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Entry: 2015-11-20 02:50:08.822555+00 Fogle is also claiming that the Subway by Dan Lyke comments 0

Fogle is also claiming that the Subway diet upped his sex drive. That spokesperson thing dies hard! https://twitter.com/hipsterocracy/status/667488647751471104

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Public Transportation ]

Entry: 2015-11-12 17:34:16.152523+00 terrified of sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Atlantic: People Are Terrified of Sex. A look at why people reverse the relative dangers of HIV from an unprotected sexual encounter vs driving 300 miles (20x more likely to die in the car than to dying from HIV), and why when looking at how risky behavior might cause disease transmission that:

The results were surprising. Participants who read the story about someone unknowingly transmitting chlamydia —with a "mild" outcome—judged that person more harshly than participants who read about the swine-flu case where the other person actually died!

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Health Law Automobiles ]

Entry: 2015-11-11 17:59:42.837842+00 Universities & law enforcement by Dan Lyke comments 0

Court Docs Show a University Helped FBI Bust Silk Road 2, Child Porn Suspects:

Then in July, a much anticipated talk at the Black Hat hacking conference was abruptly canceled. Alexander Volynkin and Michael McCord, academics from Carnegie Mellon University (CMU), promised to reveal how a $3,000 piece of kit could unmask the IP addresses of Tor hidden services as well as their users.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Law Law Enforcement Education Fashion Conferences ]

Entry: 2015-10-30 13:51:47.041732+00 Nudes in Playboy by Dan Lyke comments 0

Eros Blog: Social Media #Pornocalypse Is Why We Can’t Have Nudes In Playboy. Or it's not really lots of available porn, it's that porn is not a differentiator in the face of Google prudishness.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Weblogs Journalism and Media ]

Entry: 2015-10-27 17:18:47.517676+00 SXSW & GamerGate by Dan Lyke comments 0

This Is Not a Game: How SXSW Turned GamerGate Abuse Into a Spectator Sport

[ related topics: Games Sexual Culture ]

Entry: 2015-10-22 15:30:08.625862+00 Foggy damp slow commute by Dan Lyke comments 0

Foggy damp slow commute, listened to Tristan Taormino & Conner Habib on straight rights to gay people & vice-versa https://www.strava.com/activities/418069219

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Civil Liberties ]

Entry: 2015-10-18 16:25:07.287762+00 Looks like there been innovation since by Dan Lyke comments 2

Looks like there been innovation since this, but Bastiaan Bruijs wind-up vibrators: https://www.designacademy.nl/E...on15/Project.aspx?ProjectId=1082

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Entry: 2015-09-30 19:00:04.414441+00 Hey by Dan Lyke comments 0

Hey, my friend Debra Hyde was doing some sort of tweet storm about now, so I'm helping her sell lesbian erotica! http://www.debrahyde.com/history-mystery-and-sapphic-passion-in/

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture ]

Entry: 2015-09-30 13:31:13.652861+00 Evolution by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Bianca LaVagina ‏@AnitaHelmet:

Humans are infinitely able to evolve and adapt. For instance, I've learned to masturbate with the opposite hand I use to type with.

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Entry: 2015-09-28 03:25:03.006398+00 Kung fu movies and musicals are really by Dan Lyke comments 0

"Kung fu movies and musicals are really good analogies for porn" - Shine Louise Houston

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Movies ]

Entry: 2015-09-13 15:13:06.935246+00 Myles Jackman by Dan Lyke comments 0

Guardian profile of Myles Jackman, Britain's leading obscenity lawyer

He paused in order to welcome the beef and then he was back to the staging of his argument: “Think about the 1980s – the VCR comes into the home and what happens? The state loses control.” His scorn flattened into sarcasm. “This is the fear of ‘the great unwashed’. What will we do if they get pornography? The good little worker should not be distracted or allowed such self-indulgence. But the intelligentsia or the elite or the establishment or the art crowd or the rugby clubs or whatever you want to call them, they are perfectly prepared to engage hypocritically in activities that they would never countenance publicly.”

the MeFi thread

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Entry: 2015-09-11 16:55:12.661304+00 Grinder by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Jane Coaston ‏@cjane87:

File under "this is why you have at least one gay person on staff to look at things like this and say noooooooo."

