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This American Life: Infidelity

2009-11-06 04:45:22.661848+01 by Dan Lyke 2 comments

If you're into infidelity... uh... no, wait, that came out wrong... If you're into tales of interesting relationship issues, may I strongly recommend This American Life: Episode 393: Infidelity. I just listened to it while I was working on some stuff in the shop, and I'm going to save it on my MP3 player for our next road trip.

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#Comment Re: made: 2009-11-07 14:59:06.795827+01 by: JT

I've never understood why infidelity is an issue. If I'm unhappy with someone, what's the point in being in the relationship in the first place? Mind you, I've never had kids or anything that would lock me into a relationship, but I've never been unfaithful to anyone, not even girlfriends before marriage.

#Comment Re: made: 2009-11-08 07:53:57.731019+01 by: Dan Lyke

Ages ago, I remember an online conversation where some young Andrea Dworkin quoting Women's Studies major said "sex is about power", and a seasoned old BDSMer replied "well, yeah, if you do it right."

I think it's easy for some to lay down a simple rule and follow it, but I think it's fascinating to look at the frisson that comes from the sneaking around, and the motivations and rewards for doing so. The second story in that episode is about someone not crossing the line, and the realization about his life and the illusions he'd built up about himself that that came from deciding not to.

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