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Entry: 2016-07-15 18:18:40.091176+00 A few bad apples by Dan Lyke comments 0

Soooo... an Oakland police officer's wife commits suicide using his service weapon. Circumstances are suspicious, but he's cleared by the Alameda County coroner. Shortly thereafter he commits suicide, same weapon, and leaves a note. That note starts to unravel a whole bunch of Oakland police officers who've been having sex with a minor in exchange for not arresting her for prostitution. I mean, right there is statutory rape, but we add the coercive element and let's not mince words: A whole bunch of Oakland police officers raping a minor. Aaaand, now it's crossed the bay: *TWO DOZEN* SFPD officers under investigation.

I'm all for sex worker agency. Prostitution is the combination of sex and free enterprise, and I've got no problem with either of those. It's the illegality that exploits sex workers, and right here we have a perfect example. The young woman in question was doing what she had to to get ahead in her socioeconomic position. But the police officers should bloody well know better.

At Least 2 Dozen SFPD Officers Tied to Teen at Center of Sexual Exploitation Scandal

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Bay Area History Current Events Law Enforcement California Culture Pop Culture Guns Marriage ]



Entry: 2016-07-13 15:47:52.737156+00 Never too old for sex by Dan Lyke comments 4

NY Times: Too Old for Sex? Not at This Nursing Home

Good to see a nursing home actually talking about sex, and dealing with it.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2016-07-12 14:40:10.673466+00 Pornography availability is associated by Dan Lyke comments 0

Pornography availability is associated with decreases in sexual violence. Of course the GOP is against it. http://www.cnn.com/2016/07/11/...convention-internet-pornography/

[ related topics: Politics Erotic Sexual Culture Net Culture ]



Entry: 2016-07-11 23:37:44.807991+00 British Rap by Dan Lyke comments 0

Why Can't There Be More Kissing In Porn?

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Entry: 2016-06-23 21:20:09.483492+00 As if you needed even more evidence by Dan Lyke comments 0

As if you needed even more evidence that police dogs respond to their handlers rather than evidence: http://fox13now.com/2016/06/21...fice-acquires-porn-sniffing-dog/

[ related topics: Interactive Drama Erotic Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Gambling Dogs ]



Entry: 2016-05-25 21:17:28.644114+00 Porn vs Erotica by Dan Lyke comments 0

Tina Horn: Why the dichotomy between porn and erotica is false and destructive.

Porn=bad/erotica=good doesn’t train the sexual taste of the rich white Emma Watsons of the world; it dehumanizes the trans people, the people of color, the “not classy” bodies who have chosen to make porn because it’s an option that works for them.

[ related topics: Music Erotic Sexual Culture Gambling ]



Entry: 2016-05-13 13:52:48.013065+00 Influential gadgets by Dan Lyke comments 0

Time Magazine names the (Hitachi) Magic Wand the 10th most influential gadget of all time.

Here's the Time list. 3 cell phones, but only one vibrator... Hmmm...

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Clowns ]



Entry: 2016-04-29 20:59:07.98791+00 Zootopia & sexual culture by Dan Lyke comments 1

Whore Next Door: The Zoo Story.

I've heard that Zootopia is amazing and I should go see it, but Charlene and I saw the trailer with the DMV scene, and it left us totally flat. I've read a few other things on how it tackles racial issues that make it sound slightly more interesting, but Siouxsie's take on it makes me more intrigued.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Law Enforcement Woodworking ]



Entry: 2016-04-29 14:23:45.979041+00 New economy and sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

I think I linked this in the past few weeks, but if I haven't, you should read Eric Weinstein, director of Thiel Capital: Anthropic Capitalism And The New Gimmick Economy.

The anthropic viewpoint on such heuristics, more common in physics than economics, would lead us to ask “Is society now focused on market capitalism because it is a fundamental theory, or because we have just lived through the era in which it was possible due to remarkable coincidences?”

Jumping off from this, Wherefor the sexual economy? - Elf M. Sternberg :

So, sex. There's a reason we talk about bars as "meat markets," and when we discuss the questions of marriage and family we use the phrase "the sexual economy." The question is, does Weinstein's observation have any impact on getting laid?

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Entry: 2016-04-25 23:50:40.887646+00 Competence Porn by Dan Lyke comments 0

Charlie Jane Anders: The Moment When Science Fiction Split off From Competence Porn:

But at some point, including scientists as heroes became a bit of a taboo in science fiction, with the notable exception of Walter Bishop in Fringe. (And in the U.K., Doctor Who is a holdout.) We're only allowed to explore new science or strange ideas if our hero is an "everyman" who has no clue what's going on.

[ related topics: Interactive Drama Erotic Sexual Culture Health Invention and Design ]



Entry: 2016-04-20 15:15:11.09797+00 5 by Dan Lyke comments 0

5,000 years developing written language, and now Unicode has a hieroglyph penis. We're done! https://twitter.com/unicode/status/722133439726505984

See also: http://unicode.scarfboy.com/?s=U%2B130BA

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Entry: 2016-04-18 21:15:33.544773+00 Military misled Congress on sexual assault by Dan Lyke comments 0

Pentagon misled lawmakers on military sexual assault cases:

There also is nothing in the records that supports the primary reason the Pentagon told Congress about the cases in the first place: To cast top military brass as hard-nosed crime fighters who insisted on taking the cases to trial after civilian law enforcement said no.