[Promo poster for a TV show with the tag line Grinder: There's no one he can't get off]

Apparently it's a TV show. Not just http://www.grindr.com/

[ related topics: Photography Sexual Culture Technology and Culture Television Archival ]

Entry: 2015-09-11 15:41:04.692212+00 Pulling out by Dan Lyke comments 0

Fascinating: Pulling Out Is as Effective as Using Condoms:

"Withdrawal...is about as effective as condoms at preventing pregnancy" begins a 2014 study published by Contraception, an international journal on reproduction. When practiced perfectly—in other words, when the male partner pulls out before ejaculation during every incidence of vaginal intercourse— only 4 percent of couples who use the pullout method will get pregnant within a year. Imperfect, or typical, use bumps that to 18 percent. (Male condoms failure rates are 2 percent for perfect use and 17 percent for typical.) This is a minor discrepancy, yet pulling out has a reputation for being dangerously cavalier, while condoms are the gold standard of sexual responsibility. Several of the medical professionals I reached out to for this piece were sympathetic to withdrawal use but afraid to say so publicly.

Given rates like this, I think there's probably some digging in for more information on disease transmission that could be done...

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Entry: 2015-09-10 17:43:11.622847+00 Sexism at school by Dan Lyke comments 0

Ramblings of a Self-Proclaimed MILF: To Be Filed Under "ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME": That time I stood up for what I believed in, even though it meant going outside my comfort zone.

In case you can't read it, here's what it says:

blah blah blah..."Picture Day"...blah blah "role model and leader"...blah blah blah..."Plan ahead what to wear"...blah blah blah "Girls who wear a skirt or a dress will earn 25 points" ...blah blah blah "Girls and boys who wear nice pants and a collar shirt will earn 15 points"...blah blah blah...

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Law Clothing ]

Entry: 2015-09-10 17:34:37.217324+00 Sexual assault as NYPD policing tactic by Dan Lyke comments 3

RT David Graeber ‏@davidgraeber

woman wins suit arguing "pattern of sexual assault" by NYPD vs OWS activists http://gothamist.com/2015/09/08/ows_protester_settlement.php http://www.nakedcapitalism.com...against-peaceful-protestors.html

This is about OWS Protester Who Had Her Breast Grabbed By NYPD Sergeant Gets $95K Settlement and David Graeber: New Police Strategy in New York – Sexual Assault Against Peaceful Protestors.

David then goes on:

if proof of systematic gov't sexual assault on peaceful protestors does NOT become a nat'l scandal, what does that tell us about America?




I mean think about that for a moment: someone CAME UP WITH that plan. Some sitting in an office said "I know! Let's try sexual assault!"


whoever came up with that idea is still almost certainly being paid a six-figure salary by taxpayers to come up with ways to attack them


just think about what kind of culture'd produce gov't officials brainstorming ways to sexually traumatise women engaged in democ. expression

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Entry: 2015-09-03 23:56:45.446019+00 Prosecuted for naked pictures of themselves by Dan Lyke comments 0

Yep, it's happening again: "child porn" charges are being used against the people they're supposed to protect. 2 North Carolina teens hit with child porn charges after consensual sexting:

What’s strange is that of the five charges he faces, four of them are for taking and possessing nude photos of himself on his own phone—the final charge is for possessing one nude photo his girlfriend took for him. There is no evidence of coercion or further distribution of the images anywhere beyond the two teenagers’ phones.

As the article also points out, it is legal in North Carolina for both of them to have sex, just not possess naked pictures of each other.

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Entry: 2015-09-02 16:35:12.103137+00 What part of sex or free enterprise are you opposed to? by Dan Lyke comments 0

ACLU: Since When Are Consensual Sexual Relationships a Threat to National Security? On the Rentboy.com raids, and the Department of Homeland Security's participation in them.

Relatedly, yesterday I discovered that there are people who un-ironically celebrate J. Edgar Hoover's notion that "justice is incidental to law and order." Shudder

More: Truth Out: Beyond Rentboy: Will the LGBT Movement Really Fight for Sex Worker Rights?

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Entry: 2015-09-01 17:40:31.268084+00 less sex than 40 years ago by Dan Lyke comments 0

Bettina Arndt: The growing male sex drought:

Surveys from across the world are now reporting dropping sexual frequencies, more celibate marriages and an increasing gap between male and female sexual desire with even young women reporting loss of sexual interest.

Arndt links to a PDF of an article that she wrote for The Weekend Australian (that, alas, doesn't seem to be available in a more friendly form) which quotes Osmo Kontula:

"Why was there such a decline in intercourse frequency in the 2000s? There’s been a 10 to 15 per cent drop in people of all ages who say they’ve had sex in the last week. People are now having less sex than in the early 1970s and the greatest decline has been for young people, those aged 25 to 40."

