a defect? Probably because of the same kind of self-talk that goes on in a gay man's head before he's ready to come out: "Why make a big deal of it? It doesn't really matter." But when he finally comes out, he realizes it was the only thing that mattered, and that coming out transformed his life. Speaking the truth can do the same thing for businesses.

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Entry: 2013-01-07 16:06:02.802199-08 incarcerated for a crime they haven't yet committed by Dan Lyke comments 0

Rachel Aviv in the New Yorker: The Science of Sex Abuse, on how we incarcerate people for crimes they haven't committed, and then goad them into confessing to crimes they couldn't have committed:

... Another former patient, Sean Francis, testified that, in order to stay in the “safe confines of Butner,” he “fabricated” fifty-four victims and invented and embellished rape fantasies. “Every single human being, if we were to open their head up, has some form or fashion of a deviant sexual fantasy,” he said at his hearing. “I don’t deny that.” But Francis said that he turned himself into a caricature of a sex offender in order to please the “psychological gods that they have working at Butner.” Patients would sit in groups and offer one another tips for sprucing up their criminal histories. ...

Particularly leaped out at me that the prosecution's forensic psychologist in one of these cases, Amy Phenix, suggested "...that John had roughly a 24.7-per-cent chance of reoffending within five years...". Ho. Ly. She. It. We've got a psychologist claiming 3 digits of probability accuracy on future behavior? Why isn't this woman working in advertising? We've pretty much established that sociological predictions are hoohey, but here we have someone claiming predictive behaviors on an individual to a tenth of a percent over five years?

Man, if you ever needed some strong confirmation that the modern mental health industry is full of crap, that's a pretty strong exhibit.

(Via MeFi)

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Entry: 2012-12-19 12:17:26.146935-08 Holiday Baking Needs by Dan Lyke comments 0

PenisPans.com - one woman's attempt to use a penis shaped baking pan she got at a bachelorette party. Also of note, Amazon sells "Naughty Penis Titty Cookie Cutters", although any enterprising person knows you can make cookie cutters with tuna fish cans and pliers. Might be a little small, though...

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Entry: 2012-12-18 09:24:44.168031-08 "Sex work isn’t stigmatised because it is dangerous. Sex work is dangerous because it is stigmatised." by Dan Lyke comments 0

New Statesman: Laurie Penny: This strange neo-Victorian desire to save prostitutes and porn actresses:

For a law that claims to be designed to protect women, Proposition 35 looks surprisingly like every other law in the history of sexual and social conservatism crafted to protect the clean-living middle classes from more "corrupt" elements of the community by sending in the police and taking away their livelihoods. The elements of class suspicion at work here shouldn't have to be spelled out.

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Entry: 2012-12-10 13:29:22.199531-08 Where is the new edge? by Dan Lyke comments 3

Paul Palubiki: Expired. On what Wired Magazine has become:

Going through the first issue made me somewhat sad, but not really from any sense of nostalgia. It was a painful reminder of how much the magazine has changed from a weird, dangerous, avant-garde magazine from the future to basically PC Magazine with a goatee and cargo shorts.

Yes. Hell, Boing Boing is now pimping bimboxes. Even "gamification", ie: stealing ideas developed decades ago in contexts like Toastmasters to get you to pay someone else to care for your Tamagotchi, appears to be over. Maybe there's something to the "Maker" movement, but that's largely what our grandparents' generation called "Hobbyists".

I'm seeing a slight resurgence in the home-made sex-positivity areas, but in general it feels like this culture, tech and otherwise, is stuck in this tremendous malaise. Where's the transgression? Where's the "fuck the status quo, let's make some noise and change things"? Have all the punks been assimilated?

Or have we all become so accustomed to the shiny now that we're living in the future that there's no future left to envision?

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Entry: 2012-12-06 11:42:37.768625-08 Sexual attitudes in Iceland vs US by Dan Lyke comments 0

Nerve Magazine: Talking to Strangers: Reykjavik, Iceland. As ‏@genehack said:

The first entry in this Talking To Strangers is fantastic[Wiki] http://bit.ly/TMussi (possibly NSFW link there) "

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Entry: 2012-11-27 08:19:46.465486-08 Porn Actresses by Dan Lyke comments 0

CBS: Study: Porn actresses are more religious and have higher self-esteem than other women.

Journal of Sex Research: Pornography Actresses: An Assessment of the Damaged Goods Hypothesis

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Entry: 2012-11-26 18:26:17.294053-08 Social interaction is sexual by Dan Lyke comments 0

Social interaction is sexual reproduction for ideas.

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Entry: 2012-11-25 20:17:13.39729-08 Vagina Hacking by meuon comments 0

http://scanlime.org/2012/11/hacking-my-vagina/

The title alone told me this probably should be on Flutterby, that it's hacking microcontrollers and feedback loops and sex toys nails it. The amount of detail, pics and narrative in the build writeup is awesome.

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Entry: 2012-11-21 07:32:41.136466-08 Sex and booze beat religion and kids by Dan Lyke comments 1

From the "investigating the obvious" files: University of Canterbury (New Zealand) postgraduate psychology researcher Carsten Grimm's research project has determined that sex and alcohol make you happier than religion and kids. No duh.

Surprisingly Facebook rated last in meaning while texting came in 26th in happiness. Carsten's research has revealed the complex relationship between happiness and well-being in people’s daily lives.

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Entry: 2012-11-20 16:56:15.992028-08 Airports by Dan Lyke comments 3

Airports: CNN pushing Gaza violence porn, Microsoft booths pushing the Surface and Windows 8. Both celebrating the tragedies of humanity.

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Entry: 2012-11-16 11:08:43.334157-08 17 euphemisms for sex from the 1800s by Dan Lyke comments 0

17 euphemisms for sex from the 1800s

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Entry: 2012-11-14 14:34:39.771341-08 Abortion and Birth Control by Dan Lyke comments 2

The United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) "By Choice Not By Chance" (PDF) is the first statement by the U.N. declaring contraception a human right. Via CBS News: UN calls contraception access a "universal human right" via Salon: U.N. calls contraception a “;universal human right”;.

This on the heels of the death in Ireland of Saviti Halappanavar who died likely because she was denied an abortion:

... She was quickly brought to hospital, where medical staff told her she was fully dilated, was leaking amniotic fluid and would miscarry her child, her husband said. He said that the hospital staff informed his wife that the miscarriage would only take a few hours. Three days later the fetus died inside Halappanavar’;s womb, he said. During this period Halappanavar was in extreme pain and continually asked doctors to terminate the pregnancy, her husband said. Staff refused, according to Praveen Halappanavar, on the grounds that they were prohibited from performing abortions by law and that they could not remove the fetus until its heart had stopped beating. Praveen Halappanavar told the Irish Times that they also refused on the grounds that “;this is a Catholic country.”; ...

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Entry: 2012-11-03 19:41:21.014488-07 Reading Ross Chapin's Pocket by Dan Lyke comments 1

Reading Ross Chapin's Pocket Neighborhoods. Architecture porn: exciting to look at, but not convinced I could have a long-term relationship.

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Entry: 2012-10-26 15:21:05.587119-07 Porn PR guy bsgpr on my Twitter feed by Dan Lyke comments 0

Porn PR guy (@bsgpr) on my Twitter feed has a 4Square check-in from "Virgin Management". Unsure as to whether this is a R. Branson property.

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Entry: 2012-10-22 14:10:26.36186-07 RTs OTD by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Rebecca Blood @rebeccablood:

"Governor" RT @anildash: I need to find a business-appropriate way to say "this mf right here...". Suggestions?

RT Rory Mo-Ran @roryontour

Why do porn sites have a share to Google+ option? I don't want my friends knowing I use Google+

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Entry: 2012-10-21 17:24:57.804578-07 David C. Roy by Dan Lyke comments 2

Wood porn! David C. Roy - Wood That Works - Kinetic wall sculptures in wood.

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Entry: 2012-10-17 16:04:16.398375-07 Corporate personhood by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Sheeri K. Cabral @sheeri:

If corporations are people, how can I put one on the registry of sex offenders?

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Entry: 2012-10-16 12:05:59.955863-07 Bodyform responds by Dan Lyke comments 0

Howl. Okay, first, see this rant one Richard Neill posted to the "Bodyform" Facebook page about being misled about periods, menstruation, and feminine hygiene products.

Then go watch this YouTube video wherein Bodyform responds.

If they faked "Richard", holy crap that's a company willing to take risks with their brand. If they didn't, then I'm really impressed by their ability to roll with the humor and one-up it.

Via Salon.

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Entry: 2012-10-12 14:52:12.22446-07 Cross in the Closet by Dan Lyke comments 0

ABC News: Cross in the Closet: Straight Christian Lives a Year as Gay Man. Is an article about the new book from Timothy Kurek. Looks like it might be fascinating, and there are one or two evangelical Christians I know who have had enough experiences with opening their horizons that they might be ready for it.

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Entry: 2012-10-11 11:44:41.044695-07 on behalf of the student by Dan Lyke comments 1

Metafilter user "Eyebrows McGee" talks about sitting on a school expulsion committee:

But fully half of the expulsions I processed in this batch read, "No one appeared on behalf of the student." Not ONE ADULT in the ENTIRE WORLD was willing to show up for an 11-year-old's expulsion hearing. No parents, no grandparent, no relative, no guardian, no pastor, no social worker, no employer or neighbor or coach. Not one adult for a 15-year-old on track to graduate who was in the first trouble of his career (the principal expelling him (properly, under the rules) asked us to give him a suspended sentence, which lets him stay at school as long as he doesn't screw up again, because he's a good kid).

This is why we have to start with free contraception and comprehensive sex ed. And education.

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Entry: 2012-10-10 09:11:07.594799-07 Someone shook the EtchaSketch and he by Dan Lyke comments 6

Someone shook the Etch-a-Sketch and he decided to start running a campaign: Romney promises no abortion legislation http://www.pulse.me/ap/69cd1cd...um=referral&utm_source=pulsenews

(Of course even if he managed to hold that opinion for the next few weeks, that says nothing about SCOTUS appointments, or signing laws that came to him that weren't part of his agenda.)

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Entry: 2012-10-09 10:19:40.000399-07 Death to the Children! by Dan Lyke comments 0

Republican Candidate In Arkansas Says Parents Should Seek Death Penalty Against ‘Rebellious Children’:

Here’s the key passage from Fuqua’s 2012 book, “God’s Law: The Only Political Solution“:

The maintenance of civil order in society rests on the foundation of family discipline. Therefore, a child who disrespects his parents must be permanently removed from society in a way that gives an example to all other children of the importance of respect for parents. The death penalty for rebellious children is not something to be taken lightly. The guidelines for administering the death penalty to rebellious children are given in Deut 21:18-21:

Now on the one hand I'm all "dude, I've been preaching abortion should be cheap and available through the 55th trimester for years!" and it's great to see people finally reading the Bible carefully and coming on-board, on the other hand I'm wondering if, based on the appeal to Deuteronomy, how this guy feels about cotton-poly undies.

Via Elf Sternberg, who has an additional dose of the crazy and ignorance of scripture from the "Christian" talk radio station he picked up the story frome.

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Entry: 2012-10-09 07:07:40.138891-07 Sexually aroused women harder to gross out by Dan Lyke comments 2

You've probably already seen this: PLOS ONE: Feelings of Disgust and Disgust-Induced Avoidance Weaken following Induced Sexual Arousal in Women, Charmaine Borg, Peter J. de Jong

Via Scientific American: Sexually Aroused Women Are Harder to Gross Out

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Entry: 2012-10-05 07:45:19.666188-07 Today's gay scouting story by Dan Lyke comments 0

Almost-Eagle Scout denied award and kicked out of Scouting because he is gay.

Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2012-10-04 08:37:48.593913-07 99 problems by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT: Brian Ellner ‏@Brianellner:

Jay-Z has 99 problems, but gay marriage ain’t one: http://shar.es/56tN2 via @TheFour2012 cc @chriswarcraft

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Entry: 2012-09-26 08:31:26.917715-07 Spyware & laptop cameras by Dan Lyke comments 0

Wired Threat Level: Rent-to-Own Laptops Secretly Photographed Users Having Sex, FTC Says.

Yet another reason to never ever leave the operating system and configuration that came on your computer on your computer. And trusting the hardware these days is kinda suspect too.

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Entry: 2012-09-23 16:45:56.828722-07 Paparazzi culture by Dan Lyke comments 0

Interesting: Kira Cochrane in The Guardian: Creepshots and revenge porn: how paparazzi culture affects women. Some musings on how photography and slut shaming and (social) media come together in bad ways.

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Entry: 2012-09-21 11:00:45.22044-07 Princess Meena on abortion by Dan Lyke comments 0

Princess Meena Diaries: A papier-maché Mephistopheles is another great discussion of abortion from the perspective of someone with "Cerebral Palsy and profound learning disabilities".

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Entry: 2012-09-20 10:13:51.391268-07 Chic-Fil-A news of the day by Dan Lyke comments 0

Chick-fil-A vows to stop donating to anti-gay groups. Hate is not good business.

Previously, Previouslyer.

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Entry: 2012-09-17 17:06:22.603784-07 On Romney and the future by Dan Lyke comments 18

Mother Jones magazine is reporting, with video, that Mitt Romney said:

All right, there are 47 percent who are with him, who are dependent upon government, who believe that they are victims, who believe the government has a responsibility to care for them, who believe that they are entitled to health care, to food, to housing, to you-name-it. That that's an entitlement. And the government should give it to them.

and that

Romney went on: "[M]y job is is not to worry about those people. I'll never convince them they should take personal responsibility and care for their lives."

And you know what? That right there is how I went from being a hard-ass right-wing Objectivist to voting Democrat. Because I went from believing that I could convince people to take personal responsibility and care for their lives, to believing that in order to make that behavior change stick we had to provide a safety net and an example so that people can see that, yes, they can take personal responsibility, and give them the room so that they can see that they can indeed care for their lives.

Because there are two problems with writing people off and not continuing to try to convince them that they should take personal responsibility, and they're kinda linked: The first is that they're out-reproducing us, and I would like to take this moment to point out that the GOP policies on healthcare and abortion aren't helping that. The second, and I don't wanna Godwin the thread to early or anything, but the second really is: What are you going to do with those people?

Because either we can educate them and elevate them to our level, or they're gonna overrun us. I mean, there is a third option: We could spend over half of our Federal budget to build mechanisms of destruction and killing and try to wipe them out faster than they're reproducing. But, wait, it turns out that we'd need to spend more than that, because... well... how's that foreign policy working out for us? How much more would we need to spend on bombs to make that work out domestically. And has that ever worked for a nation?

Cambodia, Germany, North Korea, China... yeah, I'm not coming up with any good examples here.

So it looks to me like if we want to have a society that doesn't look like Somalia, we need to step in to change the culture where the parents involved weren't up to the task. We must "...convince them they should take personal responsibility and care for their lives." The future depends on it. Our future depends on it.

That Mitt Romney believes that he can't means that he has abandoned hope for any sort of future that seems rationally possible. It's going to cost more to protect our enclaves against the angry masses than to bring them into the fold, and my life's too short to stand with principle rather than adopting pragmatism.

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Entry: 2012-09-14 07:12:00.127486-07 Antitexting campaigns echo abstinence by Dan Lyke comments 0

Anti-texting campaigns echo abstinence only sex-ed, which doesn't work: http://www.itcanwait.org/ "Take the pledge"

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Entry: 2012-09-09 12:59:23.251602-07 Three reasons by Dan Lyke comments 0

Well worth a read: Rick Falkvinge: Three reasons child porn must be re-legalized the coming decade. Talks about some of the absurdities:

In Sweden, ECPAT has pushed through laws that make you a jailable criminal for possessing images of yourself from before your 18th birthday. Can we have a show of hands to see how many think this makes any kind of sense? That this would catch any child molesters?

But also about the fact that the strict liability rules on possession of child pornography means that the right thing to do is to delete evidence of the crime rather than hope that some prosecutor won't pursue you.

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Entry: 2012-09-07 13:25:39.942145-07 “They Won’t Magically Turn You Into A Lustful Cockmonster” by Dan Lyke comments 1

Maryland State Delegate Emmett C. Burns Jr. wrote a letter to Minnesota Vikings (NFL) owner Steve Bisciotti, urging him to "inhibit such expressions from your employee." One such employee, punter Chris Kluwe responds. Just too delicious to pull quotes from.

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Entry: 2012-09-06 12:40:19.692079-07 Gates Foundation and contraception by Dan Lyke comments 0

Interesting: Melinda Gates’ New Crusade: Investing Billions in Women's Health

Perhaps more importantly, there’s her Catholic faith, which has always informed her work. “From the very beginning, we said that as a foundation we will not support abortion, because we don’t believe in funding it,” she says. She’s long disagreed with the church’s position on contraception, and the Gates Foundation did some family-planning funding early in its history. Still, she went through a lot of soul-searching before she was ready to champion the issue publicly. “I had to wrestle with which pieces of religion do I use and believe in my life, what would I counsel my daughters to do,” she says. Defying church teachings was difficult, she adds, but also came to seem morally necessary. Otherwise, she says, “we’re not serving the other piece of the Catholic mission, which is social justice.”

MeFi thread.

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Entry: 2012-09-06 06:59:21.234556-07 Romney was once a "smart growth" advocate by Dan Lyke comments 0

The National Review writes glowingly on the liberal that Mitt Romney once was, noted here because of the urban planning aspects of his policies in Massachusetts:

Romney’s liberal heresies on health care, gay rights, and abortion are well established. Less well known is that, as governor of Massachusetts, he was a smart-growth acolyte. He hinted at this predilection during the campaign in 2002. “Smart growth, or purposeful planning, is a concept that will be in the governor’s office if I’m elected,” he said. After winning, he created a new “Office for Commonwealth Development” to oversee the transportation, environment, and housing departments—and named as its chief Douglas Foy. It was a brash decision for a business-oriented politician: Foy was the head of the state’s Conservation Law Foundation and an ardent environmentalist who often commuted 20 miles by bike. “He was the bane of the business and development community,” Benjamin Fierro, the lobbyist for the state homebuilders’ association, told me. “My clients were very concerned about that.”

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Entry: 2012-09-02 14:58:02.854751-07 Hell, Defined by meuon comments 0

If I believed in hell (the place and/or the concept), it would be something like this afternoon: Attempting to reconcile a complex multi-currency accounting system months after engineers have manually overwritten most of the beautiful and technically correct and nearly perfect accounting (Invoices and GL's) the system was designed to do.

It's kind of like: A large room full of monkeys banging on typewriters will eventually recreate a shakespearian quote or paragraph. maybe even a chapter or play given enough collapses and rebirths of the universe.

In this case, a room full of engineers will eventually charge and/or credit the seemingly correct amounts manipulating the units of energy (kWh), units of currency (tariffs) and long interesting comments to describe it as they think it really should be. Some of it should not be kWh is the problem, but that is how they think. It ends up in the wrong general ledgers when they do it that way.

Oh.. and someone gave a local strip club the discounted employee tariff. Hmm.

What makes it really hellish is, I'm stuck in an office just a few miles from a nice beach, pool, bar and food...

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Entry: 2012-08-29 10:40:33.354947-07 Chug! Chug! Chug! by Dan Lyke comments 1

College binge drinkers happier than sober classmates, researchers say. From the press release:

"Binge drinking is a symbolic proxy for high status in college," said Carolyn L. Hsu, co-author of the study and an associate professor of sociology at Colgate University. "It's what the most powerful, wealthy, and happy students on campus do. This may explain why it's such a desirable activity. When lower status students binge drink, they may be trying to tap into the benefits and the social satisfaction that those kids from high status groups enjoy. And, our findings seem to indicate that, to some extent, they succeed."

According to the study, students from higher status groups (i.e., wealthy, male, white, heterosexual, and Greek affiliated undergraduates) were consistently happier with their college social experience than their peers from lower status groups (i.e., less wealthy; female; non-white; Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning (LGBTQ); and non-Greek affiliated undergraduates).

Also, Heavy drinkers exercise more (Do Alcohol Consumers Exercise More? Findings from a National Survey, French, Popovici, and Maclean).

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Entry: 2012-08-27 09:09:24.209578-07 Oracle goes pirate by Dan Lyke comments 0

So there's this America's Cup sailboat race that's happening, or just happened, in San Francisco Bay. Lots of people throwing lots of money into penis compensation vehicles, but at least they're relatively quiet.

Anyway, looks like the Oracle team strategy is consistent from corporate to boating: When in doubt, ram the officials' boat (YouTube)

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Entry: 2012-08-23 15:11:27.509896-07 American Courtesans by Dan Lyke comments 0

American Courtesans: The documentary film.

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Entry: 2012-08-23 10:37:13.393308-07 RIP Bill Brent by Dan Lyke comments 0

Thomas Roche at TinyNibbles.com: R.I.P. Bill Brent: Author, Publisher and Sex Activist.

When Black Sheets Magazine first came out, I registered some variant of it as a domain name and put up subscription information with a "This is what their web site should have on it" page, and offered it to Bill Brent at a Perverts Put Out event. Nothing ever really came of it, as far as I remember Black Sheets had a few paper issues and then kind of foundered, but it is clear that Bill Brent's influence was far broader than that small presence would suggest.

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Entry: 2012-08-23 07:09:45.071406-07 PRM Designs by Dan Lyke comments 0

Wood porn of the day: PRM Designs marquetry and woodworks

Edit: See also his pages at LumberJocks,

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Entry: 2012-08-21 04:30:45.857287-07 Chattaporn? by meuon comments 3

[Chattanooga Penetrating Phallic Porn Logo]Maybe my mind is just warped, but I see a very penetrating phallic logo for the Chattanooga Chamber of Commerce

. What do you see?

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Entry: 2012-08-20 19:59:43.683946-07 Porn & Politics by Dan Lyke comments 0

It's fun being on an adult video business PR person's mailing list, but I only forward things occasionally. However, this time... Gamelink: Porn and Politics infographic, from GameLink Uncovers the Link between Porn and Politics as the Presidential Election Heats Up press release.

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Entry: 2012-08-20 16:27:27.100438-07 Victorian slang by Dan Lyke comments 0

Victorian slang - a guide to sexual Victorian terms (stolen wholesale from MeFi).

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Entry: 2012-08-15 09:48:07.228614-07 Abortion perspective by Dan Lyke comments 0

Lynn Beisner - I wish my mother had aborted me

Here is why it is so effective: people freak out when you tell an opposing story. I make even my most ardent pro-choice friends and colleagues very uncomfortable when I explain why my mother should have aborted me. Somehow they confuse the well-considered and rational: "The best choice for both my mother and me would have been abortion" with the infamous expression of depression and angst: "I wish I had never been born." The two are really very different things, and we must draw that distinction clearly.

Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2012-08-11 08:15:35.671832-07 GOP reconfiguring Rand by ebradway comments 12

As y'all know, I haven't been a fan of Ayn Rand since around age 19. There was a period from about age 15 to 19 where I was the guy handing out copies of The Fountainhead. And I did go to the Atlas Shrugged movie on opening night with a friend (who is still a devotee). To be clear, I don't call myself an "Objectivist" but I've read most of her books and appreciate Rand's position in the canon of Western Philosophy.

What I don't get is how Paul Ryan and Ron Paul can square their position on abortion with Rand's philosophy? It seems pretty clear to me that Objectivism would leave the abortion choice up to the woman. And, at most, expect the state to ensure safe and open access to the necessary medical procedures.

Sure, there's the whole issue of the unborn child's rights. And I could see Ayn Rand's philosophical mind struggling with the concept: what rights does an embryo have in utero? I'd have to read back through more of her books than I want to, but I strongly suspect that Rand would side with the mother because her sentience can be objectively established.

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Entry: 2012-08-09 13:37:50.518729-07 Yet another two from Shadow by Dan Lyke comments 0

Two from Shadow:

"This forms part of Berkeley's strategy for easy access to and from the development – by car, bus, cycle or on foot.

"A train station is also within close proximity."

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Entry: 2012-08-09 07:24:06.729956-07 extreme porn in the U.K. by Dan Lyke comments 0

politics.co.uk: Comment: Prosecutors, extreme porn and 50 Shades of Grey, or how anti-pornography laws are being used to harass gay men, and how it's possible under those laws to be convicted for possession of images you haven't seen.

A good reminder that it's important to put down strong barriers to keep the anti-porn mob in check.

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Entry: 2012-08-07 09:23:04.710013-07 False Equivalencies, food and sex by Dan Lyke comments 3

The American Conservative: Rod Dreher: Porky Populism is a perfect example of why it's hard to take the modern conservative movement seriously. He writes this long article about the cultural divide on food and class warfare, and then at the very end drops in this false equivalency about sexual freedoms that's just... uh... bizarre.

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Entry: 2012-08-05 15:01:39.249279-07 Beavers responds to Chick-Fil-A by Dan Lyke comments 3

Houston eatery Beavers has responded to the Chick-Fil-A controversy with a "chick on chick filet":

2 Loving Chicken Breasts

married on toasty buns w/a

Honey Mustard witness +

joined in celebration w/ tolerant

fries $11

Yeah, it exploits the whole "guys watching lesbian chicks" thing, but the place is called "Beavers", and I will drive out of my way to eat greasy bar food at a place called "Peckers" or "Cocks" if anyone wants to open a rooster themed restaurant.

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Entry: 2012-07-27 11:05:17.305672-07 George R.R. Martin on writing sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

QOTD: George R.R. Martin in a Reuters interview

“I can describe an axe entering a human skull in great explicit detail and no one will blink twice at it. I provide a similar description, just as detailed, of a penis entering a vagina, and I get letters about it and people swearing off,” he said.

“To my mind this is kind of frustrating, it’s madness. Ultimately, in the history of [the] world, penises entering vaginas have given a lot of people a lot of pleasure; axes entering skulls, well, not so much.”

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Entry: 2012-07-23 13:43:33.925962-07 Same Sex Kiss Day by Dan Lyke comments 17

National Same Sex Kiss Day at Chick-Fil-A is August 3rd!

Unfortunately, the closest (hmmm... almost typo'd that to closetedest) Chick-Fil-A is in Fairfield, and going to Fairfield has no appeal.

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Entry: 2012-07-23 07:40:25.706732-07 Romney advocates mandatory porn filters by Dan Lyke comments 1

Romney advocates mandatory porn filters (YouTube video):

"I want to make sure that every new computer sold in this country after I'm president has installed on it a filter to block all pornography, and that parents can click that filter and make sure that kids don't see that kind of stuff coming in on their computer."

Examiner.com article on Romney's statements.

I will offer that he's probably smart enough to understand that what he's proposing won't work, in which case this is pandering to idiots.

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Entry: 2012-07-18 16:46:40.374184-07 News regarding TSA & penises by Dan Lyke comments 0

Remember the guy who stripped down to show the TSA he wasn't carrying weapons? UPDATED: Portland's "Naked American Hero" on Trial—Not Guilty!.

The TSA is still interested in your privates, though: Man with ‘world’s biggest penis’ stopped at SFO security:

“They wanted to know if I had something in my pockets, and when I said no, they asked if I had some sort of growth,” he said.

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Entry: 2012-07-02 12:57:47.479428-07 Why I wince through Hollywood sex scenes by Dan Lyke comments 1

xoJane: Sarah Woolley: Why I wince through Hollywood sex scenes and not porn:

Nor am I thrilled to learn that Naomi Watts “kept on weeping and falling to pieces” during the Mulholland Drive masturbation scene. Or that Marie Schneider was “crying real tears” and “felt a little raped” after Marlon Brando had a bright idea about a packet of butter in Last Tango In Paris - a scene that wasn’t negotiated with Schneider before filming.

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Entry: 2012-06-26 16:24:02.276193-07 Sexual selection study flawed by Dan Lyke comments 4

Science News: Biologists Reveal Potential 'Fatal Flaw' in Iconic Sexual Selection Study.

In 1948, English geneticist Angus John Bateman published a study showing that male fruit flies gain an evolutionary advantage from having multiple mates, while their female counterparts do not. Bateman's conclusions have informed and influenced an entire sub-field of evolutionary biology for decades.

He threw out samples for which he couldn't determine parentage from physical mutations. Turns out that biased the hell out of his samples. Sigh.

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Entry: 2012-06-22 14:56:38.387476-07 Careful with the camera! by Dan Lyke comments 1

Illinois Supreme Court: Sex With 17-Year-Old Was Legal, Pictures Were Not

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Entry: 2012-06-21 09:17:48.73901-07 Lusty Lady landmark? by Dan Lyke comments 0

What do you do when the Internet and changing culture take a toll on a city's iconic business? Try to turn it into a tourist destination: The Lusty Lady strip club wants to transform itself into a landmark, to get all of those people who come by to take pictures of the sign to step inside.

"The Lusty Lady might be onto something," he said. "That place has such a storied past. They might make it more of a fun thing. It's like us, we're a niche. Like Jerry Garcia said: 'You don't want to be the best at what you do, you want to be the only one.' "

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Entry: 2012-06-18 10:52:54.619124-07 DNA & the justice system by Dan Lyke comments 0

Virginia DNA data supports innocence of 33 convicted of sex crimes, study concludes:

The institute estimates a wrongful conviction rate in sexual assault cases of between 8 to 15 percent, comparable with the results in sample testing that exonerated two people and prompted then-Gov. Mark R. Warner to order the full Virginia project in 2005.

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Entry: 2012-06-06 12:16:18.885022-07 Kink quote of the day by Dan Lyke comments 0

Kink quote of the day: "50 Shades of Grey is to real bdsm as a gloryhole is to tantric sex." http://www.besplace.com/2012/0...-stereotypes-of-sexual-deviants/

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Entry: 2012-06-04 14:16:00.890455-07 Texas screwing us with abstinence by Dan Lyke comments 0

Gail Collins on Texas’s Abstinence Sex Education Problems:

The state pushes abstinence sex education yet it has one of the highest rates of teen pregnancy. So why is the rest of the country paying half a billion dollars a year to support their teen mothers? ...

Nothing new here, just yet another example of social conservatives pushing their externalities out on to the rest of us.

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Entry: 2012-06-04 09:28:50.005552-07 Suppression of ideas by Dan Lyke comments 0

You know that slippery slope where anti-child-pornography becomes suppression of discussion about reasonable ideas? Those Doppler-shifted screams you're hearing are thoughts falling off of it: West Virginia coalfield dweller goes to Washington to testify about pollution, with picture of 5 year old child bathing in dirty water, Republicans on the committee investigate for child pornography.

Although, you know, maybe 5 year olds bathing in polluted water is what gives these guys hard-ons...

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Entry: 2012-05-31 06:52:16.483415-07 Sex ed for all students by Dan Lyke comments 0

ABC News article about a New York City school and sex ed for students with intellectual disabilities.

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Entry: 2012-05-24 15:28:19.503103-07 Brian Banks by Dan Lyke comments 1

Because the MeFi entry was deleted, I'm going to pretty much copy whole damned thing:

Brian Banks was a heavily recruited high school linebacker, in between his Junior and Senior year. On July 8, 2002, Banks was accused of kidnapping and raping a female student and was forced to leave the team. He pleaded "no contest" to the charges and was in prison for 6 years, forced to register as a sex offender.

On February 28, 2011, his accuser “friend requested” Banks on Facebook, and ended up recanting the story. With the help of The Innocence Project, the rape conviction of Brian Banks was overturned.

The PDF of the full legal filing in the Brian Banks case.

I'm linking this here because I still find my experience earlier this year with jury duty unsettling, and I think this has many of the same issues. It sounds as though the young woman who was the accuser got caught up in a lie to explain being late to class and was railroaded through by the adults around her. I can imagine the political pressure the attorney from the DA's office was feeling, even in the face of inconsistent testimony and a lack of physical evidence, the media blowback to dropping a case like this would be huge. I can see the impetus to plead "no contest" vs spending the rest of his life in jail for how a jury might interpret "reasonable doubt".

And I want to figure out how we can work toward a society that fixes this. Part of that is working away from "slut shaming", so that it's harder to railroad a young woman into a lie like this. Part of that is taking to task people like Long Beach Poly High co-principal of the time Shawn Ashley for statements like the one that said Banks "will not be returning to Poly regardless of the outcome of any judicial procedures".

Oddly, one of those things is not coming down on Wanetta Gibson because if we do that then we're providing a strong disincentive for people to later come clean.

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Entry: 2012-05-24 10:51:48.657882-07 Clinton with porn stars by Dan Lyke comments 0

Bill Clinton poses with porn stars. I dunno, Bill, keep that up and you may be vying with Carter for "best ex-president".

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Entry: 2012-05-24 09:53:04.966217-07 We want you by Dan Lyke comments 0

Reacting to the news that San Francisco is no longer even in the 10 gayest places in the United States", even being relegated to "the Colonial Williamsburg of gay" (Daily Show video), San Francisco has revamped its appeal to gay tourists with the tagline "49 Hours of SF: Out and About." (Via "San Francisco Attempts to Recruit Even More Gays to the Castro"), making it clear that there's more than just one weekend worth of gay to experience here.

"San Francisco's gay district is called 'San Francisco,'" claim the ads, which are running in Los Angeles, San Diego, Seattle, and Portland. The new $500,000 12-month campaign will also be targeted at Phoenix residents.

Portland? How about just a picture of some blue sky...

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Entry: 2012-05-16 07:20:22.387585-07 GOP Butt Plugs by Dan Lyke comments 0

Designing sex toys for Mitt, Michelle and Rick. It's Wired, so a little more SFW than some resources, but it's about making butt plugs from popularity graphs.

(Typo: First pass at that read "butt pugs". I don't wanna know. I really don't.')

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Entry: 2012-05-16 07:16:51.567458-07 Kickass heroines by Dan Lyke comments 0

Heroes and Heartbreakers: Author Hope Tarr on Real-life Historical Heroines Who Busted Balls and Broke Outta the Box.

Hat tip to Debra Hyde.

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Entry: 2012-05-14 15:50:23.407435-07 Teen pregnancy and poverty by Dan Lyke comments 0

So there's all the harping on teen pregnancy and how we need to keep kids on the straight and narrow 'til we can get 'em married and employed (and we have idiocy like Tennesee's recently enacted gateway sexual behavior law which addresses hand-holding and kissing), but what if you followed the economic health of young women who miscarry? Apparently it isn't the children who lead to the poverty.

Slate.com: Teen moms: How poverty and inequality cause teens to have babies and not the other way around looks at Teenage Childbearing and Its Life Cycle Consequences: Exploiting a Natural Experiment, Hotz, McElroy and Sanders.

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Entry: 2012-05-11 12:48:00.204985-07 DSM 5 & sex addiction by Dan Lyke comments 0

DSM-5: What's In, What's Out:

O'Brien said the group recognized that, anecdotally, many people meet most of the criteria for addiction to these behaviors. But the DSM-5 emphasis on scientific justification precluded listing them. Said O'Brien, "We looked at sex addiction, but there was no science at all. None."

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Entry: 2012-05-11 09:21:26.645813-07 Those who do not learn from history by Dan Lyke comments 3

When same sex marriage was a Christian rite.

Hat tip to Shawn.

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Entry: 2012-05-10 12:59:49.189319-07 Julie D'Aubigny by Dan Lyke comments 0

The adventures of Julie D'Aubigny aka La Maupin, mistress, duellist, singer, and... well... if this story doesn't have a screenplay or 14 it bloody well should.

Wikipedia on Julie d'Aubigny, and I was turned on to this woman's story via nonelvis's link to Badass of the week: Julie D'Aubigny

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Entry: 2012-05-04 11:22:12.230853-07 Safety in porn sites by Dan Lyke comments 4

The headlines are screaming that Symantec Internet Security Threat Report Analysis of Website Categories Exploited to Deliver Malicious Code says that religious web sites are far more likely to try to infect your computer than porn sites, but it's worth looking a little bit at what and why and how the infections are spreading...

Interestingly, pornographic Web sites were not exploited much overall, accounting for 2.4% of all infected Web sites; however, infected pornographic Web sites were found to host a greater number of threats than other categories (except for Religion/Ideologies and Hosting/Personal Hosted Sites – see below). Ranked in third position in figure A16, approximately 25 threats were identified on each infected pornographic Web site, with 44% of these threats being identified as Trojans.

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Entry: 2012-04-18 11:54:52.957639-07 Crazy. Movement, Uprising by meuon comments 4

http://www.komonews.com/news/local/KATU-147866735.html

"A man who said he was fed up with being harassed by airport security stripped to his birthday suit while in an airport screening lane Tuesday evening and was arrested."

I've had that thought run through my mind.. standing there in line. One person doing it is crazy. two might be gay or sexual, 50 and it's a movement or uprising. The trick would be to entice the rest of the line to do it at the same time.

Queue the folk music: http://www.arlo.net/resources/lyrics/alices.shtml

You know, if one person, just one person does it they may think he's really sick and they won't take him. And if two people, two people do it, in harmony, they may think they're both faggots and they won't take either of them. And three people do it, three, can you imagine, three people walking in singin a bar of Alice's Restaurant and walking out. They may think it's an organization. And can you, can you imagine fifty people a day,I said fifty people a day walking in singin a bar of Alice's Restaurant and walking out. And friends they may thinks it's a movement.

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Entry: 2012-04-18 07:29:57.758011-07 Secret Service & prostitution by Dan Lyke comments 1

So there's this thing where the U.S. Secret Service was down in Columbia prepping for a Presidential visit, and a prostitution scandal erupted. Long-time readers of Flutterby know I'm not particularly averse to prostitution, relationships have many transactional components and I think heavy restraints on trade tend to bias the playing field, in the case of prostitution those restrictions tend to bias against women.

So here's what bugs me: There was a $25 charge for the additional room. The scandal apparently erupted because two of these assholes were looking for a "2 for the price of 1" deal, in the range of $40-50.

What bothers me, of course, is that a couple of douchebag cheapskates were balking at paying the provider of the services less than twice the additional room charge. I mean, maybe they could expense the room charge, but... yeesh.

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Entry: 2012-04-12 19:24:26.971571-07 Savage Wood by Dan Lyke comments 0

Wood porn! Savage Woods of Austin Texas has some absolutely spectacular looking exotic wood.

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Entry: 2012-04-12 08:53:58.492483-07 Gateway sexual activity by Dan Lyke comments 1

Tennessee state senators have approved an update to the state's abstinence-based sex education that defines "holding hands" as a gateway sexual activity.

And just to make sure you need that brain bleach: Juxapose with Google Images search for "George Bush holding hands". You're welcome.

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Entry: 2012-04-11 06:16:29.799684-07 Nude Photo Revolutionary Calendar by Dan Lyke comments 0

Nude Photo Revolutionary Calendar is Here! The calendar is a response to Egyptian blogger Aliaa Magda Elmahady being charged with "violating morals, inciting indecency and insulting Islam".

Via Bust.com

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Entry: 2012-04-05 07:49:17.369081-07 The scale of porn by Dan Lyke comments 2

Extreme Tech takes some guesses and does some back-of-the-envelope calculations on the scale of porn web sites.

Then you need to multiply 90 megabytes by the number of monthly visits — which is around 350 million for Xvideos. This comes to around 29 petabytes of data transferred every month, or 50 gigabytes per second.

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Entry: 2012-03-30 14:10:00.543342-07 Voice of Choice by Dan Lyke comments 0

Sometimes a MeFi entry says everything and has nothing to trim. So I'll steal it wholesale:

Back in September of 2011, a group of protesters from Defend Life, held a demonstration in front of Robert Frost Middle School in Rockville, MD. The daughter of Todd Stave, the landlord for Reproductive Health Services in Germantown, attends this school. Todd Stave, no stranger to having protests targeted at him, decided to fight back. He founded the group Voice of Choice, to calmy call the people who call the homes of abortion providers and those with other connections to clinics. Their stated goal is to "[use] peaceful methods to neutralize those who use bullying tactics."

The take-away is the article on Todd Stave founding the group:

Soon after that, the harassing calls started coming to his home. By the dozens, at all hours. Friends asked him how they could help. He began to take down the names and phone numbers of people who made unwanted calls. And he gave the information to his friends and asked them to call these folks back.

“In a very calm, very respectful voice, they said that the Stave family thanks you for your prayers,” he said. “They cannot terminate the lease, and they do not want to. They support women’s rights.”

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Entry: 2012-03-28 13:36:53.46175-07 fair trade porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Erika Christakis: A modest proposal: the case for fair trade porn

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Entry: 2012-03-26 13:41:20.186181-07 Tweets OTD by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Canis Pornivorous, @DogWatchingPorn:

We can probably solve the pro-life/abortion debate by putting more unwanted babies in hoodies.

RT Yanick, @yenzie:

Salmon deployment: when a piece of code is modified in production environment and makes its way back to its native repo to spawn.

RT Scott Hanselman, @shanselman

An engineer walks into a bar and orders 1.0E20 root beers. Bartender: "That's a root beer float." Engineer: "Make it a double."

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Entry: 2012-03-15 14:09:25.009784-07 Links by Dan Lyke comments 0

Stealing from MeFi:

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Entry: 2012-03-12 07:55:29.7972-07 Trudeau on abortion in his strips by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Washington Post interviews Doonesbury creator Garry Trudeau over the current kerfluffle about his strips dealing with abortion.

And one of the papers pulling the strips is in Portland, Oregon? Hey, newspapers: You want to know why you're dying in the Internet age? It's that we can bypass you to get to meaningful media, and you spineless weasels don't have the guts to step up and address the issues that are important.

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Entry: 2012-03-07 14:34:32.993679-08 1890s dancers by Dan Lyke comments 4

Exotic Dancers of the 1890s.

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Entry: 2012-03-07 08:23:09.041128-08 Big Coloring Book by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Big Coloring Book of Vaginas. The Big Coloring Book of Cocks.

Via this article, sent to me by someone who can out zirself if zie wants to.

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Entry: 2012-03-05 06:56:40.268819-08 Santorum shows even more ignorance by Dan Lyke comments 7

Shadow passed along Santorum backs nullifying existing gay marriages. I'm mostly totally speechless about the insanity posing as a presidential race that we're currently being subjected to, but this passage really stood out:

"We can't have 50 different marriage laws in this country," he said. "You have to have one marriage law."

How can someone be so fucking clueless and still get this much attention? For the history of this country we've had 50 different marriage laws. Sure, they fall into 3 broad categories, mostly based on which underlying country the state pulled its legal system from, but how fucking ignorant of basic civics are we willing to let a contender for high political office be?

Oh, and: Rick Santorum.

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Entry: 2012-03-01 16:05:12.215334-08 Where do you get off? by Dan Lyke comments 0

Something to think about when looking at transportation options: (SF) Bay Citizen: Why Transit Riders Don’t Report Unwanted Sexual Behavior: Some passengers believe such incidents are to be expected, Bay Citizen survey finds.

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Entry: 2012-02-28 20:39:05.949165-08 Hawking swings by Dan Lyke comments 0

Boo for the asshole who spewed the confidentiality, but yay for Mr. Hawking: Stephen Hawking has participated at Freedom Acres swinger's club "...more than a handful of times"

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Entry: 2012-02-27 07:16:13.03937-08 by Dan Lyke comments 0

There's a whole lot I want to write about this, but it's been sitting in my browser tab for a week now, so I'll just toss it up, with the caveat that I think there are some good points here, but I think it's more complicated than this: Why Sex Is Not Spiritual.

We cannot afford for sex to be sacred. Sacred things sit on altars to be worshiped from afar, not to become part of one's everyday life. They are not to be touched, played with, fondled, mocked, examined, or questioned. They do not come down into the dust and muck that we live in every day. The sacred stays safely behind the veil of mysticism and respect. Keeping sex behind that veil isn't just repressive and boring, it's fatal. ...

Via craschworks

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Entry: 2012-02-27 07:15:11.284591-08 Notes from a Unicorn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Some interesting notes on bisexuality and how we treat sexual preference: Notes from a Unicorn:

The gay rights movement has been so successful because activists like Harvey Milk encouraged people to come out and tell the truth to their families, to their friends, and to their coworkers, to be everything they were, to say “We’re here, we’re queer,” yes, but also, implicitly, to say, “We’re here, it’s complicated, and probably it’d be good if we talked about this over tea.”

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Entry: 2012-02-23 21:38:45.428976-08 Utah goes bizarre by Dan Lyke comments 0

Utah State Representative Bill Wright, R-Holden, says of HB 363, a bill that prohibits instruction in contraception in sex ed classes says:

"We’ve been culturally watered down to think we have to teach about sex, about having sex and how to get away with it..."

Naw, nobody's going to get away with it. Shaggy and Scooby will reveal that it was the old theme park caretaker in the mask all along.

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Entry: 2012-02-19 14:35:43.233962-08 Pre-abortion ultrasound by Dan Lyke comments 0

Dr Jen Gunter: Pre abortion ultrasound: the medical evidence and why it's important.

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Entry: 2012-02-16 08:22:12.112089-08 Those who do not remember the past by Dan Lyke comments 0

A few historical things have struck me hard recently:

In that vein, I wanted to make note of an Ask MeFi question looking for "Anthologies about Abortion and Homosexuality?" in order to better get a handle on historical context, because it's important to remember how far we've come.

Lest we back-slide.

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Entry: 2012-01-23 09:10:48.61566-08 Rand Paul detained by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT @rtraister:

Rand Paul refuses pat-down at Nashville airport on way to an anti-abortion rally in DC. Because keep your hands off his body. Happy Monday!

Rand Paul in pat down standoff with the TSA in Nashville:

The TSA version of events is that Paul triggered an alarm during routine airport screening and refused to complete the screening process (pat-down) in order to resolve the issue. Paul was escorted out of the screening area by local law enforcement.