PRESS RELEASE: Protect Our Defenders Report & AP Investigation Show the Pentagon Misled Congress:

Washington, D.C. – Today, Protect Our Defenders (POD) released a report, “Debunked: Fact-Checking the Pentagon’s Claims Regarding Military Justice,” on the heels of an Associated Press investigation that shows the Pentagon misled Congress in order to preserve commanders’ control over sexual assault cases and block critically needed reform that was within a handful of votes of passing.

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Entry: 2016-04-15 23:48:25.876099+00 monogamy and agriculture by Dan Lyke comments 0

Nature Communications: Disease dynamics and costly punishment can foster socially imposed monogamy. Abstract:

Socially imposed monogamy in humans is an evolutionary puzzle because it requires costly punishment by those who impose the norm. Moreover, most societies were—and are—polygynous; yet many larger human societies transitioned from polygyny to socially imposed monogamy beginning with the advent of agriculture and larger residential groups. We use a simulation model to explore how interactions between group size, sexually transmitted infection (STI) dynamics and social norms can explain the timing and emergence of socially imposed monogamy. Polygyny dominates when groups are too small to sustain STIs. However, in larger groups, STIs become endemic (especially in concurrent polygynist networks) and have an impact on fertility, thereby mediating multilevel selection. Punishment of polygynists improves monogamist fitness within groups by reducing their STI exposure, and between groups by enabling punishing monogamist groups to outcompete polygynists. This suggests pathways for the emergence of socially imposed monogamy, and enriches our understanding of costly punishment evolution.

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Nature and environment ]



Entry: 2016-04-15 22:38:07.068489+00 Have a good flight, muggles by Dan Lyke comments 0

Hey, I know a bunch of people who know this guy: This Virgin America Gate Agent Wins At Life With His Hilarious Boarding Signs

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Entry: 2016-04-15 20:00:39.575052+00 Tipping makes it longer by Dan Lyke comments 0

How a Cam Girl Conspiracy Theory Sparked Masturbation Innovation

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Entry: 2016-04-13 14:56:27.976255+00 Ted Cruz & Dildos by Dan Lyke comments 0

Saved for the general election race: The Time Ted Cruz Defended a Ban on Dildos: His legal team argued there was no right "to stimulate one's genitals."

The brief insisted that Texas in order to protect "public morals" had "police-power interests" in "discouraging prurient interests in sexual gratification, combating the commercial sale of sex, and protecting minors." There was a "government" interest, it maintained, in "discouraging...autonomous sex." The brief compared the use of sex toys with "hiring a willing prostitute or engaging in consensual bigamy," and it equated advertising these products with the commercial promotion of prostitution. In perhaps the most noticeable line of the brief, Cruz's office declared, "There is no substantive-due-process right to stimulate one's genitals for non-medical purposes unrelated to procreation or outside of an interpersonal relationship." That is, the pursuit of such happiness had no constitutional standing. And the brief argued there was no "right to promote dildos, vibrators, and other obscene devices." The plaintiffs, it noted, were "free to engage in unfettered noncommercial speech touting the uses of obscene devices" but not speech designed to generate the sale of these items.

RT Craig Mazin @clmazin

Ted Cruz thinks people don't have a right to "stimulate their genitals." I was his college roommate. This would be a new belief of his.

[ related topics: Politics Erotic Sexual Culture Law ]



Entry: 2016-04-05 01:20:10.259008+00 Some good thoughts on identity and by Dan Lyke comments 0

Some good thoughts on identity and tear-jerking ones on family in these excerpts from Coming Out Like A Porn Star http://www.voiceamerica.com/ep...o-on-coming-out-like-a-porn-star

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Entry: 2016-03-29 15:55:18.065778+00 Coworking hostel by Dan Lyke comments 0

Speaking of your dystopian cyberpunk future: In Pod-Based Community Living, Rent Is Cheap, But Sex Is Banned. The hostel meets coworking space.

At least in China, company dorms have some minor notion of job security...

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Entry: 2016-03-25 16:45:14.717466+00 Cruzin' by Dan Lyke comments 0

Okay, I both think the rumors of the Ted Cruz adultery thing are way too early to be anything, and, as Eλf Sternberg ‏@elfsternberg tweeted:

Meanwhile, #polyamory folk are over here, arms crossed, going, "The rest of y'all is fucked up over this #CruzSexScandal thing."

But.... the snark! The snark!