Kontula looks like he's got some fascinating papers. I'm interested in how this might tie into some of the demographic shifts happening in Japan (that will probably make their way over to the U.S. and Europe of those haven't started happening already)...

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Entry: 2015-08-31 23:26:01.726059+00 Intimacy and the Law by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Whore Next Door: Intimacy and the Law. On various different personal services, and their legality.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Work, productivity and environment ]

Entry: 2015-08-27 23:35:13.55036+00 Netflix and chill by Dan Lyke comments 1

I love etymology: ‘Netflix and chill’: the complete history of a viral sex catchphrase. Although I'd probably have used something other than "viral sex" in that headline...

And in 20 years I'm sure we'll be looking back at "Wanna Netflix?" in the same way that we now look back at "Wanna cyber?"

[ related topics: Language Erotic Sexual Culture ]

Entry: 2015-08-26 17:56:11.035863+00 Rentboy Raid by Dan Lyke comments 0

What The Rentboy Raid Tells Us About The Gendered Rhetoric Of Trafficking:

Reading the press release, I was immediately struck by its use of rhetoric. Unlike official statements around the crackdowns on Backpage and similar services that are known primarily for advertising cis women sex workers, no mention is made of Rentboy aiding the nefarious work of sex traffickers. As well, unlike in most sex work raids, no mention is made of anti-trafficking organizations reaching out to supposed “victims.” It is a loud and curious omission given that police find it impossible to talk about sex work at all these days without discussing trafficking.

Edit: Will the Rentboy.com bust be the Stonewall of sex work?.

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Entry: 2015-08-20 00:00:05.617492+00 RIP Deborah Anapol by Dan Lyke comments 0

Well shit: Deborah Taj Anapol, 1951 - 2015. Anopol was a founder of the modern polyamory movement, author of Love Without Limits in 1992, and several other books on polyamory.

Eat every sandwich.

[ related topics: Books Sexual Culture Food ]

Entry: 2015-08-19 15:50:49.483934+00 Flibanserin & desire by Dan Lyke comments 0

Emily Nagoski talks about flibanserin and desire.

Also: http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/scienceofdesire/

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Entry: 2015-08-17 18:53:00.742507+00 Curves by Dan Lyke comments 1

Woodworking design porn Rimas Navickas Furniture Studio.

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Entry: 2015-08-13 21:33:46.967194+00 Salem witch trials, but in our time by Dan Lyke comments 0

Sex and Satanic Abuse: A Fad Revisited.

I stayed silent on the sidelines, observing all this foolishness but displaying a cowardly distaste for controversy. As Chair of the DSM IV Task Force, I had a bully pulpit to point out the utter craziness of the fad. Instead, I justified my passivity on the grounds that it was not really my fight and that getting involved might compromise my neutrality as DSM IV Chair. These were lousy excuses considering that innocent people were going to jail and kids were being traumatized by fake therapists who professed to be experts in childhood trauma. My priorities were all screwed up.

[ related topics: Children and growing up Erotic Sexual Culture Furniture ]

Entry: 2015-08-12 19:56:11.573657+00 Arse Electronica by Dan Lyke comments 0

This looks like it could have some fascinating tracks: Arse Elektronika 2015: SHOOT YOUR WORKLOAD / Sex, work and tech / Call for submissions.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Work, productivity and environment ]

Entry: 2015-08-04 18:29:46.124921+00 Windows 10 privacy by Dan Lyke comments 0

Windows 10: Tablet view is showing saved porn images:

Loaded up WIN 10 last night and left it on to do its thing. Woke up to wife asking why I set it to rotate all my porn images right on the desk top view. I have no idea how to shut that feature off and that computer is staying shut down until I do.

Don't put pictures you don't want displayed in slideshow mode on your computer in "My Pictures". Or don't run Windows 10.

Via ErosBlog: Windows 10 Surfaces Man’s Porn, Shows It To His Wife

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Entry: 2015-08-02 16:34:48.048736+00 How to protect sex workers by Dan Lyke comments 0

New York Magazine: What’s the Right Way to Protect Sex Workers?

On Amnesty International's call to decriminalize sex work, and the ignorance they're fighting.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Invention and Design Work, productivity and environment New York ]

Entry: 2015-07-31 15:25:00.427848+00 Buffett & birth control by Dan Lyke comments 0

Warren Buffett’s Family Secretly Funded a Birth Control Revolution:

“For Warren, it’s economic. He thinks that unless women can control their fertility—and that it’s basically their right to control their fertility—that you are sort of wasting more than half of the brainpower in the United States,” ...