Rand Paul is pro-choice on toilets, anti-choice on women's health issues.

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Entry: 2012-01-21 13:42:04.671994-08 City of Brotherly Love by Dan Lyke comments 3

With the news that porn performers in the City of Los Angeles will now be required to use condoms, Brad Guigar has a modest suggestion for moving porn production to Philadelphia.

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Entry: 2012-01-19 10:32:26.556819-08 Swingin' Newt by Dan Lyke comments 0

Whoah: Newt's a swinger? Marianne Gingrich, Newt's ex-wife, says he wanted an "open marriage". Quoted because I think there's quite a difference between "open marriage" and "honey, either we get a divorce or I'm going to go get some on the side".

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Entry: 2012-01-08 17:24:17.325611-08 GOP & sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

Salon — The GOP's Bizarre War on Sex.

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Entry: 2012-01-05 19:56:31.771443-08 Women's sexual satisfaction may improve with age by Dan Lyke comments 0

Women's sexual satisfaction may improve with age.

The study, published in the January issue of the American Journal of Medicine, looked at such sexual satisfaction-related factors as hormone use, frequency of arousal, lubrication, orgasm and pain during sexual intercourse along with sexual desire and satisfaction among 806 women ages 40 to 100 (median age 67; 63 percent post-menopausal).

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Entry: 2012-01-05 05:11:32.770719-08 Santorum against birth control by Dan Lyke comments 8

At some point I realized that the anti-abortion folks weren't after Roe v. Wade, they were after Griswold v. Connecticut, the Supreme Court decision that decided that the states don't have the right to prohibit birth control for married couples because of a right to privacy within the marriage. The current Republican presidential primary campaign has reaffirmed this in spades. Salon: Rick Santorum is coming for your birth control points out Santorum's statements on the topic.

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Entry: 2011-12-20 12:44:43.497244-08 Penis Mom by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Penis Mom:

It all started way back in early November, when my 13-year-old's teacher sent an email to parents saying they were doing a little Pumpkin Chunkin’ – this is a very cool physics project where the kids launch pumpkins with a trébuchet. Awesome. Except the email asked for help setting up the trébuchet. Help from dads. That's right, dads. Are there any strong dads who can help? So if you know me, you know I’m cautious. I sat down at my computer to check the facts, first looking at the calendar to see what year we were in - yep, still 2011. So with time-travel ruled out, we were only left with the possibility that we had somehow slipped into an alternate universe, one where teachers have giant balls. Balls clearly big enough to toss such gender-biased questions out into the wind without concern for where they might land. And thus began my verbal rant. I am uncertain how long it lasted, however when I finally came up for air my husband/editor had made dinner, cleaned up, and put the kids to bed.

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Entry: 2011-12-06 21:14:26.117079-08 Best Pole Dance Ever by Dan Lyke comments 3

BEST Pole Dance Ever by Jenyne Butterfly (YouTube video, no nudity, great gymnastics)

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Entry: 2011-12-06 07:44:21.823607-08 Quantity over quality by Dan Lyke comments 1

Dr Jen Gunter: How many sex partners did you have this year? And does it matter?

Yep, the CDC is, once again, off in the weeds and not playing with evidence.

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Entry: 2011-12-06 07:42:06.897544-08 The problem with Siri by Dan Lyke comments 0

Violet Blue: Why the problem with Siri matters:

The reason Siri got its pro-life association was that the program didn’t just return zero results for abortion clinics when it should have been. In multiple instances Siri directed users to pro-life “pregnancy counseling centers” whose primary motivations are to talk women out of considering certain sex-related healthcare options including abortion, contraception and more.

Yep. "I'm sorry, Dave, I can't do that" is quite different from "there are none", and "here's one" when it isn't.

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Entry: 2011-12-02 16:10:11.357219-08 TAL parody by Dan Lyke comments 0

Okay, I know some of you are fans: This American Life: the sex tape.

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Entry: 2011-12-01 13:54:28.339789-08 Where's the snooze button? by Dan Lyke comments 0

Little Rooster - the vibrator alarm clock.

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Entry: 2011-11-21 08:11:22.369751-08 Speaking for "the 99%" by Dan Lyke comments 0

And on the other side: Femin: Not all sex workers love Occupy: the creepy dynamic of pretending to speak for "the 99%"

As a sex workers' rights advocate, my life would be so much easier if the sole metric by which I judged an activist "success" was how many members of the general public I could get to hate us. It's easy to turn the public against you, any lazy dipshit can do that. Influencing the public to adopt more progressive and tolerant ideas? That's not as adrenaline-soaked and fun as instigating confrontations with the police, but it leads to actual and long-lasting change, which is precisely the kind of work that needs to be done.

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Entry: 2011-11-21 07:11:57.115755-08 Norm Stamper on the flaws of paramilitary policing by Dan Lyke comments 3

Former Chief of the Seattle Police Department Norm Stamper: Paramilitary Policing From Seattle to Occupy Wall Street:

Much of the problem is rooted in a rigid command-and-control hierarchy based on the military model. American police forces are beholden to archaic internal systems of authority whose rules emphasize bureaucratic regulations over conduct on the streets. An officer’s hair length, the shine on his shoes and the condition of his car are more important than whether he treats a burglary victim or a sex worker with dignity and respect. In the interest of “discipline,” too many police bosses treat their frontline officers as dependent children, which helps explain why many of them behave more like juvenile delinquents than mature, competent professionals. It also helps to explain why persistent, patterned misconduct, including racism, sexism, homophobia, brutality, perjury and corruption, do not go away, no matter how many blue-ribbon panels are commissioned or how much training is provided.

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Entry: 2011-11-15 08:01:48.696985-08 Amazon Comments by ebradway comments 0

It's almost hard to believe it's not a farce... but Jerry Sandusky penned an autobiography about 10 years ago. The title... Make sure you've swallowed your milk so it doesn't come out your nose: Touched. The comments on Amazon are funny, if not a little tedious.

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Entry: 2011-11-15 05:51:21.072327-08 Convoluted logic i.e religion by andylyke comments 3

A new version of "religious liberty". http://www.nytimes.com/2011/11...on-and-gay-marriage.html?_r=1&hp Apparently religious liberty is now the liberty to impose your world view on others.

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Entry: 2011-11-06 07:53:21.406555-08 Child-sex-trafficking stereotypes demolished by Dan Lyke comments 2

Child-sex-trafficking stereotypes demolished by new research. Researchers actually go out and interview underage prostitutes, discover that advocacy organizations and law enforcement are reinforcing popular stereotypes rather than actually looking at the realities of the populations. Go figure.

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Entry: 2011-11-02 06:45:28.79912-07 vagina muffins by Dan Lyke comments 0

vagina muffins. I need to do some baking.

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Entry: 2011-10-27 10:45:18.601659-07 Illustrating the Joy of Sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

BBC News: How the Joy of Sex was illustrated:

In the summer of 1971, Britain had been gripped by the Oz trial, in which the editors of a satirical magazine were found guilty of obscenity for publishing a sexualised parody of the children's comic character Rupert Bear. (The judge was famously called a "boring old fart" in court by a defence witness, the comedian Marty Feldman.)

Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2011-10-24 11:49:19.345215-07 Watch porn, do science! by Dan Lyke comments 2

Watch porn, help me do science.

I’m planning an experiment on the content of “women friendly/feminist” categories in major mainstream porn sites and directories. I don’t have the time, will or means to watch even 1/200 of it by myself, but I’d sure like some data about it and what, exactly, is included in this category. Here’s where you enter.

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Entry: 2011-10-17 13:00:04.945439-07 Pen15 and Deldo by Dan Lyke comments 0

Slashdong: The Pen15 Arduino Shield:

The Pen15 Board is a relatively simple Arduino shield, built specifically for sex tech and teledildonics research. At its core is a MOSFET, 2 resistors for current regulation, and a jack to hook up vibrators to.

And if you really love Emacs, Deldo - Vibration Control and Teledildonics Mode for Emacs (YouTube) (Can't just listen to the audio, there are a number of language sight gags in that, even if the visuals are SFW).

Via SE.

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Entry: 2011-10-14 10:49:33.120763-07 Tweet OTD by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT @heathercorinna: Calling anarchy chaos is kind of like calling sex babies. Sometimes they happen via sex, sure, sometimes not, but sex ain't babies.

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Entry: 2011-10-12 10:14:52.972683-07 More on porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Anti-news, but it's good to see in the mainstream press: Porn is good for society!

Women's rights are far stronger in societies with liberal attitudes to sex – think of conservative countries such as Afghanistan, Yemen or China, and the place of women there. And yet, anti-porn campaigners neglect such issues entirely. A recent study by the US department of justice compared the four states that had highest broadband access and found there was a 27% decrease in rape and attempted rape, and the four with the lowest had a 53% increase over the same period. With broadband being key to watching porn online, these figures are food for thought for those who believe access to porn is bad news.

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Entry: 2011-10-04 10:13:40.864298-07 Sex to Herpes by meuon comments 0

http://www.theregister.co.uk/2.../programming_skills_java_bubble/

"Java stored procedures went from sex to herpes in about six months, and of course Oracle now owns Java. That would scare me, it should scare you."

I snorted and laughed.

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Entry: 2011-09-22 07:07:49.953558-07 Fallen records by Dan Lyke comments 1

FIA changes rules about running in mixed sex groups, invalidating Paula Radcliffe's 2005 women's marathon record of 2:17:42.

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Entry: 2011-09-15 11:45:20.918158-07 Taxis cause prostitution? by Dan Lyke comments 0

Uber is a cell phone dispatched and billed, pre-ride sign-up credit card billed taxi service. Oscillatory Thoughts: Uberdata: How prostitution and alcohol make Uber better.

In other words: The parts of San Francisco that have the most prostitution, alcohol, theft, and burglary also have the most Uber rides! Party hard but be safe, Uberites!

Of course this isn't in any way causal. I don't think our Uber riders are causing more prostitution. Right guys?

Via JWZ

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Entry: 2011-09-06 13:25:40.259778-07 First Day by Dan Lyke comments 0

Sexy Prime: SEX, LIES, SECRETS, ENDEARMENT TERMS--& DYING, THE END GAME, Part One: The First Day of the End of My Life.

I said No, No and No. In hospitals, they don't know what to do with a woman who says NO to the standard treatment regiment. In fact, they are taken aback by one who questions the process at all.

Hat tip to Eric Wagoner.

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Entry: 2011-09-02 13:01:38.528777-07 Correlate by Dan Lyke comments 0

Google Correlate: Draw a graph, see search terms over time that match those trends. Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2011-08-31 12:05:19.82146-07 Backwards school districts by Dan Lyke comments 0

Substitute teacher fired because of his porn star past. (Via Shawn). I realize this is Florida and all, so we have to kind of expect that they're generally backwards and wrong, but you'd think they'd at least aspire to joining the civilized world.

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Entry: 2011-08-31 07:08:21.720006-07 Porn & STD infection rates by Dan Lyke comments 4

Dr. Jen Gunter: Why Porn Bums Me Out claims that:

In 2008, 14.3% of adult performers in California were positive for chlamydia and 5.1% had gonorrhea (Goldstein et al Sex Transm Dis July 2011). About 25% of adult performers with either gonorrhea or chlamydia are reinfected with one or the other (or both) within 12 months.

This is inconsistent with other data I've found on infection rates within the adult performer community, and I'm going to have to dig further.

The paper is High Chlamydia and gonorrhea incidence and reinfection among performers in the adult film industry. Goldstein BY, Steinberg JK, Aynalem G, Kerndt PR. From the Sexually Transmitted Disease Program, Los Angeles County Department of Public Health, Los Angeles, CA..

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Entry: 2011-08-31 06:48:08.46707-07 prostitute tax meters by Dan Lyke comments 0

Bonn, Germany, introduces "sex tax meters" for street-walking prostitutes.

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Entry: 2011-08-30 14:06:55.264315-07 Hurricane Irene destruction by Dan Lyke comments 0

On the one hand, this is disaster porn. On the other hand, some shit went down: BuzzFeed: 25 Frightening Photos Of Hurricane Irene’s Destruction

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Entry: 2011-08-25 16:55:18.26131-07 Why Yoga can be irritating by Dan Lyke comments 2

For Eric: Why Yoga Can Be So Irritating (Although You Should Go Anyway!):

In addition to being somewhat crazy—a shrink once diagnosed me with borderline personality disorder, which I thought was a bit of a stretch until I realized that, like everyone else, he just wanted to have sex with me—I am a yoga teacher. I don’t know what your idea of a yoga teacher is, but should you, recoiling in horror as you read along here, find yourself asking, "But how does someone like this become a yoga teacher?"—the short answer is that I gave a man with a beard and his hot wife $3,200 dollars. ...

Hat tip to Tom.

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Entry: 2011-08-24 14:06:56.156572-07 sexual satisfaction tied to successful aging by Dan Lyke comments 0

Sexual satisfaction tied to overall 'successful aging' as reported by women age 60 to 89.

A study by researchers at the Stein Institute for Research on Aging at the University of California, San Diego finds that successful aging and positive quality of life indicators correlate with sexual satisfaction in older women. The report, published online in the August edition of the Journal of the American Geriatric Society, also shows that self-rated successful aging, quality of life and sexual satisfaction appear to be stable even in the face of declines in physical health of women between the ages of 60 and 89.

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Entry: 2011-08-19 07:22:05.117446-07 Weird Catholic abortion news by Dan Lyke comments 5

Catholic Church forgives abortion during the pope's visit to Madrid:

The "special" concession for a pregnancy-termination act normally deemed a sin punishable by excommunication is a result of an appeal by Madrid Archbishop Antonio Maria Rouco Varela for the Vatican to offer women who had abortions access to "the fruits of divine grace that will open the doors to a new life," Vatican spokesman the Rev. Federico Lombardi said.

"Canon 1398 provides that...

... "a person who procures a successful abortion incurs an automatic (latae sententiae) excommunication." This means that at the very moment that the abortion is successfully accomplished, the woman and all formal conspirators are excommunicated.

I'm wondering if the Catholic Church has a tie-in promotional deal with airlines; if you're feeling bad about being automatically excommunicated you could fly to Madrid for forgiveness. Or if they're just losing enough membership in metropolitan Spain that they're having to make dispensations for that portion of the population.

Via this MeFi thread in which it is pointed out that:

Presumably you could shoot a newborn in the head, though, and not be automatically excommunicated and still eligible for sacramental absolution.

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Entry: 2011-08-18 15:27:12.210251-07 Hysteria by Dan Lyke comments 1

Oh. My: A trailer for the movie Hysteria. Maggie Gyllenhaal, Hugh Dancy, Jonathan Pryce, and Rupert Everett and the invention of the vibrator.

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Entry: 2011-08-15 07:20:23.897795-07 Nude Races by Dan Lyke comments 2

NudeRaces.com. Nude foot races. So far just two 5ks in Florida, with the last entry (for a race in 2012) last year. I think I've mentioned that I'd love to find a short ultra (50 miles or so) with relaxed time requirements, one that I could run naked would be double-plus awesome...

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Entry: 2011-08-03 14:30:18.782014-07 Actually, nothing happens in Vegas by Dan Lyke comments 0

Las Vegas one of the kinkiest cities in the country? Not so much:

When I interviewed Las Vegas-based professional dominatrix Rowynn Eire earlier this summer, she had this to say about Vegas’ relationship to sex: “Las Vegas is the most sexually conservative city I’ve ever been to. Sexuality is not celebrated here; it’s only parodied.”

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Entry: 2011-08-02 07:51:00.918748-07 On virgins by Dan Lyke comments 0

and via Shawn's Tumblr, the QOTD comes from Mark Morford: Christian Virgins Are Overrated / Think sex and drugs destroy America? Try naive chastity. Oh, and "Purity Balls":

There is no sacredness in the virgin. There is only the fear, were she to be educated and empowered and really let loose, of what she could become.

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Entry: 2011-08-02 07:31:39.024674-07 "You know by Dan Lyke comments 1

"You know, George", Guido said while idly swinging the baseball bat, "you should have known better than to cheat a friend; to waste the chance that you were given." Behind him, Guido's henchmen shifted uncomfortably. "Tonight the music was so loud, you wished that you could lose the crowd," and there, in the dark alley behind the club Guido wound up with the bat over his shoulder: "Now you're never gonna dance again." cue: wailing saxophone.

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Entry: 2011-07-30 18:11:05.80035-07 Plaster Vulva by Dan Lyke comments 0

Brighton Body Casting has done many plaster casts of vulvas.

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Entry: 2011-07-28 13:49:29.033901-07 Fleshlightning by Dan Lyke comments 2

I assume that this is just a viral ad for the Fleshlight sex toy, but... Fleshlightning (Extended Trailer) points to Fleshlightning.com. I'd see it in theaters.

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Entry: 2011-07-26 12:16:06.894589-07 Observation by Dan Lyke comments 2

Observation: Google+ is like Tumblr with less porn and more SEO and social media "experts".

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Entry: 2011-07-26 10:32:46.120374-07 Viking women warriors by Dan Lyke comments 0

Just in case you didn't see this elsewhere: Warriors and women: the sex ratio of Norse migrants to eastern England up to 900 ad, in which Shane McLeod checks the sex of skeletons at Viking burial grounds by examining their bones rather than applying the cultural filter that if they've got a shield and a sword they must be male, and adjusts history substantially. USA Today article on the topic

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Entry: 2011-07-22 14:15:20.499173-07 Trolling with marriage and sociology by Dan Lyke comments 0

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Entry: 2011-07-22 08:16:16.380737-07 "Abstinence only" doesn't work by Dan Lyke comments 0

Texas's "abstinence only" sex education has led to the highest teen birth rate in the nation

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Entry: 2011-07-22 07:50:37.771847-07 Sex workers' rights by Dan Lyke comments 0

Feminisn't: Fund America's first sex workers' rights billboard, on trying to put a billboard in LA to point out that sex work is different from sex trafficking. Direct donation link.

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Entry: 2011-07-21 09:58:57.89868-07 Random Linkage by Dan Lyke comments 1

University of Chicago Press: The History of Cartography, Volumes 1 and 2, as online PDFs.

BBC News: You're hired: How the apprentice gets ahead in Germany.

an entry stolen wholesale from MeFi:

Letters from Johns. Letters from Working Girls. Letters from Men Who Watch Pornography. Three projects from Susannah Breslin.

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Entry: 2011-07-12 11:15:05.939268-07 Eating sausage by meuon comments 2

Louisiana decriminalizes oral and anal sex - Things get a little easier in the "Big Easy".

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Entry: 2011-07-10 17:58:42.153405-07 Shadow link dump by Dan Lyke comments 0

A couple from Shadow:

Crusading anti-bike lane CBS 2 reporter Marcia Kramer is on the scene at a proposed Manhattan bike lane: "A Second Avenue bike lane is next to the Israeli Consulate," she says. "Imagine if the man on the bike was a terrorist!"

“In light of Marcus Bachmann’s spike in popularity on gay and gay-friendly blogs across the U.S., internet dating megasite Gaydar.net is offering the the husband of Tea Party presidential candidate Michele Bachmann (R-Minn.) a complimentary lifetime membership,” reports Gaydar, on its blog.

If they do this for all the closeted Republicans out there, they'll be out of business in no time...

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Entry: 2011-07-08 07:27:54.516223-07 How the anti-sex lobby profits by Dan Lyke comments 0

Sexonomics: How the anti-sex lobby profits:

Is there enough money in it to even bother making this criticism? Well, thanks to a little tool that compares the money from funding grants over time, we can make a rough guess of what it's worth. For instance, funding for studying trafficking is enormous - in 2009, it was funded worldwide to the tune of nearly a billion US dollars. This is a total greater than the amount of grant money awarded to study lung cancer, which of course, is also devastating, and affects far more people. And spending on trafficking since 2000 has dwarfed the grant awards on such important international health concerns as malnutrition, malaria, or tuberculosis - conditions that kill millions of people worldwide every year, and affect hundreds of millions more.

Via Feminisn't

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Entry: 2011-07-07 14:17:22.790688-07 Make love not porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Cindy Gallop: Make love not porn (video). Also as a TED talk.

MakeLoveNotPorn.com is down, but her talk has a thrust of "lets educate and create alternatives". Also some good notes on "social media experts".

Via Sociological Images.

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Entry: 2011-07-07 09:37:16.360555-07 QOTD by Dan Lyke comments 0

"When people get together and play good chamber music, it's like watching people fucking onstage." — Albert Fuller

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Entry: 2011-06-29 22:20:41.531354-07 Real Men by Dan Lyke comments 1

Village Voice: Real Men Get Their Facts Straight, on Ashton Kutcher, Demi Moore, and bullshit "child sex trafficking" numbers. And how a Santa Monica "charity consultant" appears to be raking in big bucks by generating overwrought causes. Via Feminisn't.

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Entry: 2011-06-29 07:27:41.870172-07 Violent sex and PTSD by Dan Lyke comments 1

A bunch of people have been linking to I’m Gonna Need You to Fight Me On This: How Violent Sex Helped Ease My PTSD.

Violet Blue has some commentary that covers both the things that annoyed me and some of the aspects of what I found compelling in it.

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Entry: 2011-06-28 13:49:32.652483-07 random buzzing by Dan Lyke comments 0

Test driving the most annoying sex toy ever. Here's a description of the Arduino based sex toy, in the comments the creator talks about combining this with EEG reading...

Via ErosBlog.

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Entry: 2011-06-28 13:43:53.168945-07 Indeed by Dan Lyke comments 0

ErosBlog: Indeed, Where ARE All The Sex Games? looks a bit at the dearth of popular online erotic games.

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Entry: 2011-06-28 12:21:40.324373-07 14 Outrageous Secrets by Dan Lyke comments 2

Sometimes satire and reality merge. Shadow pointed me to Christwire: 14 Outrageous Secrets That a Homosexual Will Never Tell You, a wonderfully paranoid set of frightening.

But particularly, Charlene and I recently joined a gym. We are now members of The Redwood Club. It's an interesting mix, there are times of day when the cardio machines are full of young hardbodies, but between the pool and the Nautilus machines there are also quite a number of people who were probably told by their doctors to start exercising or the only way they were gonna continue to be mobile was on a gurney.

So I nearly snorted my coffee through my nose when I learned that:

"2) Mutual masturbation is the primary reason for gym membership."

Uh. Yeah. No.

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Entry: 2011-06-09 18:56:04.784433-07 Hey by Dan Lyke comments 0

Hey, anyone remember the Penis Blog project? (Anthony Weiner's got nothin' on me...)

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Entry: 2011-06-01 13:05:31.137097-07 Fond Memories of Vagina by Dan Lyke comments 0

Tiger Beatdown: Fond Memories of Vagina: Martin Amis’ The Pregnant Widow (thanks, Columbine).

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Entry: 2011-06-01 06:56:46.679957-07 Random by Dan Lyke comments 1

A few more from Shadow:

On that latter point, back in March Amnesty International reported that Egyptian women protesters were forced to take 'virginity tests'. The Egyptian military has now admitted to the practice:

"We didn't want them to say we had sexually assaulted or raped them, so we wanted to prove that they weren't virgins in the first place," the general said. "None of them were (virgins)."

Stupid ideas are very powerful things.

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Entry: 2011-05-25 21:58:20.019996-07 10 charts about sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

OK Cupid: 10 Charts About Sex. Fascinating. Note the odds someone enjoys giving oral sex.

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Entry: 2011-05-12 11:06:07.58124-07 Florida banning sex? by Dan Lyke comments 3

Shadow passed along this suggestion that a recent bill outlawing bestiality in Florida may have outlawed sex altogether, referencing Southern Fried Scientist's suggestion that:

So if you’re living in Florida on October 1, 2011 and would like to have sexual intercourse with a consenting adult, please check with your veterinarian or local livestock breeder first to make sure you abide by ”accepted animal husbandry practices, conformation judging practices, or accepted veterinary medical practices.”

Alas, Election Law Blog suggests that the bill makes a deliberate distinction between "persons" and "animals". This being Florida, we do have to wonder where the Michigan snow birds fall in that taxonomy.

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Entry: 2011-04-25 08:44:28.829113-07 Unsecured WiFi by Dan Lyke comments 4

It's an AP article, so I link to it warily and note that it won't stay around for long, but this note on a Buffalo NY man whose home was invaded by police with guns drawn based on claims of child pornography that may have come from his network connection underscores the potential problems of being kind to neighbors and passers-by that can come from law enforcement.

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Entry: 2011-04-22 21:09:50.572154-07 Comic fined for lesbian insults by Dan Lyke comments 1

Shadow forwarded along this news report which led to Vancouver Sun: Comedian, Vancouver restaurant ordered to pay for insults against lesbian:

Amateur standup comedian Guy Earle has been ordered to pay $15,000 to Lorna Pardy, 32, who filed the complaint last year after she and her lesbian partner were taunted at Zesty’s Restaurant on Commercial Drive on May 22, 2007. Restaurant owner Salam Ishmail has been ordered to pay her $7,500.

It's important to note that Canada's Charter of Rights and Freedoms doesn't have the equivalent of our First Amendment, something that queer authors have been painfully aware of for years.

But I'd also note: This guy insulted a lesbian, on Commercial Drive, in Vancouver British Columbia?[1] And they let him live?

Wow.

[1] If you've never been to Vancouver, that's like Valencia Street in San Francisco.

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Entry: 2011-04-18 07:20:31.393949-07 Republicans lead to teen suicides by Dan Lyke comments 0

Here's the abstract for The Social Environment and Suicide Attempts in Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Youth by Mark L. Hatzenbuehler, PhD in the journal Pediatrics. I'm having trouble finding a link to the articles that have been spawned by it in a place that I think they'll stick around, most of 'em are AP articles, but they, such as Daily Mail: Teen suicide attempts 'more likely if you live in Republican area', says Columbia researcher, mention an interesting little bit that I don't see in the abstract:

Attempts even by straight children are more common in GOP areas where schools lack programmes supporting gay rights, a Columbia University researcher believes.

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Entry: 2011-04-14 21:18:06.907203-07 E-books taking off by Dan Lyke comments 2

BNET: Will Write E-Porn for $1 Million, on author Selena Kitt.

And there's another famous author, who may also be a participant here at Flutterby, Amanda Hocking, who's sold a million young adult novels as e-books (NY Times story on converting that success to a sale to a conventional publisher).

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Entry: 2011-04-11 17:53:15.830807-07 The coolness has leaked out of SF by Dan Lyke comments 0

Charlene and I just got back from a weekend visiting Zack in Vancouver. Awesome hanging out with him, and when he blew us off to go work (the nerve!) on Saturday, he suggested that we head over and hang out on Commercial Drive. So we hopped on the bus and headed to Womyns' Ware, got into a good conversation there, walked up and down for a bit, stopped for dinner at The Reef, had a good evening, and realized that that felt a lot like a combination of Telegraph Ave in Berkeley and Valencia Street in SF. At least a lot like what those spaces used to be, back in the mid '90s. Now they're all gentrified and there's no reason to visit them any more.

Anyway, this was on my mind as I read that another fixture that I used to walk by is being forced out by San Francisco becoming something less than it used to be: The Eagle, Famous Gay SoMa Bar, Set To Close, 4/29.

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Entry: 2011-04-01 06:32:04.343283-07 Is there anything it can't do? by Dan Lyke comments 4

Masturbation not only protects against prostate cancer, and hay fever and nasal congestion, it also helps with restless leg syndrom.

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Entry: 2011-03-24 09:41:19.81446-07 Anti-news by Dan Lyke comments 0

Anti-news: Women's Funding Network sex trafficking study is junk science. More at Feministing, including some great highlights of double-speak from the study's promoters.

via MeFi: I eagerly await the return of Craigslist Adult Services, which is proof once again that when those who'd impose their own moralities on others find a lever, no matter how much they have to lie to provide the fulcrum, it's hard to go back to freedom.

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Entry: 2011-03-22 07:37:55.801757-07 A town like Alice by Dan Lyke comments 0

Shadow passed along a story about Armistead Maupin being insulted with gay slurs in Alice Springs, Australia. Which I don't find terribly surprising, alas.

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Entry: 2011-03-19 13:01:11.03378-07 So Apple's rejected how many porn apps by Dan Lyke comments 3

So Apple's rejected how many porn apps, but approved the Exodus International "Gay Cure" app? #noclosedsystemsforme

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Entry: 2011-03-09 07:42:02.968-08 Two on diversity in the military by Dan Lyke comments 1

Shadow forwarded along two articles:

First: An AP article about an independent report to Congress suggesting that there needs to be more diversity at higher levels in the military. That report appears to be from the Military Leadership Diversity Commission (Journalism FAIL!). I know it's been a concern for me that, for instance, the military seems to be increasingly made up of evangelical Christians... From the re port's executive summary:

The commision's recommendations support two overriding and related objectives: (1) that the Armed Forces systematically develop a demographically diverse leadership that reflects the public it serves and the forces it leads and (2) that the Services pursue a broader approach to diversity that includes the range of backgrounds, skill sets anbd personal attributes that are necessary to enhancing military performance.

Second: A New York Post article about an American Airlines worker fired for using a term during a 'a workplace bull session about "Don't Ask, Don't Tell."':

The fact that Schmitt was defending gay soldiers' right to serve -- "Back then, a faggot coulda saved my life" -- hasn't changed the airline's decision. Neither has his blemish-free employment record, nor the pleas of former JFK co-workers upset over the axing of their buddy known as "Papa Freddy."

Now it's the New York Post, which is somewhere around the AP in detail and Fox News in veracity, but I'd be interested in a little more depth on the story.

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Entry: 2011-03-04 09:42:11.395167-08 Class sex toy demonstration by Dan Lyke comments 1

The Daily Northwestern: Class sex toy demonstration causes controversy (NBC Chicago alt link).

Professor John Michael Bailey sent email to the class afterwards:

I recruited Ken MelvoinJBerg (Ken MB henceforth) because past speakers covering similar topics had not been very interesting—they had merely given powerpoint presentations, of which students get too many already. They were also unwilling to answer questions about their sex lives, which defeated the purpose of that particular presentation. I had met Ken and believe he is articulate, open, knowledgeable, entertaining, and yes, kinky. ...

Summary: Teacher arranges for relevant discussion inducing guest for college level class, taught to adults, administration responds negatively. You wanna know what's wrong with higher education today? In a nutshell.

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Entry: 2011-03-04 09:39:02.6833-08 Breaking the cycles of poverty by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Daily Show: — Diane Ravitch: "I don't think America is overrun by bad teachers, I think America is overrun by too much poverty...". This is why we need to keep funding Planned Parenthood (even if they're on my shitlist right now because of the way they treat their benefactors...), and why we need to make sure that poor women have contraception options, and that they don't feel like kids are a way to keep the men around.

And then this is why we, individually (because government cannot fill the role of actually caring about what happens to individuals), need to be working with poor kids to give them more opportunities and a wider outlook of what's possible.

Relatedly, Rafe had a link and commentary on a study which shows that rich and well educated people live longer. In Canada, where, presumably, everyone has their health care needs met (and, yes, snark about this will be tolerated if you can give me statistics about how many rich Canadians really do come to the U.S. for major medical treatments). He's referencing Ezra Klein's comments on Health Affairs: Lesson From Canada’s Universal Care: Socially Disadvantaged Patients Use More Health Services, Still Have Poorer Health, David A. Alter, Therese Stukel, Alice Chong and David Henry.

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Entry: 2011-02-24 10:28:50.686888-08 The King's Porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Similarities between The King's Speech[Wiki] and the gay porn film Snookered[Wiki]? Both shot on the same set.

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Entry: 2011-02-18 14:17:06.988427-08 Secrets to survival by Dan Lyke comments 1

How did the Chilean miners survive 69 days trapped underground? Marijuana and porn.

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Entry: 2011-02-02 15:43:48.169749-08 RedTube legal by Dan Lyke comments 0

Eric Goldman: Free-to-Consumers Ad-Supported Website Isn't Illegally Priced--Cammarata v. Bright Imperial:

Kevin Cammarata ran subscription-based porn sites until he sold his business at an allegedly depressed sales price. The defendant runs an ad-supported porn site, RedTube.com, one of many porn websites with the suffix -tube.com as an homage to YouTube. Nothing about any of the websites implicated by this lawsuit is office-safe. The court, apparently with a straight face, sets the context by saying "the formerly profitable subscription-based websites 'have been brought to their knees' by the tube-based sites." (Once again reinforcing that the Internet is really just a series of tubes...?)

Basically, Cammarata was pursuing the case that free porn sites were distributing content below market cost in order to drive him out of business. Since the free porn sites are basically advertising for pay porn sites, that's a hard (sorry) case to make. Wired's summary of Goldman's article. MeFi thread.

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Entry: 2011-02-02 13:55:30.985579-08 Modern MASH by Dan Lyke comments 3

There's an old Jordan Shelbourne story called Virgin (On The Ridiculous) that has this exchange:

Cliff was sitting there on his bed, propped against his wall, surrounded by three empty mickey bottles of rye. He was staring at a MASH rerun on a little color television. I turned it off. "Hey!" said Cliff.

"You've seen it," I told him. "It's the one where Hawkeye complains about the inhumanity of war."

And it got me to thinking about the modern equivalent to MASH. Is it The Simpsons? Friends? Or are we beyond that?

YouTube
"You've seen it," I told him, "it's the one with the cute kittens."
Wikileaks
... "it's the one where the State Department needs to grow a spine, and the resulting revolution puts an unfriendly government in power because of the U.S. government's lack of principles."
a 4chan channel
... "it's the one where the people trading unspeakably disgusting porn turn out to be decent human beings who pull together for the betterment of humanity."
Facebook
... "you hung out with them in high school, and they've got kids now. And getting back together with her would be a bad idea."
Huffington Post
... "it's the one where they're outraged about Fox news."

Or maybe it's not net based at all. What's your take?

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Entry: 2011-01-22 09:36:43.342731-08 Definition OTD by Dan Lyke comments 0

Mark Petrovic:

News porn (n): fake news; news to lure you into reading something designed to sell corn flakes

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Entry: 2011-01-20 06:37:00.397922-08 Prostitiution in Petaluma by Dan Lyke comments 0

Skip Sommer writes about prostitution in Petaluma's early days.

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Entry: 2011-01-17 08:48:00.688451-08 Yet another person trying whitewater on a blow-up sex doll by Dan Lyke comments 1

In Australia, a woman riding an inflatable sex doll down the flood-swollen Yarra river has had to be rescued:

The incident prompted a warning from police that blow-up sex toys are "not recognised flotation devices’’.

I have, of course, previously mentioned the Bubble Baba Challenge.

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Entry: 2011-01-06 12:36:15.402057-08 status update by Dan Lyke comments 0

Remember: Abstinence is only 100% effective if you use it each and every time you have sex (thanks @Scarleteen http://bit.ly/dHRo7p )

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Entry: 2011-01-04 16:13:35.747076-08 Monogamy and Alcohol by Dan Lyke comments 0

Women or Wine ? Monogamy and Alcohol by Mara Squicciarini and Jo Swinnen (PDF):

Intriguingly, across the world the main social groups which practice polygyny do not consume alcohol. We investigate whether there is a correlation between alcohol consumption and polygynous/monogamous arrangements, both over time and across cultures. Historically, we find a correlation between the shift from polygyny to monogamy and the growth of alcohol consumption. Cross-culturally we also find that monogamous societies consume more alcohol than polygynous societies in the pre- industrial world. We provide a series of possible explanations to explain the positive correlation between monogamy and alcohol consumption over time and across societies.

Via Marginal Revolution, Via Andrew Sullivan, with a hat tip to Bill Humphries.

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Entry: 2010-12-23 09:45:31.367677-08 QOTD by ebradway comments 0

Since Dan can tie the SoCal flooding in with pr0n. Here's another easily misconstrued seven inches quote:

The 7 inches does come to close to being too large to hold with one hand...

From the Samsung Galaxy Tab review on Unwired.

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Entry: 2010-12-20 15:51:49.471008-08 Julian Assange again by Dan Lyke comments 0

Feminisnt: The feminist left versus Julian Assange: how a fanatical belief in every sex crime allegation hurts everyone. Via Eccentric Flower.

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Entry: 2010-12-16 10:42:48.829849-08 Gorgeous toys by Dan Lyke comments 0

Woodworking porn: Wood model of an excavator.

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Entry: 2010-12-13 01:56:53.833832-08 Necronomicox by Dan Lyke comments 0

Necronomicox - "hand painted and body safe horror film inspired dildos"

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Entry: 2010-12-10 21:26:14.43316-08 status update by Dan Lyke comments 0

Love Xmas lights, but also start singin' "I've got swinging doors, jukebox, and a bar stool. And my home, has a flashin' neon sign..."

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Entry: 2010-12-06 14:40:46.845253-08 MPAA silliness by Dan Lyke comments 0

Nerve.com: Similar oral sex scenes in Black Swan and Blue Valentine get two different ratings. The former involves two women, and got an R, the latter has a man going down on a woman and got an NC-17.

I don't know what all the differences are, I'd hazard a guess that this goes beyond the "it's hawt if two chicks do it, hur hur" double standard, just the sort of thing the MPAA ratings are famous for, fully over into the "fucked up people in dysfunctional relationships using sex as a weapon get a free pass" territory.

Oh yeah, here we go: IMDB says Blue Valentine is a drama/romance, and that Black Swan is a drama/thriller. So I'm guessing those involved get "punished", making the self-loathing closeted freaks in the MPAA ratings board feel okay with the sex.

[ related topics: Movies Sexual Culture Current Events ]



Entry: 2010-12-03 07:26:44.356595-08 Fellatio in fruit bats by Dan Lyke comments 2

University College Cork (Ireland) has lifted sanctions against a professor accused of sexual harassment in connection with pointing out a paper about fellatio in fruit bats to a female colleague.

The paper was Fellatio by fruit bats prolongs copulation time, Tan M, Jones G, Zhu G, Ye J, Hong T, Zhou S, Zhang S, Zhang L. (PLoS One. 2009 Oct 28;4(10):e7595.).

But this being Flutterby, I can't just leave it there, so... some video of fruit bat copulation and fellatio!

Initial article and video via Moral Low Ground.

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Entry: 2010-12-02 10:19:47.149984-08 TSA pat downs as grooming for sexual predation by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Raw Story: Exclusive: TSA frisks groom children to cooperate with sex predators, abuse expert says

Telling a child that they are engaging in a game is "one of the most common ways" that sexual predators use to convince children to engage in inappropriate contact, Wooden told Raw Story.

Children "don't have the sophistication" to distinguish between a pat-down carried out by an airport security officer and an assault by a sexual predator, he said.

Truth be told, I "don't have the sophistication" to distinguish between 'em either.

[ related topics: Games Aviation Sexual Culture Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2010-11-29 20:49:19.583074-08 Gender & Flexibility by Dan Lyke comments 6

Avery Morrow: I’m Dropping Diaspora, This Site Is Now Closed is worth reading because, as Lyn tweeted:

Wow this is like a perfect case study of an amazingly ignorant software developer. Shames zir profession, really.

The particular complaint is that gender was made a text box in the Diaspora code. Sarah Mei describes why she made that change.

But the real issue, and one that I learned long ago when I wrote code to coerce users to enter phone numbers using the area code rules of the day, and then had to figure out how to ship a patch when the phone company relaxed the area code rules, is that if you can derive the information from your data, you shouldn't throw away information.

The users want to tell you about their language and use of it. If you need things like pronouns, do something like:

   if (gender == "male" || gender == "m") return "his";
   if (gender == "female" || gender == "f") return "her";
   return "zir";

And then as you learn more about how your users define themselves ("butch", "femme", what-have-you, maybe you give "zir" to the kinksters and "hir" to the pomo-feminists) the structure defined by your code can expand to encompass the structure used in the real world. If you want to offer autocomplete to suggest a standard, that's great, but you'll go much further if you can let the users define the ontology, rather than imposing one on them.

See also: Sarah Dopp: “Gender is a Text Field” (Diaspora, backstory, and context)

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Entry: 2010-11-29 15:01:09.988437-08 status update by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT @Veronica: Wait, so today isn't Cyber Sex Monday? How... embarrassing.

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Entry: 2010-11-09 21:49:35.713678-08 Sexual Assault at FLOSS Conferences? by ebradway comments 18

For the past couple years, I've been working to get FOSS4G 2011 in Denver. I recently stepped down as chair of the local organizing committee to focus on my dissertation. I am still involved in many of the high level talks. Today someone asked if FOSS4G should consider adding a "Code of Conduct" statement to the program. This was partly the result of a recent sexual assault at ApacheCon. But more, it was the result of the victim in that sexual assault being brave enough to talk about what happened.

Perhaps because of my sex (male), race (white), age (middle), income (middle), religion (____), I am immune/unaware/ignorant of what is going on. What happened to this woman in Atlanta was real. I don't want something similar to happen at FOSS4G in Denver. Could including a statement in a program help?

My argument is that it could help. Maybe it'll prevent something horrible from happening. Maybe it'll help victims feel legitimized in their suffering (rather than being accused of "asking for it"). Maybe it will help everyone in the tech community start to realize that this kind of thing is happening.

But where do conference organizers draw the line? Do we need a statement condemning genocide or heroin abuse? I feel like I am not the person to decide where that line should be drawn.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture History Software Engineering Community ]



Entry: 2010-11-04 12:33:26.916726-07 My Son Is Gay by Dan Lyke comments 1

Nerdy Apple Bottom: My Son Is Gay (via a whole lot of you). 5 year old boy decides he wants to be Daphne from Scooby Doo for Halloween. Mom obliges. Mom writes this blog post about all the paranoid wacky shit that happened in response to kid's Halloween costume.

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Entry: 2010-11-02 09:15:14.35868-07 Gawker on sluts and Christine O'Donnell by Dan Lyke comments 0

Gawker: Why We Published the Christine O'Donnell Story:

Much of the criticism leveled against us is based on the premise that we think hopping into bed, naked and drunk, with men or women whenever one wants is "slutty," and that therefore our publication of Anonymous' story was intended to diminish O'Donnell on those terms. Any reader of this site ought to rather quickly gather that we are in fact avid supporters of hopping into bed, naked and drunk, with men or women that one has just met.

Our problem with O'Donnell—and the reason that the information we published about her is relevant—is that she has repeatedly described herself and her beliefs in terms that suggest that there is something wrong with hopping into bed, naked and drunk, with a man or woman whom one has just met. So that fact that she behaves that way, while publicly condemning similar behavior, in the context of an attempt to win a seat in the United States Senate, is a story we thought people might like to know about. We also thought it would get us lots of clicks and money and attention. But we thought it would get us clicks and money and attention because it was exposing her lies.

Quoted a little more there than I usually do, and it's worth reading the whole thing, but I'm glad to see at least one press outlet explaining the subtleties of their editorial process. Even if it's a press outlet I usually scoff at.

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Entry: 2010-10-21 10:17:42.118295-07 Teen pregnancy = bad education by Dan Lyke comments 0

CDC Study Shows Teen Pregnancy About Education, Not Race:

What’s this mean? That while black and Latina teens are most likely to get cheated by retrograde sexual education in public schools, it screws over everybody.

Hat tip to Heather.

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Entry: 2010-10-21 08:26:07.461764-07 Bob Guccione dead by Dan Lyke comments 1

Bob Guccione dead at 79.

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Entry: 2010-10-15 10:58:11.233113-07 It Gets Better by Dan Lyke comments 5

Following the suicide of yet another bullied young gay teen, Dan Savage wrote:

"My heart breaks for the pain and torment you went through, Billy Lucas," a reader wrote after I posted about Billy Lucas to my blog. "I wish I could have told you that things get better."

I had the same reaction: I wish I could have talked to this kid for five minutes. I wish I could have told Billy that it gets better. I wish I could have told him that, however bad things were, however isolated and alone he was, it gets better.

And they started the It Gets Better Project at YouTube, where people record videos telling teens that "it gets better".

Which is a message I sure wish I'd heard more in high school. But there are some alternate takes: It Gets Different; Leveling Up and Not it: you. You get better. are both messages directed more towards personal change.

The only problem I have with those two messages is that I remember feeling in high school, and even college, that my life was on rails, and I didn't have much leeway to change without completely going off those rails. Saying "you get better" isn't much help to someone who's also simultaneously trying to play the various societal success games as well.

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Entry: 2010-10-15 10:01:44.963082-07 Yale frat pledges chant about rape by Dan Lyke comments 0

YouTube video from Yale Daily News of fraternity pledges chanting "no means yes, yes means anal".

Salon's Tracy Clark-Flory has some commentary:

Now, DKE President Jordan Forney has been forced to apologize for this blatant sexual intimidation by calling it "a serious lapse in judgment by the fraternity and in very poor taste." But this sort of hateful crap isn't a "lapse in judgment." It doesn't innocently happen that you're guiding male pledges by young women's dorms in the dark of night chanting about anal rape. It isn't a forehead-slapping slip-up, it's a sign that you need major reprogramming as a human being. ...

And just so we're totally clear on where the dichotomy lies here: The half of the electorate that elected a dickhead of the culture from which this misogyny comes to the presidency for the first 8 years of this millenium is, as I mentioned yesterday, the half of the electorate giving a young female Congressional candidate crap for being photographed with her husband-at-the-time playing around with a jokey Christmas party costume.

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Entry: 2010-10-14 10:55:02.510107-07 Krystal Ball & prude old politicians by Dan Lyke comments 4

Krystal Ball’s New Statement About The Scandalous Photos Released Online.

