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A light gone out

2007-09-07 15:04:55.723687+00 by Dan Lyke 3 comments

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#Comment Re: made: 2007-09-07 20:34:07.143771+00 by: Nancy

I never knew Diana, yet your eulogy brought tears to my eyes:

"most of those things were about ways to make the world around her that much more pleasant" - I can't think of much else that would be such a wonderful statement about someone's life purpose.

I'm sorry you lost a friend.

#Comment Re: made: 2007-09-07 21:24:08.031302+00 by: Dan Lyke


Her son Owen came by before Burning Man to borrow some gear, at the time we had no idea how far along things were though he described himself as "in denial", but he talked about ways that her realization of her mortality had changed their relationship, that he was hearing stories from her younger years (and since her eldest son is probably my age and her youngest are, I think, a year out of high school, you can tell that even though she wasn't terribly old by contemporary standards she'd managed a couple of lifetimes) that he'd never heard before.

Death is a destroyer, but it also transfigures. It sucks that it takes that sense of impending doom to open up our relationships, but it's also a strong reminder that there are depths that we keep hidden for reasons that are probably long lost to history.

So, among the reminders and lessons of this, making sure that death isn't a grand changing in in our relationships, that we say the things that we'd say then now, seems like a strong one.

#Comment Re: hi neighbors made: 2007-09-08 11:56:25.492083+00 by: deborahlagunitas

Hi you all,

I'm here in Paris; Pete and Jenny sent me the news about Diana's passing yesterday and I turned to your pages. Thanks for writing this ... I am feeling really close to you and our little neighborhood and wishing that I was there right now. Please give John a huge hug for me and tell him I'm thinking of him and of her. I miss all of you soooooooooo much and think that we have a pretty amazing neighborhood.

much love to everybody, Deborah