Via MeFi, in which cstross re-states the obvious fairly well:

I find it easiest to understand the anti-abortion movement as not being "pro-life" or anything like that, but rather about patriarchal enforcement of traditional patterns of female behaviour (marriage, subservience, kinder, kuche, kirche, etc) and especially about punishing female expressions of self-determined sexuality. ...

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Entry: 2015-07-30 23:14:42.576541+00 by Dan Lyke comments 0

So a few days/weeks ago, I followed something from, probably the Polyamory Weekly podcast, and that led to an exchange with Cooper, and Cooper said "have a copy of my book". So I've read a few chapters, and even though I've learned that I'm probably really pretty monogamous, I've gotten a few nuggets out of it.

And I'm enjoying some of the swingset.fm podcasts.

So I'm gonna help him pimp his book: RT Cooper S. Beckett @CooperSBeckett

A push to hit an awesome milestone, get my ebook for $1 today & tomorrow http://ebook.mylotss.com promo: hitthenumber PLS retweet! #MyLotss

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Entry: 2015-07-27 14:25:16.951667+00 Moorcock by Dan Lyke comments 0

Fascinating interview with Michael Moorcock on the occasion of his turning 75, rambling through "real" genre, sexual culture, gender politics, Tolkien...

“Back then, I was unaware of gender politics,” he confesses. “We simply didn’t have the vocabulary to deal with those inequalities. When I think about it now, I was able to live and write because of someone who later turned out to be a prolific writer, who wrote a couple of bestsellers. But she didn’t write anything apart from the odd short story until after I left. You have to address that and you think, ‘Christ, I was a bastard.’”

Via MeFi

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Entry: 2015-07-24 16:17:58.514308+00 A run-in with GamerGate by Dan Lyke comments 1

So this'll start pretty negative, but it does end up turning towards humanizing. If you're gonna insult me, please read down 'til it does before you do.

Friends of mine involved in the O'Reilly OSCON got targeted by GamerGate. Apparently there's been some kerfluffle over anti-abuse policies, those who are enforcing the anti-abuse policies, and those who are supporting those who are enforcing the anti-abuse policies.

These friends social media feeds got blasted full of insults, threats, both implied and direct, and tons of badly constructed straw man arguments which are attempting to appear "reasonable". Often the threats are posted, and then deleted, so there's the appearance of an innocent "what? You're interpreting these insults as threats? What a wuss." reaction.

So yesterday, Ben Werdmüller ‏@benwerd tweeted:

Every time a gamergate thread has turned up in my feed lately it's been comments about hair dye. It's about conventional hairstyles now?

So, yeah: Tracking down the hatred of dyed hair quickly leads to thing http://imgur.com/alYOQKn and http://knowyourmeme.com/photos/841344-gamergate and that quickly leads to all sorts of slut shaming and shit like 5 Reasons Why You Should Never Date A Girl With Dyed Hair.

And, yes, that last guy has some opinions on GamerGate, and when I search around to find background on GamerGate, that sort of misogynist anti-sex bullshit is pretty prevalent. Certainly it dominates the top of DuckDuckGo and Google results (note, the asshole-ish links here are deliberately rel="nofollow"ed...).

So I observed (based on writing like that and personal experience seeing attacks on others) that:

@benwerd gamergate has long been about shaming women for anything other than lights-out missionary-position post-marriage sexuality.

And the shit hit the fan. My Twitter notifications tab starts showing triple digit numbers. At this point Twitter won't show enough backlog to find all the really abusive stuff, but I'm being trolled. There are occasional mentions of physical violence. Lots of "I'm a left-wing communist, and I support GamerGate" and then you click through and find Republican Libertarian profiles. I install auto-blockers, start blocking wholesale...

And then a few bright lights started to appear:

CloudedByAgony ‏@StoppingLies

@danlyke You haven't gotten one nice tweet? Not one? Sorry about that. Have a nice day. Here's your one nice ProGG tweet.

Hey, an ambassador! This is actually kinda cool! And now we start to get some ideas

RT A.R Machado ‏@TheDemonEyeX

@benwerd @danlyke Regressive? Because we don't want forced political correctness when it wouldn't make sense. i.e Witcher 3 Complaints

RT A.R Machado ‏@TheDemonEyeX

@benwerd @danlyke Conservative? Bc anything not Left-Authoritarian is auto-Conservative. You'll find GG is predominantly Left-Libertarian.