Who cares if, at 22, she took a couple goofy photos at a Christmas party where her ex-husband was wearing a red dildo on his nose and she put her mouth on the fake peen? Dirty politicians, that’s who. “The tactic of making female politicians into whores is nothing new,” Ball wrote. “Society has to accept that women of my generation have sexual lives that are going to leak into the public sphere. Sooner or later, this is a reality that has to be faced, or many young women in my generation will not be able to run for office.”

I'm going to put the full statement in the comments. Hat Tip to Medley (once again).

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Entry: 2010-10-12 07:53:04.543226-07 Eat What Thy Wilt Shall Be the Whole of the Law by petronius comments 2

Next time you need a truly transcendental dish to impress your guests, try this one: Aleister Crowley's recipe for Rice Pilaf. Apparently the step about drizzling the sauce over a naked virgin was left out.

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Entry: 2010-10-08 16:45:45.467226-07 More NSoSH commentary by Dan Lyke comments 0

William Saletan looks at the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (which I mentioned on Tuesday), noting among other things that:

... Among women who had vaginal sex in their last encounter, the percentage who said they reached orgasm was 65. Among those who received oral sex, it was 81. But among those who had anal sex, it was 94. Anal sex outscored cunnilingus.

As Elf points out, Saletan is careful to not confuse correlation with causation, but Elf further notes that:

Saleton ruins his analysis with this line: "Women who were getting what they wanted were more likely to indulge their partners' wishes [for anal sex]." Anal is apparently something a woman doesn't like, but something she does in exchange for what she really wants. Saleton has clearly never dated woman who's also an anal power bottom.

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Entry: 2010-10-08 05:17:54.511226-07 Saving teens from themselves by Dan Lyke comments 0

Paris decides (Larry Clark's "Kiss The Past Hello" photo) exhibition about teenage sex is too raunchy – for teenagers (in the Guardian, on France24 press review, in the Telegraph). Via Heather Corinna who observed: "Clark always gives me the creeps, but still...".

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Entry: 2010-10-07 07:21:29.923226-07 Inanimate objects by Dan Lyke comments 0

Zack says:

Ever wanted to take an anonymous survey on the subject of "intimate objects"? Of course you did. Rachel's working on a sex toy for her grad project and needs people to take a survey as part of research. All information is confidential. http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/9Z833WV

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Entry: 2010-10-05 09:29:45.995226-07 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior by Dan Lyke comments 0

A new sex survey: National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB)

... It includes the sexual experiences and condom-use behaviors of 5,865 adolescents and adults ages 14 to 94.

Wow, sexual experiences of 5,865 adolescents and adults? Sounds like a mini Burning Man.

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Entry: 2010-10-01 13:14:29.619226-07 Smut Capital of America by Dan Lyke comments 0

The makers of a documentary short called "The Smut Capital of America" are looking for a few bucks to turn their archival footage into a feature length film. Worth a watch if you're interested in the history of porn, or the late '60s and early '70s in San Francisco.

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Entry: 2010-09-20 14:20:21.199226-07 Dutch teen sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

Salon: The smart Dutch take on teen sex.

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Entry: 2010-09-01 09:33:34.131226-07 Comment period now open on .XXX by Dan Lyke comments 0

Violet Blue: Comment Period Now Open on .XXX – Make Your Voice Heard. Here's my letter:

I'm writing in opposition to the Proposed Registry Agreement for the .XXX sTLD by ICM Registry. The .XXX sTLD should be rejected.

In light of the above, I object to .XXX and urge ICANN to reject .XXX.

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Entry: 2010-08-31 15:15:19.519226-07 Bubble Baba Challenge by Dan Lyke comments 1

For the most part, I'm okay with no longer being a river guide. There are things that are fine when we're self-destructive twenty somethings that I'm cool with having grown out of, even if it doesn't mean scaring the crap out of the rookies by surfing Grumpy's, or swimming into Double-Suck when most paddlers are happy just to get through it in their boat. "Yeah, that rapid that scares the hell out of you? I body surf it for fun on Sunday mornings."

There are, however, occasions where I get little twinges of "damn, I wish I were back on the Ocoee" (and willing to take the punishment and in good enough shape to swim the thing), as is the case every time I hear about the Bubble Baba Challenge, because running the Ocoee on an inflatable sex toy would be as badass as body surfing Double-Suck.

Violet Blue has a roundup from this year's race with YouTube video from a participant's perspective.

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Entry: 2010-08-30 16:06:35.319226-07 American intolerance by Dan Lyke comments 0

I mentionedformer RNC campaign chief Ken Mehlman wondered why he couldn't scare the gay voter block into being afraid of the Islamic jihad.

To illustrate why Mr. Mehlman's "...greatest anti-gay force in the world..." wasn't all that scary up against the Republican right, Focus on the Family opposes anti-bullying efforts in schools as too gay friendly.

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Entry: 2010-08-26 07:33:53.743226-07 Ken Mehlman comes out by Dan Lyke comments 0

Although I believe he's been outed several times before, Dubya's 2004 campaign chief and former RNC chairman Ken Mehlman has come out of the closet.

Privately, in off-the-record conversations with this reporter over the years, Mehlman voiced support for civil unions and told of how, in private discussions with senior Republican officials, he beat back efforts to attack same-sex marriage. He insisted, too, that President Bush "was no homophobe." He often wondered why gay voters never formed common cause with Republican opponents of Islamic jihad, which he called "the greatest anti-gay force in the world right now."

And frankly, Ken, the rest of us all wondered why the Republicans didn't just outright declare their support for the Islamic jihad, because the Republicans have done more to support those efforts than any other political group, and because their stated goals are pretty well aligned.

As Kattullus says in the MeFi thread:

I guess it counts as progress that a prominent Republican outs himself without having been arrested in a men's bathroom for snorting cocaine out of a male prostitute's rectum.

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Entry: 2010-08-23 09:47:23.607226-07 Taking back social media by Dan Lyke comments 1

More social media musings. So I had that link to Leo Laporte: Buzz Kill. If you're interested in more musings on the ways that we're giving up our conversation spaces to others: Scott Rosenberg: Why trust Facebook with the future's past?, Larry Burton: Ponderings on friendship and writing, and Violet Blue's Gnomedex talk (uStream video) touches on the difficulty of using Tribe/Facebook/whatever as a forum for any sex related discussions.

Speaking of which, now that I've moved back to Mediawiki over on Flutterby.net I need to do a little rework on building some better RSS feeds of content there.

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Entry: 2010-08-18 13:49:09.815226-07 19th Amendment by Dan Lyke comments 0

Worth noting: Today is the 90th anniversary of the ratification of the 19th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution:

The right of citizens of the United States to vote shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of sex.

Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Politics Law Civil Liberties ]



Entry: 2010-08-18 07:55:38.747226-07 Sex, teens and media by Dan Lyke comments 0

Heather Corinna on Scarleteen: So, About That Study...

It's not news that mainstream media tends to do a poor job reporting on both science and sex, and a poorer job still job when young people are involved. Resisting salacious headlines or claims appears to be intensely challenging for many when teenagers and sex are the subject. There were a couple standouts -- and Oliver Wang's piece on this and another study over at The Atlantic deserve special mention -- but on the whole, most reports misrepresented the study and its findings in some way, and many demonstrated that right in their headline.

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Entry: 2010-08-17 10:32:12.039226-07 Video games empowering women by Dan Lyke comments 0

CarnalNation: Katherine Chen: How Video Games Taught Me About Sex:

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Entry: 2010-08-16 12:55:24.999226-07 Time Enough to Love by petronius comments 5

Interesting notes about a new in-depth biography of the master, Robert Heinlien. Apparently he got into the sex stuff early, with his second wife having an affair with L. Ron Hubbard, and their getting introduced to a Crowleyist sex-majick enthusiast. I guess Valentine Michael Smith had to be inspired by something, as did Nehemiah Scudder.

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Entry: 2010-08-16 07:09:58.611226-07 Social media and connecting people by Dan Lyke comments 0

What Happened With Our Porn, Ourselves and Facebook:

I am still considering pursuing a contact at Facebook, but clearly — right now — Facebook isn’t a safe place for women to talk about explicit sexual imagery in any manner other than with fear, aversion or hatred. That any group can be removed by people who do not agree with the point of view of said group (such as the anti-homophobia group that was deleted around the same time), highlights a greater problem between our culture, democracy, free speech and social media: its fragility. Social media is simply too weak, and too frightened of what it means to be human, to be sustainable.

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Entry: 2010-08-12 10:28:15.147226-07 Extra Virgin by Dan Lyke comments 0

Scarleteen: Something About Olives. (Really. It's so totally about olives.)

This is hardly surprising: there's a whole lot of pressure to be an extra-virgin, after all. People pay more for you. You have a better reputation. You have a status other, lesser, oils don't get to have...well, unless they make the claim anyway, maybe knowing they're not really virgins, or maybe feeling like your definition of what makes an extra-virgin just isn't the same as theirs.

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Entry: 2010-08-06 10:45:12.863409-07 Child Porn as a weapon by Dan Lyke comments 0

A /. story comments about how easy it might be to use child pornography as a weapon, riffing off this tale of a guy caught framing his boss, and the same story with a little more from the perspective of the guy who was framed.

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Entry: 2010-07-29 08:02:11.61038-07 Bondage club fire by Dan Lyke comments 1

A Flutterby reader forwarded along a man found dead in a bondage club fire. The club was Passive Arts Studios, and today's Nic Buxom has a few words in memory of "Sharky".

He cared about people and he cared about our community and he cared about us girls. He was proud of his business and he'd made it what it is. And he offered me the best job I'd ever had. PAS wasn't even a job to me, it was getting paid to do what I love. I was given a community of strong, and wonderfully unusual women to call my friends and I was given a place that would change my entire life, for the better. ...

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Entry: 2010-07-28 11:56:54.495982-07 Facebook hate by Dan Lyke comments 1

Violet Blue: My letter to Facebook about removing the Our Porn, Ourselves page

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Entry: 2010-07-27 13:45:12.863251-07 Non-Profit profits by Dan Lyke comments 3

New York Times: Lawmakers Seeking Cuts Look at Nonprofit Salaries talks about, for instance, the president of the Boys & Girls Clubs of America making a million bucks a year. Philip Greenspun has some additional commentary.

This past year Charlene and I have been fairly active in volunteering and giving, but we've been trying to be personally involved, and to give money only to organizations where we understand the compensation structure and costs involved. I think it's important to remember that "non-profit" is a tax status, and you should read the Form 990 of the organizations you're giving to (see Guidestar.org if you can't find it otherwise).

I think some of the real eye-opener is looking at how much some of these charitable organizations that are out asking for our money are already pulling down in tax dollars.

But this also leads down to some other questions: I accept it as a given that eventually every organization will switch from trying to solve the problem it was formed to solve into self-perpetuation mode. I also see that a lot of charity ends up helping in the short term, but perpetuating the cycles that it claims to solve in the long-term. I'm happy, for instance, to help provide outlets and activities for the underprivileged (for what that word means) kids in my community, and to help some of their parents achieve better lives for themselves, but unless these activities change the cultural context, encourage these low income families to have fewer (or no) kids, have the expectation that women will be able to make a way for themselves in the world without relying on men (who may skip out on them, or end up in prison, etc), we're not solving the problem. In fact, we're probably, long-term, making the situation worse.

Related to that, Scarleteen has just lost their Google AdWords revenue.

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Entry: 2010-07-27 09:04:54.054765-07 Routing around censorship by Dan Lyke comments 0

Magazine: Whores and Other Hackers, how the war on Craigslist erotic services is endangering sex workers.

Aside from Blumenthal, there are two things right now that conspire to keep us in this position. First, a lack of mass political capacity as a workforce—but let’s not despair entirely. What workforce can claim mass political power these days anyway? The second obstacle is the media machine’s continued confusion about where technology and sex converge. Addressing the political fight is one for the long haul, and for multiple generations of sex workers and our allies. But this internet thing, I think we can fix.

Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2010-07-23 07:41:34.365634-07 Can virtual sex make you smarter? by Dan Lyke comments 2

Sexual Experience Promotes Adult Neurogenesis in the Hippocampus Despite an Initial Elevation in Stress Hormones. Based on that, Andrea Kuszewski asks "since sex makes you smarter, can virtual sex do the same?.

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Entry: 2010-07-13 16:16:24.980576-07 Time Creeps in this Petty Pace... by petronius comments 2

When I was in high school back in the 60s, I stumbled on a remarkable publication, the East Village Other, whigh along with the LA Free Press, the SF Oracle, the Berkely Barb etc. opened up my eyes to another, stranger world outside my midwestern environs, where dope, sex and music ruled all. And one personality who was in every issue was Tuli Kupferberg, musician, author, culture hero who has died at age 86. To give you some idea of his mind, I recommend you peruse the last 5 pages of his pamphlet 1001 Ways To Beat The Draft. Way # 1 was "Grope J.Edgar Hoover in the silent halss of Congress." Stay high, Tuli, stay high.

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Entry: 2010-06-29 10:14:20.544137-07 Texas GOP gets honest by Dan Lyke comments 2

Texas GOP platform wants to criminalize gay marriage, ban oral and anal sex, and seeks to outlaw strip clubs and pornography. It's easy to say "oh, that's Texas, ha ha", but if other Republican organizations want to take themselves seriously they either need to be screaming really loudly about how this isn't really the sort of freedom and lack of government intervention that modern "conservatism" is supposed to be, or we have to assume that this is what the GOP wants.

Of course many of us have seen that this is apparently what the GOP on a national level wants generally, which is why those of us who might otherwise be tempted by a platform that claims fiscal conservatism and freedom have been running off to the Democrats in droves.

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Entry: 2010-06-24 13:32:14.888512-07 iPhone 4 bugs by Dan Lyke comments 1

You may have seen reports of problems with reception when touching the metal on the iPhone 4. porn producer Pink Visual cuts right to the chase: Does it have an anti-porn viewing feature?

VAN NUYS, Calif. – Late last night, the mobile porn-watching community was in an uproar over Apple’s new iPhone 4 handset losing signal while being held in only the left hand, creating an obvious problem for right handed masturbators.

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Entry: 2010-06-22 16:56:06.069021-07 Burnin Bubba by meuon comments 2

If you had told me, post my )^( experience in 2002, that there would ever be a 'Burn style event in Chattanooga.. even a nano-burn event. I would have laughed. Andrew of Winter Sun Studio (warning: woodworker porn) built this for a party, which several 'burners and 'formers attended. In Chattanooga. Tennessee. Andrew is also very involved in TransFormUs, a regional 'Burn event, and is building the main temple and burn structures for it. yeah.. This was on E. Main in Chattanooga. Blows my mind.

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Entry: 2010-06-16 16:17:06.81269-07 Anti-porn Bingo by Dan Lyke comments 0

Howl! Anti-porn Bingo. Via Violet Blue's rundown of the Stop Porn Culture “Future of Pornography 2010″ conference.

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Entry: 2010-06-11 06:40:52.607489-07 John Waters on marriage by Dan Lyke comments 0

John Waters on marriage:

"I understand wanting gay marriage. I would never vote for somebody who was against gay marriage. [But] I purposefully have no desire to imitate a rather corny tradition of heterosexuals to me. I would owe three alimonies. I basically think that it's more fun to go against the rules ... to make up your own rules. Sexual confusion is fun. 'Heteroflexibility' is something that really makes me laugh, that term. And kids today are like that; you don't have to be gay or straight. They don't care, really. And I like that. I think it's funny and more liberating in a way. It's sexual anarchy, which is exciting."

Via the ATMP mailing list.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



Entry: 2010-06-08 15:22:30.327627-07 Freedom From Porn hits WWDC by Dan Lyke comments 0

Giggle. Freedom From Porn is an advertising improvement organization. WWDC is an Apple developer's conference currently happening in San Francisco. Two great tastes...

Violet Blue has mirrors of the pictures of the improvements.

[ related topics: California Culture Sexual Culture Bay Area Conferences Humor Consumerism and advertising Apple Computer ]



Entry: 2010-06-08 13:55:42.769272-07 Labia limbo by Dan Lyke comments 4

Fascinating video on labiaplasties and how Australia's Classification Board is forcing "normal".

"What's happening here is far more than just Photoshopping out blemishes, it's actually removing part of the human body."

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Entry: 2010-06-08 09:29:08.454318-07 Plan C by Dan Lyke comments 0

FDA considers a "Plan C". Ulipristal acetate, brand name "ellaOn", is consistently effective at preventing egg implantation up to 120 hours after unprotected sex, as opposed to 72 hours for levonorgestrel, aka "Plan B".

Of course the anti-choice "sex is eeeevil" crowd is up in arms.

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Entry: 2010-05-26 10:47:19.06742-07 Dr. Tiller memorial by Dan Lyke comments 0

In Memory of Dr. Tiller: Reflections on the Death of An American Hero One Year Later (via Heather Corinna).

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Entry: 2010-05-25 19:22:10.629897-07 Harper Lee breaks her silence by Dan Lyke comments 0

Giggle: Guest Op Ed at The Awl by Harper Lee (Via Kevin C. Murphy).

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Entry: 2010-05-25 12:18:14.221026-07 Disaster preparedness by Dan Lyke comments 0

Tweet of the Moment: Jesper Andersen:

your favorite porn site has two datacenters and redundant power supplies. BP's safety system is a bag of rocks.

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Entry: 2010-05-23 20:05:51.036241-07 Maker Faire by Dan Lyke comments 0

Had a fun time at Maker Faire, it was awesome to see Diane again after sooo many years, and sit and chat with Shawn and Katrina. And I enjoyed it and don't want to take anything away from it, we were blown away by the Bulatov Abstract Creations Wooden Sculptures, it was awesome to see the Spark Fun booth that I didn't feel comfortable asking after folks who I may know there (does Brennen work there?), seeing the ELEN 4193 guys screenprinting EL displays was way cool, it was a worthwhile day, and yet...

I wrote on my FaceTwit feed that "Maker Faire = Burning Man + vendors - environment - nudity."

I first had this feeling of unease at the Crucible Fire Arts Fest a few years ago, there was a guy with a beautifully restored old CASE steam tractor, may very well be the same one that was at Maker Faire today, and I thought "cool", but I'd also been to visit my sister in Ohio and had seen row upon row of such devices at the Threshers convention.

And for every person who put a washtub around a fat-old-people scooter and turned it into a mobile cupcake, which was very cute, there are ten people welding up last minute repairs at the dirt track on a a Saturday night.

The activities at Maker Faire are very cool, and I want to see more of them, but there's only so much steampunk I can take, and the whole thing seems to me a symptom of a deeper issue. Our grandparents' generation had these things called "hobbies". In many areas of the country they still do these things, still build mechanical contraptions, still sew and embroider, they compost and grow stuff and...

Yeah, TV took over a lot of that, but...

...and it seems like the Maker Faire is a subset of the world in which that element has dwindled to the point where it happens only alongside steampunk cosplayers. So I hope that the throngs go home and bolt something together, and do something that actually involves building and creating. And I don't want to be angry at the Maker Faire because I want to celebrate the creativity and amazing that was happening there, but I'm unsettled about it.

And maybe that's the hallmark of good art.

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Entry: 2010-05-16 15:34:18.752399-07 Jobs on porn by Dan Lyke comments 9

My next phone or tablet product will not be Apple. Steve Jobs on how their closed system offers "freedom":

...Freedom from porn. Yep, freedom. The times they are a changin’, and some traditional PC folks feel like their world is slipping away. It is.

Via Big Ed.

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Entry: 2010-05-15 08:13:10.732377-07 Harvey Milk Day by Dan Lyke comments 0

California SB 572 designates May 22nd as Harvey Milk Day.

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Entry: 2010-05-09 16:24:03.690043-07 Sandra Torralba: Estranged Sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

Some photographs by Sandra Torralba: Estranged Sex. In her blog she says:

Thinking about it, I definitely want to provoke discomfort and catch the attention of the observer through creating an uneasy and ackward mood, in sticky and ironic pictures that confront us with what we consider shameful and pathetic yet very human and humane. All this for an utter purpose: that of reflecting upon human sexuality and eventually constructing a better, more inclusive and natural one...

Or, as a commenter said on the Sensible Erection thread:

I came for the boobs, I stayed for the art.

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Entry: 2010-05-07 16:28:29.943528-07 Police misconduct links of the moment by Dan Lyke comments 2

Just because every once in a while I have to close a tab full of "out of control law enforcement" links:

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Entry: 2010-05-06 15:38:04.431749-07 Porn & society by Dan Lyke comments 0

Adrian Colesberry: Pornography: Why do I care?.

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Entry: 2010-04-30 15:09:39.509032-07 Sex links of the day by Dan Lyke comments 0

Extra small condoms marketed to teens in Europe (Via Sensible Erection).

Seattle's Lusty Lady will close in June. When Charlene and I went and checked out the strip clubs along Broadway in SF, the Lusty Lady there was the only one we found erotic and fun, so it doesn't surprise me that people in the MeFi thread report overhearing conversations from employees that talk about burlesque in their off-hours. Flickr pictures of puns on the Seattle Lusty Lady's sign and a blog devoted to them. A history of the Lusty Lady in Seattle context.

The Stranger: The Kinktrepreneurs, on Seattle's sex accessory businesses.

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Entry: 2010-04-01 08:14:52.029264-07 Raphael Kirchner illustrations by Dan Lyke comments 0

On Twitter, Heather Corinna expressed amusement that the French had a term for "technical virgin" dating from roughly 1900, "demi vierges". This perked up Columbine who, of course, knew that, but who then posted this page of cool Raphael Kirchner illustrations that popped up when searching for the phrase.

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Entry: 2010-03-28 13:22:44.634187-07 A couple from Shadow by Dan Lyke comments 0

A couple from Shadow:

Transportation Secretary Ray LaHood has announced a “major policy revision” that aims to give bicycling and walking the same policy and economic consideration as driving.

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Entry: 2010-03-26 11:55:46.208015-07 Weak closet doors by Dan Lyke comments 2

Top 10 Anti-Gay Activists Caught Being Gay.

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Entry: 2010-03-25 15:18:40.577482-07 Susie Bright on Runaways by Dan Lyke comments 0

Worth a read: Susie Bright: My Little Runaway. Susie Bright reminisces about the LA 1970s punk scene, fueled by The Runaways movie.

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Entry: 2010-03-22 09:03:26.561736-07 Sally Rand's Nude Ranch by Dan Lyke comments 0

Bison Bill's Weird West looks at Sally Rand's Nude Ranch, a burlesque show from the 1930s. Found by Gloria Brame.

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Entry: 2010-03-18 14:04:48.448441-07 Heather Corinna survey by Dan Lyke comments 0

Heather Corinna is doing a survey on Multigenerational Experiences with & Attitudes About Casual Sex.

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Entry: 2010-03-16 15:27:24.464837-07 Great Kotex commercial by Dan Lyke comments 1

One of the disadvantages of not having TV is that I miss out on popular culture. Fortunately, Shawn pointed this one out to me: TheAwl.com: Vagina-less Commercial For Vagina Product Forced To Skimp On Vaginas, direct YouTube link.

"Sometimes I just want to run on the beach... I like to twirl..."

[ related topics: Television Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2010-03-16 15:23:17.74573-07 porn is good by Dan Lyke comments 0

Porn is good for you.

...Now here is the kicker: A positive correlation was obtained between the amount of hardcore pornography that was viewed and the impact of the benefits reaped. This positive correlation was found for both sexes. In other words, the more that one watched porn, the stronger the benefits (for both sexes)! There you have it.

That drawing on Gert Martin Hald1 and Neil M. Malamuth, Self-Perceived Effects of Pornography Consumption and various other articles, and is courtesy of ErosBlog's "porn is good for you".

ErosBlog followed that up with a look at how porn might be good for society, largely stuff you already know, pointing to The Scientist magazine's look at the inverse correlation between pornography availability and sexual violence:

... ooking closer, Michael Goldstein and Harold Kant found that rapists were more likely than nonrapists in the prison population to have been punished for looking at pornography while a youngster, while other research has shown that incarcerated nonrapists had seen more pornography, and seen it at an earlier age, than rapists. What does correlate highly with sex offense is a strict, repressive religious upbringing. Richard Green too has reported that both rapists and child molesters use less pornography than a control group of “normal” males.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Religion Sociology ]



Entry: 2010-03-10 09:09:30.95342-08 Handmaid's Tale made real by Dan Lyke comments 0

Utah governor signs law allowing women who miscarry to be charged with murder.

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Entry: 2010-02-24 09:13:52.43671-08 Capitalism on the Edges by petronius comments 0

An intriguing look at Tokyo from a new angle: Hello Damage has a picture collection of business establishments in the Yakuza-run Shinjuku district. However, these are not hostess-bars, massage parlors for horny salarymen, or brothels. Instead they are the small businesses that service the vice industry and its workers, including all-night neon sign repairmen, walk-up champagne stands, and tax accountants who will make your return look legit.

[ related topics: Invention and Design Marketing Sexual Culture Consumerism and advertising ]



Entry: 2010-02-22 10:39:42.372372-08 Best hospital sign ever by Dan Lyke comments 0

Hanan Cohen tweeted this as the "best hospital sign ever". It reads:

Northampton General Hospital

Family planning advice

Use rear entrance

[ related topics: Health Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2010-02-19 09:42:40.187244-08 Hard at work by Dan Lyke comments 0

Why anti-porn net filters at the workplace may be a bad idea:

Fantasizing about sex gets more than just your juices flowing—it also boosts your analytical thinking skills. Daydreaming about love, on the other hand, makes you more creative, according to a study published in the November 2009 Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.

(Aside: I did a "view selection source" and "copy" to grab that paragraph. Why were they using <em> tags rather than <cite>?. I mean, if you're gonna go semantic, go semantic, but if not: stick to <i>)

[ related topics: Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Erotic Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2010-02-18 13:57:54.655848-08 Administrators peeping on kids by Dan Lyke comments 16

Oh, this is rich: Pennsylvania's Lower Merion School District bought laptops for all students, student is suing because apparently the district was snooping on students with the built-in web cams. From the complaint (PDF):

On November 11, 2009, Plaintiffs were for the first time informed of the above-mentioned capability and practice by the School District when Lindy Matsko, an Assistant Principal at Harriton High School, informed minor Plaintiff that the School District was of the belief that minor Plaintiff was engaged in improper behavior in his home, and cited as evidence a photograph from the webcam embedded in minor Plaintiff’s personal laptop issued by the School District.

I really really hope that some students got undressed in front of those web cams and an enterprising DA decides to put school administrators away for a good long time for posession of child pornography. Probably way too much to hope for, but hopefully there'll be some good and hard criminal charges here.

Via MeFi.

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Entry: 2010-02-16 14:37:52.732499-08 Australian idiocies by Dan Lyke comments 1

Ah, Australia. Where the men are men, with repressive patriarchal conservative attitudes: Exhibit the first: Prime Minister Kevin Rudd (:

At that point one of my friends introduced me, dropping in that I am completing a PhD. At this, Rudd rolled his eyes and in a terse voice lacking any sense of irony remarked that is the "excuse" that "all" young women are using nowadays to avoid starting families.

Then we have Australian Attorney General Michael Atkinson stating that computer gamers are more of a threat to him than biker gangs:

"I feel that my family and I are more at risk from gamers than we are from the outlaw motorcycle gangs who also hate me and are running a candidate against me," he said on ABC TV's Good Game.

And, of course, the ongoing threat to build a firewall that supporters(!) are comparing to the one China runs, to block "pornography".

Inevitably the list of over 2,000 websites was leaked last year to wikileaks.org and was found to contain such objectionable content as online poker sites, a travel operator, a dentist and Wikipedia pages as well as fetish, satanic and Christian sites.

And, I'll bet, probably a lot of pages on reproductive choices and women's health, as these sorts of lists inevitably do.

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Entry: 2010-02-10 12:08:24.44974-08 Moore: Homosexual conduct grounds to deny custody by Shawn comments 4

While following claims that Alabama gubernatorial candidate for the GOP, Roy Moore, wants to execute homosexuals [via @rockyroxyro] (which, troubling as the actual statement is, still seems to me to be a pretty subjective interpretation), I found this other bit in his concurrance to D.H. vs. H.H. plenty disturbing enough (emphasis mine):

I write specially to state that the homosexual conduct of a parent -- conduct involving a sexual relationship between two persons of the same gender -- creates a strong presumption of unfitness that alone is sufficient justification for denying that parent custody of his or her own children...

You also may remember Roy Moore as the former Chief Justice who was removed from office earlier in the decade for refusing to take down a monument to the Ten Commandments that had been placed on display in his Alabama courthouse.

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Entry: 2010-02-03 13:58:49.075967-08 Pregnancy related deaths by Dan Lyke comments 4

This morning I was driving to pick up a friend to take her to an appointment at the UCSF dental clinic, and I heard about this. Then Reka linked to it: Women dying from pregnancy related issues may have tripled in California over the last decade, and there may be a similar rise nationally.

That's 95 women out of an overall human population in California of under 38 million, so it's nothing like car crashes or people dying from smog leaking into the Central Valley from the LA basin, but a trend like that deserves a little look. One doctor thinks it may be related to labor induced before term, which doubles the chance of a C-section:

On average, a C-section brings in twice the revenue of a vaginal birth. Today, the C-section is the single most common surgical procedure performed in the United States.

[ related topics: California Culture Health Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2010-02-02 20:21:08.452935-08 First "abstinence only" sex ed program that worked by Dan Lyke comments 4

An abstinence only sex ed program that works? This appears to be the first study which shows one doing so. From the abstract for Efficacy of a Theory-Based Abstinence-Only Intervention Over 24 Months:

The participants' mean age was 12.2 years; 53.5% were girls; and 84.4% were still enrolled at 24 months. Abstinence-only intervention reduced sexual initiation (risk ratio [RR], 0.67; 95% confidence interval [CI], 0.48-0.96). The model-estimated probability of ever having sexual intercourse by the 24-month follow-up was 33.5% in the abstinence-only intervention and 48.5% in the control group. Fewer abstinence-only intervention participants (20.6%) than control participants (29.0%) reported having coitus in the previous 3 months during the follow-up period (RR, 0.94; 95% CI, 0.90-0.99). Abstinence-only intervention did not affect condom use." ...

I haven't read the full text (it's there, it requires registration), but the NPR story says that this is very much not a traditional "abstinence until marriage" program, and that it focuses on how sex fits into "goals and dreams for the future".

So rather than preaching it offers the choice as a way they can have control over their lives. Hmmm...

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



Entry: 2010-02-01 16:15:59.172321-08 Genders and Drop-Downs by Dan Lyke comments 1

I think a large part of Dopp Juice: Genders and Drop-Down Menus is complaining to the wrong people: Dating web sites don't ask for your gender because they care, they're asking because their users care, and if your gender can't be fairly easily categorized, then you're probably not sifting through the masses trying to find that closest match because in the more open world of the Internet the fringe often finds it easier to cluster.

However, the overall point, that race and gender are getting harder to categorize and identify, is one worth pondering.

[ related topics: Net Culture Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2010-01-28 08:20:44.724915-08 YouTube random by Dan Lyke comments 5

Fur TV - TellingItLikeItIs.tv has a couple of pro-condom commercials with puppets that made me laugh.

An Australian pole dancer's routine that's pretty amazing. Fully clothed, safe for work, but rather than concentrating on the unsubtle pedophilia that is Olympic gymnastics, why don't we have more of that on TV?

[ related topics: Sports Television Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2010-01-21 15:51:56.277695-08 Prop 8 trial continues by Dan Lyke comments 1

Thank you Shawn: Prop 8 Trial Tracker: Day 8 Part 5, David Boies (B) questioning William Tam (T).

B: Your paper says that after Netherlands legalized SS marriage, Netherlands legalized incest and polygamy. Do you believe that?

T: Same sex marriage may not have led to legalization of incest and polygamy, but it happened.

B: Who told you that?

T: I found it on the Internet. ...

[ related topics: Net Culture Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage Politics moron ]



Entry: 2010-01-20 09:10:30.805006-08 Nepal to court gay tourism by Dan Lyke comments 0

Nepal to court gay tourism.

Nepal is set to legalise gay marriage later this year and will celebrate the change by promoting the country as the gay tourism capital of Asia.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



Entry: 2010-01-20 08:32:37.2135-08 New Orleans makes poverty worse by Dan Lyke comments 5

Bunch of people have been pointing out that police in New Orleans have been using an "unnatural copulation" law to label prostitutes as sex offenders, meaning that now not only are they poor and struggling, they have all of the ridiculous restrictions on where and how they can live.

Tabitha has to register an address in the sex offender database, and because she doesn’t have a permanent home, she has registered the address of a nonprofit organization that is helping her. She also has to purchase and mail postcards with her picture to everyone in the neighborhood informing them of her conviction. If she needs to evacuate to a shelter during a hurricane, she must evacuate to a special shelter for sex offenders, and this shelter has no separate safe spaces for women. She is even prohibited from very ordinary activities in New Orleans like wearing a costume at Mardi Gras.

The law under which she was convicted seems to me to be clearly unconstitutional in light of Lawrence v. Texas[Wiki], but it's probably also a matter of having the resources to challenge the local schmucks far enough to get that conviction overturned.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law Enforcement ]



Entry: 2010-01-19 16:42:46.838626-08 Heather Corinna on porn & relationships by Dan Lyke comments 0

Apropos the discussion that has sprung up on the "A rambling on anti-porn" entry, Heather Corinna writes about pornography and relationships:

In other words, the one time a partner’s porn use really was a problem for me was when that person’s attitudes about the people in porn framed them as less-than-human, as commodities, objectified them in a way that I just wasn’t comfortable with. And sometimes those attitudes bled over into our sex life, particularly if that pornography had been used very recently. I did put a kibbosh in that relationship on having porn be used as foreplay (either with me or alone) in our sex life because when it was, I did experience a bleed-over of those dynamics in our sex that created a dynamic I really wasn’t comfortable with, and made me feel like I was in some way also kind of nonconsensually being made part of the sexual dehumanizing of someone else. ...

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Entry: 2010-01-18 17:34:22.736271-08 A rambling on anti-porn by Dan Lyke comments 14

In the Times Online, Natasha Walter pimps her forthcoming book Living Dolls in an excerpt entitled "How teenage access to pornography is killing intimacy in sex". It's a meandering piece that throws a bunch of assertions and opinions against the wall to see if something sticks. More cogently written is a response: The Pursuit of Harpyness: The Thin Line Between Pearl-Clutching and Concern, which asks why critiques of pornography always engender flame wars.

I am sympathetic to MacKinnon and Dworkin largely because, from reading and thinking about their analysis of porn for several years now, I understand them to be starting from a place where they define pornography as material that exploits women.

I haven't read anything else on The Pursuit of Harpyness, so I don't know how the pro and anti porn flame wars go there. In fact, for the most part I've just been ignoring the anti side, except when I run across Ren pointing out some of the sillier (and more hateful) idiocies of it, but let's re-cast this paragraph a bit: What if the author had said "I'm sympathetic to the ideals of PETA, that pet ownership is slavery and all meat is murder. Why can't we have a civil discussion about the evils of domestic cats and hamburgers?"

Pretty much the same thing.

So when the first article says:

I do not believe that all pornography inevitably degrades women, and I do see that the classic feminist critique of pornography is too simplistic to embrace the great range of explicit sexual materials and people’s reactions to them. Yet let’s be honest. The overuse of pornography does threaten many erotic relationships, and this is a growing problem. ...

Well, she's put a little bit more verbal Vaseline® around it, but it's essentially the same thing. "Really, I don't believe all porn is bad, but pornography is destroying the fabric of the universe! I mean, the bad porn, of course." This is why the reaction to such statements is so strong: Use another word for what you mean, but if you go redefining words on the fly, try to say "really, I want to have an open discussion about this, but I'm going to 'define pornography as material that exploits women'", then you don't really want to have a discussion about it.

And you have no right to whine when you're called on it.

Having said that, I believe that much of modern porn is horrendous. But I think for the most part it's just a small reflection of the evils of the larger culture, and we fight that by having discussions about how we can find more fulfilling interpersonal relationships, not by demonizing and strawman arguments.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2010-01-13 14:15:49.769034-08 Goes down easy by Dan Lyke comments 0

Quoting Elf's entry in its entirety:

Customers who bought "Communion Wafers, Box of 1000" also bought:

No, really. You have to go see.

[Hat Tip: Andrew Sullivan]

Also, check out the third review down.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Religion Humor ]



Entry: 2010-01-13 09:27:42.592287-08 A memorial by Dan Lyke comments 0

David Steinberg: A fond farewell to Aunt Peg:

Juliet Carr, better known by her screen name -- Juliet Anderson -- and adored by fans as her adult film persona, Aunt Peg, died peacefully in her sleep Monday night, January 11, at her home in Berkeley. She was 71.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Bay Area ]



Entry: 2010-01-12 10:47:13.098419-08 Condoms evidence of prostitution? by Dan Lyke comments 0

Bad idea: Don't carry condoms in DC (or SF or NY), you could be charged with prostitution.

In D.C., police can declare "Prostitution Free Zones" where officers can pick up (I mean, arrest) anyone suspected of sex work. And they've been accused of using carrying three or more condoms as proof of intent to sell sex -- rather than intent to spend the weekend getting jiggy with a guy.

This is what happens when law enforcement and public health have different goals. And it's been a while since I was concerned with condoms, but three? Sounds like a regular evening to me.

[ related topics: Health Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Bay Area moron ]



Entry: 2010-01-06 19:15:53.298328-08 Ruled by fear by Dan Lyke comments 1

Regarding fear based law: Dr. Marty Klein - Fantasy On Trial (Again)

[ related topics: Law Law Enforcement Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2010-01-05 22:49:44.458294-08 The "war on terror" meets "kiddie porn" by Dan Lyke comments 16

Bwahahaha! New scanners break child pornography laws (note that the UK is seriously out of control on "child porn" laws, the U.S. looks positively reasonable in comparison. Sigh).

A 12-month trial at Manchester airport of scanners which reveal naked images of passengers including their genitalia and breast enlargements, only went ahead last month after under-18s were exempted.

JWZ described this as The Buttered Cat Effect:

What happens when the immovable object of terrorism meets the unstoppable force of kiddie porn?

The Sensible Erection thread is predictable, but does give some ideas:

KingPellinore said @ 1:48pm GMT on 5th Jan [Score:4 Insightful]

You know what this means?

Somewhere out there is a woman who works security for the airport who will, one fateful day, be proposed to by her boyfriend...

...with an engagement ring up his ass.

Silly question: Given the amount of fear and uncertainty that gets spread with these stupid ineffectual attacks, how long before someone just wears nitrocellulose pants and lights those on fire? Also, if these things are showing down to the surface of the skin, any reason to not carry those few ounces of Semtex rectally? Although, frankly, if actually killing people were the goal, rather than goading the TSA into collateral damage, other scenarios (including Larry's redacted one) make more sense.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Aviation Politics ]



Entry: 2010-01-03 22:10:55.134395-08 Looking for a nude profile by Dan Lyke comments 5

After my music note themed speaker shelves I've been thinking about a shelf for the bathroom. Seeing some images from Chris Newhard that were on the wall of Aqus Cafe (May require Facebook login), more of Chris Newhard's work at the Solomon Dubnick gallery, although neither of those have the one that inspired me, made me think that a nude profile would make a great shelf support.

So I'm looking for some images to inspire me on a profile that'd work for this. Male or female is fine. Probably arms overhead, definitely a curved torso. This image from Vintage Pulchritude, or maybe the woman on the left of this one, the second down here, but all of those are going to require some re-imagining to try to see as a shelf bracket, including figuring out what to do with arms that would be out in space, and none of them has as strong a sense of profile as I'd like to find.

Anyone got a suggestion for inspiration?

[ related topics: Erotic Photography Sexual Culture Space & Astronomy Weblogs Work, productivity and environment Nudity Music ]



Entry: 2009-12-29 07:57:49.446017-08 Dick jokes by Dan Lyke comments 0

Those of you who still giggle like an 8 year old at the word "boner" have probably already discovered the Oglaf online comic. Silly dick jokes without the "eeeew" squick factor of Sexy Losers.

A Sensible Erection post led me to another more serious work by the same person, Platinum Grit, and over at Yuhm an interview with Trudy Cooper, the writer/artist/illustrator behind both.

[ related topics: Humor Erotic Sexual Culture Comics ]



Entry: 2009-12-29 07:44:58.937551-08 Tab dump by Dan Lyke comments 1

Via Dave, sex laws still on the books in Minnesota.

Courtesy of Columbine, Fourth Estate Follies: the year in journalistic malfeasance.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Government Current Events Journalism and Media Law ]



Entry: 2009-12-24 07:59:57.745252-08 Just ducky by Dan Lyke comments 0

Ballistic penises and corkscrew vaginas - the sexual battles of ducks (Thanks, Rèka)

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Nature and environment ]



Entry: 2009-12-15 16:14:21.484643-08 Same Sex Marriage as Christian Rite by Dan Lyke comments 5

Colfax Record: When Same Sex Marriage was a Christian Rite

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage Religion ]



Entry: 2009-12-15 09:00:43.967884-08 Edwardian sex clubs by Dan Lyke comments 3

Tony Perrottet goes off in search of the remnants of the debauchery of the Edwardian Georgian era. Via MeFi.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2009-12-11 07:34:34.762609-08 Maternal Mortality Rates, Abortion, and Scarleteen by Dan Lyke comments 0

Haven't read this yet, but mean to: The Impact of Legal Abortion: Redefining the Maternal Mortality Rate. I'm linking to it because I got it from Heather Corinna who has announced that this weekend Scarleteen has a matching funds fund drive.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law ]



Entry: 2009-12-10 14:18:18.135061-08 50 Nudes by Dan Lyke comments 1

1950s images of nude women, scanned and restored. Of interest to just straight imagery buffs (not just those interested in images in the buff) are some of the before and after shots, with the color correction and cleanup the author is applying obvious.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Nudity ]



Entry: 2009-12-09 09:50:58.863734-08 Superfreakonomics gets prostitution wrong by Dan Lyke comments 0

I enjoyed Freakonomics[Wiki], but I've heard nothing but bad about the sequel: Superfreakonomics[Wiki]. Figleaf's Real Adult Sex piles on to the criticism: The Real Lesson of That Dumb Chapter in Superfeakonomics:

The story in Levitt and Dubner’s column about the woman who flies to Texas to do “erotic” things to a guy with his briefcase is emblematic not of advances in prostitution. (I’ll give you a nickel if I can’t find an example of similar fetish-serving sex work any time between, say, 1809 and 1959.) It’s emblematic of all that’s left!

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Economics ]



Entry: 2009-12-08 11:21:43.302757-08 Just FYI by Dan Lyke comments 2

I don't read a whole lot of mainstream media these days, but a number of people have been referring to some sort of scandal involving sex and "Tiger Wood". That's a name used for a few different species, but probably refers to Goncalo Alves, also sometimes referred to as "Zebra Wood". I'm not sure what this has to do with sex, but perhaps Hardwood Dildos by Hans or Jdildo could help you out there.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Sexual Culture History Woodworking ]



Entry: 2009-12-04 13:23:43.047075-08 Scarleteen fund drive by Dan Lyke comments 1

Lots of worthy organizations for your consideration in this season of gift-giving, but I think it's worth calling out Scarleteen's current fund drive.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2009-12-04 06:12:02.418072-08 Danish sex workers not willing to be blamed for global warming, strike back by radix comments 3

Prostitutes Offer Free Climate Summit Sex

Caption really not necessary.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Global Warming ]



Entry: 2009-12-02 23:29:23.950479-08 Lack of control group by Dan Lyke comments 1

Researchers set out to find a sample of men who haven't seen porn, fail:

“We started our research seeking men in their 20s who had never consumed pornography,” said Professor Simon Louis Lajeunesse. “We couldn't find any.”

First, I question the language: "consumed"? It's still there after I've seen it. Thanks, Chris.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2009-11-23 16:53:00.428037-08 Stimulation by Dan Lyke comments 4

QOTD: Buffalo News editorial on controversy over a swinger's convention held in their area:

To which I say: If folks can stimulate the economy around here by stimulating each other, then let the recovery begin.

Hat tip to Shawn.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Quotes Economics ]



Entry: 2009-11-07 09:21:23.620435-08 Drink spiking myth by Dan Lyke comments 0

A study in The British Journal of Criminology suggests that "drink spiking" is a fear far more prevalent than actually occurs:

The research team, led by Dr Adam Burgess from the School of Social Policy, Sociology and Social Research at the University of Kent, set out to investigate why there was such a pervasive belief when systematic police investigations have found no evidence that drink spiking is commonly implicated in sexual assaults. The researchers surveyed and interviewed students in three UK locations and one in the USA about the threat. They discovered that female students regularly judged certain 'bad-night-out episodes' (loss of memory, blackouts, ill feeling and dizziness) as likely to be related to tampering of drinks rather than the quantity of alcohol consumed.

So if you think your drink was spiked, there's a good chance you've simply been drinking too much and can't hold your liquor. Telegraph rewrite of the press release, Via Sensible Erection. And the article, which I haven't read.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2009-11-05 07:36:48.529567-08 art vs child porn by Dan Lyke comments 1

Fantastic essay by Laura Cumming in the Guardian exploring the difference between art and child porn:

Not far from the strip joints of Soho is an image of a child having sex with an adult that can be seen for nothing any day of the week. The child is a boy of about 10 or 11, completely naked, his backside raised and partially turned to the viewer. The adult is a young woman, also naked. She is slipping her tongue into his mouth; he is squeezing her right nipple between his fingers. Not only is the boy clearly underage, but this sexual abuse of a minor turns out to be incestuous, too – the woman is actually his mother.

Via Eros log

[ related topics: Art & Culture Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2009-10-23 09:11:43.760124-07 Training sex offenders by Dan Lyke comments 2

Classically Liberal: There is a fury and and sadness inside that I cannot express:

The explosion of “youthful sex offenders” is not the result of our kids becoming perverts. It is the result of the law criminalizing what is a normal part of growing up.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Children and growing up Law ]



Entry: 2009-10-22 10:15:18.58577-07 An old soldier speaks by Dan Lyke comments 2

YouTube tear-jerker video of the day, testimony for Maine's marriage equality:

The woman at my polling place asked me "do you believe in equality for gay and lesbian people?" I was pretty surprised to be asked a question like that. It made no sense to me. Finally I asked her, "What do you think I fought for on Omaha Beach?"

Via Mefi.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



Entry: 2009-10-20 11:08:23.321473-07 Sex trafficking less than claimed by Dan Lyke comments 0

UK government inquiry fails to find single trafficker who forced anybody into prostitution.

Current and former ministers have claimed that thousands of women have been imported into the UK and forced to work as sex slaves, but most of these statements were either based on distortions of quoted sources or fabrications without any source at all.

[ related topics: moron Sexual Culture Law Enforcement ]



Entry: 2009-10-08 11:40:12.108638-07 Evidence for female ejaculation by Dan Lyke comments 0

Violet Blue on filmmaker Anna Span's evidence presented to the British Board of Film Classification that female ejaculation exists.

[ related topics: Physiology Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2009-09-28 10:18:40.805068-07 Words that work by Dan Lyke comments 2

Dating site OKCupid has analyzed half a million first messages to see what works. Sociological Images republishes the graphs and has different commentary.

[ related topics: Weblogs Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2009-09-22 06:54:26.023318-07 Happy teenagers by Dan Lyke comments 13

Meanwhile, in London, a music teacher has been jailed for lesbian affair with 15 year old pupil. The Times quotes the student's mother:

In a statement, the mother said that it was first thought that Goddard’s influence was good. “She appeared to be thriving and happy for the first time in a very long time,” she said. “I felt that the allegations were a vicious rumour and I couldn’t believe any teacher at the school could do such a thing.”

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2009-09-21 08:06:38.097132-07 A bunch from CJ by Dan Lyke comments 8

I'm still recovering from the weekend. Luckily, I got deluged by links from CJ, so while I'm recuperating and working here's stuff for you to read.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Public Transportation Current Events Work, productivity and environment ]



Entry: 2009-09-12 11:03:25.667332-07 Alabama sex toy ban upheld by Dan Lyke comments 7

Alabama Supreme Court upholds sex toy ban. via Carnal Nation

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Politics Law ]



Entry: 2009-09-02 14:49:40.976482-07 Solving childhood obesity with porn by Dan Lyke comments 1

A Flutterby correspondent who may wish to remain nameless, as this was sent direction to me, brought this to my attention. It appears to have come from Motifake.com, but I'm having trouble finding the original there this seems to be it...

[Image Billboard: 'Porn puts our children in harm's way' Caption: 'Childhood Obesity: Are there any problems porn can't solve?']

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Children and growing up Humor ]



Entry: 2009-08-29 09:54:24.407771-07 Nudists vs Swingers by Dan Lyke comments 2

Nudist camp battles industry over G-strings, on how there's a divide between the family-oriented naturists and the group that's heading off towards the swingers.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Nudity ]



Entry: 2009-08-20 08:25:18.346749-07 Gender and Race by ebradway comments 2

On the tail of Jamaican Usain Bolt smashing the 100m record, an interesting controversy has come up in women's track. South African, Caster Semenya, after easily winning the 800m event, is having her gender questioned. Interestingly, even if she was born with female genitalia and raised female, if she carries male chromosomes, she would be disqualified. From the Times Online:

There are between 20 and 30 different types of “intersex” conditions, each of them affecting the body in different ways, and it is for the medics to decide whether, if Semenya is found to have one of them, the resulting hormonal balance gives her an unfair advantage.

Granted, I never found this to be much of a problem. But according to the Times, "Gender verification used to be mandatory across Olympic sports but the issue was so delicate and scientifically complicated that it was dropped before the Sydney Olympics."

This could be huge for feminists and homosexuals. First, it creates a class of "natural" or "pure" women, despite the fact that women with "intersex conditions" suffer the same disadvantages (and likely more). If you liken this to Oscar Pistorius' bid to run in the 2008 Olympics, his statement was basically "I don't think anyone is going to cut off their legs to gain an advantage." Similarly, I can't imagine anyone willingly accepting the societal disadvantages of being female just to win races. And no one is questioning Usain Bolt's masculinity.

For homosexuals, it provides more evidence that sexuality and sexual orientation is not cut-and-dry: male or female, opposites attract.

[ related topics: Fabrication Race Erotic Sports Sexual Culture Interactive Drama ]



Entry: 2009-08-14 05:03:30.461189-07 Villian by meuon comments 3

Internet Villian of the Year and a good list of runner-ups. As proof that money influences politics, note that the issues aren't scammers, spammers, child porn, or political/social extremism. It's "copyright" issues.

Modified my life goals: I want to be rich enough to be considered eccentric, poor people are just plain crazy. I now also want to be rich enough to influence politics, in eccentric ways :)

[ related topics: Currency Net Culture Erotic Copyright/Trademark moron Sexual Culture Current Events Politics ]



Entry: 2009-08-05 17:01:46.679716-07 RI & legal prostitution by Dan Lyke comments 1

50 academics spoke up. Can you amplify their voices?

Last week 50 academics signed on to a letter written by Ron Weitzer and myself. It was a collaborative effort and required compromise and you can read the letter here. Today there have been several news stories about this letter. If you support the overall mission of keeping prostitution in RI from being criminalized please comment on the stories listed below, or blog about the same.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Politics Law ]



Entry: 2009-08-02 18:27:35.998012-07 <strike> Mississexxi </strike> by meuon comments 1

Good article about state funded religious centric bad sex education, pro-abstinence, little actual education.

This sums it up nicely:

"Neither Mahan nor any of the speakers offered information on what to do if abstinence fails. Did he talk about proper use of condoms or birth control? No, but he did make the offhand and scientifically unfounded comment that condoms are “pieces of rubber that deteriorate in your back pocket. They only work some of the time.” But the medical community considers an 87 to 98 percent effectiveness rate in preventing sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy as more than “some of the time.”"

[ related topics: Erotic Community Education Sexual Culture Interactive Drama Work, productivity and environment Religion ]



Entry: 2009-07-29 08:14:59.594222-07 Thought of the moment by Dan Lyke comments 3

Thought of the moment: Everyone pays some portion of a transaction in order to protect that transaction. Prostitutes pay it to pimps to protect themselves from cops and clients, we pay it to our legal system and our military. There's an overhead necessary to enforce the terms agreed upon.

Seems like for a resident of the U.S. that's probably about a quarter of the transaction, right? We pay a little less than half our income in taxes, half of the federal budget is the U.S. military, and then we pay for the judicial system and other paramilitary organizations, police and Sheriff and the like.

Does anyone have a closer number for this, and does anyone have comparative numbers? I remember the Freakonomics[Wiki] guys came up with some numbers on pimps and prostitutes, and that probably very much varies by economic stratus of the customer, I'm just interested in how people have looked at this number.

[ related topics: Currency Sexual Culture Government Politics Law Enforcement Law Economics ]



Entry: 2009-07-28 07:10:26.254092-07 Porn will find a way by Dan Lyke comments 1

Giggle. Porn company can't get porn on to the iPhone via the app store, and there aren't generic video players on the iPhone, so porn company just shoots it on a 3GS: Here's the press release from Pink Visual.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture iPhone Video ]



Entry: 2009-07-27 07:35:05.795515-07 women and porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

CNN republication of an Oprah magazine article on women buying porn:

Theresa Flynt, vice president of marketing for Hustler video, says that women account for 56 percent of business at her company's video stores. ...

In other less progressive news, EA puts sexual bounty on its own booth babes at Comic Con. Sigh.

[ related topics: Games Consumerism and advertising Marketing Sexual Culture Current Events ]



Entry: 2009-07-21 14:14:47.98516-07 The Day Obscenity Became Art by Dan Lyke comments 0

Quoting Debra Hyde: "Thank you, Barney Rosset.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2009-07-21 08:23:40.395248-07 More suggestion that pornography reduces rape by Dan Lyke comments 0

Kendall, Todd: Pornography, Rape, and the Internet, Clemson University Law & Economics Seminar, 2006

The arrival of the internet caused a large decline in both the pecuniary and non-pecuniary costs of accessing pornography. Using state-level panel data from 1998-2003, I find that the arrival of the internet was associated with a reduction in rape incidence. However, growth in internet usage had no apparent effect on other crimes. Moreover, when I disaggregate the rape data by offender age, I find that the effect of the internet on rape is concentrated among those for whom the internet-induced fall in the non-pecuniary price of pornography was the largest – men ages 15-19, who typically live with their parents. These results, which suggest that pornography and rape are substitutes, are in contrast with most previous literature. However, earlier population-level studies do not control adequately for many omitted variables, including the age distribution of the population, and most laboratory studies simply do not allow for potential substitutability between pornography and rape.

Via Elf Sternberg.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Economics ]



Entry: 2009-07-16 12:06:13.553271-07 Effects of Child Pornography by Dan Lyke comments 1

Cory Silverberg: Examining the Effects of Child Pornography looks at Endrass, J., Urbaniok, F., Hammermeister, L.C., et. al. “The consumption of Internet Child Pornography and Violent and Sex Offending” BMC Psychiatry (in press). I haven't looked at the paper, but Cory's article and the comments are worth a perusal.

[ related topics: Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Sexual Culture Law ]



Entry: 2009-07-14 09:09:47.103238-07 risk of stroke by Dan Lyke comments 1

The headline says that Britain's National Health Service "recommends pupils have 'an orgasm a day' to reduce risk of heart attack and stroke":

Under the heading 'an orgasm a day keeps the doctor away', the leaflet says: 'Health promotion experts advocate five portions of fruit and veg a day and 30 minutes physical activity three times a week. What about sex or masturbation twice a week?'

[ related topics: Health Sexual Culture Current Events ]



Entry: 2009-07-08 10:45:21.154838-07 iPhone overheating by Dan Lyke comments 0

Snicker. Just got this press release from BSG PR (a porn PR agency): Mobile Adult Film Studio Takes Blame for Overheating iPhone Problem.

Busick cited a specific scene added to the site recently as the most likely source of the scorching heat being reported by iPhone users.

More serious look at iPhone 3GS overheating at Wired.

[ related topics: Erotic Archival Sexual Culture iPhone ]



Entry: 2009-07-06 11:56:20.530868-07 Thought crimes by Dan Lyke comments 3

Wendy Kaminer in The Atlantic: Child porn, animal cruelty porn and the right to examine.

At least one federal judge was deeply troubled by this case. Dissenting from the 4th circuit's refusal to re-hear Whorley's appeal, Judge Gregory encouraged him to seek Supreme Court review: "The (Court's) obscenity jurisprudence has never come close to stripping adults of First Amendment protections for their purely private fantasies, and the implications of our sanctioning this governmental intrusion into individual freedom of thought are incredibly worrisome," Gregory wrote.

[ related topics: Privacy Sexual Culture Government Law Civil Liberties ]



Entry: 2009-07-02 12:19:10.130052-07 16 is old enough to know by Dan Lyke comments 2

Why comprensive sex education is a good idea: 16 year old Torrington Connecticut girl mistakes sounds of sex for assault, rounds up friends who go beat up her mother's lover.

[ related topics: Education Sexual Culture Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2009-07-02 11:48:38.607617-07 Trouble in Paradise by Dan Lyke comments 0

Vanity Fair: Trouble in Paradise. Interesting article on the sexual culture that evolved on Pitcairn Island, where the "Mutiny on the Bounty" descendants landed, and how that's conflicting with British sexual culture. No answers, but the start of some questions.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2009-06-30 09:36:31.003767-07 Adrian Colesberry by Dan Lyke comments 0

Adrian Colesberry (warning: all flash site) has written a book titled "How To Make Love To Adrian Colesberry". Susie Bright has some excerpts, it looks very funny, but Adrian Colesberry also has a blog. His observations on kink in politics seem worth a read:

There was no raping of female prisoners during the reign of the Khmer Rouge, which is almost unheard of in wartime. The soldiers were quite happy to starve women to death, to pull their fingernails out one by one, to suffocate them with plastic bags, to let them die in childbirth, but no raping.

[ related topics: Books Sexual Culture Politics Weblogs ]



Entry: 2009-06-29 13:10:38.51747-07 Jane Tollini on animal sex by Dan Lyke comments 1

Howl: An interview with San Francisco zookeeper Jane Tollini on sex in the animal kingdom, and a hilarious part two.

[ related topics: California Culture Humor Erotic Sexual Culture Bay Area ]



Entry: 2009-06-19 10:27:40.398461-07 GFE: Girlfriend Experience by Dan Lyke comments 1

Mention something on Twitter and who knows what comes out of the woodwork? In this case it was Ileana Pietrobruno[Wiki], the director of another film called Girlfriend Experience[Wiki]. The trailer shows it to be a completely different film from Soderbergh's, but still looks like it'd be discussion provoking.

[ related topics: Movies Sexual Culture Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality ]



Entry: 2009-06-17 19:31:15.818454-07 Seattle Cougars by Dan Lyke comments 0

Elf looks at MILF porn:

I think there needs to be a Seattle-based line of porn films: Seattle Cougars I through XXXVI, all with hot women who both have the maturity to know why they fuck, and bodies that have not been abused by endless hours of UV radiation.

Except that it'd never be commercially viable.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Seattle tolkien ]



Entry: 2009-06-15 08:19:33.608278-07 The Girlfriend Experience by Dan Lyke comments 1

It was a busy weekend. Charlene's last day with kids was Thursday, and last day of school was Friday. so this weekend was a break in routine. I was expecting that she'd be gone all Saturday, so I'd planned a killer bike ride, but I was feeling like hell on Friday evening and canceled. We spent Saturday cleaning and organizing, Charlene went off to her event in the late afternoon while I did more house stuff. Then yesterday we took as a day of just hanging out. Spent some time in the morning lying on the grass in the back yard, and went down to San Rafael to wander around the Italian Street Painting Festival, hung out listening to Frobeck and the Banda Italiana di Marin performance in the church, and while we were there noticed that The Girlfriend Experience was playing at The Rafael. So with a little shuffling of the schedule of some guests arriving late last night we went to see the 8:55 showing.

As the credits rolled at the end the guy behind us got up and proclaimed his disappointment in a loud voice. I understand where he's coming from, if you haven't been privy to the subtleties of life around our household that previous paragraph reads as something like "same old same old", and The Girlfriend Experience was all about the subtleties of what wasn't there.

You've read the summaries at this point: Chelsea, played by Sasha Grey, who's best known for her work in porn (as Roger Ebert amusingly referenced in his review, one of her films is called "My First Porn #7."), is a high end call girl. Chris Santos plays Chris, a personal trainer to the same set, and her boyfriend. The film compares and contrasts her relationships with her clients to his relationship with his, and theirs with each other, using the backdrop of the financial system meltdown of last fall in Manhattan.

Much of this happens in subtleties. It didn't strike me 'til we'd been home for half an hour or so that each of the investment suggestions that Chelsea's clients recommend to her had a few levels to them. The film is only 77 minutes long, but doesn't seem short at all; every word is carefully chosen, the temporal discontinuity of the film takes effort to piece together, and there's a lot that the film explores that's the sort of thing we gloss over because those are the lies we tell ourselves to stay sane.

But the film has led to some interesting conversations, and I either want to see it again on DVD so that I can skip forward and backwards to put all the pieces together, or to read the screenplay. The poster for the film said "See it with someone you ****", and, yeah, it was a good film for sparking discussion on that.

[ related topics: Movies Interactive Drama Sexual Culture Economics ]



Entry: 2009-06-01 09:03:32.324958-07 Honoring Dr. Tiller by Dan Lyke comments 1

Y'all have seen that Dr. George R. Tiller, one of the very few U.S. physicians providing late term abortion services, was shot and killed in the lobby of his church yesterday. Previously, in 1993 he was shot in both arms, and in 1986 his clinic was bombed.

A couple of articles worth reading from the MeFi thread:

Grief, Gratitude, and Baby Lee:

Dr. George R. Tiller specializes in terminating late-term pregnancies after the fetus has been diagnosed with a birth defect: a deformed heart, missing kidneys, Down's syndrome, anencephaly.

He calls his work a "reproductive ministry," and he offers his patients many of the same services as the hospice. Tiller encourages parents to hold, dress and photograph their aborted children, whom he delivers stillborn but intact. His staff takes ink-prints of tiny feet and hands; he brings in a chaplain for baptisms. Letters from grateful patients line the clinic's walls.

Gretchen Voss: My Late Term Abortion.

Radha Lewis: Why I Provide Second Trimester Abortions.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Religion ]



Entry: 2009-05-30 07:43:33.544251-07 Porn vs News by Dan Lyke comments 11

Observation OTD, Hanan Cohen asks:

What's the difference between porn and news? Why do people pay for online porn but don't pay for online news?

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Journalism and Media ]



Entry: 2009-05-28 09:02:02.737161-07 Thought Crime conviction by Dan Lyke comments 0

U.S. Manga Obscenity Conviction Roils Comics World.

The 39-year-old office worker was charged under the 2003 Protect Act, which outlaws cartoons, drawings, sculptures or paintings depicting minors engaging in sexually explicit conduct, and which lack “serious literary, artistic, political, or scientific value.”

Scary.

[ related topics: Comics Sexual Culture Art & Culture Politics Civil Liberties ]



Entry: 2009-05-27 09:49:53.969893-07 Sex Work in perspective by Dan Lyke comments 6

The Rumpus.net: The Girlfriend Experience, Sex Work in Perspective, a look at Steven Soderbergh's new film from the perspective of a sex worker, mentioning Sex, Lies and Videotape[Wiki] and Before Sunset[Wiki]. I now totally want to see this film, but the essay is well worth a read on its own:

... Two hours later, my friend is trying to describe why the film was so empty. He talks about the cheap metaphor. How he hates when movies about prostitutes try to make the point that all relationships are transactional. He thinks that’s bullshit. There’s an anger in his voice. He’s with his girlfriend. She doesn’t know if he’s ever been with a prostitute, and neither do I. But if I was a gambler, and I am, I would bet he has. ...

Via.

[ related topics: Writing Movies Sexual Culture Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Sociology ]



Entry: 2009-05-26 07:46:45.026335-07 10 myths about orgasm by Dan Lyke comments 3

This TED talk with Mary Roach describing 10 myths about orgasm has been floating around, and I thought it wasn't nearly as entertaining as it could be, but luckily Digital Citizen has summarized (Via MeFi). #1 is that male masturbation appears to begin in utero.

So there's that old line that "the only intuitive interface is the nipple", and at least one time I brought that out I was informed by someone with La Leche League connections that, in fact that's false. It appears that the only intuitive interface is... well... the joystick.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Video User Interface ]



Entry: 2009-05-19 06:54:49.908957-07 How can you tell by Dan Lyke comments 7

Sociological Images: How Can You Tell If You're A Prostitute?

It’s subtle and confusing, isn’t it? When is it legitimate for women to take money or accept drinks? What about the customers— why is there no distinction amongst them? They take out their wallets in all kinds of situations— and that’s considered fine— except when they position themselves as victims of predators…

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2009-05-17 15:08:30.782391-07 Generation 'Sex' by ziffle comments 4

Maybe this Greater Depression is having some great unintended side effects. Meet 'Generation Sex', the teens leaving former taboos in their wake

But among the sexually active, stories abound of games at the edge, like "lipstick parties", also known as rainbow parties. "The girls all wear a different shade of lipstick," says a high-school teacher at a school where a female student was caught trying to organise one such party.

"Guys have to get as many shades as possible on their dicks. The girls will line up on their knees and the guys will go around the group getting different coloured rings so it looks like a rainbow on their dicks."

[ related topics: Games Erotic Sexual Culture Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2009-05-11 05:21:18.074781-07 Porn in CS by Dan Lyke comments 1

Keeping Abreast of Pornographic Research in Computer Science. Cute, but not too much: Pointing out that the "Lena" example oft-used for image processing examples is the top 5 inches of a Playboy centerfold image, and then looking at more recent attempts to automatically detect explicit content in images.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Graphics ]



Entry: 2009-05-08 08:02:49.06783-07 'tis the season by Dan Lyke comments 0

The author of Crowded Head, Cozy Bed has pointed out that:

PSA: May is National Bicycle Month and National Masturbation Month. Please be safe and celebrate them one at a time. Thank you.

[ related topics: Pedal Power Bicycling Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2009-05-04 06:11:19.032126-07 Tool porn by Dan Lyke comments 6

I had seen this somewhere else, but Chris pointed to this Guardian article on Susan Fiske of Princeton's findings with MRI brain scanning that men respond to pictures of scantily clad women and tools in similar ways:

Researchers used brain scans to show that when straight men looked at pictures of women in bikinis, areas of the brain that normally light up in anticipation of using tools, like spanners and screwdrivers, were activated.

So when the bluenoses try to block porn on the net, look out, that's just a step down the slippery slope towards banning Bridge City Tools.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Woodworking Fabrication ]



Entry: 2009-04-29 16:18:14.864724-07 His own wife by Dan Lyke comments 0

New York Magazine: Jonathan Van Meter writes about Gay Talese and Nan A. Talese in the context of Gay's upcoming book on their marriage. You, of course, remember Gay Talese from his 1980 participatory chronicle of swinger culture of the '70s Thy Neighbor's Wife, and Nan A. Talese has her own imprint at Random House with a number of well-known writers.

[ related topics: Books New York Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage Writing Real Estate ]



Entry: 2009-04-24 15:03:44.31895-07 Steinberg on Berman on Oprah by Dan Lyke comments 0

David Steinberg muses on a Laura Berman appearance on Oprah:

Berman's basic argument was that it's important for teenage girls to learn that they have the power to give themselves the wonderful experience of orgasm, rather than thinking they need to go to boys (or other girls) for that kind of pleasure, or confusing the thrill of their first orgasm with being madly in love with whoever happens to be their sexual partner at that special moment. Berman went so far as to recommend that mothers buy vibrators for their daughters to help them get the most out of their self-pleasuring experiences and discoveries.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2009-04-14 11:19:56.574247-07 Misinformed Youth by Dan Lyke comments 0

Giggle The Onion: Study: Children Exposed To Pornography May Expect Sex To Be Enjoyable (video). Via Chris and via Marty Klein, and a number of other places.

[ related topics: Humor Sexual Culture Children and growing up Video ]



Entry: 2009-04-13 13:03:47.216435-07 Sex links for the day by Dan Lyke comments 0

Marilyn Chambers, porn star and one-time Ivory Snow model, dead at 56 of unknown causes. A report of Chambers' arrest on February 1, 1985 at the O'Farrell theater:

The bust was a disaster. So many jailhouse officers posed for snapshots with the actress that it delayed her release. Then the charges were dropped for lack of evidence. Even worse, when then--Chronicle columnist Warren Hinckle ridiculed the city's war on smut, the police arrested him too, 12 days later. The charge: walking his basset hound without a leash.

New York Times: Keeping Up With Being Kept, looks at sugar daddy relationships in the context of SeekingArrangement.com, with some interesting notes on power and economics in relationships.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture History Law Enforcement Economics ]



Entry: 2009-04-13 07:11:03.984061-07 Miscellaneous by Dan Lyke comments 2

Just a few random that I think deserve notice:

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Entry: 2009-04-03 06:06:22.178664-07 Elder abuse by Dan Lyke comments 0

Massachusetts State Representative Kathi-Anne Reinstein (D) is attempting to criminalize nude photos of anyone over 60. Marti Klein and Marc Randazza say most of what I would.

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Entry: 2009-04-02 07:33:30.84629-07 Inappropriate content filters by Dan Lyke comments 0

Two interesting ones from Sociological Images. The most recent points to "The Female ... Parts" graphic in this Onion article, but proving that satire is dead, points back to this earlier entry highlighting a disturbing ad for an internet service that promises to filter out "inappropriate content".

[ related topics: Net Culture Sexual Culture Physiology ]



Entry: 2009-03-27 10:11:10.372705-07 Naked world leaders by Dan Lyke comments 1

Portraits of a naked Irish Prime Minister Brian Cowen have been showing up in various museums. YouTube video of a local news report has this gem about the unflattering picture of a fat Cowen holding his underwear, and another one of him sitting on the toilet:

"... the paintings of Brian Cowen, who's not thought to have posed for the anonymous artist"

And the artist has stepped forward:

A spokesman for the Garda (police) confirmed that the matter was under investigation but did not provide any further details, while local Irish media reported that it was unlikely 35-year-old Conor Casby would be charged.

Charged for what? Littering?

The "naked world leaders" trend seems to be in the air of late: Justine Lai paints pictures of herself having sex with presidents:

In Join Or Die, I paint myself having sex with the Presidents of the United States in chronological order. I am interested in humanizing and demythologizing the Presidents by addressing their public legacies and private lives. The presidency itself is a seemingly immortal and impenetrable institution; by inserting myself in its timeline, I attempt to locate something intimate and mortal. I use this intimacy to subvert authority, but it demands that I make myself vulnerable along with the Presidents. ...

(Via) Interesting idea, the paintings themselves don't really live up to the concept.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Art & Culture Current Events Nudity Politics ]



Entry: 2009-03-21 16:07:20.633635-07 Vasectomy news by Dan Lyke comments 2

I was searching for an article on vasectomy rates being up with the economy down:

"We were doing 40 to 45 a week, and then it went to 70 to 75 each week," he said. "Some patients were concerned about losing their insurance, but it seems to me more of it is the idea of 'I can't commit myself to raising another child in uncertain times.' "

But ran across various news that Rep. Karen Camper, D-Memphis, wanted to insert "nothing in this constitution secures or protects a right to vasectomy" into the state constitution, in a bill that meant to add language like that about abortion. Good on yer, Ms. Camper.

And on that note, when are we going to drop gender from our honorifics?

[ related topics: Health Sexual Culture Current Events Law Economics Civil Liberties ]



Entry: 2009-03-20 07:46:24.323672-07 More journalistic musings by Dan Lyke comments 0

QOTD: user "kang" at SE entry about a kindler, gentler Alien vs Predator:

I just now realized how inappropriate a name like Dateline is for a news show about sex predators trying to hook up with kids.

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Entry: 2009-03-17 15:45:44.23145-07 Interview with Jock Sturges by Dan Lyke comments 0

Well worth a read: Interview with an artist: Jock Sturges, on his working style, working with models, and his persecutions by the U.S. Federal Government back in 1990:

When I went back to Europe in the midst of this investigation, I was avoiding a lot of compositional angles that I thought might be problematic, something I had never done before. My wife caught me doing this; she caught me crossing legs and on a few occasions even throwing towels on people. She told me to stop and said that I was effectively instructing my models in shame. Doing this was granting the forces assailing me an immediate victory – something they in no way deserved. She was right. I stopped. I have never sought to alter what I have done since.

Some good observations on life, working with models, and art in general. via Magic Flute Nudes.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Art & Culture Law Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Politics ]



Entry: 2009-03-16 06:23:30.190704-07 Come the Singularity by Dan Lyke comments 1

Some musings on "Sex and the Singularity" over at ErosBlog does a little bit of musing on the Kurzweil-ian notion of "the singularity", that point when computers and augmented reality will become "powerful" enough that virtual realities and the physical one will become indistinguishable.

Normally such things fly under my radar, but this one gave me a great feeling of 1950s Popular Science, the ones about the future consisting of robot butlers and flying cars with wings: The thing those Utopian prognistications always missed was "why do the robots need us?".

I don't mean "us" as in humanity, we've evolved to be symbiotes with technology and will continue to do so, I mean what will happen that the fundamental struggles of life change to offer up this life of being waited on by the machines? And that's not intended to be some sort of "life is pointless" moan, just a realization that we are, largely, duking it out with limited resources, and though some of these technological advances will give us enough of an edge to offer up a time of relative prosperity, the overall game isn't changing: If you were digging ditches before the backhoe, don't expect to be sipping martinis afterwards.

[ related topics: Robotics Sexual Culture Economics ]



Entry: 2009-03-09 14:58:38.736108-07 Why I am pro-choice by Dan Lyke comments 9

\Why I am pro choice: "A senior Vatican cleric has defended the excommunication of the mother and doctors of a nine-year-old girl who had an abortion in Brazil after being raped."

The regional archbishop, Jose Cardoso Sobrinho, pronounced excommunication for the mother for authorising the operation and doctors who carried it out for fear that the slim girl would not survive carrying the foetuses to term.

It should also be noted that the man who raped her was not excommunicated. Via, via. Seems to me that the abortion discussion can be reduced to looking at when we have responsibilities to other humans: when do ethics require me to put my life in danger to attempt to save another life? I wish that people like Archibishop Sobrinho were forced by circumstance to answer that question regularly and publicly. I expect the answers would expose some hypocrisy.

[ related topics: Ethics Sexual Culture Current Events Religion ]



Entry: 2009-03-09 07:58:30.61868-07 Porn and Freedom of Thought by Dan Lyke comments 0

Eros Blog: Porn and freedom of thought:

I never want to find myself — whether on Earth or in Hades — beginning a lament that starts like this:

“First they came for the pornographers, and I was silent, because I wasn’t much of a pornographer.”

And on that note, we saw Milk[Wiki] on Friday night. I felt a bit let down, it was not quite documentary and not quite drama, but was still a light peek into a bit of history that it's easy to forget.

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Entry: 2009-03-05 06:53:03.837504-08 Sex giggles for the morning by Dan Lyke comments 3

Giggle: "So, are you a practicing heterosexual, or are you just slightly attracted to the opposite sex?" (YouTube video). Via Living Sexuality, which also linked to Social Signal on "recommendations" services

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Entry: 2009-02-18 07:39:46.686492-08 Porn, freedom and safety. by Dan Lyke comments 1

Pornography, Rape and Sex Crimes in Japan [Web version], Milton Diamond and Ayako Uchiyama:

In sum, the concern that countries allowing pornography would show increased sex crime rates due to modeling or that adolescents in particular would be negatively vulnerable to and receptive to such models or the society would be otherwise adversely effected has not been vindicated. It is certainly clear from our data and analysis that a massive increase in available pornography in Japan has been correlated with a dramatic decrease in sexual crimes and most so among youngsters as perpetrators or victims. We have mentioned some possible influential factors.

Via SE. Note that there are some questions about basing their data off of reported rapes.

Meanwhile, Amplify looks at the uproar over the Ohio "Abstinence 'Til Marriage" program website, specifically "it's only a rape if you think she's not a slut" agenda. I meant to link to this a few days ago, but when I went to the source web site I couldn't find the content in question. Looks like Feministe has some stuff mirrored. Also via "tamp" over at SE, be warned that said user is known for... uh... barely coherent ranting.

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Entry: 2009-02-16 07:22:05.213599-08 A most favorite appendage by ebradway comments 2

Haven't had a chance to read deeper, but this article seems rather Flutterby-worthy:

Sorrells and colleagues didn't really map a new penile homuculus onto somatosensory cortex, but they did create a "penile sensitivity map" by determining, at 19 different locations...

And now I feel cheated:

Five locations on the uncircumcised penis that are routinely removed at circumcision were more sensitive than the most sensitive location on the circumcised penis.

[ related topics: Photography Sexual Culture Maps & Mapping ]



Entry: 2009-02-13 13:05:17.844424-08 Leeuwarden loses porn by Dan Lyke comments 1

Dang it. I think my little town is pretty cool but, so far as I know, we don't have a pornography collection. I think the Dutch are head of us:

The city of Leeuwarden has lost its pornography collection. Here's the original Telegraaf article on Leeuwarden losing its porn collection in Dutch.

Addendum: Better article at The State.

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Entry: 2009-02-03 13:39:35.199348-08 Comcast Superbowl Porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

So there was this big football game this last weekend. It's also famous for the ads which run during it, ads are also available here.

A few Comcast subscribers in Arizona got something additional: ten seconds from a porn clip. For you obsessive fans Violet Blue identifies which video it came from.

[ related topics: Sports Sexual Culture Video ]



Entry: 2009-01-22 13:59:36.480927-08 Another Boulderism by ebradway comments 3

Boulder has one strip club. It's right off the tourist-trap Pearl Street Mall (but you have to enter from the back alley). They were just awarded a liquor license.

Because the liquor board actually has very narrow criteria for opposing a license, the club easily got theirs. Liquor board member, Lisa Spaulding stated:

"This community has a very serious problem, I think. We need the community to come forward and do something about this. But they’re not here."

The irony of that statement is that the club surveyed the community before had and had overwhelming support. The community didn't feel the need to come forward.

From the soon to be gone Rocky Mountain News.

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Entry: 2009-01-16 09:18:22.159095-08 American Life League imitates the Onion by Dan Lyke comments 2

Krispy Kreme Celebrates the Freedom of Choice on Inauguration Day:

Krispy Kreme Doughnuts, Inc. (NYSE: KKD) is honoring American's sense of pride and freedom of choice on Inauguration Day, by offering a free doughnut of choice to every customer on this historic day, Jan. 20. By doing so, participating Krispy Kreme stores nationwide are making an oath to tasty goodies -- just another reminder of how oh-so-sweet "free" can be.

Anti-abortion whack-jobs use this as an opportunity to discredit their cause and imitate The Onion:

Just an unfortunate choice of words? For the sake of our Wednesday morning doughnut runs, we hope so. The unfortunate reality of a post Roe v. Wade America is that "choice" is synonymous with abortion access and celebration of 'freedom of choice' is a tacit endorsement of abortion rights on demand.

The unfortunate reality of a post "American Life League" America is that "life" is synonymous with delusion and mental illness.

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Entry: 2009-01-13 13:51:52.976033-08 Internet not a threat by Dan Lyke comments 6

Anti-news: NY Times: Report Calls Online Threats to Children Overblown:

A high-profile task force created by 49 state attorneys general to find a solution to the problem of sexual solicitation of children online has concluded that there really is not a significant problem, despite years of parental anxieties and media hype.

Via MeFi.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Net Culture Ethics Sexual Culture Current Events Children and growing up moron ]



Entry: 2009-01-07 13:09:53.487366-08 Porn industry bailout by Dan Lyke comments 3

Porn industry calls for bailout. (Via SE)

So, uh, maybe while we're getting screwed we can be getting off too?

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2009-01-06 12:02:24.994667-08 At Your Cervix by Dan Lyke comments 0

Photos of My Cervix, images of a cervix throughout a menstrual cycle.

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Entry: 2009-01-02 16:48:18.915656-08 Abstinence pledges still harmful by Dan Lyke comments 0

Cory Silverberg talks about yet another article about a study which finds abstinence pledges ineffective.

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Entry: 2008-12-22 13:53:04.47896-08 Rick Warren likes pizza by Dan Lyke comments 1

In an interview with Ann Curry on NBC's Dateline, Rick Warren likens gays to Pizza:

“Just because I like pizza it doesn’t mean I should marry it”

Steve Young goes on to quote:

“Mr. Warren’s relating gays to pedophiles, incest and gay marriage to his incessant craving of sex with women he was not married to caught me a little off guard.,” said Ms Curry, “But after the camera stopped filming he went on to make the comparison of gays to pizza, I must say, I was startled.”

Danger West goes on to point out that he wasn't really equating being gay with pizza, because he was talking about desire for a specific object, "...he equated cock with pizza":

But this also implies that if it’s ok to eat pizza so long as you don’t marry it, it must also be ok to eat a dick.

[ related topics: Erotic Photography Sexual Culture Sociology Interactive Drama Marriage Food ]



Entry: 2008-12-21 21:04:05.756894-08 Thoughts of the moment by Dan Lyke comments 2

Two thoughts for the evening:

  1. The nice thing about the lesson being repeated until the student learns is that you don't have to pay attention the first few times.
  2. Tonight's contribution towards making my Yuletide gay: Elton John Christmas songs.

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Entry: 2008-12-17 08:07:59.981482-08 Romantic Comedies = bad love by Dan Lyke comments 1

BBC News: Romantic comedies will spoil your love life (Via).

The university's Dr Bjarne Holmes said: "Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it.

"We now have some emerging evidence that suggests popular media play a role in perpetuating these ideas in people's minds.

Tracking down Dr. Bjarne Holmes lead to this PDF: Contradictory messages: A content analysis of Hollywood-produced romantic comedy feature films..

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Erotic Sexual Culture Sociology Interactive Drama Marriage Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Education Monty Python Current Events ]



Entry: 2008-12-17 06:49:20.174754-08 Will Smith on marriage by Dan Lyke comments 6

I knew there was something I liked about the guy: Will Smith on marriage:

"In our marriage vows, we didn't say 'forsaking all others'. We said 'you will never hear I did something afterwards'. Because if that happens the relationship is destroyed."

Via Rebecca, who points out that this is not necessarily a declaration that they're having sex with other people.

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Entry: 2008-12-15 16:03:20.790298-08 Design by meuon comments 4

While I'm fairly incapable of it myself, I enjoy good design. like this 3 pack of condoms.

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Entry: 2008-12-15 14:03:14.895342-08 QOTD by Dan Lyke comments 2

Atrios at Eschaton about the "historical accident" of the net:

Imagine telling senators in 1992 that soon every 13 year old would have a porn machine on his/her desk.

Via Danger West, which added "If the powers that were and yet be could have predicted the internet, they would have smothered it in the cradle." Yep. Progress happens despite the mainstream culture and despite the power structure, never because of it.

[ related topics: Net Culture Sexual Culture Sociology Politics ]



Entry: 2008-12-12 11:13:21.833826-08 RIP: Bettie Page by Dan Lyke comments 3

Bettie Page, dead at 85:

I want to be remembered as I was when I was young and in my golden times,” she told The Los Angeles Times in 2006. “I want to be remembered as a woman who changed people’s perspectives concerning nudity in its natural form.”

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Entry: 2008-12-10 07:30:11.652979-08 Translate carefully by Dan Lyke comments 2

You always hear of this as the urban legend, as the woman who decorated her dress with characters from the Chinese restaurant menu, ending up with "this dish cheap but delicious", and, of course, there are web sites like Hanzi Smatter, that keep up with unintentionally embarrassing tattoos, but this time the Max Plank Institute used the wrong text to illustrate a report on China:

There were red faces on the editorial board of one of Germany's top scientific institutions, the Max Planck Institute, after it ran the text of a handbill for a Macau strip club on the front page of its latest journal. Editors had hoped to find an elegant Chinese poem to grace the cover of a special issue, focusing on China, of the MaxPlanckForschung journal, but instead of poetry they ran a text effectively proclaiming "Hot Housewives in action!" on the front of the third-quarter edition. Their "enchanting and coquettish performance" was highly recommended.

Hanzi Smatter has a full translation, and links to Language Log on the topic.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Humor ]



Entry: 2008-12-08 08:44:17.83139-08 Coco at Kink.com by Dan Lyke comments 1

Catalina loves Coco’s First Day at Kink.com, a woman writes about her experience modeling/performing for FuckingMachines.com:

After I got my paycheck, I went to my car and sat there and screamed. Screamed from how fucking cool it is to orgasm for a living. Screamed from doing something I’d never thought I’d have the balls to do. Screamed from being utterly brutalized in front of people I just met. I screamed for nothing and for everything.

(Via ErosBlog)

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Entry: 2008-12-08 07:25:06.543341-08 Child porn conundrums by Dan Lyke comments 4

A few showing some of the idiocy that child porn hysteria is causing. First, in Australia a judge has ruled that a cartoon in which characters from The Simpsons engage in sex acts is child pornography:

But Justice Adams agreed with the magistrate. He found that, while The Simpsons characters had hands with four fingers and their faces were "markedly and deliberately different to those of any possible human being", the mere fact that they were not realistic representations of human beings did not mean that they could not be considered people.

And Cory Silverberg has some interesting commentary on a U.S. Attorney giving quite a deal to a quadriplegic man in New York who was charged with posession of child pornography. The original story is here, I think there are a lot of interesting issues raised by just how much the U.S. Attorney was reading into both the law and the facts of the case.

[ related topics: New York Erotic Television Sexual Culture Current Events Law Enforcement Invention and Design Law ]



Entry: 2008-12-04 06:57:37.823158-08 Hots for the Smarts by Dan Lyke comments 0

nonelvis called this Yet another reason to love Richard Thompson: YouTube video of Richard Thompson singing about smart women.

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Entry: 2008-12-04 05:20:31.565159-08 Icky Speech by Dan Lyke comments 0

Neil Gaiman: Why defend freedom of icky speech? Via ErosBlog.

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Entry: 2008-12-03 08:43:42.161119-08 A WI Lady's guide to brothels by Dan Lyke comments 0

I mentioned Not quite jam and Jerusalem: Women's Institute ladies toured the world in search of the perfect brothel. Now the women of the Hampshire Women's Institute have taken their knowledge to TV, with A WI Lady's Guide To Brothels, and the associated site things like an overview of the brothels visited..

Here's a long entry about that at Sex in the Public Square.

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Entry: 2008-12-03 08:28:38.238227-08 Prop 8, the musical by Dan Lyke comments 3

Prop 8, the musical, starring Jack Black, Margaret Cho, John C. Reilly, Neil Patrick Harris and many more.

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Entry: 2008-12-02 07:40:09.136257-08 Keep the net free by Dan Lyke comments 1

Pro-porn activism has a rant on the various "Free" but porn-free wireless internet proposals that are being run by the FCC.

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Entry: 2008-11-26 08:33:09.419884-08 Prop 8 for Polar Bears by Dan Lyke comments 0

Japanese zookeepers have figured out why two polar bears aren't mating: Both of them are female. Anyone who's watched animé or surfed Japanese porn knows that this is an easy mistake to make.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Nature and environment Humor ]



Entry: 2008-11-26 07:05:28.892062-08 SafeSearch sexism by Dan Lyke comments 7

Tony Comstock reports that Google SafeSearch returns 33,000,000 results for "penis", none for "clitoris". Actually, as of right now it appears to be 36,500,000. With SafeSearch off, that's 74,600,000 for "penis" and 14,600,000 for "clitoris". Via ErosBlog.

Speaking of which, has anyone else found themselves automatically quoting all Google search terms because that seems to override the "find all variations of this word" and "rank pages with only one of your search terms higher than one with all 4" bogosity that's crept into the Google results?

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Net Culture ]



Entry: 2008-11-24 05:25:42.209479-08 Tough market for mistresses by Dan Lyke comments 3

Wall Street Journal blog: Rich are cutting back on payments to their mistresses.

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Entry: 2008-11-15 06:09:11.231342-08 Google dislikes sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

ErosBlog's Bacchus writes about Google's removal of sex sites.

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Entry: 2008-11-10 14:28:32.503977-08 "Price of Pleasure" Screening by Dan Lyke comments 0

A couple of people have brought up this anti-porn "documentary" called "The Price of Pleasure". In my RSS feeds, I've been watching various dancers and porn performers and the like comment about it, including some amusing comments about how nice it'd be to get some with-it U.S. prosecutor to go after the producers for their very obvious 2257 violations. Since it's been mentioned recently, Ernest Greene goes to a Price of Pleasure screening.

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Entry: 2008-11-07 08:36:30.716398-08 A little less freedom by Dan Lyke comments 1

Craigslist to start charging for erotic services ads, the real purpose of the move being so that they have credit card and other identifying information for when they're subpoenaed by cops trying to prosecute prostitution.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law Enforcement ]



Entry: 2008-11-06 14:38:59.657249-08 Spitzer gets off by Dan Lyke comments 1

Eliot Spitzer gets off without charges, while one woman who just took calls and booked appointments for Emperor's Club V.I.P. faces up to five years. So the hypocrite who was purchasing services while attempting to prosecute those providing those services walks, while the woman answering the phone faces jail time. Yeah, that's justice.

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Entry: 2008-11-06 06:07:56.175516-08 Jesus loves the little children by Dan Lyke comments 5

Gloria said "I found the spanking savior", and I thought this was creepy enough to pass along. It's a detail from the full sized page. Based on this page which lead me to this book, I believe that to be a page from one of David Berg's "True Comix". Berg was the founder of The Family

But I didn't toss this up to snicker at pedophilia, at least not completely. Okay, one more snicker, in this thread, Erica says:

OK, now I’ve seen everything. I am speechless.

I never knew Jesus was left-handed.

This caught my eye a little more because I recently read Outlander, by Diana Gabaldon. It's the first in a series of historical romance (with a little time travel thrown in), I quite enjoyed it, but I was struck by the attention paid to a particular spanking in that story line, and, once again, have had my eyes opened to the kink all around us.

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Entry: 2008-11-04 06:13:19.285114-08 Red turns men on by Dan Lyke comments 0

Study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology by Andrew Elliot and Daniela Niesta of the University of Rochester claims that red turns men on. I do find a few things interesting:

When using chromatic colors like green and blue, the colors were precisely equated in saturation and brightness levels, explained Niesta. "That way the test results could not be attributed to differences other than hue."

My minimal knowledge of the physiology of the eye suggests that the response curves of the cones may not be as easy to model as all that. On the other hand, the study doesn't claim any causes.

Via, Via.