RT A.R Machado ‏@TheDemonEyeX

@benwerd @danlyke Anti-Change? So wanting corrupt journalism to end is anti-change? pic.twitter.com/8lMuTuEYmU

So I engage: RT Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke

@TheDemonEyeX if, in targeting "corrupt journalism", GamerGate targeted the New York Times, maybe we'd have common ground. But games mags?

I mean, idealism is cool, but if you want to attack corruption in journalism it sure seems to me like starting with a foreign policy that's killing hundreds of thousands and reducing nations to rubble is more important than the cultural directions of computer games.

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke @TheDemonEyeX What's your spiel? That mags covering a $100,000,000,000 industry aren't important? Don't go there.

Well, yeah: RT Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke 15h15 hours ago

@Phrenologicus the purpose of a magazine is to deliver the product, i.e.: your attention, to the advertiser, by any means that works.

And I'm sorry, Twitter makes it really hard for me to extract out the full sense of conversations. I've been trying to copy and paste here to get the full thread, but I really appreciate @Phrenologicus and @RedStarWarrior and @IAmASockPuppet and CloudedByAgony ‏@StoppingLies for their actually engaging as human beings. So here's a sampling of my exchange with @Phrenologicus.

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke A cynical and reductionist view we do not share. Even if true, it would justify attacking GJ, because they failed doing that job.

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke They are attacking the industry and their readers alike, with unprecedented disdain and smear jobs. That's not gonna fly any longer

RT Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke 15h15 hours ago

@Phrenologicus so approach those advertisers and start your own magazine. Or, it could be that advertisers like that new demographic better.

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke We're doing all that. Tearing down toxic crap, talking to advertisers, building up/supporting better venues. It's what we fight for

RT Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke

@Phrenologicus all most of us see is the abuse and the straw man arguments, exemplified by my notifications feed today.

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke if you lay the bar for "abuse" THAT low, it will blur the actual issue. for strawmen args: no clue what thy're sppsed to be.

I dunno, abuse is deliberately making my Twitter feed unusable, and yet... RT Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke

@Phrenologicus of the hundreds of notifications I got today, most assumed I was saying things that I wasn't. Those are straw man attacks.

RT Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke

@Phrenologicus & tweets I saw last night re my friends included "I figured out where they're staying" and other pretty frightening things.

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke if THAT is actually true, you have a reason to be crossd. We usually patrol for that kind of garbage very effectively.

RT Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke

@Phrenologicus it's real. And with all of the other abusive language, it only takes one or two of those to turn the whole thing scary.

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke Well, it's what we have to live with. Grassroots, and no leaders. But truth is: We wouldn't want to have it any other way.

RT Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke

@Phrenologicus yeah, but it does lead me to wonder why anyone's still adopting the tag, rather than creating a new one.

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke first and foremost bc our collective success and penetrating the subculture is due to us not doing what our opponents tell us

RT Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke

@Phrenologicus my home address & phone # are on my web site, would be unsurprised to arrive home this evening to discover I've been SWATted

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke Nah, those times are over. Those were 3rd party trolls, targeting both GG and aGG alike. They've been dealt with.

RT Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke

@Phrenologicus well, my wife's out of town, so it'd be a good time to say "hi" to my local PD, but I appreciate the reassurance...

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke feel free to contact the police if you feel unsafe. the more actual harrassers are taken down, the better for all of us.

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke and if you're looking for a real thrill anytime soon, go to a GG real life meetup. real bomb threats and evacs included ^^

RT https://twitter.com Dan Lyke ‏@danlyke 14h14 hours ago

@Phrenologicus I'll pass, thanks.

RT Phrenologicus ‏@Phrenologicus

@danlyke Hah. BTW: If you wanna know who you're actually dealing with: http://i.imgur.com/hoeli7n.jpg (Trigger Warning: Happyness)

And suddenly GamerGate has a face. And I realize that GamerGate is a lot like Christianity right now: Many of us only see Westboro Baptist, Pat Robertson, Billy and now Franklin Graham, and the other hate-mongers as the face of it, but there are also friends and neighbors who believe, who find their sense of community there.