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Entry: 2008-11-03 05:47:25.98147-08 Cliente by Dan Lyke comments 0

NY Times looks at the new movie Cliente:

The posters were advertising “Cliente,” a popular movie that revolves around clichés about prostitution and gigolos in France. Judith, the client, who is played by Nathalie Baye, one of France’s highest-paid actresses, is not a pathetic, lifted rich woman of a certain age and nothing to do. Rather, she is a hard-charging, 51-year-old television shopping-channel anchor and director who, after her marriage falls apart, wants good sex without strings and is willing to pay handsomely for it.

Via.

[ related topics: Erotic Movies Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage Consumerism and advertising ]



Entry: 2008-11-01 08:23:50.812018-07 Sex toys legal in Texas by Dan Lyke comments 0

Over at Sexuality.About.com, Cory points to and comments about the news that sex toys are now completely legal in the Fifth Circuit (Texas, Louisiana, and Mississippi). In the case of Reliable Consultants, Inc. v. Earle, the counsel for the State of Texas does not intend to seek a writ of certiorari, which means that the February 12th ruling stands.

"Because of Lawrence [v. Texas], which overturned Texas' anti-sodomy statute], the issue before us is whether the Texas statute impermissibly burdens the individual’s substantive due process right to engage in private intimate conduct of his or her choosing," wrote Judge Thomas Morrow Reavley for the panel. "Contrary to the district court’s conclusion, we hold that the Texas law burdens this constitutional right. An individual who wants to legally use a safe sexual device during private intimate moments alone or with another is unable to legally purchase a device in Texas, which heavily burdens a constitutional right. This conclusion is consistent with the decisions in Carey [v. Population Services Int'l] and Griswold [v. Connecticut], both cases involving distribution and use of contraceptives], where the Court held that restricting commercial transactions unconstitutionally burdened the exercise of individual rights."

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Entry: 2008-10-30 08:36:10.074639-07 Gerard Damiano dies by Dan Lyke comments 0

Y'all may have seen that Deep Throat director Gerard Damiano died, something I'd generally mark without note except for this comment:

The cause was complications of a stroke

I'm not sure what technique he was using but I gotta be more careful.

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Entry: 2008-10-29 09:22:47.690836-07 Voting by Dan Lyke comments 0

Well, we voted yesterday evening. Did the usual sit down with the voter information guides and the computers and run through the various options, although most of the issues were pretty simple this election. I mean, voting against the MADD endorsement is icing on the cake when the "law and order" propositions (6 and 9) were already mostly funded by a fraudster with some frightening notions of consent (to be fair, he's only been indicted, not convicted, and he was building a "sex cave", which I count as the only mark in his favor), the "give money to Texas oil men under the guise of green initiatives" props were pretty blatant, and the h8ers are beating people up with their own signs. Lots of "no", although a grudging "yes" for Prop 5, because although it isn't the right thing to do it is a step in that direction, and it pisses off the right people.

Locally, the town council race was a little harder to dig through, but Petaluma's Proposition K, which is not to be confused with San Francisco's Prop K, was fairly simple. It's allegedly a rollback of water rates (from Petaluma's already absurdly low water and sewer costs), I'd already made up my mind on it, but Charlene was reading the stuff for the first time, got through the "pro" argument, and said "Wait, how is this supposed to work? This makes no sense." It was good to see that she came to the same conclusion I did, but about 5x faster than me.

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Entry: 2008-10-28 11:58:20.616497-07 Taking md5 hashes of files ruled the same as opening and reading files by radix comments 1

I'm a legal geek (but not a lawyer). Found this on Volokh: http://www.volokh.com/archives...0_26-2008_11_01.shtml#1225159904

Figured the free speech and technical assessments would be of interest to many here. Note that the gov't missed an opportunity to try to apply precedent from drug-sniffing dogs, so there may be more evolution of caselaw on this particular issue.

Synopsis: Guy is getting evicted, some guy hired by the landlord gets his stuff, including a computer. Finds kiddie porn pic, calls cops. Cops did not get warrant before collecting an image of the hd and extracting MD5 signatures from the drive. Prosecutor claims that 'hashing' files isn't a search. Judge disagrees, bars evidence.

[ related topics: Embedded Devices Cryptography Erotic Robotics Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Dogs Hardware Hackery Archival Privacy Health Law ]



Entry: 2008-10-28 11:57:54.505268-07 (Red Sex, Blue Sex) != Seuss Sex by meuon comments 1

Red Sex, Blue Sex is a New Yorker article about early pregnancies among evangelical christian youth with amazing revelations like: "evangelical Protestant teen-agers are significantly less likely than other groups to use contraception". Duh. Still, interestingly written and thought out article. The descriptions of "Purity Balls" and such are downright scary to me.

[ related topics: Technology and Culture Erotic Sexual Culture Pop Culture Invention and Design Religion ]



Entry: 2008-10-27 08:35:34.14006-07 More politicking on this election cycle by Dan Lyke comments 1

My car died on Friday, and on the tow into the shop the guy in the truck was listening to a talk radio program discussing San Francisco's Proposition K, which would legalize prostitution. One of the "against" arguments was from someone who self-identified as a stripper, who complained about what this would do to her job.

I think this totally nails the anti-prostitution argument. Whether the competition is to marriage or to strippers, anti-prostitution rules are about removing choice and engaging in protectionism.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Bay Area Marriage ]



Entry: 2008-10-27 08:16:23.852709-07 Proposition (H)8 by Dan Lyke comments 10

Mormons face flak for backing Proposition 8:

"Don't think they're all against you," said Alonso, 27, explaining that she was Mormon and that despite her religious leaders' support of a ballot measure banning same-sex marriage, she was actively opposed.

As she walked away, she said, "I'm afraid that a gay or lesbian friend might hear that I'm Mormon and think that I want to tear their marriage apart."

The story points out that there's a web site, MormonsFor8.com, that's tracking Mormon donors to the pro Prop 8 campaigns.

This weekend, Charlene and I went to the wedding of a relative. The wedding was completely appropriate to their cultural identity and belief system, but as the minister talked about the concept of marriage within their church I was shuddering and thinking "holy crap, I hope they have a safe word." I doubt they do.

If churches want to define marriage in that way, that's fine, but the government has no place being involved in a religious institution that's that narrow. Were these various factions calling for a constitutional amendment to remove any sanction of marriage by the state, despite my use of that short-hand to make some contract agreements easier, I'd vote for it. However, the campaign against Proposition 8 is based on building a more restrictive culture with less options, and it scares the hell out of me.

So if pressure is being put on the believers in a church to filter up and change the organization higher up, so be it.

[ related topics: California Culture Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage Religion ]



Entry: 2008-10-22 05:06:23.443068-07 Mill in love by Dan Lyke comments 0

Over at Eros Blog, Bacchus excerpts a few passages on the complicated romantic situation of John Stuart Mill from this New Yorker review of a new biography of Mill.

[ related topics: History Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-10-21 05:56:34.256649-07 Obscenity outrage OTD by Dan Lyke comments 1

I saw this go by earlier, but my outrage meter is generally so pegged that it just flew by. Violet Blue talks about Christopher Handley, a comic book collector who's facing 20 years in prison for the content of some comics shipped from Japan (Manga.About.com page which links to the CBLDF page on the Christopher Handley case). As Renegade Evolution said:

Ahem, attention morality police and smut patrol: fuck off, for real. The first amendment is not a goddamn suggestion…

The thought police are out there.

[ related topics: Books Comics Sexual Culture Civil Liberties ]



Entry: 2008-10-16 05:23:41.250974-07 Sadness is by Dan Lyke comments 0

Yesterday, Brad twittered:

Because this is what we are supposed to do in America. We're supposed to help each other out. http://twitter.com/cw/statuses/961326127

So I followed that link, in which Chris Wetherell said:

Sadness is: a voter with hand tremors asking my gay co-worker to help mark her ballot to remove rights of gay couples in FL. He did.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Civil Liberties ]



Entry: 2008-10-12 08:45:05.225982-07 un-sexy sexy by Dan Lyke comments 0

Paris intellectuals make case for porn: Film festival's X-rated action is 'by and for women' is just the usual fluff piece on, I hate to say it this way but, yet another "women make and like porn too" film festival. However, one of the comments in the Sensible Erection thread that linked to that article is worth a shout-out, the comment by Omegaphobic at 11:08am GMT on 12th Oct is a good rant about why commercial porn is so un-sexy.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-10-11 08:44:09.819061-07 Sex news of the moment by Dan Lyke comments 3

Remember all of that hullabaloo over how circumcision prevents HIV? Circumcision HIV impact doubted. Via a Week in sex news roundup over at sexuality.about.com, which also asks:

Did you know that eHarmony claims responsibility for 43,000 marriages each year in the U.S.? Doesn’t that mean, statistically speaking, that they are also responsible for 21,500 divorces each year? Shouldn’t they be stopped?

[ related topics: Erotic Monty Python Health Sexual Culture Sociology Current Events Gambling ]



Entry: 2008-10-10 14:50:05.358498-07 Thought of the moment by Dan Lyke comments 1

Difference between gay and straight? About a six-pack. McCain-Palin? Appealing to Joe Six-pack. I'm not sure if these two things are related.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Politics ]



Entry: 2008-10-10 13:34:38.237067-07 NSA misdeeds by Dan Lyke comments 0

Why is unfettered NSA wiretapping bad? Report: NSA listened in on personal military calls:

The linguists said National Security Agency interceptors routinely monitored and recorded the private calls of U.S. military personnel, Red Cross and other humanitarian workers; personal discussions that had entertainment value— pillow talk or phone sex— were shared among intercept operators, they said.

If you don't give up your privacy, the terrorists will have won.

[ related topics: Erotic Privacy Sexual Culture Interactive Drama ]



Entry: 2008-10-09 16:28:58.735987-07 Getting a leg Over by petronius comments 0

Sex Ed comix, with an Irish accent. There is a sound track.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Education ]



Entry: 2008-10-09 07:17:28.707643-07 AA filters in-flight porn by Dan Lyke comments 2

American Airlines announces that it will filter porn on in-flight internet services:

American, the nation's largest carrier, said it hasn't gotten reports of passengers viewing "inappropriate content" on the Gogo in-flight service but said filtering was "an appropriate measure to take."

Oooookay. So, you spend your mumbledy-mumbledy bucks on your in-flight internet services, and then you discover that, as EKR over at Educated Guesswork points out, someone has decided that Mother Jones is porn (we already know that Flutterby is), and...? I can't see this working out well for customers or for the airline, but, in light of Violet Blue's "sex doesn't sell" observation, it disturbs me that this sort of stupidity is seen as a good business move.

But then, in this socialized economy, claiming business hardship and sucking off government funds while rewarding the executive team lavishly is the norm, so maybe bad business moves are good business moves in this context. And airlines have a hell of a lot of experience in sucking off the public teat.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Net Culture Archival moron Aviation Current Events Work, productivity and environment Economics ]



Entry: 2008-10-09 05:40:04.884488-07 Sex doesn't sell by Dan Lyke comments 2

I wish that Violet Blue: Sex doesn't sell went a little deeper into the topic, she starts by pointing out that the Village Voice has dropped Rachel Kramer Bussel, Audacia Ray (who has her own list of recent dropped sex columns) and Tristan Taormino, along with various other media cutbacks, She asks a few questions of Steve Hall, of Adrants, but I think there's room to go much deeper on this topic.

I'm not sure how to structure that essay, though, I know that the world feels a lot less sexy of late, I think there's a metaphor for a lot of stuff in how the nation is embracing a "sex is something you use to force unwilling teenagers into marriage" former beauty pageant queen as a candidate for the Vice Presidency, and I think that there's also a metaphor for "beauty pageants" in that. I think sex in advertising is really more the unfulfilled promise of sex, Maybe it's that repression sells, "can't have that, so have this beer instead".

Anyway, no answers here.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Beer Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage Writing Consumerism and advertising ]



Entry: 2008-10-05 18:24:29.45577-07 Two stolen from SE by Dan Lyke comments 12

Steve Warshak, "Enzyte" penis enlargement fraudster, sentenced to 25 years in prison and $93,000 in fines:

Berkeley Premium Nutraceuticals and other defendants in the case were ordered to forfeit more than $500 million.

This is the winner who sold the placebo, and when refunds were requested asked for a note from the purchaser's doctor verifying that, in fact, the purchaser had a small penis. Via

And House in Saginaw sells for $1.75 on eBay:

She will pay additional charges, aside from the dollar and change it cost her to win the auction. Back taxes and a trash/weed clean-up will set the final price tag around $850. The fee is due by Tuesday, March 31, or the city will foreclose on the property.

Half of me, exposed to California, thinks we're overpopulated and houses will continue to go up because of population pressures. The other half of me... Apparently the purchaser isn't going to go see the property, just try to flip it, so we'll never find out how many days it takes to hitch-hike to Saginaw now Via.

[ related topics: California Culture Sexual Culture Bay Area Current Events Politics Real Estate Law ]



Entry: 2008-09-29 15:02:50.073195-07 Faith based prostitution by Dan Lyke comments 1

Faith based prostitution:

But in his latest court argument, the Tucson man says he hired women at Angel's Heaven Relaxation Spa — near University Medical Center — not to sell sex but to comfort the afflicted through the religious act of "laying on of hands."

As taxpayers are being screwed, I'm happy that someone may be getting off.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Religion ]



Entry: 2008-09-29 05:58:22.912972-07 The Shrinking Public Square by Dan Lyke comments 1

Next up on the non-fiction reading list is Dishonorable Passions: Sodomy Laws in America[Wiki], by William N. Eskridge, Jr[Wiki]. It's not a light read, and I'm just working my way through the 1881-1935 chapter right now, but what strikes me is how strongly correlated, throughout history, the anti-pornography and anti non-procreative sexual practices forces have been with those who are against any sort of equal rights for women.

These things come in waves, and just because we've made tremendous strides in the past four decades or so doesn't mean it can't all come crashing down.

In this new millenium we have been backsliding quite a bit, Chris over at Sex in the Public Square talks about The Shrinking Public Square, on Audacia Ray's struggles with CitiBank, iTunes, and Google Checkout.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture History Weblogs Civil Liberties ]



Entry: 2008-09-19 09:11:39.90058-07 explicit physiology education by Dan Lyke comments 0

I once heard Carol Queen assert that much of the "common knowledge" of the physiology of sexual organs in the human female is messed up by the selection bias of cadavers that get dissected: Intact corpses tend to come from old people, and that impacts how we learn about internal physiology.

For a look at some of what's been learned about that, Betty Dodson sketches the internal structures of the clitoris (Via Susie Bright), and, if you're up for something more explicit, this YouPorn video of a masturbating woman's vulva has some amazing opening up and lubrication in quantities that only a few years ago were commonly thought to come from urine.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Video Physiology ]



Entry: 2008-09-18 05:34:14.165208-07 Porn up, rape down by Dan Lyke comments 0

Porn up, rape down (PDF) (Google HTML) (SSRN link) by Anthony D'Amato of the Northwestern University School of Law:

There is, however, one social factor that correlates almost exactly with the rape statistics. The American public is probably not ready to believe it. My theory is that the sharp rise in access to pornography accounts for the decline in rape. The correlation is inverse: the more pornography, the less rape. It is like the inverse correlation: the more police officers on the street, the less crime.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2008-09-17 15:15:49.43694-07 May require clean-up by Dan Lyke comments 0

From Violet Blue, who credits Thomas Roche with the discovery (this image screencap and bolding/emphasis is mine):

'This article may require cleanup' note from Wikipedia 'bukakke' entry when searching on Google for that term

[Edit: Thomas Roche's original Google 'bukakke' blog entry]

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2008-09-04 09:18:37.449905-07 Performance in bed by Dan Lyke comments 0

QOTD: TheBrad on spam:

Spam e-mail encourages me to "say goodbye to poor performance in bed". Heck, I do that already, except I try to be polite about it.

[ related topics: Spam Quotes Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-09-04 08:02:15.975613-07 Emanuel Haldeman-Julius by Dan Lyke comments 0

This MeFi entry pointed to a fairly long article The Believer - The Henry Ford of Literature, about publisher Emanuel Haldeman-Julius and his "Blue Books" of the early 20th century, inexpensive editions of the classics interspersed with books on sex ed, contraception, and similar subversive ideas.

In the midst of his publishing heyday, when asked how he might be remembered, Haldeman-Julius speculated that his obituary would mention how “I sold hundreds of millions of [books] and usefully served a portion of my generation with fairness, sincerity, and intelligence…. It may mention my forthright attacks on all forms of Supernaturalism, Mysticism, Fundamentalism, and respectable and dignified bunk in general.

“It may even go so far as to say that I changed the reading habits of Americans and created millions of new readers for the book publishers who followed me.”

The article itself kind of drags, Haldeman-Julius sounded like an interesting guy who had troubles with the establishment, but it's the sort of tale that has similar endings to so many in the 1950s: his downfall included publishing stuff critical of the FBI, which resulted in investigations by the IRS, and eventually ended up with him found floating in his swimming pool.

What was interesting, though, was this MeFi comment comparing Mike Gunderloy's efforts with Factsheet 5 to those of Emanuel Haldeman-Julius:

These people, institutions, events that make a huge difference but are unknown a generation later -- they're amazing to me. It seems to me it's a clear error to say that we learn they didn't matter because no one chooses to remember them, but that seems to be the way we're going in a Wiki-world, "Wisdom of Crowds" future.

[ related topics: Books Sexual Culture Politics Sociology ]



Entry: 2008-09-02 06:10:14.153093-07 Sarah Palin silliness by Dan Lyke comments 19

QOTD: From this list of questions sent to 2006 candidates for Governor of Alaska, where the question was:

Are you offended by the phrase “Under God” in the Pledge of Allegiance? Why or why not?

Sarah Palin[Wiki] replied

Not on your life. If it was good enough for the founding fathers, its good enough for me and I’ll fight in defense of our Pledge of Allegiance.

As was said over at Danger West, "If English was good enough for Jesus...".

And, of course, even the mainstream media is questioning Sarah Palin's stance on sex education issues given that her 17 year old daughter is 5 months pregnant.

It's like the Republicans actively want to lose this election.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Humor Education Alaska Quotes Religion Politics moron ]



Entry: 2008-08-30 17:26:02.765489-07 Sex hour? We don't even get a 10 minute coffee break! by Dan Lyke comments 1

Suspended cop: Sex with prostitute wasn't fun, it was work (Via)

[ related topics: Sexual Culture moron Law Enforcement ]



Entry: 2008-08-29 07:50:18.40601-07 Feminist in Training by Dan Lyke comments 2

Mark Hershberger passed along the story of these Feminist in Training stickers, with the expectation that I'd comment a bit.

It's the tale of a couple of women at MIT who noticed a laptop that had a yellow sticker on it. The text read "Babe crossing next 5km", and the associated icon was three women in a line, you can tell that the stick figures are women because of the breasts and ponytails, on hands and knees.

They talked with the owner, told him what they found offensive about the sticker (and I wish the article gave a little more detail there), and worked with the owner to come up with a solution, which was a circle with a slash to go over the existing sticker, with the label "feminist in training" across the slash.

So, what to comment on? I understand why the women in question found the initial sticker in poor taste, I did, and it reminded me of the cover to the "Snoop Doggy Dogg Doggystyle" album, but I'm not sure that the "solution", the big negative slashed circle, speaks to me either.

A young woman across the street has a bumper sticker that I think is kind of cool, it's done in the style of the chrome buxom woman on the iconic mud flaps, except she's holding a book. We know that librarians are hawt, but I like that sticker because it takes the trashy image and says "no, you want really sexy, make her smart".

The slashed circle, on the other hand, isn't opening a dialog, isn't asking why that imagery happened to appeal to the laptop's owner, it's saying "no! bad dog! get down!". Which, I suppose, is why I'd like to hear his side of the story as well.

[ related topics: Political Correctness Books Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2008-08-26 10:03:08.882201-07 People trade sex for favors by Dan Lyke comments 2

Anti-news: People barter sex for goods and services:

A recent study of 475 University of Michigan undergraduates ages 17 to 26 found that 27 percent of the men and 14 percent of the women who weren't in a committed relationship had offered someone favors or gifts -- help prepping for a test, laundry washing, tickets to a college football game -- in exchange for sex. On the flip side, 5 percent of the men surveyed and 9 percent of the women said they'd attempted to trade sex for such freebies.

From the SE entry:

As Fleshbot says: it’s called “dating”.

Update: that Fleshbot entry.

[ related topics: Education Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2008-08-23 06:08:18.320728-07 Polygamous men live longer by Dan Lyke comments 2

Polygamous males live longer:

After accounting for socioeconomic differences, men aged over 60 from 140 countries that practice polygamy to varying degrees lived on average 12% longer than men from 49 mostly monogamous nations, says Virpi Lummaa, an ecologist at the University of Sheffield, UK.

Via.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Marriage ]



Entry: 2008-08-22 08:35:05.980852-07 SIECUS state profiles by Dan Lyke comments 3

The Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States has released A Portrait of Sexuality Education and Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Programs in the States (Fiscal Year 2007 Edition), a comprehensive profile of sex ed with profiles for individual states. RH Realith Check: Gaining Ground on Sex Ed: Five Years of SIECUS State Profiles gives the run-down:

The real victims in this situation continue to be the young people who are receiving misleading, biased, or false information through tax-payer funded abstinence-only-until-marriage programs, and who have missed the opportunity to receive good, comprehensive sex education. The teen birth rate is up 3 percent nationally, the first time in 15 years that we have seen any increase, and one in four teenage girls is infected with an STD. ...

Via.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Education Politics Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2008-08-15 14:08:41.047143-07 Why we have an engineering shortage by Dan Lyke comments 1

Hat tip to Rafe who pointed here. Uh. Yeah. If I'd been exposed to that billboard while growing up, I'd have done a lot more to avoid the technical fields.

[ related topics: Photography Consumerism and advertising moron Sexual Culture Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2008-08-13 08:47:54.981428-07 stolen sex toys by Dan Lyke comments 2

Houston Police have "lost" $50,000 worth of sex toys from their evidence stash. A commenter over at Gloria Brame's entry says it best:

The article should read: "Police are baffled by the disappearance of these items, but also feel more content in their marriages than they have in ages..."

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law Enforcement moron Humor ]



Entry: 2008-08-13 08:44:03.609327-07 Not quite jam and jerusalem by Dan Lyke comments 0

Not quite jam and Jerusalem: Women's Institute ladies toured the world in search of the perfect brothel (Via). Spurred on by the murders of five prostitutes in November and December 2006, the ladies of the Womens Institute of Hampshire England decided to do something to protect women: Legalize prostitution in Hampshire.

Apparently there's a documentary now on their search for the perfect brothel on which to model their legalization efforts. I'd love to see the documentary, but the article's a nice light fluff piece, with a giggly picture of the ladies visiting the Bunny Ranch in Nevada.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-08-13 08:20:16.850725-07 Plans B Damned by Dan Lyke comments 0

Nikol Hasler, of the very funny and worth watching Midwest Teen Sex Show, writes about trying to obtain "Plan B" emergency contraception: Plans B Damned: The Quest for Emergency Contraception.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Politics ]



Entry: 2008-08-12 16:21:16.76159-07 I ♥ Pornography by Dan Lyke comments 1

Of all of the bumper stickers on my car, the "I ♥ Pornography" one was the one that raised the most negative comment. Eventually it got removed, partially because the stickers were looking ratty, but also because when Charlene occasionally borrowed my car the school administrators were asking her to park well away from the school.

When I pulled it off, I commented that without it and "Celebrate Perversity", the rest of the bumper stickers were really superfluous, but people have often wondered why. After all, I find most pornography dreadfully boring, the overly made-up "Paris Hilton" look-alikes of the mainstream leave me cold, I read the blog at Kink.com but find the films themselves giggly-silly, and so on. Yesterday evening Charlene and I had a bit of driving to do, and on the way she was reading from Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life[Wiki], which had this quote from George Bernanos:

I have often thought for a long time now that if, some day, the increasing efficiency for the technique of destruction finally causes our species to disappear from the earth, it will not be cruelty that will be responsible for our extinction and still less, of course, the indignation that cruelty awakens and the reprisals and vengeance that it brings upon itself ... but the docility, the lack of responsibility of the modern man, his base and subservient acceptance of every common decree. The horrors that we have seen, the still greater horrors that we shall presently see, are not signs that rebels, insubordinate untamable men are increasing in number throughout the world, but rather that there is a constant increas in the number of obedient, docile men.

That, right there, is why "I ♥ Pornography".

So it is with that in mind that I link to a few bits of commentary about the conviction of Karen Fletcher, aka "The Red Rose", on obscenity charges stemming from some stories she wrote and published on a web site. As all the commenters say, her stories were abhorrent, I want nothing of their content, but I find the notion that we're convicting people for sharing their thoughts to be yet another step in the march towards that evil of docility. Taken alone it's easy to dismiss her conviction, or the bullshit security theater that the TSA and U.S. Customs inflict on us, or the cop who hollers at the passenger in the car that was speeding because, as he explains to his partner, "this guy doesn't seem like he's getting it", but as a pattern it bodes very ill for the future of our culture.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Children and growing up Law ]



Entry: 2008-08-06 14:45:06.642108-07 TV destroying marriage by Dan Lyke comments 0

Forbes reports on the Parents Television Council's "Happily Never After" study of prime time television:

"Today's prime-time television programming is not merely indifferent to the institution of marriage and the stabilizing role it plays in our society," the study reports, "it seems to be actively seeking to undermine marriage by consistently painting it in a negative light."

As a television non-watcher I have trouble second-guessing this study, but, yeah, I'm sure that the "Everybody Loves Raymond" portrayal of marriage is just awful compared to, say, "The Honeymooners" ("Bang, zoom, straight to the moon!" and "One of these days … one of these days … POW, right in the kisser!") or "I Love Lucy".

Gloria Brame has a few additional comments.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage Technology and Culture Television Current Events ]



Entry: 2008-08-06 07:12:17.35005-07 Random stats by Dan Lyke comments 1

Interesting statistics of the moment, from the U.S. Department of Justice Bureau of Justice Statistics Criminal Offenders Statistics: Recidivism rate in the general released-from-prison population, 67.5% re-arrested, 46.9% re-convicted, and 25.4% re-sentenced. Among sex offenders, 43% were likely to be re-arrested, but only 5.3% were likely to be arrested for another sex crime.

Of course that's four times more likely than any other person released from prison is likely to be to commit a sex crime, 1.3%, but it's something to think about in the context of, say, the details of sex offenders by any address in California.

[ related topics: California Culture Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Law ]



Entry: 2008-08-01 22:46:40.303826-07 Penis Reduction Pills by Dan Lyke comments 0

Re-discovered in searching for more stuff on vitamin manufacturing, Penis Reduction Pills, boldly labeled placebo.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2008-07-24 05:32:42.101231-07 broader definition of lesbian by Dan Lyke comments 0

Greek court rules that you can be a lesbian even if you're not from the island of Lesbos.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events ]



Entry: 2008-07-22 17:40:38.026475-07 COPA struck down again by Dan Lyke comments 1

Parts of COPA struck down, yet again.

[ related topics: Net Culture Politics Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-07-16 07:27:14.08793-07 Friends with Benefits by Dan Lyke comments 0

Giggle: "Friends with Benefits" benefits summary prospectus.

[ related topics: Humor Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-07-14 09:21:39.135302-07 Random sexual culture links by Dan Lyke comments 3

Figleaf points out that the success numbers on vasectomy reversals may be biased and that vasectomies are probably actually a good mechanism for young men to use for temporary birth control.

Don Mitchell looks at the biology of sexual "morality", why outrage against public figures and sexual scandals might be something rooted deep in our simian hind-brains. (Thanks to Brainwagon for the link to Don Mitchell's Blog)

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2008-07-01 06:28:50.769351-07 Orwell on sexual repression by Dan Lyke comments 0

Fetch me my axe: Quote of the Day 6/12/06, repeated here in its entirety:

Unlike Winston, [Julia] had grasped the inner meaning of the Party's sexual puritanism. It was not merely that the sex instinct created a world of its own which was outside the Party's control and which therefore had to be destroyed if possible. What was more important was that sexual privation induced hysteria, which was desirable because it could be transformed into war-fever and leader-worship. The way she put it was:

"When you make love you're using up energy; and afterwards you feel happy and don't give a damn for anything. They can't bear for you to feel like that. They want you to be bursting with energy all the time. All this marching up and down and cheering and waving flags is simply sex gone sour. If you're happy inside yourself, why should you get excited about Big Brother and the Three-Year Plans and the Two Minutes Hate and all the rest of their bloody rot?"

That was very true, he thought...For how could the fear, the hatred, and the lunatic credulity which the Party needed in its members be kept at the right pitch, except by bottling down some powerful instinct and using it as a driving force?

Since I did nothing here but rip off the entire quote, here's a link to Fetch me my axe, and I got there from Sex In The Public Square.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture History Quotes ]



Entry: 2008-06-30 12:00:02.436011-07 Dress like a Mormon by ebradway comments 1

I don't think polyamorists have a particular code of style - but polygamists sure do! And now that the FLDS families are reunited, they are leveraging that fame into a web fashion industry.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Fashion ]



Entry: 2008-06-17 08:54:24.077786-07 gender roles by Dan Lyke comments 2

During one of the recent Flutterby discussions on gender roles, a regular here forwarded me How I Became A Mensch, in which the male author praises his return to more traditional gender roles. In the process he both lambastes the Maoist tendencies of some early feminists, and describes how at 50, he finally figured out the issues that led to the sort of relationship that worked for him:

A woman surrenders her power, in trust. This is how a woman expresses her love: by trusting. In this way, women actually empower men. If a man betrays this trust, he loses his power.

In return for her power, a woman gets what she really wants: a man's power expressed as his intense, undivided love.

Except, of course, this isn't just for him, this is his proscription for all men and women. It doesn't take much searching to find pretty strong counter-examples, like the tale of this woman.

This has been sitting in my tab list next to How To Be A Feminist Boyfriend, a similarly proscriptive and stereotypical rant from the other side of the fence, and one which leads me to want to write a "how to be a feminist girlfriend" which includes tasks like "change your own damned oil/lightbulbs/...".

In short, in both cases my response was that though there's a veneer on both that looks like truth, and though I'm the last person to deny people the option of consensual dominant or submissive relationship choices, I believe that both are falling into the trap of the "local minimum". It's easier to buy into the existing cultural stereotypes, and to treat your partner solely as an expression of that stereotype, than to build the sorts of relationships that we'd actually thrive on.

Then, with the snarky tag Next Up, Researches Suggest Water May Run Downhill, Figleaf linked to this New York Times article, "Same Sex Couples Offer Insight Into Gender And Marriage":

"Heterosexual married women live with a lot of anger about having to do the tasks not only in the house but in the relationship," said Esther D. Rothblum, a professor of women's studies at San Diego State University. "That's very different than what same-sex couples and heterosexual men live with."

Other studies show that what couples argue about is far less important than how they argue. The egalitarian nature of same-sex relationships appears to spill over into how those couples resolve conflict.

Which would suggest that people tend to get along much better when they can view each other as... well... people, rather than, say, "a rudderless boat" (that needs a man as a rudder).

Having said that, evidence continues to accumulate that some gender reactions are innate (Via), but that doesn't mean that we have to treat those reactions as inferior or superior, just as potential traits of the individual to whom we are relating.

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Entry: 2008-06-16 08:47:15.059208-07 Penis Reduction Pills by Dan Lyke comments 0

Why didn't I think of that? Penis Reduction Pills

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Entry: 2008-06-10 15:29:42.582882-07 Rule 34 by Dan Lyke comments 6

QOTD:

I've seen men in fur suits masturbating on stuffed animals. I've seen high heels stepping on snails. I've seen women farting on birthday cakes. I've seen guys wearing white socks in two inches of water in the bathtub. I've seen a tutorial on how to jack-off with a pair of Keds. And I've seen some weird stuff, too.

And if you're not interested in following that link to see the weird stuff (although the essay is rather funny and the weird stuff is safely behind yet another link), XKCD explains "Rule 34".

Got that link from Mefi, which has this gem from "Pastabagel" in the comments:

I look at the porn coming out of Germany and Japan, and I think, man, I really hope we don't lose this war in Iraq.

[ related topics: Comics Sexual Culture Quotes Humor ]



Entry: 2008-06-08 10:11:56.000369-07 And the band plays on by meuon comments 1

http://www.vimeo.com/1109226

Is Radiohead's Nude played by a bunch of HD's as speakers, a printer as drum set.. a Sinclair ZX Spectrum as Rhythm and Lead.. and a scanjet as Bass. Let it play past the first 20 seconds. Awesome.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture History Music Nudity ]



Entry: 2008-06-03 14:05:49.328025-07 vibrator history by Dan Lyke comments 4

I'm sure there's nothing here that regular Flutterby readers aren't familiar with, but here's a short history of vibrators. (Via)

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-06-03 11:21:38.193422-07 Why even call it Sex Ed? by meuon comments 3

Salt Lake Tribune Article about a "Sex Ed" teacher that may have answered questions about "homosexual sex, oral sex and masturbation".

The kids admit they were asking the questions.

If they can't ask questions to their teacher, and I'm guessing they can't ask their parents and get a straight answer... that leaves them the internet and experimentation with each other.

The icing on the cake:

Rep. Carl Wimmer, R-Herriman, opened a bill file this week and said he will introduce legislation in January that would enforce criminal penalties on teachers who deviate from state law governing sex education, which requires that it focus on physical and emotional development of adolescents, healthy relationships and the threat and prevention of diseases. The law prohibits promoting or encouraging sexual behavior. His bill also would create a registry to record the names of teachers who violate the law.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Interactive Drama Food - Cake Net Culture Health Education Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2008-06-02 14:46:56.524023-07 True Love Waits by Dan Lyke comments 6

K-Mart is selling "True Love Waits" pants:

Whether she is lounging around the house, going to practice, or doing her chores. These soft athletic style crop pants will keep her comfy. Perfect for wearing with her favorite sweatshirt or tee. These athletic pants boldly proclaim just where she stands by pointing out that "True Love Waits" in a large screen print on the front and back of these pants.

Gotten to from here, which I got to from here which

Leaving aside snide comments about the desirability of reproduction amongst K-Mart customers (remember that "abstinence education" graduates have higher unplanned pregnancy rates than graduates of sex education classes that teach all the facts), I'd like to address two points.

First, that these are marketed to parents buying for their daughters, meshing nicely with Figleaf's musings on our cultural dictate of women as 'the "no-sex" class', and feeding into a very Taliban-esque notion that women are responsible for all the abstinence decisions.

Unless, of course, someone can find these in men's styles, in which case that'd negate my second point: I can think of nothing that deserves to be worn in some completely ironic context more. I'm thinking "Burning Man", with the crotch cut out of 'em, or similar. But the appear to be unavailable in my size. Damn.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Burning Man Clothing Children and growing up Religion ]



Entry: 2008-06-02 14:13:28.309241-07 Ernie Griffith speaks by Dan Lyke comments 0

QOTD: Boxer Ernie Griffith muses on killing Benny Paret in a match, and his sexuality:

I keep thinking how strange it is ... I kill a man and most people understand and forgive me. However, I love a man, and to so many people this is an unforgivable sin; this makes me an evil person. So, even though I never went to jail, I have been in prison almost all my life.

Via.

[ related topics: Books Sexual Culture Quotes ]



Entry: 2008-05-31 13:05:55.345871-07 Poison as medicine by Dan Lyke comments 0

Must read: Heather Corinna on counseling a woman in an abusive relationship brought in for an abortion:

By my perspective, it was this level of total delusion that his words were meaningful, that his control over the woman he was married to was sovereign and that I'd recognize that which struck me first and foremost. I couldn't believe, through the whole exchange, that it was happening, that this guy could not know that he was trying to speak a language to me which was a long-dead language that even if I recognized some of the words, didn't mean shit to me.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



Entry: 2008-05-15 10:38:23.827564-07 Go California! by Dan Lyke comments 0

California State Supreme Court overturns same sex marriage ban. Woot!

[ related topics: California Culture Erotic Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



Entry: 2008-05-02 07:42:18.907948-07 Swingers save Hollywood? by Dan Lyke comments 0

Yale Law Journal: How 'Swingers' Might Save Hollywood from a Federal Pornography Statute, on the idiocies of 2257 and the implications that it has towards more mainstream movies and their artistic content as obscenity prosecutions increase.

[ related topics: Art & Culture Movies Sexual Culture Sexual Culture - U.S. Code Title 18 Section 2257 ]



Entry: 2008-04-30 09:05:43.642405-07 Wacky news by Dan Lyke comments 1

Teenager who "...had used his cellular telephone Monday night to call his mom and tell her he tripped, broke his leg and was lost..." was found, stoned off his gourd, sans broken leg, after a search in the Santa Cruz mountains. Normally something I'd just skip over but for this quote, from Cal Fire Capt. Bill Finch:

Finch says the teen "was really gorked" when rescuers found him standing at the bottom of a ravine. The cost of the search was estimated at up to $10,000.

In other news, People of Lesbos take gay groups to court over use of the term "Lesbian":

"My sister can't say she is a Lesbian," said Dimitris Lambrou. "Our geographical designation has been usurped by certain ladies who have no connection whatsoever with Lesbos," he said.

[ related topics: Drugs Sexual Culture Current Events Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2008-04-23 09:49:33.455314-07 Masturbation still healthy by Dan Lyke comments 5

Masturbation may prevent prostate cancer:

The researchers surveyed more than 1,000 men who had developed prostate cancer, and 1,250 men who had not. They found that men who had ejaculated the most between the ages of 20 and 50 were the least likely to get cancer. Men who ejaculated more than five times each week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer.

I think we've talked about this study or a similar one before, because I remember considering that ejaculations from partner sex had higher risks from other factors, which is why masturbation caused such a huge spike.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events ]



Entry: 2008-04-21 20:06:30.814026-07 Marriage, poverty & taxpayer costs by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Fiscal Costs of Marriage and Divorce:

Many of the gains from marriage that they count are gains mainly from forcing poor single women to live with others, thereby realizing economies of scale. If there is a fiscal case to be made for encouraging such behavior, the same fiscal case suggests we should encourage them to live with just about anyone - a same-sex lover, a polygamous family, or even with good friends. Yet for some reason, the advocates seem reluctant to extend their argument to its natural conclusion.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



Entry: 2008-03-31 20:40:13.548381-07 Homophobia and homosexual arousal by Dan Lyke comments 4

Is homophobia associated with homosexual arousal?, Adams HE, Wright LW Jr, Lohr BA. Department of Psychology, University of Georgia, Athens 30602-3013, USA.

The authors investigated the role of homosexual arousal in exclusively heterosexual men who admitted negative affect toward homosexual individuals. Participants consisted of a group of homophobic men (n = 35) and a group of nonhomophobic men (n = 29); they were assigned to groups on the basis of their scores on the Index of Homophobia (W. W. Hudson & W. A. Ricketts, 1980). The men were exposed to sexually explicit erotic stimuli consisting of heterosexual, male homosexual, and lesbian videotapes, and changes in penile circumference were monitored. They also completed an Aggression Questionnaire (A. H. Buss & M. Perry, 1992). Both groups exhibited increases in penile circumference to the heterosexual and female homosexual videos. Only the homophobic men showed an increase in penile erection to male homosexual stimuli. The groups did not differ in aggression. Homophobia is apparently associated with homosexual arousal that the homophobic individual is either unaware of or denies.

Via Elf.

[ related topics: Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-03-31 10:20:32.71315-07 the myth of sex trafficking by Dan Lyke comments 0

I have a problem: I've come to a number of conclusions about the world, how it works, and what the impacts of various activities are on our culture. So when I see things like New Statesman reviewing Sex at the Margins: Migration, Labour Markets and the Rescue Industry, a book debunking the current deluge of "sex trafficking" statistics, I think "well duh" and "boy, I wish a lot of people would read this".

I'm sure that on the other side there are other books that they'd like me to read, but I've been through a few and have largely discounted them, just as I'm sure they'll discount a rational look that might actually help to alter the circumstances of those who need a hand up because doing so would undermine the myth that's keeping various "helping" organizations flush with cash.

[ related topics: Books Sexual Culture Sociology Economics Politics ]



Entry: 2008-03-31 09:51:00.70152-07 Thatcher: all woman by Dan Lyke comments 0

Somewhere recently, perhaps it was last week's episode of Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me, I heard a discussion impugning Margaret Thatcher's womanhood, so it amused me to see this aside in a New Yorker look at director David Lean:

("She is all woman, all woman, all woman!" he hissed excitedly to Alec Guinness as they surveyed the Prime Minister during a soirée at 10 Downing Street. "And heavens, with his experience he would have known," Guinness added later in his journal.)

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality ]



Entry: 2008-03-31 07:17:09.105647-07 Feminist Carnival by Dan Lyke comments 0

I mentioned this in the Sex workers in Bolivia abandoned by feminist groups: The Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy #1.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Civil Liberties ]



Entry: 2008-03-30 13:28:00.588603-07 Hyperlink entrapment by Dan Lyke comments 10

A bunch of people have been referencing This CNET article about the FBI posting fake "child porn" hyperlinks to get search warrants against the IP addresses that visit them (one source), this seems horribly fraught with danger: If someone gets a hold of one of these URLs, they can then spam all of their enemies, but it seems even worse than that: If the courts are upholding these searches as valid, what's to stop the FBI from sending an email with an embedded image and camping out in front of the appropriate house, waiting for that mail to get read?

Seems like that slippery slope is getting very very steep.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Privacy Current Events Law ]



Entry: 2008-03-28 17:50:54.436411-07 Male privilege by Dan Lyke comments 0

My own little Dirty Found, Part One, in which Debra explores an early relationship with pornography:

... We'd been robbed, not in the traditional sense of having something of value stolen from us, but in a way that reminded me that we were girls and not entitled to the things of men.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-03-25 07:40:52.971884-07 Comprehensive sex ed may lower teen pregnancy by Dan Lyke comments 1

Anti-news: Comprehensive sex ed may cut teen pregnancy rates:

Using data from a 2002 national survey, researchers found that among more than 1,700 unmarried, heterosexual teens between 15 and 19 years old, those who'd received comprehensive sex ed in school were 60 percent less likely to have been pregnant or gotten someone pregnant than teens who'd had no formal sex education.

Via. Such quick one-offs have mostly dropped off my radar, but I've had a few "what the average American is learning from the mainstream media" moments recently, and sanity needs more coverage.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Sexual Culture Pop Culture Education Current Events Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2008-03-19 06:31:32.47288-07 political honesty by Dan Lyke comments 6

In taking over for the disgraced Eliot Spitzer[Wiki], new New York Governor David A. Paterson and his wife, Michelle Paige Paterson state right up-front that they've had affairs. Via Sexual Intelligence.

[ related topics: New York Sexual Culture Marriage Politics ]



Entry: 2008-03-18 06:24:39.011158-07 The end of alt porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

The End of Alt: A Memoir:

When I was a wide eyed nineteen year old with a digital camera and a dream, it was a different story: someone like me could (and did) start a porn site -- one that, free from the pressures of the corporate world, could explore different territory from mainstream porn. But the dream is dead, kids. If you want to be in the online porn scene these days, you've got to have cash -- and as a result, "indie" porn ain't so indie anymore.

[ related topics: Photography Sexual Culture Nostalgia Sexual Culture - 2257 Changes ]



Entry: 2008-03-16 08:56:19.758973-07 Playboy Playmates over the years by Dan Lyke comments 0

Playboy Playmates, 1971 to 2008. Note particularly the hair styles, both on the head and elsewhere. One "landing strip" in 1992, but the shaving didn't start in earnest 'til 2k.

[ related topics: Erotic History Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-03-12 07:52:30.045495-07 Sex in parks by Dan Lyke comments 0

Police: Allow Sex in All Dutch Parks:

The draft memorandum says that fines will be maintained for dogs running around off the leash that, for example, cause nuisance to sunbathing or cycling users of the park. "The research showed that many people find this disturbing," according to the alderman.

[ related topics: Bicycling Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Dogs ]



Entry: 2008-03-10 12:08:32.668567-07 Spitzer busted by Dan Lyke comments 17

There are two idiocies here: One, that prostitution is illegal and an incident like this shouldn't destroy a career, but two, that... well... Elliot Spitzer caught soliciting prostitution, which is slightly different than the headline... Okay, make that three idiocies here: The headline reads "Spitzer is Linked to Prostitution Ring", although maybe they're only using that to echo the man's hypocrisy:

In one such case in 2004, Mr. Spitzer spoke with revulsion and anger after announcing the arrest of 16 people for operating a high-end prostitution ring out of Staten Island.

"This was a sophisticated and lucrative operation with a multitiered management structure," Mr. Spitzer said at the time. "It was, however, nothing more than a prostitution ring."

The good news is that hopefully one more lying hypocrite will be tossed out of politics. Alas there's no shortage of replacements.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Politics Law moron ]



Entry: 2008-03-02 06:12:44.085329-08 Debra Hyde publishes by Dan Lyke comments 0

Debra's got another book, and along with Pursed Lips, a website for promoting her printed materials and Thin Air Codex, a web log about ebooks.

[ related topics: Books Weblogs Sexual Culture Erotic ]



Entry: 2008-02-29 09:55:26.919117-08 Swinton coming out by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Daily Mail on Oscar Winner Tilda Swinton coming out with her unconventional relationships.