Because of the obvious ties to slut shamers, to doxxers, to those who threaten physical violence, I'm still wary of having those philosophies expressed at conventions I go to because it makes many of the people I want to be conversing with uncomfortable in those spaces, I'm still concerned about the impacts on the larger society, I'm loving that we're getting some diversity and new stories and new ideas in Science Fiction and Fantasy, hell, some of the ideas that GamerGate appears to be railing against might drag me back into gaming, and I see the attitudes behind Sad Puppies, which I think has a large overlap with Gamer Gate, as trying to suppress that which is making me excited about fiction again.

But somewhere in this, Riven Homewood retweeted Brad Gooch

@danlyke This came through right after your comment on GG's thrilling messages :)

Brad Gooch @RumiSecrets

"Love alone cuts arguments short, rescuing us from words and debates.”—Rumi, Masnavi

It was a good reminder that when I denigrate GamerGate, I'm not just talking about the hundreds and hundreds of trolls, I'm also talking about real people who've found a sense of community in that identity. And I can either dismiss them as a class, or I can seek to understand them as individuals.

Despite the, based on my notifications feed, relative scarcity, I think it's worth understanding those willing to try to understand me. So, yeah, I'm following a couple of GamerGaters today.

At this point I think my notifications feed is running about 97% asshole, 1% violent threats, but that remaining 2%.... ya know, 1 in 50 is probably a better cool people quotient than the general population...

And let us be very very aware that proposals like SJW Riot: Troops vs Women - in Video Game (Indiegogo) are very real things.

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Entry: 2015-07-13 15:51:26.835074+00 Hummers Galore by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Drift ‏@Inanity101:

returning this item as it is not what i expected and did not have the desired effect on my sex life


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Entry: 2015-07-12 19:50:03.585771+00 Conversation about cataract removal by Dan Lyke comments 0

Conversation about cataract removal being equivalent to wiping Vaseline off the glasses. So Vaseline on the lenses, like a porn movie then?

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Entry: 2015-07-10 16:00:59.852479+00 Porn & computer generated surrealism by Dan Lyke comments 0

Dangerous Minds: What happens when you run pornography through Google DeepDream? Sheer bad trip terror!

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Entry: 2015-07-06 18:30:16.907345+00 who is the product by Dan Lyke comments 0

Yesterday, PhDecay ‏@PhDefunct tweeted:

What is the maximum amount of money your doctor could make in payments from drug companies before you would start feeling uncomfortable?

In this era of advertising paying for everything, I thought that was an interesting question: because, like education, the customer is not the payer, there's a pretty strong externality here....

Anyway, this interesting bit on Flibanserin ("the female Viagra™"™) today reminded me of that:

PhDecay ‏@PhDefunct:

New (and free to read) in JAMA: Evaluation of Flibanserin: Science and Advocacy at the FDA http://jama.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=2389384

PhDecay ‏@PhDefunct

Hypoactive sexual desire disorder: inventing a disease to sell low libido -- Journal of Medical Ethics http://jme.bmj.com/content/ear...8/medethics-2014-102596.abstract

PhDecay ‏@PhDefunct

A loud handful of sexmed MD proponents of #flibanserin received at least $1.5mil in industry payments combined from 8/2013 to 12/2014.

PhDecay ‏@PhDefunct:

After looking them up in https://projects.propublica.org/docdollars/ it is hard to see any of the flibanserdocs as credible on the topic of pharm interventions.

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Entry: 2015-07-02 21:25:28.066694+00 Affirmative Consent by Dan Lyke comments 1

Very good New York Times article on the difficulties of legislating around affirmative consent.

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Entry: 2015-06-29 00:35:05.190874+00 Dildo flag by Dan Lyke comments 3

RT Paul Coombs ‏@paulcoombsart

#Dildoflagman it is I.

Hello world. I come in peace & love (& defiant dildos) Thank you all for the support cxx3

which linked to RT @dildoflag

#DILDOFLAG MAN is @paulcoombsart, a dong-obsessed artist from London. Go say thanks! :) #isisdildo #buttplugflag


Yay dildoflags!

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Entry: 2015-06-26 14:10:03.422124+00 I like what the Supreme Court has been by Dan Lyke comments 0

I like what the Supreme Court has been doing on my birthdays: Obergefell v. Hodges opinion makes same sex marriage legal nationwide!

The opinion: http://www.supremecourt.gov/opinions/14pdf/14-556_3204.pdf

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Entry: 2015-06-21 14:35:03.65857+00 Larry posted this little note on the by Dan Lyke comments 0

Larry posted this little note on the Covenant of the Rainbow, in the context of "relentlessly gay"

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