[ related topics: Movies Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-02-15 08:46:24.298091-08 Notes on sex for the morning by Dan Lyke comments 3

Many of you have probably noticed that the 5th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals has struck down a Texas law making it illegal to promote or sell "obscene devices", ie: dildos:

"Just as in Lawrence, the state here wants to use its laws to enforce a public moral code by restricting private intimate conduct," the appeals judges wrote. "The case is not about public sex. It is not about controlling commerce in sex. It is about controlling what people do in the privacy of their own homes because the state is morally opposed to a certain type of consensual private intimate conduct. This is an insufficient justification after Lawrence."

kendallmck says:

Holy fucking shit. I just realized that THIS IS THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA, LEADER OF THE FREE WORLD, IN 2008, AND WE'RE CELEBRATING THE LEGALIZATION OF MASTURBATION.

WTFFFFFFFFFFFF?????!!!!!

JanieBelle says:

Unfortunately, we won’t be able to have that orgy in Alabama or Mississippi. Sorry ladies, y’all will have to keep using your cell phones on vibrate… until they outlaw that function there, that is.

And apropos of nothing else, I giggled at Elf's response to some spam:

I received this spam today: Do you want your penis to be seven inches?

My first thought was, There's no way I'm cutting any more of it off. Circumcision was enough!

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Spam Privacy Libertarian Law Humor ]



Entry: 2008-02-12 07:46:04.186307-08 Must be love by Dan Lyke comments 1

Overheard comments on relationships, in honor of Valentine's Day (as distinct from that other VD...). Many giggles:

-- "Yes, I told him I have a boyfriend and a girlfriend. I mean I live in San Francisco, don't I?" (Person on cell phone on Montgomery Street, overheard by N. Stricker.)

[ related topics: California Culture Bay Area Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2008-02-08 12:24:25.63235-08 Lose-lose by Dan Lyke comments 1

Lyn's del.icio.us/uncorked feed had TPM: Hillary Campaign Goes To War With MSNBC Over Chelsea "Pimp" Comment and Taylor Marsh: MSNBC's David Shuster: Chelsea 'Pimped Out' by Hillary:

In what world do we allow political pundits to attack a young woman proudly campaigning for her mother, a woman who is running for president, then let them get away with calling her mother a pimp and the daughter a hooker?

When I clicked through the first article I thought "oh, look, there's a political campaign going on", but when I read that second quote, I got pissed off. It's television and campaigning, so I certainly believe that an MSNBC employee could use inappropriate metaphors, and I think it's reasonable to call "mainstream journalism" on such idiocies.

However, that quote pissed me off for another reason: What are we saying when we allow "hooker" to be an insult? Or even "pimp"? A "hooker" is, presumably, a woman who exchanges sexual services for pay, as the line goes, "prostitution is a combination of sex and free enterprise, which of those are you opposed to?". And a pimp is someone who sells those services and provides some protection to the exchange.

Unlike, say, being a senator or a television pundit, neither of those require you to debase your morals and common decency for cash. Neither of those necessarily require lying as a function of the job. Sure, there are bad pimps, but are there any good television pundits? Precious few good senators, that's for sure.

As the old song goes, "...and the pig got up and slowly walked away". I'd really hope to see an outpouring from various sex workers outraged that their professions would be compared to a senator and a hedge fund manager.

So, yeah, David Shuster, shame on you for pandering to an audience that doesn't know any better, but what the hell, they're Republicans, we expect a certain level of knee-jerk ideology and lack of critical thinking, but shame on you too, Taylor Marsh, for your automatic misogyny.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Sexual Culture moron Politics ]



Entry: 2008-02-06 06:26:28.444572-08 Mac vs Windows: Sex Toys by Dan Lyke comments 0

Mac vs Windows: Who spends the most on sex toys? Note the footnote about Linux users...

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Open Source Free Software Macintosh Microsoft ]



Entry: 2008-01-31 06:20:23.317821-08 random linkage by Dan Lyke comments 4

I haven't had much time to go exploring, I'm out in Provo and Orem for the rest of this week, doing some interesting stuff that I'm not going to talk about here much yet, but I did get out to Sundance yesterday evening for dinner at the Foundry Grill, and I left my credit card there, so I'm going to have to drive through Provo Canyon in the twilight again. Damn [giggle]. It's absurd to have a salad of field greens and fresh berries in the middle of freakin' winter in Utah, but the pork chop was divine (so was the salad, just absurd).

So, a couple of links from readers:

[ related topics: Erotic Sports Bicycling Sexual Culture tolkien Humor Currency Consumerism and advertising Current Events Real Estate Law Religion ]



Entry: 2008-01-29 07:18:15.100395-08 9½ Years Behind The Green Door by Dan Lyke comments 0

This MarinIJ article lead me to the official site for 9½ Years Behind The Green Door, a memoir by Simone Corday about stripping at the Mitchell Brothers theater, the scene in San Francisco in the early '80s, and being "Party Artie"'s lover. And a podcast interview that I plan to listen to in a little bit.

[ related topics: Bay Area Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2008-01-25 10:30:47.360144-08 the end of books? by Dan Lyke comments 10

In the context of Susie Bright's note on the end of the Best American Erotica series, Columbine had a little essay about the decline of the independent:

I think that small writers and small publishers and small editors desperately need to find a new way. It's not a question of whether we ever got screwed by the old way or whether we have contempt for the old way; these personal prejudices are no longer germane. What I'm saying, what Susie is saying, is that the old way is about to cease to exist.

Yeah. In the process of this last move I ditched a lot of books. Every new purchase nowadays is thought of in the context of $500 something per square foot (yeah, I know, that's not strictly true, but it's a good back of the envelope), which means that a good case can be made that the space to store a book starts at roughly twelve bucks (and goes up), The vast majority of what I've read for quite a while has been online. Frankly, right now there's such a glut of free (and in many cases not even advertiser supported, but truly free) content that I have trouble spending money on things like, for instance, Susie Bright's podcast.

The only reasons to buy the physical object rather than download it are user interface and something I can pass on to friends (thereby depriving the author of royalties). And even if you're not like me, willing to read on a laptop screen, the user interface problem is in the process of being solved.

I don't know what the answer to Susie's conundrum is, I'm just another person looking for ways to adapt to the changing landscape with my own skill set, but the net is changing our lives as profoundly as the automobile, the telephone and the television changed the lives of our grandparents and great grandparents. Physical objects as proxies for the actual content being purchased are going to go away. The struggle between exposure and revenue stream (that the "'sharing' music is good crowd" are willing to push all the way to the former) is only going to get rougher.

[ related topics: Books Sexual Culture Technology and Culture Writing Consumerism and advertising Television Invention and Design Music Automobiles User Interface Law ]



Entry: 2008-01-23 10:34:28.012463-08 The economics of prostitution by Dan Lyke comments 3

An Empirical Analysis of Street-Level Prostitution, by Steven D. Levitt and Sudhir Alladi Venkatesh (ie: the Freakonomics[Wiki] guy and the street gangs economist). The footnote to the title page warns "Extremely preliminary and incomplete. Please don't cite without prior permission of the authors", but the abstract is gripping:

Combining transaction-level data on street prostitutes with demographic observation and official police force data, we analyze the economics of prostition in Chicago. Prostition, because it is a market, is much more geographically concentrated than other criminal activity. Street prostitutes earn roughly $25-$30 per hour, roughly four times their hourly wage in other activities, but this higher wage represents relatively meager compensation for the significant risk they bear. Prostitution activities are organized very differently across neighborhoods. Where pimps are active, prostitutes appear to do better, with pimps both providing protection and paying efficiency wages. Condoms are used only one-fourth of the time and the price premium for unprotected sex is small. The supply of prostitutes is relatively elastic, as evidenced by the supply response to a 4th of July demand shock. Although technically illegal, punishments are minimal for prostitutes and johns. A prostitute is more likely to have sex with a police officer than to get officially arrested by one. We estimate that there are 4,400 street prostitutes active in Chicago in an average week.

It will be interesting to see how this paper evolves. I find a couple of things fascinating about this summary, but once again we come up against the notion that much of the criminal activity and violence associated with the business is there not just because it's an illegal activity, but because commerce needs enforcement mechanisms, and where the police and law enforcement structure can't be used to make sure that transactions are protected, criminal elements step up to the task. This is much like the theories that the Mafia managed to get a good foothold in the New York City area because they were protecting the Italian neighborhoods from the Irish cops. In fact, as I read further this is exactly that situation, the cops are raping the prostitutes, and the pimps are protecting them.

Via Marginal Revolution, which I got to via Kottke, with more from Kerry Howley, Matthew Yglesias and Radley Balko

[ related topics: Marketing Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Work, productivity and environment Law Economics ]



Entry: 2008-01-15 14:16:22.505239-08 Cheatneutral by Dan Lyke comments 2

Cheatneutral - Helping you because you can't help yourself:

Cheatneutral offsets your cheating by funding someone else to be faithful and NOT cheat. This neutralises the pain and unhappy emotion and leaves you with a clear conscience.

[ related topics: Humor Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-12-23 13:06:32.936203-08 Hot monkey sex by Dan Lyke comments 2

Study reveals why monkeys shout during sex:

Female monkeys may shout during sex to help their male partners climax, research now reveals.

Without these yells, male Barbary macaques (Macaca sylvanus) almost never ejaculated, scientists found.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-12-11 07:48:50.212928-08 IPv6 migration by Dan Lyke comments 1

Looking at IPv6 migration issues:

We're taking 10 gigabytes of the most popular "adult entertainment" videos from one of the largest subscription websites on the internet, and giving away access to anyone who can connect to it via IPv6. No advertising, no subscriptions, no registration. If you access the site via IPv4, you get a primer on IPv6, instructions on how to set up IPv6 through your ISP, a list of ISPs that support IPv6 natively, and a discussion forum to share tips and troubleshooting. If you access the site via IPv6 you get instant access to "the goods".

(Via Genehack)

[ related topics: Net Culture Consumerism and advertising Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-12-07 15:52:41.737206-08 Backwards 'Bama by Dan Lyke comments 4

Alabama debates the repeal of their sex toy ban. Says Rep John Rogers, D-Birmingham:

"A shower head could be considered a sex toy," he said. "It's just bringing the state into the 20th century."

Not everyone is so forward looking:

Dan Ireland, executive director of the Alabama Citizens' Action Program, a Baptist group, said it would oppose any effort to overturn the law.

"Laws are made to protect the public," he said. "Sometimes you have to protect the public against themselves."

Lookout! She's got a vibrator, and she might use it on herself!

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Law moron ]



Entry: 2007-12-07 12:24:13.14121-08 Savage on weight by Dan Lyke comments 4

Dan Savage's article this week on relationships, sex appeal, changing weight and honesty is worth a read, and if you find yourself skimming it's worth dropping down to the end of the supplemental column to see how it all turned out.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Seattle ]



Entry: 2007-12-07 12:19:33.641056-08 outlawed sex clubs by Dan Lyke comments 3

Duncanville Texas, "The Perfect Blend of Family, Community and Business," has outlawed sex clubs in residential areas in response to one. What irks me about this is the proprietors of the club are pitching this as a religious freedom issue:

"It's crazy that they want to force their morality down our throats," said Dawn Burton, 45, a regular guest at the parties. "We're all frustrated."

but if I lived in a neighborhood where someone was regularly throwing hundred plus person parties, and undoubtedly charging admission to them, I think I'd be a little miffed too. Wild raunchy sex parties are fine, filling 50 extra parking spaces every weekend in a residential subdivision isn't.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Community Privacy Law ]



Entry: 2007-12-03 07:22:03.662812-08 Abstinence: the condom by Dan Lyke comments 0

From the folks behind Midwest Teen Sex Show: Abstinence: The condom.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Pop Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2007-11-30 08:26:35.005452-08 MTSS interview by Dan Lyke comments 0

Mike Kelley had a link to The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet interviewing the cast of the Midwest Teen Sex Show. It isn't nearly as entertaining as one of the episodes of the Midwest Teen Sex Show, but watching the "psychologist" on the panel fumble through the tired old indications that, in fact, she hasn't talked to a teenager in a decade or two, is... well... not entertaining, and kind of depressing in that it reinforces all of the stereotypes of ignorance and idiocy that we associate with the folks who are preaching at kids, but instructive.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Pop Culture Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2007-11-30 07:06:42.668722-08 Lust, Caution: caution by Dan Lyke comments 3

I really didn't have much desire to see the film before this, but Chinese authorities warn about the dangers of imitating on-screen acts in Lust, Caution:

The Information Times quoted Yu Zaoze, a gynaecologist with the Guangzhou Modern Hospital. "Most of the sexual manoeuvres in Lust, Caution are abnormal body positions," he said. "Only women with comparatively flexible bodies that have gymastics or yoga experience are able to perform them. For average people to blindly copy them could lead to unnecessary physical harm."

I think I've got my weekend activities all planned now...

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Quotes ]



Entry: 2007-11-28 15:53:38.752245-08 Sex Tourism by Dan Lyke comments 0

Older white women join Kenya's sex tourists

MOMBASA, Kenya (Reuters) - Bethan, 56, lives in southern England on the same street as best friend Allie, 64.

They are on their first holiday to Kenya, a country they say is "just full of big young boys who like us older girls".

[ related topics: Race Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-11-16 14:52:03.249322-08 early sex doesn't lead to delinquency by Dan Lyke comments 0

Study debunks theory on teen sex and delinquency:

But those are risks that other nations have mitigated with education, Harden and Turkheimer said, while U.S. educators wanting a piece of the nation's $200 million "abstinence only" budget must adhere to a curriculum that links sex to delinquency and explicitly precludes discussion of contraception.

The new study "really calls into question the usefulness of abstinence education for preventing behavior problems," Harden said, "and questions the bigger underlying assumption that all adolescent sex is always bad."

Via Mithras over at Gloria's oversexed mind.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Children and growing up Politics ]



Entry: 2007-11-07 09:19:12.323233-08 Gay changes by Dan Lyke comments 0

C|N>K: Gloria Brame has a picture of an Ohio street sign forcing change on Gay.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2007-11-01 10:29:21.525762-07 The Book of Vice by Dan Lyke comments 3

Fresh Air interview with Peter Sagal on his effort The Book of Vice: Very Naughty Things (and How to Do Them). I'm a fan of Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, this sounds like I'm gonna have to read it.

[ related topics: Books Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-11-01 07:06:03.847269-07 Hatch hates freedom by Dan Lyke comments 0

Violet Blue looks at Senator Orrin Hatch's prioritizing the war on free speech over the war on terror.

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Entry: 2007-10-31 08:54:22.031089-07 UnFriendly Skies by petronius comments 3

Singapore Airlines new A380 SuperJumbo features double-bedded roomettes for First class passengers making the long,long flight to Sydney. I hope they have a good in-flight entertainment system, since the airline has announced a strict no-sex policy.

[ related topics: Erotic Aviation Sexual Culture Current Events Invention and Design ]



Entry: 2007-10-31 07:43:13.220451-07 Gay Hardy Boys by Dan Lyke comments 2

10 Zen Monkeys: How Gay Were The Hardy Boys? (via someone's link feed, may have been NowThis).

[ related topics: Sexual Culture History Sociology ]



Entry: 2007-10-26 07:08:30.490073-07 Genarlow Wilson freed by Dan Lyke comments 1

The Georgia Supreme Court has released Genarlow Wilson after two years in prison (alternate article). He'd previously had charges downgraded from a 10 year felony to a misdemeanor. Genarlow Wilson was initially convicted and sentenced to ten years in jail for having consensual oral sex with a 15 year old when he was 17, has been used on both sides for political manipulations, and arguably saw a Georgia prosecutor apparently distributing child pornography.

[ related topics: Erotic Archival moron Sexual Culture Politics Woodworking ]



Entry: 2007-10-23 17:55:18.777593-07 2257 ruled unconstitional by Dan Lyke comments 0

Woot! Violet Blue at Fleshbot: 2257 ruled unconstitutional! More at her web page. XBiz article has more scoop, 6th Circuit panel decision, so there's still a ways to go.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Sexual Culture - U.S. Code Title 18 Section 2257 ]



Entry: 2007-10-21 15:24:08.34052-07 secret crimes by Dan Lyke comments 0

Worth reading: See no evil, see it everywhere: The cloak of invisibility renders child porn more terrifying and harder to do anything about

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law Law Enforcement Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2007-10-19 10:48:44.701989-07 sex cakes by Dan Lyke comments 0

A look at the erotic cakes of The Cake Gallery San Francisco: Sex Cakes For You.

[ related topics: Food - Cake California Culture Erotic Sexual Culture Bay Area ]



Entry: 2007-10-18 15:50:26.378946-07 Birth control for middle school by Dan Lyke comments 4

Interesting: Portland Maine middle school offers contraception:

While students need written parental permission to be treated at Portland's school-based health centers, state law allows them to receive confidential care for reproductive health, mental health and substance abuse issues.

ABC News version of the story, which claims that:

...by state law, if a student requests confidentiality, health care workers must honor it. Meaning birth control pills could be prescribed without a parent knowing.

Something else I find interesting is that:

Five King students, ages 14 and 15, reported having sexual intercourse last year, said Amanda Rowe, head nurse for Portland schools.

In the last four years, Portland's three middle schools reported 17 pregnancies, not counting miscarriages or terminated pregnancies that weren't reported to the school nurse, Rowe said.

They don't say how many of those were from this school, which, from the pictures of concerned parents at the school board meetings looks pretty white and middle class, but it does suggest that the actual incidents of sexual intercourse may be undercounted. (Update: Another paragraph identifies that "5" as a subset of the 138 visitors to the health center.)

[ related topics: Health Sexual Culture Current Events Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2007-10-15 13:54:21.541317-07 unChristianity by Dan Lyke comments 3

Interesting: UnChristian: What a New Generation Really Thinks About Christianity is a book written for a Christian audience that interviewed "...440 non-Christians and 305 active churchgoers", although that breakdown makes me want to investigate their notion of what "non-Christians" really means. Interestingly, though, according to this article on the book:

The vast majority of non-Christians - 91 percent - said Christianity had an anti-gay image, followed by 87 percent who said it was judgmental and 85 percent who said it was hypocritical.

Such views were held by smaller percentages of the active churchgoers, but the faith still did not fare well: 80 percent agreed with the anti-gay label, 52 percent said Christianity is judgmental, and 47 percent declared it hypocritical.

The article is worth reading, the book may be too. Now if we can get a publisher to tackle Islam in the same light...

[ related topics: Books Sexual Culture Current Events Religion ]



Entry: 2007-10-11 06:50:16.374914-07 depreciating asset by Dan Lyke comments 6

On female beauty as a depreciating asset.

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Entry: 2007-10-08 10:54:26.315382-07 searching for a malevolent moron by Dan Lyke comments 4

Note: When distributing pictures of yourself sexually abusing young boys, consider a non-reversible transform for blanking out your face (Via). Or, pedophile is about to learn the hard way that the Photoshop "swirl" filter isn't the right tool for preserving anonymity.

Ahhh, the perils of misunderstood technology...

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Entry: 2007-10-07 10:48:29.964953-07 history of vibrators by Dan Lyke comments 0

Slate has a small slide show on the history of vibrators. Probably nothing new here for the regular reader of Flutterby, but some good notes on how medicine, gender relations, and the public notions of erotic have evolved. Source.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Invention and Design ]



Entry: 2007-10-05 07:07:00.825654-07 States' Rights & Alabama sex toys by Dan Lyke comments 14

Many of you know that this week The Supreme Court left an Alabama sex toy ban intact. This is why I'm extremely skeptical of anyone conflating states' rights and anti-federalism with "libertarian", but as usual others have said what I want to express, only more coherently.

Marty Klein on the Alabama sex toy situation.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Libertarian Politics Civil Liberties ]



Entry: 2007-09-28 05:52:22.694443-07 Good Vibrations sold by Dan Lyke comments 2

Good Vibrations being sold to Cleveland firm GVA-TWN, which hopes to open stores in other cities. For all that I whine about the trend back towards a repressed culture, perhaps this is an indication that sex toys are really a mainstream trend now.

[ related topics: California Culture Erotic Good Vibrations Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2007-09-25 06:30:57.606443-07 Who we are? by Dan Lyke comments 13

It is sometimes hard to be a full-on First Amendment "I believe in pornography" person. In fact, I just pulled the "I [heart] Pornography" bumper sticker from my car, partially as a sop to the fact that Charlene occasionally borrows my car and people at schools object to things like that, but also because... well... I don't really [heart] pornography. I think it's something important in our society, and that its expression is necessary for freedom and gender equality and all of that nice stuff, but most porn leaves me frankly flaccid.

Elf Sternberg may have put his finger on it, today he asks "The more widespread porn becomes, the coarser it gets?" Maybe the real fear is that pornography shows who we are, and just as we who seek the fringes have seen all of our enclaves overrun and brought down to the level of the masses, the current rash of downright degrading "gonzo" porn is just a reflection of the mainstream.

[ related topics: Political Correctness Sexual Culture Civil Liberties Sociology ]



Entry: 2007-09-23 08:58:53.032515-07 Garden Variety Porn by Dan Lyke comments 4

Giggle: Marty Klein: on garden variety porn

[ related topics: Humor Gardening Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-09-21 06:04:14.208098-07 Condoms on TV by Dan Lyke comments 0

Advertising Age: Sex on TV is OK as Long as It's Not Safe (via)

Jim Daniels, VP-marketing for Church & Dwight, Trojan's parent company, said he's frustrated, and instead of integrating his brand into TV, he spends most of his budget getting his product sampled by students on spring break in collegiate hotspots like Daytona, Florida.

"Sixty-five million Americans have an incurable STD. Three million unwanted pregnancies a year -- half of which end in abortion," said Mr. Daniels. "And yet you can advertise Viagra all you like, and Valtrex for [genital] herpes, but not advertise the condoms that would go on the erections that prevent herpes."

[ related topics: Marketing Sexual Culture Technology and Culture Consumerism and advertising Television Health Sociology ]



Entry: 2007-09-20 06:36:04.564942-07 Porn, acting, and choice by Dan Lyke comments 0

Pornography as Violence, Pornography as Rape Culture: Anti-Pornography Commentary Only attempts to paint all of pornography by quoting a spam that begins:

Blonde whore forced to suck c*** then f***ed!!

View Movie!!

http://***********

Over at Renegade Revolution there's a response to that ranting screed:

I am that whore. I have a name, a real one even, and it is ethnic as hell...and I am not being raped. And Actually, due to my hair dressers machinations, I am somewhat blonde (and trying to decide if i hate it or not). Yet my voice, and the voice of the women in Natalia's post, and the voice of the women I spoke to working for HIPS tonight, and the voices of those at BnG do not matter.



Our message? Let us be, leave us alone, you don't know. Why don't you fucking listen???

[ related topics: California Culture Erotic Movies Sexual Culture Spam Sociology Interactive Drama Monty Python Work, productivity and environment ]



Entry: 2007-09-20 05:59:40.448661-07 Online reading by Dan Lyke comments 2

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Entry: 2007-09-18 14:24:14.752554-07 Busted prosecutor by Dan Lyke comments 0

In yet another argument for limiting federal power, Federal prosecutor is arrested in a sex sting:

A federal prosecutor flew to metro Detroit with a Dora the Explorer doll, hoop earrings and petroleum jelly for a 5-year-old he planned to have sex with, police say.

This is why 2257 and any other law or procedure which allows law enforcement or prosecutors warrantless access to information is a bad idea. (source)

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Sexual Culture - U.S. Code Title 18 Section 2257 ]



Entry: 2007-09-18 10:14:26.557336-07 bad research by Dan Lyke comments 12

It's cranky contrarian day here at Chez Dan, I'm struggling through some PHP and I'm a little cranky (the amount of bad example PHP code out there is truly astounding, I'm shocked at how many potential database and other exploits must be exposed to the world).

So it's without surprise that I read that most peer-reviewed published studies are tainted by sloppy analysis:

These flawed findings, for the most part, stem not from fraud or formal misconduct, but from more mundane misbehavior: miscalculation, poor study design or self-serving data analysis. "There is an increasing concern that in modern research, false findings may be the majority or even the vast majority of published research claims," Dr. Ioannidis said. "A new claim about a research finding is more likely to be false than true."

(via) Perhaps what you'd expect, but of course this morning I was reading about Melissa Farley's "research" on the sex industry (press release challenging Farley's work here) and noted that her work is taken seriously in public policy and isn't even peer reviewed. (From the Eyes Open Now? entry at Renegade Evolution)

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Entry: 2007-09-16 14:37:42.678545-07 partner count and HIV rate by Dan Lyke comments 7

Number of partners doesn't explain gay HIV rate:

In fact, two surveys found that most gay men have a similar rate of sex with unprotected partners compared to straight men or women.

So it's likely unprotected anal sex that's largely the culprit. (via)

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-09-09 18:41:21.088084-07 Consent and culture by Dan Lyke comments 0

Gloria Brame finds another story behind the prosecution and conviction of an SM "slave master". This kind of ties in to some of the discussions of consent that pops up here, most recently in that thread about Countrywide's hard-sell tactics.

[ related topics: Law Ethics Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-09-09 06:04:39.153402-07 '07 Burn Report by meuon comments 1

Burning Man is only part of the experience. It's also a road trip there and back which included Arches National Park, T-Joe's Bar and RV Campground, and messing with people's heads at rest stops. A suprising favorite was camping at Pyramid Lake with other 'Burners. It was a bit off road, and the first time down to the magic spot I took a wrong turn that cost me some minor damage. Still, a couple of nights there was worth the entire trip. Surreal landscape, great swimmable water (slightly salty) and friends including Pam and Clem who arrived just minutes before me from Baja Mexico.

Burning Man itself had some spectacular art, "Crude Awakening" was an oil derrick with worshippers. We watched it from far enough away from the art cars (blasting music) to experience the choreographed music and fireworks, puncuated by a huge blast from Nate Smith's fire bombs. Filled with 250lbs of JP-8 and 100lbs of propane. Each. Released in about 1 second, created a fireball and mushroom cloud whose heat was felt from afar. Awesome.

Nancy really liked the zeotrope of swinging monkeys, an apple and a snake. Yet the critical tits ride ended in deep playa, with the party shortened by a major white-out playa storm.

The recumbent bicycle with sidecar worked great, with Nancy teasing others whose sig-other was pedaling quadricycles and other contraptions by shouting: "What?!? he makes you pedal?!?"

I had damaged/replaced a wheel bearing, and destroyed the brakes on the way out via Hwy 50. One the way home, in Salt Lake City I replaced the axle, brakes and bearings with a 3500 lb straight axle, lifting the trailer a couple of inches and enhancing tow-ability and brakes. Henderson Wheel and Axle deserves a plug for being helpful, knowledgeable and cheap ($260 for all parts!). They even pointed me to a nearby mechanic that torched off my old axle for a few bucks cash. I installed the new one on the side of the street across from his shop.

Overall, a great trip. The small trailer worked well at the 'Burn, and helped keep Nancy in a happy place. The burn was large (47k people?) full of "frat boys and tourists" as well as some really kewl people and incredible art. The man burning Monday, and then Saturday was pretty interesting, but anyone who thinks Burning Man is about the man burning is a tourist. It's about the people you are forced to interact with because of conditions, and the people you chose to interact with because of choices.

The sad part comes on the trip home, when you run into "'burners" who are washing their rigs, removing their )^( signs and starting to act like "default world" people again. Nancy and I, Pam and Clem, and other friends try to live the 'burn ethos as much as possible. We hug in public, we take care of each other, we gift, we approach and talk to strangers as if we have known them forever. It hurts walking up to a fellow 'Burner in a gas station and they act like YOU are crazy and they don't know why you are talking to them.

Still, we attempt to tweak the status quo every day. Burning Man recharges those batteries to allow us to continue the fight against mundane isolated normality.

[ related topics: Photography Theater & Plays Movies Bicycling Interactive Drama Clowns Music California Culture Travel Beer Pedal Power Sexual Culture Art & Culture Burning Man Race Pyrotechnics Nature and environment Apple Computer Invention and Design ]



Entry: 2007-09-08 11:09:08.886837-07 Second Life & baby unicorns by Dan Lyke comments 3

I know a few of you out there are "Second Life"rs... Pet baby unicorns are apparently the latest thing, although the method of acquisition looks ... interesting:

I'd definetely[sic] put "Sensual Stoneworks" on your must-see list. However, for this fashionista reporter... she'll be sitting at home in the corner of her attic, rocking back and forth with her painful memories.

[ related topics: Games Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2007-09-07 07:39:43.575464-07 Good Vibrations troubles by Dan Lyke comments 0

An SFGate article about troubles at Good Vibrations. I couldn't tell if it was me, society at large, or the organization itself, but at some point Good Vibrations seemed to lose what made it so unique and appealing. As I experienced it, it went from being a different kind of space to a clean, well stocked, well lit porn store: cool, but, at least out here in the Bay Area, not without competition. And then there were the falling-outs that we only saw echoes of, Violet Blue's departure, for instance. Now they're competing in an online space with glossy depersonalized "blogs", and... well... I never get into the city any more.

[ related topics: Good Vibrations Sexual Culture Bay Area ]



Entry: 2007-09-07 07:33:24.690484-07 Susie Bright on taboos and porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Susie Bright is on a roll: Susie Bright: The Banality of Colonel Schultz’s Private Bitch, on a New York Times article that explores the documentary Stalags: Holocaust and Pornography in Israel:

...if human beings didn't create massive tragedies, horrible wars, and cruel betrayals, what on earth would we manufacture for the taboos of our erotic lemonade? ...

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Religion ]



Entry: 2007-09-06 06:44:13.08225-07 Larry Craig by Dan Lyke comments 2

I've largely avoided getting involved in the Larry Craig thing, the Republican Senator from Idaho who was busted apparently for, eventually, peeping under toilet stalls. He pleaded guilty to the misdemeanor, then it got out in the press and he claimed it was all a mistake, he was going to resign, now he may not. On the one hand I'm happy to see him taken down as a moral hypocrite and general slimeball. On the other hand, if the society were as aggressive in cracking down on heterosexual cruising as it is on homosexual cruising, we'd die off in a generation.

U Dream Of Janie says most of what I wanted to say, and Susie Bright talks about The Sexual Self-Interest of the Cuckolded Wife, and the evils that sexual repression push on, in this case, women.

[ related topics: Ethics Sexual Culture Law Marriage ]



Entry: 2007-09-06 06:16:17.698416-07 police officers & free speech by Dan Lyke comments 1

Wow. Usually I agree with the 9th Circuit, but this one has me shuddering: Court upholds firing of police officer who developed porn web site featuring his wife:

"His activities were simply vulgar and indecent," said Judge Ferdinand Fernandez. "They did not contribute speech on a matter of public concern."

But one member of the three-judge panel said the court's rationale might apply equally to an off-duty officer who angered some members of the public by marching in a gay pride parade.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Law ]



Entry: 2007-09-04 19:22:13.603838-07 Pro porn activism by Dan Lyke comments 0

Pro Porn Activism blog includes the great Why This Blog and What Is The Anti-Porn Movement?

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Entry: 2007-09-04 10:12:25.23845-07 confiscated porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Man sues for return of his pornography collection

Dennis Saunders, 59, filed suit against San Rafael police in Marin County Superior Court after the department refused to give back some 500 pornographic movies and 250 magazines his lawyer described as unrelated to the peeping case.

"There's absolutely no legal foundation for them withholding perfectly legal adult-oriented material," Tiburon attorney Jon Rankin said.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Bay Area Law ]



Entry: 2007-09-04 08:08:35.061926-07 Midwest Teen Sex Show by Dan Lyke comments 0

Midwest Teen Sex Show

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Entry: 2007-09-04 07:55:23.807932-07 religious freedom by Dan Lyke comments 6

Religious Freedom More Important Than Sexual Freedom?

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Entry: 2007-08-31 06:29:47.907497-07 Fresh TV by Dan Lyke comments 0

An ad for New Zealand's "Fresh TV", apparently a porn channel. More non-sexual sexual references than I can identify. MonkeyFilter readers are tracking 'em down, via YesButNoButYes.

[ related topics: Erotic Television Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2007-08-29 06:00:53.874793-07 sex & liberal bloggers by Dan Lyke comments 3

No Sex, Please, We're - Um,... Liberal Bloggers:

Everyone talked about how the government lied to get us into a destructive war 10,000 miles away. No one talked about how the government lies to keep us in a destructive war against a gigantic, demonic, phantom army of alleged sexual predators, porn addicts, and swingers.

Sexuality.About.Com: The (Disappointing) Sexual Politics of Liberal Bloggers

[ related topics: Erotic moron Sexual Culture History Politics ]



Entry: 2007-08-21 14:18:51.060777-07 cultural definition of marriage by Dan Lyke comments 10

That thread on prenups has me fumbling for "a cultural definition of marriage". I said in that thread that though I couldn't come up with specifics, that it was related to the difference between a wife and a mistress.

The tale is attributed to Plutarch:

A Roman divorced from his wife, being highly blamed by his friends, who demanded, "Was she not chaste? Was she not fair? Was she not fruitful?" holding out his shoe, asked them whether it was not new and well made. "Yet," added he, "none of you can tell where it pinches me.

That's how I feel about the very notion of marriage, especially while it's defined as "between one man and one woman". Having been married, Charlene's even more adamant that whatever legal structure we end up with, culturally it not be marriage. And no, I think she's no more clear on what that means than I am, except that, as we discussed mechanisms, any semblance to the standard wedding vows was right out.

As evinced by the feelings brought up in that thread, the notion of marriage has power. Marriage has deep roots in maintaining the culture, of raising children, it's not overstating the case to think that, after eons of that being the structure in which we reproduce it's quite likely that those roots extend into our genes. Whether or not the couples keep their own candles lit after lighting the unity candle in a wedding ceremony, something has changed, the community now treats the couple differently. My sister told me of getting married to a friend in New Zealand for visa purposes, they made it plain to everyone that it was for legal reasons, and yet within a not terribly long time she was on a plane to my doorstep because pressures to have that relationship be something it wasn't were too strong. She's now happily married in the U.S., but it is that experience, and many experiences like that, that makes Charlene and me very hesitant to get married, despite the legal advantages.

Why else would a discussion that I thought I'd started to investigate the legal differences between marriage as recognized by the state and a bunch of separately written contracts and tax structures become a discussion about the cultural implications of it?

So how about making this a thread where all us blind folks can describe the elephant?

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage Community Politics Children and growing up Law ]



Entry: 2007-08-21 08:05:32.837473-07 risks, reward & gender by Dan Lyke comments 6

Is There Anything Good About Men?

For women throughout history (and prehistory), the odds of reproducing have been pretty good. Later in this talk we will ponder things like, why was it so rare for a hundred women to get together and build a ship and sail off to explore unknown regions, whereas men have fairly regularly done such things? But taking chances like that would be stupid, from the perspective of a biological organism seeking to reproduce. They might drown or be killed by savages or catch a disease. For women, the optimal thing to do is go along with the crowd, be nice, play it safe. The odds are good that men will come along and offer sex and you'll be able to have babies. All that matters is choosing the best offer. We're descended from women who played it safe.

That's roughly his thesis, that male evolution has favored extremes (which is why there are more developmentally disabled males than females, too), some interesting thought fodder there.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Handicaps & Disabilities Sociology Biology ]



Entry: 2007-08-17 07:11:10.698812-07 deported for sex by Dan Lyke comments 2

Man deported for consensual sex:

A legal immigrant in Northern California who was 20 when he began a sexual relationship with a 16-year-old girl faces deportation to Mexico under a ruling Thursday that was described as unjust by a majority of the federal appeals court panel that issued it.

[ related topics: California Culture Sexual Culture Law ]



Entry: 2007-08-13 10:08:19.803045-07 GOP values by Dan Lyke comments 0

A little rundown on the sexual explorations of prominent members of the "family values" party, or "these are the people who protest that 'gay marriage' is immoral?".

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage Politics moron ]



Entry: 2007-07-31 19:50:15.5155-07 economics of porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

ErosBlog has a fascinating post on the economics of porn web sites: Cookie Cutter Porn Paysites. One of the pastimes over at Sensible Erection is trolling various sites for their sample pages and providing a huge list of them, like this. I've always wondered, given what's available in front of the wall, what the economics of what's behind the wall is. It's even weirder when you look at a URL and see DOMAI or Hegre in the URL and realize that if that sort of image is your kink you could head on over to the source material and get all you wanted for probably less than membership at most of these sites.

I probably just don't understand the economics of porn or the mindset of the porn consumer, but it seems to me that there's definitely some irrational behavior and leverage of incomplete knowledge going on here.

[ related topics: Erotic Consumerism and advertising Sexual Culture Economics ]



Entry: 2007-07-31 12:37:21.820904-07 "beauty", reality and retouching by Dan Lyke comments 0

A few days ago, Jay linked to this deconstruction of the retouching in Redbook cover featuring Faith Hill, and this page on retouching portraits.

To see the whole retouching thing taken to it's creepy extreme, check out the series on retouching kids "beauty" pageant contestants that starts here (From this Sensible Erection link).

I'll leave it to you to make the commentary on what this says about cultural standards of beauty, age, and realism.

[ related topics: Sociology Children and growing up Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-07-26 07:52:22.401452-07 NYT Blows it by Dan Lyke comments 0

New York Times reports on porn star turned priest, weblogger makes the calls that NYT reporter apparently didn't, discovers overblown breathless tabloid journalism.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Sexual Culture Religion ]



Entry: 2007-07-26 06:47:20.638796-07 all around the bloomin' heather by Dan Lyke comments 0

Hmmm... I'd long known that "thyme" was an oft-used euphemism for virginity, back in the day, but here's a tale that gives the old song even more meaning...

Oh the Summer time is fading,

And the leaves are swiftly turning,

And the Wild Mountain Thyme,

Blows around the blooming Heather,

Will you go, lassie, go?

Apparently winter flowering heather has a similar effect to Viagra:

From the limited amount of information available, it is suggested the Viagra-analogue is best extracted by steeping the detached small flowers in neat alcohol. An infusion of about 20g of flowers in 100ml of fluid liberates the active principle. A quality full-strength vodka (at least 40 per cent) is also effective. Mr Bennell added: "There is some confusion whether oral consumption or topical application is more effective."

Stolen from Susie Bright.

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Entry: 2007-07-24 08:41:39.203873-07 teen pregnancy rates stop falling by Dan Lyke comments 3

Looks like all of those "abstinence only" sex ed classes have finally had their desired effect: Teen pregnancy rates stop falling:

The long decline in sexual activity among U.S. teenagers, hailed as one of the nation's most important social and public health successes, appears to have stalled.

And, of course, teen pregnancy rates in the U.S. are still horrendously high relative to other industrialized nations.

[ related topics: Health Sexual Culture Politics ]



Entry: 2007-07-19 07:50:45.507407-07 anti abortion, anti women by Dan Lyke comments 6

Whoops, that's two spoofs today that I've apparently fallen for. At least according to the source I originally got this from.

Baptists for Brownback attempts to use "Unplanned Sexual Event", or U.S.E., instead of "rape", in their anti-abortion rhetoric.

Sam Brownback is the inspiration for this grassroots campaign called, “Cry USE not RAPE”. We have concluded that the acronym U.S.E. (Unplanned Sexual Event), when used regularly to replace the word “rape”, will remove the stigma associated with this sometimes unpleasant situation. It is our mission to protect the innocent lives of the babies that are part of His plan and eliminate the excuses given by many women when a precious baby just isn’t convienient.

Via Gloria Brame.

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Entry: 2007-07-18 11:18:11.833492-07 Robot Force for Good by ebradway comments 0

Maybe I read too much sci-fi, or maybe I'm still watching out for errant gorillas, but I miss read this headline as "Mandela turns 89 and launches 'a robot force for good'". After reading into the article that I started to wonder if maybe Jimmy Carter and Kofi Anaan were robots and maybe Mandela knew something we didn't. Of course, he did give his Superteam a title: The Elders.

For the next question, will The Elders have a robot army at their command? Or maybe they'll direct some Superheros. Nah... Probably just a boring squad of zombies...

(Soundtrack by Peter Gabriel on the Virgin label by Peter Branson)

[ related topics: Robotics Sexual Culture Interactive Drama ]



Entry: 2007-07-14 07:41:27.178109-07 Jim Mitchell by Dan Lyke comments 2

Jim Mitchell dead at 63.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-07-13 16:22:00.115224-07 more child porn silliness by Dan Lyke comments 3

Release of tape in teen sex case may violate child-porn law. A tape used in the prosecution of Genarlow Wilson who's serving time for having consensual oral sex with a 15 year old girl when he was 17, has been distributed by the DA:

Douglas County District Attorney David McDade has estimated he has given the tape to about three dozen people -- including reporters, lawmakers and members of the public -- after receiving open records requests, according to The Associated Press. He told the AP Georgia's open records law requires him to do so.

However, since posession of child pornography is a crime, presumably the federal prosecutor who's disturbed about this, David Nahmias, U.S. attorney for the Northern District of Georgia, should at least be able to go after everyone the DA's office gave the tape to...

Dang, I love it when knee-jerk laws start tying each other in knots.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law ]



Entry: 2007-07-09 13:23:19.991332-07 Sin in the Second City by Dan Lyke comments 0

Joseph Epstein reviews Karen Abbot's Sin in the Second City, a history of brothels in Chicago in the early 1900s.

When a blue-ribbon commission on vice published a report called "The Social Evil in Chicago," which also argued for getting rid of prostitution completely, it was roundly greeted as "a contribution to the cause of morality and decency," according to the local press. But not by the young journalist Walter Lippmann, who noted that those who composed the report were naïve in thinking that "sex must be confined to procreation by a healthy, intelligent and strictly monogamous couple." The commission, Lippmann wrote, ignored "the sexual impulse in discussing a sexual problem . . . yet who that has read the report itself and put himself in any imaginative understanding of conditions can escape seeing that prostitution today is organic to our industrial life, our marriage sanctions, and our social customs?"

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Erotic Health Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



Entry: 2007-07-07 12:02:02.69707-07 Debbie Nathan interview by Dan Lyke comments 1

Sex Panic: An Interview With Debbie Nathan. Which reminds me, I have "thinkofthechildren.org" which I got to mirror some guy's site in the UK, but his site's long gone. It's coming up for renewal in a few months, anyone want to do anything with it?

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Children and growing up Civil Liberties Law Law Enforcement ]



Entry: 2007-06-29 07:14:18.838205-07 a business model for a worthy cause? by Dan Lyke comments 6

Heather Corinna is depressed over Scarleteen. She's having trouble getting advertisers or underwriters. There's a longer rant here but I don't have it in me this morning.

[ related topics: Consumerism and advertising Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-06-28 20:44:44.750477-07 banishment for birth control by Dan Lyke comments 8

I was trying to find an old conversation on the ecological impacts of breeding to bring up in the context of Eric's comment below, and ran across an old long discussion titled "Dan as parent-hater", when what should appear on my local news site but... a story about a woman who's been banned from her local bus station for giving contraception advice to mothers of large families:

Stevens said she recently noticed a mother struggling to control her six children.

"I felt sorry for her. Maybe she doesn't know that she could get a patch and not have a kid for five years," Stevens said.

[ related topics: Public Transportation Children and growing up Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-06-28 08:41:33.293312-07 "ex-gay" ministers apologize by Dan Lyke comments 0

Former "ex-gay" ministers apologize:

The former leaders of the interdenominational Christian organization Exodus International said Wednesday they had become disillusioned with promoting gay conversion.

"Some who heard our message were compelled to try to change an integral part of themselves, bringing harm to themselves and their families," the three said in a statement released outside the Los Angeles Gay & Lesbian Center.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Religion ]



Entry: 2007-06-25 12:05:36.55586-07 Elizabeth Edwards & gay marriage by Dan Lyke comments 0

Interesting: Elizabeth Edwards declares support for gay marriage. I guess that the Edwards are trying the George and Barbara Bush thing...

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Politics Marriage ]



Entry: 2007-06-21 07:02:45.810115-07 the American dream by Dan Lyke comments 5

Jay has a friend named Cathy Salustri, and he's pointed to "I Had A Dream", in which she's moved into the south side of St Petersburg Florida, and realizes that she's becoming a racist. Today Jay linked to A St Petersburg Times article on that article and the fallout from it, and as I read through I realized something.

Yesterday, Columbine had a link to a long article about hate crimes, the circumstances surrounding the death murder of Aaron Hall, and the subsequent (lack of) press coverage, Perhaps I could describe what I'm feeling right now as "sudden heat.". This morning, as I re-read Cathy Salustri's part about watching the man who stole from her at his sentencing (time served), smiling at people in the spectator section of the courtroom, I realized that from my sheltered life here in the San Francisco Bay Area I'm having a similar reaction to... well... a good portion of the middle of United States. And I'd bet that many of us on the coasts (or in some of those midwestern havens like Minneapolis) feel the same way.

I don't know how to have that discussion, but I'd like to see it had.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Community Sexual Culture Bay Area ]



Entry: 2007-06-20 08:18:58.841201-07 talk about sex by Dan Lyke comments 3

Over at Oysters and Chocolate there's a little essay entitled Between Friends: Let's Talk about Sex that posits that there's a tipping point in female friendships where women can talk about sex in an open way.

And then it happens. She says something real, something that you can connect with and relate to on an honest level. It makes you laugh.

Something like, "I hate our new claw-footed bathtub, we can't get proper leverage."

And that got me wondering about how the analog for that occurs in male friendships...

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-06-18 11:18:15.43354-07 old news by Dan Lyke comments 2

You know that big headline that reads something like "Police Smash Global Pedophile Ring"? You know what's developed in that case that demands a headline? The guy who was busted last year was finally sentenced. It's a year old story that's getting play again today.

Why? Well, Gloria Brame suggests that editors needed to crowd other potential headlines off the front page today.

Aside from that conviction, the latest news in the article I linked read said:

A man described as Cox's lieutenant, Gordon Mackintosh, tried to resurrect the chat room in January. Authorities in Britain, Canada, Australia and the U.S. again infiltrated the operation.

Which seems kind of a silly thing to announce unless they believe that their infiltration has less value than the announcement that they have.

I'm not saying these busts weren't a good thing, I'm just a little wary of the various announcements and pronouncements that don't all add up.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Law Enforcement ]



Entry: 2007-06-16 12:02:26.008947-07 Why I am not for forced childbirth by Dan Lyke comments 8

Figleaf recently had some harsh words for Senator Sam Brownback:

Sorry. I don't buy Brownback's argument that this is all about the sanctity of life. Forced-pregnancy rape fantasies are disturbingly rich genre in pornography and, one might assume, a disgracefully popular one among those who applaud him.

Yesterday he followed up on that with a post that I highly recommend reading, and today pointed to a a remembrance of Martha Solay titled Murio por ser pobre y por ser mujer, a Columbian woman who fought her country's anti-abortion laws, restrictions which killed her:

... She died because “pro-life” abortion laws in her country meant that she could not terminate her pregnancy, despite the fact that she had uterine cancer and waiting to treat it would inevitably kill her.

Martha, a street vendor, spent her last months trying trying to raise enough money to make sure that her children could survive without her. Her four girls, ages 17, 6, 5, and 2, are now orphans.

This, particularly, is why I don't care what else, for instance, Ron Paul may be pushing politically: if he believes in forced childbirth he does not believe in liberty or freedom. At least not for women.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Civil Liberties Privacy Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2007-06-15 12:46:25.750066-07 Intimate Controllers by ebradway comments 1

An NYU grad student creates embedded game controllers to put a little more "wee!" in your Wii!

[ related topics: Embedded Devices Games Robotics Sociology Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-06-12 08:21:48.380606-07 Debbie Nathan by Dan Lyke comments 0

I may end up paying for a podcast: Susie Bright interviews Debbie Nathan on the untestability of assorted internet child pornography claims.

[ related topics: Net Culture Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-06-11 09:47:43.818855-07 10 years for oral sex on a teenager thrown out by Dan Lyke comments 1

17 year old sentenced to 10 years for oral sex on a 15 year old gets conviction downgraded to misdemeanor:

"If this court or any court cannot recognize the injustice of what has occurred here, then our court system has lost sight of the goal our judicial system has always strived to accomplish ... justice being served in a fair and equal manner," wrote Judge Thomas H. Wilson, no relation to Genarlow Wilson.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Interactive Drama Law ]



Entry: 2007-06-07 21:07:57.659642-07 Another Bush winner by Dan Lyke comments 0

President Bush's nominee for surgeon general, Dr. James W. Holsinger Jr, has says that 'Homosexuality Isn't Natural or Healthy':

"You have to wonder given the quality of some of the nominations that have gone forward recently, whether the selection group in the White House has gone on vacation," Gergen said. "There has been a growing criticism the administration favoring ideology over competence, and this nomination smacks of that."

How has Mary Cheney managed to go through life without laying some well-needed public smackdown on her father? I guess some people really can handle that level of cognitive dissonance with appearing batshit insane, at least not publicly so. But given the current level of politics and personality in this culture, I guess that appearing sane is a relative thing.

[ related topics: Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Health Sociology Politics Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-06-07 06:56:47.361753-07 Like an Alligator by Dan Lyke comments 2

Over at Real Adult Sex, Figleaf has inquired why, out of all of the animals that copulate that way, we choose canines in naming "doggy style", and is asking for other suggestions.

J.B. Kochanie responds with a poem, "I want you to love me the way the animals do.".

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-06-07 06:51:33.700762-07 Penis Size by Dan Lyke comments 1

A press release about Penile size and the ‘small penis syndrome’ by Kevin Wylie and Ian Eardley, in the June issue of BJU International, claims to have found an average penis size (which seems to match what we already thought of as an average penis size):

By drawing together the results of 12 studies that measured the penises of 11,531 men, they discovered that average erect penises ranged from 14-16cms (5.5 to 6.2 inches) in length and 12-13cm (4.7 to 5.1 inches) in girth.

It also found that:

85 per cent of women were satisfied with their partner’s penile size, but only 55 per cent of men were satisfied.

Which brings to mind that Ron White "We’re all a little bit gay" bit.

And just for post-modern self-referential journalistic silliness, here's a Guardian article reporting on a Sun article that was derived from that press release.

This news comes to you courtesy of Erica Barnett who made the same entry in her personal blog as she did over at The Stranger's Slog.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Journalism and Media ]



Entry: 2007-06-07 06:35:49.080866-07 40 years in prison for being infected with Spyware? by ebradway comments 6

I just came across this article about a Connecticut substitute teacher who was CONVICTED of a FELONY charge and facing up to 40 years in prison because the computer she was using in the classroom was infected with spyware and flashed some pornography. I can't begin to count the ways that this is so wrong. Fortunately, the sentencing judge had the wherewithal to redict the conviction.

To start with, she was a substitute teacher. These folks are paid just over minimum wage to be thrown into a room with a bunch of kids they never met. Basically, they are baby sitters. She was also given technology she probably didn't receive training on and definitely was not responsible for maintaining security. But that's just the beginning...

How does flashing some porn in front of seventh grades warrant a felony conviction? I mean I've seen some damn racy stuff on prime-time TV. Stuff that was more racy than what I saw in Playboy and Penthouse when I was in seventh grade!

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Technology and Culture Privacy Television Children and growing up Work, productivity and environment Law Woodworking ]



Entry: 2007-06-05 08:18:07.779628-07 mental health & teen sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

U of M teen sex and depression study finds most teens' mental health unaffected by nonmarital sex. I hate to link to an "about.com" site, but sexuality.about.com is actually pretty good, this was from today's entry, but the previous entry posits that for all of the fact checking being done in sexuality stories, the New York Times may as well hire Paul Fishbein (of Adult Video News fame) for editor.

[ related topics: New York Sexual Culture Current Events Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Sociology ]



Entry: 2007-06-04 08:13:41.896089-07 Sailors' Women by Dan Lyke comments 0

Charlene has asked me if there are any books I can purge, and I'm catching up on a couple that I'd picked up at some point because they looked interesting and never got around to. One such is Women Sailors & Sailors' Women[Wiki] by David Cordingly[Wiki], and I'm having a fascinating jaunt through sailing history. Wow, the Brits were some mean nasty schmucks, makes me rather sympathetic to the pirates of that era. I'll probably drop assorted random observations in from time to time, but here's a note derived from William Sanger[Wiki]'s study in New York prostitution in 1858:

The traditional explanation for why women became prostitutes was that they were seduced by men and then abandoned. But of the 2,000 women studied by Sanger, only 258 gave this as a reason. The largest number, 525, gave destitution as the cause for their taking to the streets, and 515 gave "inclination".

[ related topics: New York Sexual Culture Boats ]



Entry: 2007-05-31 08:05:34.093851-07 church & sex toys by Dan Lyke comments 0

Musician Canned for Focus on Wrong Organ:

A Catholic priest has removed his church's organist and choir director from her duties saying her sale of sex toys was not "consistent with Church teachings."

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Religion ]



Entry: 2007-05-30 15:57:19.062879-07 LiveJournal censorship by Dan Lyke comments 4

About that LJ (LiveJournal) Rumor...

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Weblogs Net Culture ]



Entry: 2007-05-30 07:39:58.744767-07 privacy & provenance by Dan Lyke comments 1

Yesterday, Gloria Brame linked to a video of a woman with particularly active pectorals that I think was a booth babe at an auto show, but she saw as an animation job done on some unsuspecting person. It did bring up an interesting question of copyright and the provenance of the images we get.

I'm not particulary a fan of those emails with lots of cool images, or, worse, emailed PowerPoint presentation in which someone has carefully copied all of the pictures of some artist's work off of a web site and embedded them in a single file, on the other hand, I have managed to find some really cool work by some really cool artists when I've managed to chase some of those images backwards. And what of sites like Nick Scipio's Picture of the Day (may contain nudity), where he happily republishes things that people have emailed him, and occasionally one of those things will be discovered by an angry copyright holder?

And then... Then this became more than just a simple case of the provenance of email, because Medley linked to Teen Tests Internet's Lewd Track Record, about a young woman pole vaulter from Southern California whose image has been plastered across assorted sites accompanied by commentary of the:

"...Hubba hubba and other grunting sounds."

level.

And then Violet Blue called out the SF Comical on some of their wacky tech writing, in the same entry pointing out a 14 year old photographer whose self portrait has found its way on to the cover of a porn movie. More on Lara Jade's problems at Flickr and at Deviant Art.

I don't have any answers, but it seems like we're going to need some soon, and if we don't start thinking about how to improve copyright then it's going to be done in ways that we won't like.

[ related topics: Photography Movies Video Net Culture Law Sexual Culture Pop Culture Art & Culture Copyright/Trademark ]



Entry: 2007-05-29 09:09:42.686589-07 gender based hate speech by Dan Lyke comments 3

In the context of all of the discussions about inhospitable atmospheres for women that have been flying around the weblogs recently, Wendy McElroy points out a vicious piece of gender based hate speech that she received recently... sent by a woman.

[ related topics: Weblogs Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-05-23 06:16:09.863588-07 sex news by Dan Lyke comments 0

Marital Sex Single Greatest HIV Risk For Women Around The World. I'd write something here, but Gloria Brame has already said "I wonder what the Religious Right has to say about the fact that it's all those closet cases trying to live up to false ideals of heterosexuality who are most likely to infect women with HIV." (ie: Ted Haggard), and Figleaf has ranted on this in the context of "abstinence only" sex "education" that targets women.

And while I'm snitching links from Gloria Brame, No Sex Leads To Less Sex, Research Shows:

Ragnar Beer of the University of Göttingen surveyed almost 32,000 men and women for his Theratalk Project, which has found that the less sex you have, the more work you seek.

I wonder if this proffers up an evolutionary explanation for puritanism: Unhappy people work more, make a bigger economy?

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Work, productivity and environment Economics ]



Entry: 2007-05-22 07:36:28.815622-07 Why defend porn? by Dan Lyke comments 0

Why Defend Porn? (via Medley).

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-05-16 07:39:35.784039-07 Camp NCN by Dan Lyke comments 0

Up in Wisconsin, a swinger's campground has opened: Camp NCN (no clothes necessary). Okay, such things happen all the time, but the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel article on the opening misses no puns:

Suffice it to say it's a campground with plenty of hookups.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Clothing ]



Entry: 2007-05-15 06:33:03.763675-07 deviant sex acts by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Aesthetic Apparatus Deviant Sex Act Fabricator

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2007-05-15 06:32:14.487689-07 "no sex" class by Dan Lyke comments 0

Interesting category over at Figleaf's Real Adult Sex investigating women as the "no sex" class, and how that assumption maintains a two-tiered system. Start at the bottom, where he rambles about why making men the initiators means that women have to be reactive:

... Except in the most abstract political sense neither "yes" or "no" are direct actions. Thus "no" can only be a *reaction* to an action initiated by another. To that extent it creates a limited right to be left alone *thereafter,* but not a right to be left alone in the first place. And, as Autumn of the now-dark Putting Perfection on a Curve frequently mentioned, it was wearing to be obliged to decline the (generally polite) advances of multiple men whenever she just wanted to sit down by herself at a table in a bar, have a beer, and spend the afternoon writing.

In other words the right to "no" is a critical defense. But actual power? Um, not. ...

Start at the bottom and work up.

[ related topics: Beer Sexual Culture Politics Sociology ]



Entry: 2007-05-14 14:15:49.462191-07 Catholic Church on consent by Dan Lyke comments 0

Why is consent so hard to pin down? Some of the Pope's recent remarks about South America might help give us some clues:

Benedict also defended the church's campaign centuries ago to Christianize indigenous people, saying Latin American Indians had been "silently longing" to become Christians when Spanish and Portuguese conquerors violently took over their native lands centuries ago.

"In effect, the proclamation of Jesus and of his Gospel did not at any point involve an alienation of the pre-Columbus cultures, nor was it the imposition of a foreign culture," he told the bishops.

Wow. Recognize any parallels in that language?

[ related topics: Sociology Religion Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-05-14 08:29:44.956365-07 fraud != force? by Dan Lyke comments 7

Wow. One of the tenets of my personal philosophy is that fraud is coercion is the use of force, that if you obtain something through lies it's somewhere along the same continuum as taking something at gunpoint. Apparently, Massachussets law disagrees: Court rules sex through use of fraud is not rape:

The Supreme Judicial Court unanimously ruled that a judge should have dismissed the rape charge against Alvin Suliveres, 44, of Westfield, because Massachusetts law has for centuries defined rape as sexual intercourse by force and against one's will, and that it is not rape when consent is obtained through fraud.

Hopefully Massachussetts legislators will rectify this.

[ related topics: Philosophy Sexual Culture Current Events Law ]



Entry: 2007-05-14 06:26:54.542343-07 rape myths by Dan Lyke comments 0

Dang, for a theme that's allegedly inspired by Masturbation Month (I've dropped the "National" because everyone else has, why limit ourselves?) we're sure end up doing a lot of theorizing. But then I'm the sort of person who would end up with the text pages in a Playboy stuck together (or at least would have back in the days when they were also a pretty darned good general magazine, a time that I think is gone). But various threads have me revisiting some old notions, and it's good to exercise those neurons.

I mentioned some of the guilt issues in rape that I've encountered in the discussion with Eric under "without the veil", and in the "rape statistics" thread, NoPornNorthampton linked to an entry in which he quoted extensively from the "Family Facts" website, part of the text included:

In 1995, the Journal of Communication reported on a meta-analysis of 24 different studies. Researchers found that "A relationship between pornography consumption and believing rape myths exists...."

Now there are an awful lot of rape myths, but I believe that one of the most damaging rape myths we can possibly hold is the notion that power struggle is not a part of sexual allure or eroticism. One of the notions that I recounted in the "without the veil" thread was that the cultural reaction to rape is sometimes as damaging to the victim as the rape itself, and one of the issues here is that because we in the culture haven't (until mainstream BDSM came along, and then only those of us out on the fringe) had the opportunity to talk about consent, and to allow that fantasies, even realized ones, can have some pretty nitpicking qualifications, the existence of a rape fantasy is assumed to be the desire to be raped.

So many women, having failed to repress some submissive fantasies, feel guilt over having been raped, because our culture told them that fantasy wasn't okay, that if they'd imagined it, then they deserved it.

That is why I scream so loudly when people try to conflate the fantasy of pornography with the harsh reality of the crimes in the real world.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2007-05-12 18:00:56.207866-07 hardcore vs softcore by Dan Lyke comments 1

Interesting theory on pornography: Why Hardcore is Better Than Softcore: Object versus Commodity (via Elf's comments).

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-05-12 13:08:32.946994-07 Stark nudity on slick paper by Dan Lyke comments 0

One of the reasons I'm pro-pornography is that I look at some of the figures lined up against it and think "how can anything they're opposing be bad?" Susie Bright linked to a great example of one such, a YouTube video of Part 1 of the 1965 propaganda film "Perversion for Profit" (here's the Internet Archive version). Funded by that right upstanding citizen Charles Keating, who later was shown to have stolen huge amounts in the 1980s Savings and Loan scandal, it's a testament to the moral cancer that ripped through this country in the 1950s and early '60s (and '80s and aughts, for that matter), all of those slimeballs who claimed to be Americans but trampled any notion of freedom and liberty with their narrow minded hatred.

In her entry which linked to the video, Susie also recounts her run-in with the narrator:

He tried to shut down my high school underground newspaper, in 1974, because we ran a very dry article on birth methods control - trés Our-Bodies-Ourselves- with a diagram that he told his TV audience was "the most disgusting thing I have ever seen in my life." It was a cross-section drawing of women's genitalia!

But it is interesting to listen to the rhetoric and look for echoes of the unsubstantiated claims in the modern-day moralists.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Movies Ethics Sexual Culture History Civil Liberties Net Culture Privacy Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2007-05-11 07:14:20.929696-07 threat to society by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Masturbation Month of May continues: Mastubation, Bonding and The Threat To Society:

Clearly there's context here to show a connection between the fears of individuality and the individual's duty to carry out his contract with his nation and the fabrication of masturbation as threat. Masturbation's threat to individual integrity is larger than the fear of the moral decline of the nation; it's that in pleasing himself the individual will not care for his state.

Fight the power! Stolen from Sensible Erection.

[ related topics: Erotic Ethics Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2007-05-11 06:43:41.301119-07 male privilege by Dan Lyke comments 0

Tee hee hee: Over at Real Adult Sex, Figleaf addresses issues of male privilege in the Kathy Sierra, and offers up one more example of male privilege that I haven't seen addressed elsewhere:

The real reason guys don't fucking hijack comment threads every time men venture an opinion (and sometimes even when they don't) the way they do to women is that men can do something women can't. Something the various trolls, gnats, and serial murderers that afflict women just really don't want to deal with. See, the second we want to hear crickets from those kind of guys is we can always post photos of our pee-pees, as I have below the fold.

Hmmm... If we end up with a trolling problem here I may just have to consider that...

If that hasn't convinced you that there's bunches worth reading over there, here's guest poster Kochanie following up on that example of male privilege, and then here's a great post on how language can excuse violence which links to I Blame The Patriarchy on that mob of Yezidi Kurds who killed that 17 year old woman with stones.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Net Culture ]



Entry: 2007-05-10 08:40:09.175494-07 HPV and oral sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

Just to counter-balance that note against mandatory HPV vaccination, the New England Journal of Medicine reports on a study that links HPV to throat cancer, and oral sex is a risk factor here.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Health ]



Entry: 2007-05-10 08:19:55.187776-07 HPV vaccine warning by Dan Lyke comments 0

A few weeks ago, Texas Governor Rick Perry's initiative to make the new HPV vaccine mandatory was shot down by his Republical legislature, and many people were up in arms about Republicans being pro cancer.

I'm sympathetic, I know that there has been much opposition to this product because it might give women more sexual freedom, but I'm also wary of new medical technologies. Especially those involving mandatory vaccinations. So I wasn't terribly surprised to see that a group of UCSF doctors warn against the wide use of cervical cancer vaccine:

"At this stage, vaccination can still be considered experimental," said Dr. Karen McCune, an associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at UCSF, who co-authored the editorial. "To be discussing mandatory vaccination when the main clinical trials are still ongoing seems extremely premature. We're feeling like the enthusiasm is driving policy rather than data."

[ related topics: Privacy Sexual Culture Civil Liberties Health ]



Entry: 2007-05-10 07:50:35.274813-07 Violet Blue at Divas by Dan Lyke comments 0

Giggle: Violet Blue visits a tranny bar called "Divas". It's been awhile since we've been out to hit a drag show, but I could see doin' with an evening of hootin' and hollerin'.

[ related topics: Humor Sexual Culture Erotic ]



Entry: 2007-05-10 07:37:06.52351-07 rape statistics by Dan Lyke comments 7

In the "anti-porn rants" entry I've been having a back-and-forth with the proprietor of NoPornNorthampton. One of my problems with the site and the attitudes espoused therein is that there's a lot of "I believe this person because they back up my prejudice", without dunning the claims.

Kind of like the infamous Mark Klaas lies of "50,000 children abducted annually by strangers", and much like that lie, these continue to propagate without any basis in reality, simply because they substantiate the myths which underly the current social structures. As James Watt is alleged to have said, "A lie can run around the world before the truth has got its boots on".

One of the entries there is this reprinting of a letter by Robin Morgan claiming that pornography causes less remorse in rapist. All anecdotal, but I went out looking for rape statistics.

The first two pages I found were the US DOJ Rape Trends page and the Australian Institute of Criminology Trends in Recorded Sexual Assault page. My first reaction was "whoah, theirs is going up while ours is going down", but then I re-normalized the graph, and realized that ours is just approaching their levels, and has been dropping rather dramatically (and, for once, I'm not going to claim causation between lots of cheap net porn and the drop-off in assaults, but note the correlation).

The Australian numbers are going up, although that page says:

This increase does not necessarily reflect an increase in the prevalence of sexual assault, but is likely to be influenced by an increase in reporting incidents to police.

And then goes on to state that "Victimisation surveys ... suggest that between 12 and 20 per cent of sexual assaults against women are reported to police", so that also tells us nothing about how the data between the two are related, I'd have to dig into the USDOJ numbers more deeply to figure out if there's any attempt to normalize those numbers.

But what I also found interesting was that:

In 2003, the last year for which ABS data are available, 82 per cent of recorded sexual assault victims were female.

If we can extrapolate from these numbers (yeah, that's a huge "if", and there's another big "if" in here for reporting rates), that means that roughly the same number of male adults are the victims of sexual assault as women are sexually assaulted by non-acquaintances.

Huh. I have to think about that for a bit...

[ related topics: Shoes Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-05-09 09:08:12.26754-07 Condom advocacy commercials by Dan Lyke comments 2

Violet Blue says "the cutest safer sex ad evah!" of My Boy Lollipop (alt), but also warns:

One thing -- don't use whipped cream with condoms as depicted in one of the scenes, the oil will pop the latex!

Searching around, this apparently comes from the French organization AIDeS, and it's not the first time they've done cute commercials. Unfortunately, their pages don't have downloadable video, but from their page on "Sugar Baby Love" gives stills which make me think that this and this and this are all the gay version, and this one's a het version to "Baby, Baby" (alt).

[ related topics: Technology and Culture Journalism and Media Erotic Television Movies Sexual Culture Video ]



Entry: 2007-05-08 06:31:32.607003-07 without the veil by Dan Lyke comments 6

Yesterday I linked to some folks who stopped just short of suggesting a burqa to protect women, today an article in The Tribune, from Chandigarh, India, about the sorts of harrasment an American woman experiences there. This is why further restrictions on women's behavior under the guise of protecting them is a bad idea.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-05-07 08:53:47.753534-07 age of consent and porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

I've got a lot on my plate, and I was wondering what I was going to do to keep the "National Masturbation Month" theme going, when Lyn linked to Should Girls Gone Wild get older?, a response to Garance Franke-Ruta's modest proposal to raise the age of consent for appearing in erotic images from 18 to 21.

But once again we need to look to where the damage is really coming from. Is the long-term damage coming from appearing in these videos, or is it coming from the cultural response to the act? If so, is trying to further stigmatize female sexual expression going to do more damage, or less?

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2007-05-05 06:44:29.653536-07 My Vagina by Dan Lyke comments 0

All About My Vagina, including a 'zine that's had A Food Issue (Don't miss the Maxi Pad Biscuits with Blue Test Syrup) and the Arts and Crafts issue with instructions on making your own Lucky Vulva Coin Purse.

And Reframing the conversation from sex as a commodity to sex as a performance, via All About My Vagina: Framing and defining sexuality.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Food ]



Entry: 2007-05-04 07:29:13.715982-07 degrading to women by Dan Lyke comments 4

The anti-porn rants thread is going in some interesting directions, and I linked to one of these articles there.

In linking to this article about the gory torture of women as mainstream entertainment, Lyn said "This is nauseating. Men who don't hate women should speak up against this shit."

And... well... the problem is where do you start? I'll start at How Not To Look Fat In Shoes, as I think that's a far more insidious form of torture and degradation in the mainstream media.

It's easy to divert attention on to the grotesque, but the real problems are the things that don't shock us.

[ related topics: Shoes Journalism and Media Sexual Culture Sociology Movies ]



Entry: 2007-05-04 07:25:44.179573-07 don't tie me down by Dan Lyke comments 0

Fox News reports on an Australian study that suggests that bondage may make men happier:

They were no more likely to have suffered sexual difficulties, sexual abuse or coercion or anxiety than other Australians.

In fact, says Dr. Richters, men into BDSM scored significantly better on a scale of psychological wellbeing than other men.

Yeah, okay, consider the source, but... From an entry and comment thread over at the behind Kink.com weblog.

[ related topics: Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Sexual Culture Current Events ]



Entry: 2007-05-03 06:48:24.036883-07 Café uh something by Dan Lyke comments 3

National Masturbation Month continues here at Flutterby: Over on the border between San Rafael and San Anselmo there's a cafe that was a branch of the Dipsea Cafe, which had a great menu that the kitchen could never quite deliver on (kind of the opposite of Marvin's up in Novato), then it became something like "Flying Pig Barbecue" (that, curiously, advertised "same menu, same owners"), and now it's "Café Gratitude", apparently one of several raw food restaurants of that name, the gimmick being that everything on the menu is named such that an order involves saying all sorts of affirmations. As some reviewers have described it:

Yeah, it's vegan, it's raw, it's fucking cheesy that you have to say shit like, "i am eternally blessed with happiness and vibrancy and the richness of my cup overfloweth with bounty." But i say, go with it.

Meh, not necessarily enough to get me in there, but over in Good Vibrations Magazine, Judah Pollack runs with the concept:

For entrees one could order the I Am Waiting, the I Am Touched, or the I Never Thought You'd Ask.

[ related topics: Erotic San Anselmo Good Vibrations Sexual Culture Bay Area Food ]



Entry: 2007-05-03 06:47:07.2865-07 "greatly disturbed" by Dan Lyke comments 0

Violet Blue covers the story about Earl Adams suing the Bentonville Arkansas library over carrying The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by interviewing author Felice Newman:

VB: According to Adams, his two sons, ages 14 and 16, were "greatly disturbed" by their discovery and apparently underwent "many sleepless nights" as a result. Do you want to comment on these statements?

FN: I imagine they went through a change of bed linens as well. Do you think the court will award them damages for a nice set of military-themed boys' bedsheets from Wal-Mart?

[ related topics: Books Sexual Culture Law moron ]



Entry: 2007-05-02 07:44:25.218266-07 doctors & lube by Dan Lyke comments 0

Since May is National Masturbation Month, and because I'm interested in exploring what's changed in the culture around me, I'm gonna try to find extra sex related links for a while.

I had just run across crasch's link list today which included a link to a note on how overconfidence makes nurses better at primary care visits than doctors (and they're cheaper, to boot), and then came across Violet Blue's video demonstration for a correspondent whose OBGYN was giving her very bad advice on why oil based lubes are bad for latex.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Personal Lubricant Video Health ]



Entry: 2007-05-01 08:00:40.607416-07 anti-porn rants by Dan Lyke comments 28

I have, of late, been wondering where the sex has gone on Flutterby. I used to use "sex, drugs and technology" as a tag line, but it seems like we've lost both the sex and drugs. A symptom of getting old? Perhaps. However, this morning I ran across two anti-porn screeds on Medley, and both of them bothered me. I don't know that I have time today to take them both apart in the depth that they deserve, but I want them both here as a reminder of why I'm pro-pornography, and in the hopes that I can come back to them later:

Reader actually asks spinster aunt’s opinion (on pornography) melds elements of your classic "women are oppressed and need to be free to make their own choices" truism with "women should be free to make my choices and no others" anger, in the process going beyond "men owe us equality" to "men owe us equality except for the privileges of marriage", with the additional wonderfully unsubstantiatable "pornography’s negative philosophic value" (because the repeated disproof of the "pornography causes violence" canard has made that one unsupportable).

“The average guy who can compartmentalize, disconnect, and then come back”: a response to Ethan on porn uses a great straw-man that someone else has set up (in fact, a whacked out straw man), and then comes back to the "one size fits all I know what's best for your relationship":

Porn says that happiness is found by having the same experience over and over again with lots of different women; true eros says that happiness is found by having different experiences over and over again with the same person.

In both cases the arguments are disturbingly Procrustean, especially when they're allegedly founded on the notion that people, women especially, should be free to make their own choices rather than being stuffed into the cultural roles that have been assigned to them. Instead what we find is that standard revolutionary cry that people should be crammed into other uncomfortable roles, as if those are the only alternatives to the current ones.

So I'll pop back over to Violet Blue and Debra Hyde for a bit.

[ related topics: Political Correctness Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



Entry: 2007-04-30 16:31:12.281885-07 Republicans looting the public coffers by Dan Lyke comments 0

Ooooh, this is interesting. Remember the anti-contraception wacko Eric Keroack getting appointed to lead the HHS Office of Population Affairs, and then resigning because his practice was getting investigated for Medicaid fraud? Something in Violet Blue's recent missive, abstinence does *not* make the heart grow fonder, triggered a few neurons.

She pointed to this Boston Globe article on Massachusetts Governor Deval Patrick foregoing federally funded abstinence propaganda in the schools which noted that "Healthy Futures", "...a subsidiary of a Christian, anti abortion group called A Woman's Concern...", had gotten $800k of this money.

And, what do you know, "A Woman's Concern" is Eric Keroack's group.

Anyone who believes that bullshit that Republicans are fiscally conservative has no more credibility.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Health Current Events Children and growing up Religion Politics ]



Entry: 2007-04-25 12:08:03.636429-07 Captain America by Dan Lyke comments 0

Okay, this one's just too bizarre to pass up, especially if, like me, you thought that Captain America is dead. Captain America (or at least a doctor dressed like him) accused of sexual assault. Best quote from the article:

Authorities said Adamcik was in possession of a large burrito and drugs.

"a large burrito"? Apparently Florida has imported police from San Francisco.

[ related topics: Drugs Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Bay Area Health Current Events Comics ]



Entry: 2007-04-18 09:49:04.759988-07 abortion ban upheld by Dan Lyke comments 2

Supreme Court backs ban on "partial birth abortion". Women will die because of this.

"Today's decision is alarming," Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg wrote in dissent. She said the ruling "refuses to take ... seriously" previous Supreme Court decisions on abortion.

Ginsburg said the latest decision "tolerates, indeed applauds, federal intervention to ban nationwide a procedure found necessary and proper in certain cases by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists."

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law ]



Entry: 2007-04-18 07:31:54.281015-07 gender imbalance by Dan Lyke comments 0

crasch had a link and copy of the graphic that he'd found via Newmark's Door to this weblog entry which republishes a map from National Geographic's February 2007 issue showing imbalances in single men and women across the United States. The west side has more single males, the east side more single females. But check ou those two close-together circles in Utah. And you Chattanoogans who are single might want to take note of a circle there.

[ related topics: Maps and Mapping Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-04-16 21:51:22.699996-07 Ungrounded by ebradway comments 3

A friend just registered a new domain for his kite photography: ungroundedphoto.com... While playing around on the web he realized that people might mistake the domain for undergroundphoto.com. Too bad he already paid for the domain...

[ related topics: Photography Invention and Design Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-04-12 16:06:53.853661-07 Gonorrhea drug-resistant by Dan Lyke comments 0

Remember when herpes was the big threat and everything else could be cured with penicillin? Lucky dog, I missed those years. Now the CDC Says Gonorrhea Is Drug-Resistant

[ related topics: Health Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-04-07 02:42:38.151917-07 Alan Moore on porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Bog Venus Versus Nazi Cock Ring: Some Thoughts Concerning Pornography By Alan Moore:

This is not to say, of course, that all society is a direct result of chronic Onanism, although I can see how one might come to that conclusion. Rather, it is to suggest that our impulse towards pornography has been with us since thumbs were first opposable, and that back at the outset of our bipedal experiment we saw it as a natural part of life, one of the nicer parts at that, and as a natural subject for our proto-artists.

(Emphasis in the original)

[ related topics: Art & Culture Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-04-06 10:51:46.510778-07 The Objectivist Pimp by ebradway comments 0

I haven't gotten to the part where Ayn Rand is discussed, but this piece over at NY Mag is a must read. My favorite quote so for:

"Jail is terrible, really boring," says Jason. "But it does give you plenty of time to plan your next move."

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Objectivism ]



Entry: 2007-04-06 07:39:50.746072-07 escort Q&A by Dan Lyke comments 0

crasch has a great Q&A with a woman who worked as an escort:

I haven't read much whore lit, mostly because you don't get book contracts unless you hated it or are repenting.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-04-04 11:56:09.570208-07 kids these days by Dan Lyke comments 3

I have seen a number of uproars over this report of fifth graders "having sex" in school (alternate version). What I find particularly amusing are threads like this one over at Least I Could Do decrying modern media taking away childhood.

Either there are a whole lot of adults out there who are criminally negligent in terms of understanding the growing up process, or there are a whole lot of people in pretty severe denial. Or kids in general are better at hiding this stuff from adults than I think they are, but since adults were kids once, let's go back to those two explanations.

I generally try to not kiss and tell, but... I went to school in a community that was pretty darned removed from the popular culture. There were parents who asked that, if a kid were visiting a house that wasn't as far removed from technology, that radios and televisions be covered, but even in the houses with some exposure to the modern culture such things were fairly well limited. In the 1970s I knew Mendelssohn, Bach and Beethoven, and I don't know that I'd heard of Crosby, Stills and Nash. And, yes, there was various genital touching. At ages younger than this.

I'm not sure what the harm here is, other than that there are very definitely power dynamics which can be unhealthy extensions of the cruelty that goes on on playgrounds and the usual hazards associated with sex, but if we keep playing the "oh my god, kids these days!" hysterical bullshit games, we won't be able to address either of these concerns effectively.

And remember that there are cultures where 13 is adulthood.

So: Adults in general, parents, teachers and school administrators in particular: Kids, probably first and second graders, hell, probably any time preschoolers can sneak away from adult eyes, not just fifth graders, are exploring their own and each other's bodies. Get over that. Deal with that. Stop expressing surprise, shock and outrage, and open your darned eyes to see what's actually happening with the children around you.

I'm not asking you to condone it, I'm just asking you to stop the denial and the willful ignorance and outright stupidity.

Maybe once you've done that then you can get to talking about what to do. But until then, you're a hazard to children, and, yes, I'm talking to you, Bob Buckley, you are a hazard to children:

"After 44 years of doing this work, nothing shocks me anymore," said Union Parish Sheriff Bob Buckley. "But this comes pretty close."

and should be kept the hell away from them.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2007-04-03 17:04:10.491834-07 Pursed Lips is back! by Dan Lyke comments 0

Hey! Debra Hyde reports that she placed third in the 2006 Queer Lit competition, and she's been offered a contract for another novel.

And she's updating again!

[ related topics: Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-03-28 08:10:38.415965-07 obsolescence by Dan Lyke comments 0

Uh oh: Some disturbing news from down under:

SISTERS are doing it for themselves – at least they are in Queensland where a sexuality survey showed that women with no partner could achieve orgasm more easily than those with a man on hand.

So does this say something about Australian lovers, gender relations in general, or what? (From Sensible Erection)

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2007-03-23 10:20:38.009779-07 poly people I can do without by Dan Lyke comments 7

Stolen from Jay: Poly people I can do without. Charlene and I met in a community where there was a lot of poly stuff going around, and we left that community for various reasons, but part of why I drifted away from it was that I saw some of those patterns pretty prevalently.

However, just because those things are particularly prevalent in poly communities doesn't mean that they're unique to them, a lot of those clues look like things that happen in two person relationships all the time too.

[ related topics: Community Psychology, Psychiatry and Personality Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-03-22 16:15:51.326071-07 COPA struck down by Dan Lyke comments 1

Yay: COPA (Child Online Protection Act) struck down:

In his ruling, Reed warned that "perhaps we do the minors of this country harm if First Amendment protections, which they will with age inherit fully, are chipped away in the name of their protection."

Heck yeah.

[ related topics: Politics Civil Liberties Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-03-22 11:10:30.603957-07 Jesus at the porn expo by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Stranger video: Jesus goes to the porn convention:

"Have you ever been nailed in all three holes at once?"

Stolen from crasch.

[ related topics: Humor Sexual Culture Video Religion ]



Entry: 2007-03-21 11:06:22.476566-07 the cop who got off by Dan Lyke comments 0

While we're talking about misdeeds of law enforcement officials, crasch had a link to news that that Orange County cop who abused his powers and ejaculated on a motorists sweater... uhh... "got off", the jury dismissed felony charges, presumably mirroring the "she wanted it" attitude of the defense attorney, who said "“She got what she wanted, she's an overtly sexual person.”:

In a secretly-recorded phone call to Laguna Beach police shortly after the incident, Lucy recalled that she'd told Park she had no license. Park began "rubbing himself up against me," she said. "Then, he said, 'What are we going to do here, Lucy?'"

Park unzipped his pants, took his penis out and got an erection, she explained. "Basically, the officer made me give [him] a freaking hand job and he let me go. I'm so freaked out about it."

[ related topics: California Culture Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Current Events ]



Entry: 2007-03-21 10:48:04.631526-07 government abuses by Dan Lyke comments 1

Larry points out that everyone's up in arms over the firings of the the U.S. Attorneys, but nobody's riled up about the FBI overstepping their bounds in their use of the National Security Letters. Here's an article about the FBI's abuse of said letters, and probably deliberate destruction of paper trails. My personal opinion is that the FBI has been doing this sort of stuff for just shy of 99 years, and there's no political will to clean out that organization.

And in case you missed it, I stuffed a link to Daze Reader's rundown on the two prosecutors who appear to have been fired for being unwilling to prosecute obscenity cases in the comments to yesterday's entry about the topic.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law Enforcement moron Politics Law ]



Entry: 2007-03-15 16:37:47.599323-07 Garrison Keillor on marriage by Dan Lyke comments 1

Dan Savage takes Garrison Keillor to task on gay marriage.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Weblogs Marriage ]



Entry: 2007-03-06 15:13:52.241683-08 Vagina vagina vagina by Dan Lyke comments 3

Maybe it's just that I live in Marin County, and that Drake high school has such a cool and well developed drama program, but I can't possibly imagine how fucked up and clueless the school administrators would have to be to do this: Three students in Cross River, New York high school suspended for saying "Vagina" during reading from The Vagina Monologues.

[ related topics: New York Theater & Plays Sexual Culture Children and growing up Bay Area ]



Entry: 2007-03-03 09:33:35.68476-08 Newsom: spineless by Dan Lyke comments 0

Gavin Newsom to change policy after San Francisco proclamation honoring a gay porn studio is issued:

But the Anaheim-based Traditional Values Coalition sees it differently. The group issued a statement Thursday condemning Newsom and the other officials for honoring what it called "one of the largest producers of explicit homosexual porn in the country."

Yeah, and? Gavin Newsom, if you have any backbone at all you'll tell these bozos to take their hate-mongering attitudes back to their backwards little closed minds and stuff-it. And we find that there are area politicians who do have a little bit of principle:

The proclamation was written by Neighborhood Services staffers after they learned state Assemblyman Mark Leno, D-San Francisco, and city Treasurer Jose Cisneros had issued similar commendations.

I don't know who in the SF Comical is starting to run stories with this slant, but if we can get Violet Blue to spearhead something that makes Newsom look like the spineless idiot that this incident shows him to be, I'll get behind it!

[ related topics: California Culture Sexual Culture Bay Area moron Gavin Newsom ]



Entry: 2007-02-16 12:03:14.527574-08 hot or not composites by Dan Lyke comments 0

I forget where I first picked these up in the past few days, but... some interesting composite images of women's faces off of Hot Or Not, Miss Universe 2005 composites by region of origin, or a few breakdowns of Hot or Not by age.

Maybe someone else will take this away in the context of my ramblings that the blond surgically altered mainstream porn look is a fetish unto itself.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2007-02-15 09:09:21.630013-08 fundraising by Dan Lyke comments 0

If you've got some spare cash lying around: Lisa's doing a Leukemia & Lymphoma Society Team in Training event, I haven't looked at the L&LS-TnT in terms of what they actually do about their stated goals, but they were great in providing support to the Marin Century/Mount Tam Double, and Lisa's cool.

And on a different note: Scarleteen is looking for donations.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Bay Area Interactive Drama ]



Entry: 2007-02-15 07:37:23.821689-08 the lie of unbiased reporting by Dan Lyke comments 0

Violet Blue: Kink.com and Porn Hysteria: The Lie of Unbiased Reporting

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Journalism and Media ]



Entry: 2007-02-07 16:50:16.443386-08 different porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Hey, over at Pursed Lips, Debra's getting back into the posting habit! Welcome back! Today she writes Sukebu Otaku: The Aging of Porn, Visibly So., which references The New York Times: The Greying of Naughty, which had this quote:

The market for beautiful, airbrushed young women “is oversaturated,” he says. “This is more normal people, more meat on the bone, like what you have at home.”

Which I thought was interesting because it seems like so many producers who've tried to make a go of porn with "normal people" have failed. Columbine talked about this a few weeks ago in More Fun with Smut, which looked at the tremendous sameness of modern porn performers, and in the comments I posited that there's a "mainstream porn fetish".

I don't know that I have a conclusion here, just that different people are saying tremendously different things about the porn market, and I'm not sure who's right, or what those different things say about the culture at large.

[ related topics: California Culture Sexual Culture Sociology Economics ]



Entry: 2007-02-05 15:52:48.559656-08 WA DOMA by Dan Lyke comments 5

Washington Defense of Marriage Alliance:

... This decision, given in July 2006, declared that a “legitimate state interest” allows the Legislature to limit marriage to those couples able to have and raise children together. Because of this “legitimate state interest,” it is permissible to bar same-sex couples from legal marriage.

The way we are challenging Andersen is unusual: using the initiative, we are working to put the Court’s ruling into law. We will do this through three initiatives. The first would make procreation a requirement for legal marriage. The second would prohibit divorce or legal separation when there are children. The third would make the act of having a child together the legal equivalent of a marriage ceremony.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Law Marriage Religion ]



Entry: 2007-02-05 09:20:23.296426-08 posession of pictures of herself by Dan Lyke comments 0

Teen girl charged with posting nude photos of herself on the Internet (via Genehack):

She has been charged with sexual abuse of children, possession of child pornography and dissemination of child pornography.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Children and growing up Nudity moron ]



Entry: 2007-01-22 11:42:19.656581-08 Porn in HD by ebradway comments 0

With a nod to Mike and the Slug Page, porn in HD may not be a good thing.

Ms. Daniels is also a skeptic. “I’m not 100 percent sure why anyone would want to see their porn in HD,” she said.

“The biggest problem is razor burn,” said Stormy Daniels, an actress, writer and director.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Erotic Movies Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2007-01-05 11:25:31.816979-08 high end brothel by Dan Lyke comments 2

20 miles northeast of Atlanta? That's where my parents live! Well, they're actually about midway between Atlanta and Duluth, where Penthouse Pet Nabbed in Brothel Case:

Two suburban women — including one who police identified as a former Penthouse Pet — have been arrested for prostitution in a case in which "dates" could cost as much as $10,000, authorities said.

Ya know, when you get into high-end prostitution, the only thing harmed is... well... never mind, anything that would have been harmed, like the institution of marriage, was already broken in the particular case.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Current Events Law Marriage ]



Entry: 2006-12-20 19:51:09.001637-08 remove rubber by Dan Lyke comments 0

For some reason when I saw this safety sign on CalTrain, I immediately thought of Brad. And I hope he'll forgive me for quoting an entry in its entirety from Must See HTTP://:

MyFox Chicago | Media Player Had Porn On It

I don't care if it does come with two hours of gay porn pre-loaded. I'm still not buying a Zune.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2006-12-20 12:12:55.695066-08 premarital sex by Dan Lyke comments 2

Anti-news: Most Americans Have Had Premarital Sex:

Finer said the likelihood of Americans having sex before marriage has remained stable since the 1950s, though people now wait longer to get married and thus are sexually active as singles for extensive periods.

I'd guess that the pill and Griswold v. Connecticut[Wiki] changed a lot, but I've heard anecdotes of swinging back in the late 1930s (and, albeit as "reports of reports", "petting parties" in the '20s), so it would have been cool if they could have taken this data back further than they did. (via Rebecca Blood)

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2006-12-15 08:41:36.677625-08 Goodbye to Comics by Dan Lyke comments 1

Lyn linked to Sexism Among Comic Book Geeks: "The Rape Pages Are In", which is basically a link to Valerie D'Orazio (aka "Occasional Superheroine")'s series Goodbye To Comics (start at the bottom) (or you can use Elayne Riggs's chapter by chapter links).

There's a lot about this I want to say that I don't have time for right now. On the one hand it's the brain dump of a woman who needs a good shot of self-esteem, on the other hand it raises (in me, at least) a lot of issues about acceptance of kinks and quirks versus a culture which encourages the harmful bits of that.

Worth reading if, like me, you have one of those strange relationships with comics and wonder why there seems to be so much potential there but in practice they're so often not compelling.

[ related topics: Comics Sociology Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-12-14 10:06:51.762625-08 McCain goes after the Constitution, again by Dan Lyke comments 1

The weblog community is abuzz with the news that John McCain has introduced legislation that would hold weblogs responsible for their comment sections and user profiles. News.com has some more on the legislation.

This is the same John McCain who said: "I would rather have a clean government than one where quote First Amendment rights are being respected, that has become corrupt. If I had my choice, I'd rather have the clean government." In plain English that's "I want it run my way and the rest of you can shut the fuck up", but you don't have to take my interpretation of it, you can go watch that video. (props to this MeFi entry)

The reporting would also happen through the the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, so I went over there to see a little background on who they are and what their mission is. They have a Flash based timeline, the intro to which claims that:

The U.S. Department of Justice reports that in a one-year period of time 797,500 children were reported missing. That is an average of 2,100 children reported missing each day. 1,682,900 children ran away or were thrown away. 203,900 children were abducted by family members. 198,300 children were involuntarily missing, lost or injured. 58,200 children were abducted by nonfamily members.

Now I've seen something similar to that fifty-some-odd-thousand non-family abductions number in the past, that's the number that Mark Klaas pulled out of his ass when lying testifying before Congress, but that last bit had a superscript on it, so I went and checked out their citations page, which says:

According to David Finkelhor in What the Numbers Tell Us in The Front Line (Alexandria, Virginia: National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, Winter 2002/2003, page 10), many fewer children, approximately 115, suffer one of the extremely serious kinds of nonfamily abduction called stereotypical kidnappings.

So what were the other 58,085? Or is this yet another set of lying scumbags who use "for the chillldruuun" as their rallying cry while they push more governmental control over everything and trample any notion of individual rights?

Yeah, thought so. Arizonans, please vote this fucker out of office. The rest of you, holler at your senators to stop this bullshit.

[ related topics: Civil Liberties moron Children and growing up Sexual Culture Sociology Law Enforcement Weblogs Current Events Politics ]



Entry: 2006-12-12 22:12:53.903896-08 Century Project by Dan Lyke comments 0

Interesting article about photographer Frank Cordelle and his collection of pictures: The Century Project: Women from birth through 100 years of age. Pictures of nude women in all shapes, sizes and ages, and some of their stories.

For men - who are often uncomfortable looking at pictures of nude women, and who often have a difficult time distinguishing between nudity and sexuality - the impact of seeing this collection of photographs has been largely educational: they see women who are real human beings, as opposed to a series of impersonal toys in a sexual (and frequently violent) environment.

[ related topics: Erotic Photography Sexual Culture Nudity Sociology ]



Entry: 2006-12-11 08:14:01.556792-08 sex offender panic by Dan Lyke comments 0

Who will protect us from the "sex offender panic" laws?:

Apparently unable to find a vocal advocate for a child who had actually been abducted by a convicted sex offender, Hatch used Smart and Walsh to promote an agenda that had nothing to do with the circumstances of their abductions. The two high-profile abductions (neither by sex offenders) were somehow claimed to demonstrate the urgent need for tighter restrictions on sex offenders. Hatch’s bill, signed by President Bush on July 27, will likely have little effect in protecting America’s children.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Politics Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2006-12-09 18:34:25.344523-08 sex offense idiocy by Dan Lyke comments 2

Teen, both a perpetrator and victim of sex offense, presents legal puzzle:

Utah Supreme Court justices acknowledged Tuesday that they were struggling to wrap their minds around the concept that a 13-year-old Ogden girl could be both an offender and a victim for the same act - in this case, having consensual sex with her 12-year-old boyfriend.

As the SE entry which brought this to my attention said:

Anyone taking bets on how long before some kid gets put on the sex offender registry when he's caught touching himself?

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Law moron ]



Entry: 2006-12-07 10:01:14.827564-08 spam leap by Dan Lyke comments 2

Holy crap. My spam load was fairly heavy, circa 500 messages a day, but between last night and this morning that skyrocketed. Has Vista hit the streets, or is this just some new exploit for XP?

And once again I find it amusing that penis enlargement, tranny porn, and Rolex knock-offs all seem to have the same target demographic. I'll never be able to look at a high end wristwatch again without snickering.

[ related topics: Marketing Sexual Culture Spam ]



Entry: 2006-12-07 08:33:32.605514-08 Saving the world through porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Heather Corinna[Wiki], whom you may know from her work at Scarlet Letters and Scarleteen, and whom you may not know from her testimony to the Supreme Court in support of your First Amendment rights (upon which she remarks: "I have never had a pet name for my body parts, but I’m seriously considering calling my tits Exhibit 42 from now on."), wrote a long piece on why Scarlet Letters hasn't had any updates in a while: Why I Stopped Trying To Save The World Through Pornography:

Women can’t possibly reclaim pornography — which is an expression of sexuality — before we’ve reclaimed sexuality, period.

The whole thing is worth reading. And I think this ties in to why I was intrigued by Ariel Levy's comments, despite what I see as some obvious and immediate flaws in Levy's arguments: Raunch culture is still a defining culture for sexuality.

Anyway, too much coding to do right now to explore this too far, maybe y'all can take it soimewhere.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Civil Liberties Politics ]



Entry: 2006-12-05 13:30:26.729807-08 sex shame? by Dan Lyke comments 2

Women masturbating! Okay, now that I have your attention... Say you mention reading materials to someone. Say that someone says "I've got a female friend who's uptight about masturbation, I've gotten her a vibrator and lube, but she's not really able to let go". Say the subjects are early college sorts of age.

Any suggestion for up-to-date reading materials? I'm sure there'll be future discussions, and obviously I'm at least once removed from the specifics (no, my life doesn't have nearly as much discussion of masturbation with 19 year old women as you might surmise), but I'd be a little afraid Betty Dodson[Wiki]'s Sex For One[Wiki] is a bit dated, and I'm not sure what other directions to recommend.

[ related topics: Erotic Community Education Sexual Culture Personal Lubricant ]



Entry: 2006-12-02 10:14:24.723323-08 bigger hard drives by Dan Lyke comments 1

I think my next hard drive is going to be a Seagate: Seagate's CEO Bill Watkins understands his business mission: "Let's face it, we're not changing the world. We're building a product that helps people buy more crap - and watch porn."

[ related topics: Business Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-12-01 07:44:36.888718-08 RU-4 breast cancer? by Dan Lyke comments 0

Abortion pill thwarts breast cancer gene, at least in specially bred mice:

No one is suggesting women use the abortion pill that way. But the provocative experiment helped illustrate how the notorious breast cancer gene BRCA1 does its dirty work, by spurring a hormone called progesterone that RU-486 happens to block.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Bioinformatics ]



Entry: 2006-11-30 13:10:57.464305-08 panties & bluetooth by Dan Lyke comments 1

Two nipped from elsewhere:

Over at Pursed Lips, Debra pointed out that in this photocollage of U.S. soldiers in Iraq and what they carry, the only guy smiling is the one with a pair of his wife's panties in a bag. Here's the article that goes with it, and over at Eros Blog's (acknowledged) poach of the link they found a direct link to the photo. However, I think the statement of the picture is much more powerful in the context of the rest of the pictures.

And Violet Blue pointed out a Bluetooth enabled vibrator that responds to SMS messages. Since I like to be in a range where I can actually see and respond to my lover, and since SMS messages are so freakin' expensive and unreliable, I'm not an immediate fan, but if they offer up how to interface to it with another Bluetooth device...

And one I saw this morning that I've been pondering: Violet Blue rants about various things associated with being a "geek girl", and I can't do justice to it in a summary, but in the process she defends Xeni (of BoingBoing fame). I have to admit that while I don't question Violet Blue's hacker cred, though I might push back a little on "geek" 'cause I don't see her slinging much code, I've always seen Xeni as sort of a Jon Katz hanger-on to the scene, and this includes exposure to the "BoingBoing" magazine long before the net presence. Comments? Discussion? Someone willing to set me straight?

[ related topics: Erotic Photography Sexual Culture Community Cool Technology ]



Entry: 2006-11-29 12:55:03.226707-08 Dildo Diaries by Dan Lyke comments 1

If you haven't yet ordered your copy of The Dildo Diaries, a documentary on the illegality of some classes of sex toys in Texas, here's an 11 minute edit, the section starting at about 8:30 that makes me understand certain aspects of the national political messsituation and weep that these people are U.S. citizens with not just voting rights, but who have been elected to public office. Warren Chisum saying "If you were in my county, it could be hangin'" is chilling.

The Sensible Erection entry that linked to this also had an absolutely hilarious riff on the old Slinky commercials.

[ related topics: Movies moron Sexual Culture Politics Video Civil Liberties Humor ]



Entry: 2006-11-29 09:27:32.796142-08 Ariel Levy on Fresh Air by Dan Lyke comments 0

Yesterday I had to make a run into town around lunch time, and ended up hearing the start of Ariel Levy on Fresh Air. I was intrigued, she seemed to have an anti-porn feminist stance, but she was taking on the whole Girls Gone Wild/Maxim culture. I went looking for more on her oon the web, and found the Ariel Levy archive at New York Magazine, but the article I read, on older women having sex with boys, wasn't particularly enlightening.

This morning I listened to the whole interview, and it seemed like she's got the nub of some ideas that I'd like to see explored further, but neither her articles nor Terry Gross's questioning managed to give me an idea of whether I'd actually like her book. So anyone out there read enough Ariel Levy to give me an idea, or point me to something that'll convince me I need to order Female Chauvinist Pigs?

[ related topics: Books Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2006-11-27 08:25:21.015171-08 knowingly posessing by Dan Lyke comments 0

I need to get going on my work stuff this morning, but there appears to have been an interesting court decision in Pennsylvania about what constitutes "knowingly posessing" images of child pornography, specifically in relation to browser caches.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Law ]



Entry: 2006-11-21 18:11:27.733802-08 Eric Keroack at HHS by Dan Lyke comments 2

Charlene just mentioned the appointment of Eric Keroack as Deputy Assistant Secretary for Population Affairs at the Health and Human Services Department. That means he's head of the Office of Family Planning. I had seen this a few days ago over on Elf Sternberg's LJ, but outrage overload made me pass it by. Despite my shrill tone of the past few days, y'all don't read this for the politicking. However, Charlene's encouragement made me write this.

Keroack is the "medical director" for a "pregnancy crisis counseling center". I can't find it right now, but a Washington Post article reports that:

"A Woman's Concern is persuaded that the crass commercialization and distribution of birth control is demeaning to women, degrading of human sexuality and adverse to human health and happiness," the group's Web site says.

(Presumably the web site was changed once this guy got political) So... uh... yeah. The guy in charge of administering over a quarter of a billion bucks to implement Title X:

The Title X program is the only Federal program devoted solely to the provision of family planning and reproductive health care. The program is designed to provide access to contraceptive supplies and information to all who want and need them with priority given to low-income persons.

Thinks that easy access to birth control is demeaning to women. He also believes that:

In his presentation at the 10th Annual Abstinence Leadership Conference in Kansas City earlier this month, Dr. Eric Keroack, MD, FACOG explained that oxytocin is released during positive social interaction, massage, hugs, trust encounters, and sexual intercourse. It promotes bonding by reducing fear and anxiety in social settings, increasing trust and trustworthiness, reducing stress and pain, and decreasing social aggression, he said.

Which he then thinks implies that that:

"People who have misused their sexual faculty and become bonded to multiple persons will diminish the power of oxytocin to maintain a permanent bond with an individual."

So we only have a fixed amount of good feelings, and if we have too many good feelings we'll use them all up. And here I thought that "abstinence makes the heart grow fonder" was a joke.

Which makes sense. This administration put that utter fuckwit Donald Rumsfeld, who raped and pillaged the military budget to enrich his cronies and whose only successful military maneuver was finally falling on his sword, in charge of "defense", and now they're putting people who believe that contraception is eeeeevil in charge of family planning.

At this point I don't know what we can do to slow these fuckers down in their wanton rampage through rational behavior, but, damn, do something, say something, call your congressweasels and see if you can get them to say something, lest the war on sanity escalate even further. I mean, hell, apparently even Rush Limbaugh is repudiating this administration.

Obligatory link to Planned Parenthood.

(You know how to use Google, but if you want more links here's a place to start.)

[ related topics: Sexual Culture moron Health Current Events Politics Religion ]



Entry: 2006-11-16 15:11:13.51016-08 gay economics by Dan Lyke comments 30

Percy's Big Gay Economic Development Plan:

Fact: 25% of billionaires are gay* (in whole or part).

Fact: 27% of hedge fund managers are gay (in whole or part).

Fact: 54% of adult gays are college grads (compared with 28% of the general population).

Fact: The average income of adult gays is $53,500 (compared with $32,000 for the general population).

With that kind of brain power and economic clout, shouldn't we be recruiting more gays to move here? Yes, we should!

Greensboro, NC could be the next big boom spot.

[ related topics: Education Sexual Culture Economics ]



Entry: 2006-11-10 18:22:05.74092-08 giggle by Dan Lyke comments 1

Spontaneous out-loud laughter: Mary "Arthur" Poppins: "Supertelevangelistic sex-and-drugs psychosis" (props to Brad at Must See HTTP:// for the find).

[ related topics: Drugs Sexual Culture Religion Humor ]



Entry: 2006-11-07 06:21:09.413025-08 swingin' '70s by Dan Lyke comments 3

Popsicle Twins may have been the act that got The Gong Show kicked off of NBC, but can you imagine this lasting more than a second or two on national broadcast TV these days?

[ related topics: Television Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-11-05 17:35:37.668541-08 Colorado Springs values by Dan Lyke comments 4

Damn, I hate to break up some good personal experience posts with a political one, but... The current meme racing through the mainstream media is that Republicans are using the phrase "San Francisco values" as sort of an epithet. In light of the recent discovery that evangelical Christianity leader Ted Haggard has been snorting meth and engaging in gay sex, I propose that we start using the phrase "Colorado Springs values".

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Drugs Marketing Sexual Culture Bay Area moron Politics Religion ]



Entry: 2006-11-02 09:25:52.947996-08 Pornography Awareness by Dan Lyke comments 1

I think normally I'd let those of you interested in this sort of thing find it on your own, but various organizations have declared this "National Pornography Awareness Week", so I figure I should keep the awareness of pornography up for a few days: Violet Blue talks about various user-upload sites for home generated porn. I haven't actually gone to check out the various sites she mentions, I assume they're all pay, in which case we might want to toss in a few others, like Home Clips (I'm not a subscriber, but it's the same folks who run Voyeur Web).

And if your tastes run towards the prose, Be287m has done some interesting character studies that sometimes include sex, and approaches the archetype of the "sex worker" from a direction that's consistent with my observations of those who choose that line of work.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-11-01 07:37:01.802105-08 crimes against nature by Dan Lyke comments 2

Several articles about an exhibit in the Oslo Natural History Museum about homosexuality in animals have shown up in the news of late (here's another), but this one has a really great last paragraph:

A Lutheran priest said he hoped the organisers would "burn in hell," and a Pentecostal priest lashed out at the exhibition, saying taxpayers' money used for it would have been better spent helping the animals correct "their perversions and deviances".

acelightning also copied the article to an LJ entry while linking to it.

[ related topics: Current Events Sexual Culture moron Humor ]



Entry: 2006-11-01 07:31:12.180663-08 sexual behavior studies by Dan Lyke comments 1

Study Dispels Some Sexual Behavior Myths:

"We did have some of our preconceptions dashed," she said, explaining they had expected to find the most promiscuous behavior in regions like Africa with the highest rates of sexually transmitted diseases. That was not the case, as multiple partners were more commonly reported in industrialized countries where the incidence of such diseases was relatively low.

It looks like Kay Wellings has a bunch of interesting publications (oh for days and days to lounge around a half-decent university library). And The Lancet's sexual and reproductive health collection could also keep me reading for quite a while.

[ related topics: Education Health Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-10-31 06:16:31.488627-08 yay for porn! by Dan Lyke comments 3

Studies have long shown that access to pornography reduces sex crimes. Here's more: How the Web Prevents Rape: All that Internet porn reduces sex crimes. Really.

[ related topics: Net Culture Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-10-25 09:53:58.777622-07 six words by Dan Lyke comments 2

Six word short stories.

Starlet sex scandal. Giant squid involved.

- Margaret Atwood

Although some of them do appear to be just inciting incidents. MetaFilter thread has more.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture History ]



Entry: 2006-10-25 08:37:20.044905-07 Shortbus by Dan Lyke comments 0

We're going to go into the city this evening (the last Scotch Night before Leo heads off to work in Japan), but I still don't think we're going to get to Shortbus[Wiki] before it's out of the theaters. Debra likes it a lot, Violet Blue was general positive, with some reservations about sex worker clichés.

I wasn't a total fan of Hedwig and the Angry Inch, but this one does intrigue me, but I'm not yet motivated enough to try to organize a trek into the city or up to Santa Rosa.

[ related topics: Movies Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-10-19 07:38:16.891217-07 elections by Dan Lyke comments 1

Went down to Drake High School last night where the students of ComAcad presented pro and con commercials on the governor's race, Prop 83 (further complicating laws regarding sex offenders, and duplicating a lot of things that have already been done through standard legislation), Prop 85 (requires parental notifications 48 hours before minors have abortions), Prop 86 (special protections from anti-monopoly laws for some health care providers, and $2.70 per pack tax on cigarettes), and Marin and Sonoma County's "Measure R", a quarter cent sales tax to repair the north-south corridor tracks and restore passenger/commuter service along those tracks.

The format was to show both the pro and con ads, and then have those who made both answer questions from the audience either on substantive issues on the particulars of the vote, or on the mechanics of the ad creation. Most questioners went with the former.

I was impressed, both that the ads didn't necessarily reflect the personal opinions of those who made them, and in how informed most of these high school students were. Yeah, there were some glaring holes, but I'm far less disturbed about those kids reaching voting age than I am about the ignorance in many already voting citizens.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Politics Children and growing up Bay Area California Culture ]



Entry: 2006-10-10 09:27:10.936048-07 Foley Folly by Dan Lyke comments 2

I feel like I should weigh in on the Mark Foley situation. Honestly, I'm having trouble getting worked up. A lot of people are raising the "pedophile" cry, but I'm sure that there are sixteen year olds claiming to be eighteen hustling in every city in this country (and most towns), and sixteen is plenty old enough to understand that members of Congress are going to try to fuck you, although most attempts will be metaphorically.

I'm sure that asking around will reveal that the pages talked about this stuff to each other, but I'll also be surprised if it lifts any other rocks; teens live in a world that's incredibly well insulated from "adults", and none of them have anything to gain by talking.

The one thing that does bug me is that assorted other Congressweasels covered for this guy while Foley was doing his "for the childruuuun" spiels, but I expect that sort of hypocrisy from politicians. And the whole "Republicans are victims" line that Hastert et al are throwing up and trying to make stick sickens me, but at this point I'm so beyond outrage that it just doesn't matter.

Mostly I see this as a smokescreen from the real issues facing the country these days, although I stand with Jay in my support of Dennis Hastert for Speaker of the House.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Politics Current Events ]



Entry: 2006-10-05 13:03:26.545561-07 Shortbus review by Dan Lyke comments 0

Positive review of Shortbus in the SF Bay Guardian.

[ related topics: Bay Area Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-10-02 09:03:41.76888-07 Busty Lady by Dan Lyke comments 0

San Francisco's Lusty Lady strip club has apparently had a dustup over the weight and size of some of the strippers working the stage there. The Lusty Lady is famous partly because it was one of(?) the first strip clubs to unionize, and was then bought by the workers and is now run as a cooperative.

What's really interesting is the difference between the SFGate.com coverage of the story and the San Francisco Bay Guardian's version. In the former, the person who sent the email of complaint to the board had collected the comments from customers, in the latter it's implied that they were his own opinions. Very interesting example of how news can get spun.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Sexual Culture Current Events Bay Area ]



Entry: 2006-10-01 11:42:15.687955-07 Political messes by Dan Lyke comments 0

Crap. Ya know, I wanted to write something about the end of habeus corpus and the press spinning that as the Whitehouse losing. About Republican pedophiles and the institutions that support them, and how, unlike the Clinton administration that actually tried to do something, the Bush administration ignored repeated warnings about bin Laden and Al Qaueda. About... well... fuck, I just don't have it in me.

Tom and Dori rant on what it means to be a Republican now, Wonkette gets all snarky on the pedophilia, and... well...

I believe that all governments are Democracies. That people accept governments or overthrow them. The fact that so many Americans aren't even using the non-violent structures we have in place to smackdown this crap no longer shocks me. It makes me sad, but I've long known that most voters are morons.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Politics moron Current Events ]



Entry: 2006-09-28 12:19:25.98477-07 Thought crimes by Dan Lyke comments 0

Pennsylvania woman indicted on obscenity charges for running a website with text stories on it.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law ]



Entry: 2006-09-22 08:51:13.426068-07 old media by Dan Lyke comments 0

Shoot. Ya know, I ran across a "decline of newspapers" thing that I was going to link to to start this little bit, but I don't know where it was, so insert your own whining about the decline of the old media here.

You want proof that the decline of newspapers is mostly a matter of audience and delivery mechanism? SFGate is billing Violet Blue's sex columnist role for them as "Putting the S.F. in N.S.F.W.". SFGate is the online arm of the San Francisco Chronicle, they even share the domain, but Violet Blue ends up only in the online edition.

Since most of the content is mirrored, it's clearly just a matter of which medium the demographic uses. Paper is the medium of old people stuck in their ways who'd be shocked and offended by the notion that "people are having sex!" Smart newspapers will make the transition, stupid ones will die.

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Marketing Sexual Culture Bay Area ]



Entry: 2006-09-22 08:37:07.498771-07 Rule of Rose by Dan Lyke comments 0

There was a time where any interview which asked of a game designer:

What was the inspiration for using the sexuality of prepubescent girls as a theme in the game?

Would have gotten an instant link from me on Flutterby. And I guess it still does, but not in the "Now I have to know what Rule of Rose is all about!" sort of way, because, frankly, every time I've expected to see something truly literary, something that makes me think about culture, from a game, it hasn't happened.

This game is an interesting cultural phenomenon in that it's been released everywhere but the U.S., and Sony, it's publisher elsewhere, doesn't want it released in the U.S., but Atlus, the developers, have found a way to do that anyway, but as I dug a bit further I was left with an "oh, it's a video game. with cut scenes. I wonder when they'll do the comic version so I'd actually enjoy it?" reaction.

Via Disobey. I realized that Morbus Iff had dropped off my sidebar, and I can't remember why, but he's got some good stuff there.

[ related topics: Games Sociology Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-09-08 07:10:06.09383-07 elusive lesbian consumers by Dan Lyke comments 0

Marketplace finds lesbians an attractive, but elusive, niche. Leaving all of the potential plays off the words in that headline alone, the article is interesting for the comparisons of gay male consumer culture to... well... trying to find a lesbian culture. Or at least one that's sustainable. And I think they nail it with:

Another factor in business decline is that bookstores and cafes that catered to lesbians often had strong ties to feminism, which has been less visible since the 1970s and '80s.

[ related topics: California Culture Consumerism and advertising Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2006-09-04 10:15:57.755784-07 sex doll rafting by Dan Lyke comments 1

Thanks to Daze Reader for bringing my attention to the headline of the week: Participant of Sex Dolls Rafting Tournament Disqualified For Sexual Abuse of Apparatus. Ahhh, those wacky Russians. Photos and text in Russian at Bubble Baba Challenge.

I'm thinkin' that perhaps this is something that needs to be instituted on the Ocoee[Wiki]?

[ related topics: Whitewater Sexual Culture Current Events Humor ]



Entry: 2006-08-30 07:53:26.167921-07 Random reading by Dan Lyke comments 1

A couple of bits worth reading:

[ related topics: Books Games Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-08-24 10:05:03.55822-07 Plan B by Dan Lyke comments 5

FDA Approves Over-the-Counter Access for Plan B for Women 18 and Older (SFGate Article). So those 18 and over can get the "morning after" pill from a pharmacist, but without a prescription, those under 18 need a prescription from a doctor. A step in the right direction, the restriction on those 17 and younger is all about politics and a sop to the fringe radicals of the anti-abortion lobby.

[ related topics: Health Sexual Culture Current Events Politics ]



Entry: 2006-08-08 10:22:41.391875-07 AOL exposed by ziffle comments 7

Read about AOL giving away the search requests for millions of requests, and downloaded a sample. O boy - 500 MB of compressed searches. Who knew? Is this the end of privacy - I think so.

Upon decompressing a sample, I looked for - drum roll - 'flutterby' and here is what we found buoys and gulls.

The flutterby.com at the end of the line means they clicked on the flutterby link. What suprises me is the muffinmonster and albino deer pics - flutterby does have some weirdos!

Ziffle of Mayberry where the police station closes at night. (raw content moved to comment)

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Ziffle moron Privacy Music Nudity Gambling ]



Entry: 2006-08-07 16:37:17.750453-07 skewing the curve by Dan Lyke comments 1

We'll just willy-nilly steal three from crasch:

Both male and female students who compete in sports reportedsignificantly higher numbers of partners than other students, and within the athletes, higher levels of performance predicted more partners.

[ related topics: Movies Sexual Culture Guns Sociology ]



Entry: 2006-08-07 10:56:16.995427-07 sex, gender & weblog writing by Dan Lyke comments 5

Susie Bright writes about gender bias in weblogging, in which she asks:

Why don't straight men include sexuality in their blog writing— aside from the resolutely anonymous few that sex-blog professionally?

Well, despite the fact that sometimes I go out of my way to be ambiguous about my sexuality, and I've tried a number of kinks, my sexual tastes end up being pretty plain. I guess I could adopt the "straight" moniker. I don't know if the Erotic and Sexual Culture topics here count as including sexuality, but if I get much more explicit I'm starting to violate some privacies of people who haven't necessarily signed on to be exposed to the world.

[ related topics: Writing Sexual Culture Sociology Weblogs Dan's Life ]



Entry: 2006-08-02 07:09:58.260535-07 Bardex brand catheters by Dan Lyke comments 0

Lily from FemmeDomme wrote to say that she'd received a cease and desist letter from the folks who make Bardex® brand catheters for all your kinky sex play needs. You may remember that Debra over at Pursed Lips had some troubles with them back in 2002, and we took up the ball, so I think it's time to help 'em out with a little more free advertising: Remember, when you think kinky sex, think Bardex® brand catheters

[ related topics: Consumerism and advertising Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-07-31 07:36:13.333313-07 Community Theater = Gay! by Dan Lyke comments 1

Military stance on gay servicemembers loses the U.S. yet another skilled soldier, an Arab linguist. Favorite quote:

On Dec. 2, investigators formally interviewed Copas and asked if he understood the military's policy on homosexuals, if he had any close acquaintances who were gay, and if he was involved in community theater. He answered affirmatively.

[ related topics: Theater & Plays Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-07-30 13:00:40.711081-07 Hot Leather Action! by meuon comments 0

Furniture Porn - Parody site worth a quick visit and laugh. Good reasons geeks should not have digital camera's.

[ related topics: Erotic Photography Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-07-28 07:58:20.73909-07 Sex in Zero Gravity - The Next Frontier by ziffle comments 2

Well its got to be addressed - NASA can't be only for the 'Weekly Reader' for ever!

"(Please) tie me to the console and fuck my brains out:" http://www.tinynibbles.com/blo...ves/2006/07/howto_sex_in_sp.html

Nasa denies researching it: http://msnbc.msn.com/id/14002908/ but if it did "it's nobody else's business." http://www.jamesoberg.com/sex.html

Apparently men still think about sex all the time in space, while women - well - you know...

The down side is males might see a decrease in penis size - ! due to lower blood pressure - I wonder if they took the blood pressure measurement once the lady was naked and they were in a sleeping bag ? Doubtful.

As for me it would be a lot of fun - I think - do we fall asleep afterwards in the same sleeping bag, dreaming about nothing, hugging like we do here? I think we probably would.

Ziffle in 1.0 gravity this week.

[ related topics: Astronomy Ziffle Erotic Sexual Culture Space & Astronomy Interactive Drama Nudity ]



Entry: 2006-07-27 05:57:01.196929-07 Orkut Obit by meuon comments 5

Dan mentioned it, others did and it seemed pretty interesting. So I signed up for an Orkut account (social networking). It was pretty kewl, I even created a few communities there: Caving, Contra Dancing.. seeded/lead some discussions.. tried to make it work.

Recently I've been getting lots of '..has added a note to your scrapbook' and '...has added you to his friends list'

So I login, and delete the incredible amount of dreck on my account, as well as the some in forums I have admin privs for... Mostly spanish porn spammers from what I see. In Contra Dancers, the last relevent post was 6/2004 in Caving 10/2004. Chattanooga, 8/2005... Burning Man, 8/2005

Maybe because it still gives errors like:

Bad, bad server. No donut for you.

Unfortunately, the orkut.com server has acted out in an unexpected way. Hopefully, it will return to its helpful self if you try again in a few minutes. It's likely that the server will behave this way on occasion during the coming months. We apologize for the inconvenience and for our server's lack of consideration for others.

I hereby declare Orkut DEAD. fdisk that puppy and recycle that hardware.

[ related topics: California Culture Erotic Sexual Culture Typography Graphic Design Interactive Drama Coyote Grits Burning Man Community Work, productivity and environment Chattanooga ]



Entry: 2006-07-24 07:59:07.047595-07 by Dan Lyke comments 0

Back in 2001, we linked to "TechnicalVirgin.com", a satire site which promoted the notion that anal sex could help prevent teen pregnancy. On that site, there was a video with a young woman promoting that point of view. Well, that young woman went on to become the host of a kid's TV show on a joint PBS-Comcast venture called Kids Sprout. And then those fuckers fired Melanie Martinez:

PBS KIDS Sprout has determined that the dialogue in this video is inappropriate for her role as a preschool program host and may undermine her character’s credibility with our audience. As a result, PBS KIDS Sprout has decided that she will no longer appear as host of The Good Night Show.

Yeah, because those two year olds understand satire and will be watching videos off the 'net, right?

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Pop Culture Video Television Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2006-07-20 17:41:21.214775-07 When the Anti-Choice choose by Dan Lyke comments 7

"The Only Moral Abortion is My Abortion" - When the Anti-Choice Choose (same article, different host & formatting):

"In 1990, in the Boston area, Operation Rescue and other groups were regularly blockading the clinics, and many of us went every Saturday morning for months to help women and staff get in. As a result, we knew many of the 'antis' by face. One morning, a woman who had been a regular 'sidewalk counselor' went into the clinic with a young woman who looked like she was 16-17, and obviously her daughter. When the mother came out about an hour later, I had to go up and ask her if her daughter's situation had caused her to change her mind. 'I don't expect you to understand my daughter's situation!' she angrily replied. The following Saturday, she was back, pleading with women entering the clinic not to 'murder their babies.'" (Clinic escort, Massachusetts)

(via Sensible Erection).

[ related topics: Ethics Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2006-07-20 15:29:33.406518-07 NZ: policing and prostitution don't mix by Dan Lyke comments 0

Cop's Night Job As Hooker Is Nixed

A New Zealand policewoman has been censured for some unauthorized "undercover" work — a stint moonlighting as a prostitute — but is being allowed to keep her day job after giving up the night duties.

Good for New Zealand for having legalized prostitution, bummer that the police department there feels it necessary to stigmatize the work.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events Law Enforcement Work, productivity and environment ]



Entry: 2006-07-13 08:16:34.680512-07 Double standards by Dan Lyke comments 3

Consensual sex with a 14 year old in the United States and you're a child molester. But if you rape and kill a 14 year old in Iraq, the news will call her a "woman" (via Medley).

And to follow up the "why are national ID cards a bad idea?" thread, Iraqis turn to fake IDs as protection (via Dave's Picks).

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Current Events ]



Entry: 2006-07-12 09:52:11.204937-07 keep your jesus by Dan Lyke comments 0

Freakin' brilliant: Keep your Jesus off my Penis (video). (Via Elf)

(The artist is apparently one Eric Schwartz, and he's got CDs and more on his site.)

[ related topics: Humor Sexual Culture Video Religion ]



Entry: 2006-07-11 08:41:09.415381-07 Penis Art by Dan Lyke comments 0

Tim Patch: The World's Greatest Penis Artist. Acrylics on canvas, with a non-obvious brush.

[ related topics: Art & Culture Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-07-08 08:56:47.299365-07 Obligatory link by Dan Lyke comments 1

I feel like I should link to this just because it's an article about sexual culture in the local paper: SFGate: Couples shed inhibitions, tour S.F. strip clubs. So there it is, however...

I've mentioned that my visits to strip clubs have been distinctly un-erotic experiences, and I think that in my old age I'm becoming less and less enthused by the idea of being entertained by those whose hearts aren't really in it, or even more so by people whose sole reason for participating in the activity is separating me from my money. And weblogs like Standing on the Box and Waiter Rant have made me even more conscious of people who work to sustain a subculture that they despise (the former more than the latter).

When we went to look at strip clubs, the only place I felt at all like the women doing the stripping may have been having fun was the Lusty Lady. There's a lot of fun on all sides in the burlesque revival shows, but pole dancing along Columbus left me flat when we went, and I think it'd leave me even flatter now.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Bay Area Burlesque Work, productivity and environment ]



Entry: 2006-06-19 09:01:45.933129-07 Gay Until Penetration by Dan Lyke comments 4

One of the problems with the whole "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy" thing is that after your makeover women may think that you look fabulous, but they'll have trouble believing that you want to date them. Rachel Kramer Bussel looks at issue (hat tip to Brad).

(Bahahaha! The topic picker chose "Rocky Horror Picture Show"...)

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Clothing ]



Entry: 2006-06-16 10:09:47.474935-07 female sexual response by Dan Lyke comments 0

Two gender stereotypes to get your morning started: Women's brains react surprisingly fast to erotic images. Using external electrodes (Hey, we can duplicate the experiment at home!), researchers found that:

Erotic images elicited neuron firing within 160 milliseconds—about 20 percent faster than occurred with any of the other pictures. The stimulation then branched out to different brain regions for erotic images compared to the others.

Interesting, 'cause it's been a little while since I've looked at that stuff, but I thought the frequency responses you'd be looking at with EEGs are slow enough that claiming "160ms" is pushing the believability of various signal processing techniques.

Second, New Scientist is reporting that PET scans of women during orgasm show remarkably low levels of brain activity. I got this from Elf who titled his post "Must. Not. Snark!", he got it from this post, which snarks.

[ related topics: Physiology Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-06-14 09:17:24.451577-07 Sex in videogames by Dan Lyke comments 2

Violet Blue went to the Sex in Videogames conference, and you get this fun rant:

It's like there's this whole big room that is human sexuality. And for the sex + video games developers, the lights are off and it's dark. But instead of looking for light switches, they'd rather use flashlights.

[ related topics: Games Sexual Culture Conferences ]



Entry: 2006-05-26 07:39:12.617052-07 Porn again (again) by Dan Lyke comments 0

Chris Bridges: Help, I'm Turning Into An Anti-Porn Activist. Chris Bridges is the host at Hoot Island, and the version there has some interesting comments. The end result, though, seems to be that those of us who'd like "something better" but aren't sure what it is aren't nearly the market that the current consumers of porn are.

[ related topics: Erotic Consumerism and advertising Archival Sexual Culture Economics ]



Entry: 2006-05-25 08:12:10.535651-07 Divorce - British Style by ziffle comments 8

Having tried it more than once I can say emotionally it seems wonderful, but legally its a minefield. A recent ruling in England says it all: http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,2-2196058,00.html

"The ruling will serve as a deterrent to marriage. But prenuptial agreements will provide a good degree of protection — and I predict it will not be long before they are made binding. It's not if, it's when."

"...said he would advise wealthy young men not to marry"

Alienation of affection and adultry is not longer a factor in a divorce, there or here.

What happens is one party wakes up and says to :) herself: 'I can have all that and not have to deal with him and I get the children to raise the way I want to boot'. And a few weeks later your life is shattered.

I have looked at apartment houses (to purchase) and gone through all the units and you get a sad, scary view of the truth[Wiki]; divorced guys paying 43 percent of their after tax income in child support so the ex can carry on with the live in boyfriend, in the house the husband bought, and the divorced guy is trying to live on the remainder, deal with the pain of the divorce, trying to overcome the hatred of him taught to his children by the ex, fighting depression about some guy living in his old house, screwing his ex while the children are there, and living on the child support he is sending under penalty of jail. And trying to put gas in his car and pay his rent on the left overs. His life is basically over emotionally.

I advised my sons not to marry. If they want children thats scary enough but definetly don't marry her - it's too dangerous. This took me a long time to come to; I want to think there is a world where men are appreciated and the wives are grateful; I wonder if that is just a wish for a world long ago and far away...

Notwithstanding some here who are married here and perfectly happy, does this bother anyone?

Disclosure: I get an F in relationships it appears; of course finding female free market nudist polyamorous atheists is not that easy; maybe its easier for Christian-Christian, etc. but upon reflection they divorce at high rates too don't they? (We used to call it Petite Atheist Intellectual Nudists or PAIN[Wiki] for short in the Mens group but we have outgrown that now. :) )

Ziffle in a whole new world.

[ related topics: Shoes Theater & Plays Sexual Culture Sociology Interactive Drama Marriage Consumerism and advertising Ziffle Politics Children and growing up Real Estate Invention and Design Automobiles Nudity Religion Economics ]



Entry: 2006-05-24 07:52:40.98885-07 Backlash by Dan Lyke comments 0

Preach it: Athene: If You Are Looking For A Way To Be Against Gay Marriage:

You want to talk backlash? I'll give you a backlash, you paunchy ex-jock hanging out at the Alumni Club afraid some guy is gonna hit on you because he's blinded by your sex appeal and can't see what all the women in the place see: a guy who listens to Springsteen's "Glory Days" and actually gets nostalgic about high school, you fucking kitchen appliance. I'll give you a backlash, you upright churchgoing family of 2.5 and a dog that thinks seeing something that makes you uncomfortable constitutes an intrusion of some sort. You know what? Seeing stuff you don't like is called America, and if you want to start outlawing stuff you don't like, get in line behind me, pal-o-mine because I've got a list of shit that pisses me off that I've been making for years, and every time you mention your goddamn sacrosanct throat and what's getting shoved down it, you move closer to the top. You want to see a backlash? Keep talking.

From Genehack (here) and Medley.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage Current Events ]



Entry: 2006-05-23 16:29:21.962236-07 die, heretic scum! by Dan Lyke comments 2

Elf Sternberg: Culturally approved bigotry:

Such cultural bigotry doesn't really exist in America. Popular cultural consensus doesn't portray each Jew, or Muslim, or Hindu as "wrong" about the choice he makes every day to retain his identity as Jew, Muslim, or Hindu. We can be confident that the media isn't going to attack anyone because of his or her specific beliefs about god or the supernatural.

Of course, if you don't actually believe in that stuff, then you're fair game. It's okay for popular television and movies to depict atheists, agnostics, and secularists "seeing the light" and coming to cherish their belief in a supernatural reality "beyond our own."

Elf also linked to yet another anti-contraception absolute loon with a tenuous grip on reality showing why the anti-choice crowd must be stopped:

Anti-lifers have developed a compelling strategy to force normalization of MAPs [ed: morning after pills] on America. They need income from this lucrative pill to compensate for lagging abortion sales, a downward trend they expect to continue.

If you want a good look at the scary ass ideas out there that proved that we have a loooong way to go in the "culture wars", read that one and weep. They aren't after Roe v. Wade[Wiki], they are after Griswold v. Connecticut[Wiki].

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Technology and Culture Current Events Religion ]



Entry: 2006-05-19 17:19:35.907262-07 Best headline ever by Dan Lyke comments 0

I believe that headline writers go their whole lives waiting for moments like this, and I could also be convinced that this story is a well-targeted publicity stunt by the Glory Hole homeless shelter in Juneau, Alaska[Wiki]: No more Bear Meat in Glory Hole. As a comment pointed out in the Sensible Erection thread:

think the last line in the article is just as good as the headline. Apparently the Glory Hole is protein-poor.

(And if you don't get it, don't worry, we'll just think that much more highly of you.)

[ related topics: Alaska Humor Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2006-05-19 11:01:27.34818-07 Morford on Google Trends by Dan Lyke comments 0

Elmhurst, Ill., Loves Gay Porn: Which U.S. city seeks the most sex? Who wants to impeach Bush the most? Ask Google Trends. I'm not convinced that Google Trends is as interesting or useful as it seems at first blush, because the top cities lists looks pretty similar whether you search on "porn" or "christianity", and straying too far afield from top search words yields nothing.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Politics Religion Humor ]



Entry: 2006-05-17 19:28:40.687716-07 preconception preconceptions by Dan Lyke comments 0

A bunch of people are up in arms over this Washington Post article about a new CDC/ADTSR report on "preconception health":

New federal guidelines ask all females capable of conceiving a baby to treat themselves -- and to be treated by the health care system -- as pre-pregnant, regardless of whether they plan to get pregnant anytime soon.

The article then goes on to pull up some choice quotes to make it seem like the report does indeed treat women as primarily mechanisms for reproduction. So I tracked down Recommendations to Improve Preconception Health and Health Care --- United States: A Report of the CDC/ATSDR Preconception Care Work Group and the Select Panel on Preconception Care, and I'm not getting nearly the "you must assume your primary purpose is to breed no matter what the other consequences" vibe for as far as I've read it, but what did strike me was:

Data from the Pregnancy Risk Assessment and Monitoring System (PRAMS) in four states (i.e., Maine, Michigan, Oklahoma, and West Virginia) indicated that 38% of mothers who planned pregnancies and an additional 30% who did not plan pregnancies had one or more indications for preconception counseling, including use of tobacco or alcohol, being underweight, or delayed initiation of prenatal care (47).

So... uh... let me get this straight here: If you're not planning on having a kid, you're more likely to have a lifestyle that will lead to having a healthy kid?

No wonder the anti-abortion crowd wants to enforce unplanned pregnancies.

[ related topics: Health Sexual Culture Child-Freedom Children and growing up ]



Entry: 2006-05-17 11:34:33.615995-07 prison sex surprises by Dan Lyke comments 0

I found this interesting, both from a sexual culture standpoint, but also because of my usual misgivings about our current attitudes about incarceration as a way to shape society: Study refutes idea that many inmates get HIV in prison: Surprise finding was frequency of sex with staff

The study revealed a surprising and unexplored aspect of HIV infection in prisoners. Of the men who became infected behind bars and acknowledged having homosexual sex there, half reported that their partners were prison staff, not other inmates. Whether guards were the source of infection, or became infected themselves, in any of those liaisons is unknown.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology ]



Entry: 2006-05-17 09:27:56.382279-07 Going to the chapel? by Dan Lyke comments 0

Are we going to the chapel?:

Now that the mainstream media and the right-wing thrust the fight for gay marriage upon us, we can’t ignore it or let it go. Still, we need to be careful that we don’t trade orthodoxy and conformity for our dreams of sexual liberation for all people. Fighting for gay marriage is important because some of us want to be able to oragnize our lives in that way. We should not, though, make it the standard by which we all live our lives or assume it to be an end victory by itself. The measure of our relationships should not be their durability or compliance with existing heterosexual standards. Rather, we should measure how well we treat each other in whatever type of relationship we form.

(via Must See HTTP://)

[ related topics: Journalism and Media Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



Entry: 2006-05-12 11:01:44.530844-07 Morford on virginity by Dan Lyke comments 2

Because the occasional Mark Morford link is good for the soul: Christian Virgins Are Overrated — Think sex and drugs destroy America? Try naive chastity. Oh, and "Purity Balls":

Let's just say it outright: The superiority of virginity myth, it is a massive, underreported disaster. It is a ridiculous and exhausting misconception that must be eradicated like a cancer. Perhaps French philosopher Voltaire said it best, nearly 300 years ago: "It is one of the great superstitions of the human mind to have imagined that virginity could be a virtue." So true.

[ related topics: Philosophy Health Sexual Culture Religion Mark Morford ]



Entry: 2006-05-12 09:06:07.457006-07 reading faces by Dan Lyke comments 2

Women are good at reading faces of men:

The first part of the study provided confirmation of work done previously by other groups, using different methods. When asked to rate the men's masculinity, the women agreed on who was top and who was bottom, and their rankings correlated with the testosterone levels from the swabs. What was novel was that when asked to rate the men's liking of children from the photographs, they ranked them in the same order as the researchers had done from the interest the men themselves had shown in pictures of infants.

[ related topics: Children and growing up Sexual Culture Physiology ]



Entry: 2006-05-09 12:04:29.448739-07 Lesbian Brains by Dan Lyke comments 2

I want to link to Study: Lesbian's Brains React Differently, which allegedly sources from an article in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, but I can't find the study there (although I have found a previous study by one of the same authors on brain response in homosexual men) and the most prominent author's website doesn't have any mention of this either.

[ related topics: Health Sexual Culture Current Events ]



Entry: 2006-05-08 12:10:56.075696-07 Contra-contraception by Dan Lyke comments 0

I'm not much on linking to New York Times articles (mostly because of their archive policies), but Contra-Contraception is worth a read if you have any questions about what the anti-abortion crowd is really after.

One thing that happened, which Dr. Wood and many others may have failed to notice, was the change in conservative circles on the subject of contraception. At a White House press briefing in May of last year, three months before the F.D.A.'s nonruling on Plan B, Press Secretary Scott McClellan was asked four times by a WorldNetDaily correspondent, Les Kinsolving, if the president supported contraception. "I think the president's views are very clear when it comes to building a culture of life," McClellan replied. Kinsolving said, "If they were clear, I wouldn't have asked." McClellan replied: "And if you want to ask those questions, that's fine. I'm just not going to dignify them with a response." This exchange caught the attention of bloggers and others. In July, a group of Democrats in Congress, led by Representative Carolyn Maloney of New York, sent the first of four letters to the president asking outright: "Mr. President, do you support the right to use contraception?" According to Representative Maloney's office, the White House has still not responded.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Politics moron ]



Entry: 2006-05-05 11:31:24.748302-07 The right tool by Dan Lyke comments 0

While looking for information on National Masturbation Month[Wiki](which is May, that's now, so get to it!) I ran across two things from Come As You Are, a sex toy store up in Canada:

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Humor ]



Entry: 2006-05-05 11:23:23.898385-07 Smith on Strips by Dan Lyke comments 0

Kevin Smith: On the Perils of Strip Clubs. Yes, there's an interesting twist at the end.

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Entry: 2006-05-04 10:24:56.096693-07 Surveying polyamory by Dan Lyke comments 0

Since you folks rightly called out my inappropriate re-use of language on yesterday's entry about a woman using marriage in her con artistry, a query: A reader who shall remain anonymous for the moment has asked for resources on polyamorous relationships. I haven't been in those circles for a while, and I think it'd be interesting to make another survey of the field, especially looking at where various other cultures intersect with poly folk. If anyone has good leads to follow on this, drop 'em here or email me privately and I'll forward 'em along.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Sociology Marriage ]



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