RT Ray Radlein ‏@Radlein:

Listen, what Ted Cruz does with his ovipositor in the privacy of his murder cave is really none of the public's business

RT John Fugelsang ‏@JohnFugelsang:

Oh yeah well I heard Ted Cruz had a threeway with Irony & Karma. #CruzSexScandal

RT John Fugelsang ‏@JohnFugelsang:

I hear chlamydia is terrified of catching Ted Cruz. #CruzSexScandal

RT Bunny ‏@twocrazybunnies:

They're calling it the Cuban Mistress Crisis. I can't stop laughing.  #CruzSexScandal

[ related topics: Privacy Sexual Culture ]



Entry: 2016-03-25 15:33:07.9784+00 4chan AI by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Rob N ★ ‏@robn:

IBM: Chess AI

Google: Go AI

Microsoft: 4chan AI

(This is about Microsoft deletes 'teen girl' AI after it became a Hitler-loving sex robot within 24 hours. Chatbots are dangerous technology...)

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Entry: 2016-03-25 15:30:12.449087+00 North Carolina by Dan Lyke comments 0

Separate bathrooms for Senators is a move I could get behind: RT Stephanie Skora ‏@Stephanie_Skora:

Time to remind folks that there have been more US Senators arrested for sexual misconduct in bathrooms than trans people #NorthCarolina

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Entry: 2016-03-21 20:44:04.137399+00 Comedians Sitting On Vibrators Getting Coffee by Dan Lyke comments 0

If you're like me, you've probably watched the opening to some episode or another of Comedians In Cars Getting Coffee, and then said "yeah, I don't have time to watch this right now", and then it's fallen by the wayside...

Well, one you will watch all the way through: Comedians Sitting On Vibrators Getting Coffee.

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Entry: 2016-03-17 16:40:28.057459+00 Modesty by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Mona Eltahawy ‏@monaeltahawy:

"the whole concept of “modesty” doesn’t just fail to protect women—it’s actively harmful" http://www.theestablishment.co...ne-freaks-out-over-nude-selfies/ via @ESTBLSHMNT

The Real Reason Everyone Freaked Out Over Kim Kardashian’s Nude Selfie

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Entry: 2016-03-17 16:40:18.002721+00 Modesty by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Mona Eltahawy ‏@monaeltahawy:

"the whole concept of “modesty” doesn’t just fail to protect women—it’s actively harmful" http://www.theestablishment.co...ne-freaks-out-over-nude-selfies/ … via @ESTBLSHMNT

The Real Reason Everyone Freaked Out Over Kim Kardashian’s Nude Selfie

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Entry: 2016-03-15 05:25:10.857934+00 Another great night calling for the by Dan Lyke comments 0

Another great night calling for the Vallejo Pioneers. Sight called, with flow, most of the night. Martinez Swingers on Wednesday...

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Entry: 2016-03-05 00:58:47.058897+00 implanted RFID and "trafficking" by Dan Lyke comments 5

So many of you will have seen this article about a woman who came into an unnamed hospital and said she had "..a GPS tracking device implanted in her side." Turns out she actually had an embedded RFID chip. Which brings us to 2 conclusions:

  1. We need to make it very very clear to everyone right now that there is currently no implantable "GPS tracking device". The RFID chip is readable only from short distances, and it's hard to imagine that this had any application other than intimidation. Which brings us to:
  2. We need to legalize prostitution, so that victims like this feel safe coming forward faster, and so that they can feel safe going to law enforcement. The fewer tools to intimidate and coerce people, the more likely they are to seek help.

http://www.marketplace.org/201...-takes-fight-against-trafficking

[ related topics: Sexual Culture Health Robotics Bay Area Law Enforcement Embedded Devices Maps and Mapping RFID ]



Entry: 2016-02-26 16:35:50.842244+00 Whorecast: Mia Li by Dan Lyke comments 0

Whoa, that's an interesting new direction for The Whorecast: kind of an "in her own words" stream of consciousness by/about Mia Li. Great little "humanizing the sex worker" piece.

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture broadband Invention and Design ]



Entry: 2016-02-25 06:35:09.984574+00 Fun night calling for the Martinez by Dan Lyke comments 0

Fun night calling for the Martinez Swingers! Long drive over there, though...

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Entry: 2016-02-22 15:12:02.645117+00 Heartburn drugs & Alzheimers by Dan Lyke comments 2

Heartburn Drugs Tied to Dementia Risk. "Proton Pump Inhibitors" like Prevacid, Prilosec and Nexium

After controlling for age, sex, depression, diabetes, stroke, heart disease and the use of other medicines, they found that regular use of P.P.I.s increased the risk for dementia in men by 52 percent and in women by 42 percent, compared with nonusers.

The study is JAMA Neurology: Association of Proton Pump Inhibitors With Risk of Dementia: A Pharmacoepidemiological Claims Data Analysis

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Entry: 2016-02-14 05:00:09.770508+00 At Camp Victory on St Croix by Dan Lyke comments 0

At Camp Victory on St Croix, US Virgin Islands. The insect and bird sounds are amazing!

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Entry: 2016-02-11 00:21:42.328615+00 Mission Control 2.0 by Dan Lyke comments 0

The Second Coming of Mission Control:

For 15 years, Mission Control peddled a particularly cozy breed of kink. If your fantasy was to, say, fondle a stranger inside a cage while dozens of faceless voyeurs watched, this particular sex club was not for you (the Power Exchange encourages that kind of thing). But for open-minded sensualists seeking sex with a side of theatricality, creativity, and, yeah, conversation, 2519 Mission Street was the place to be. "It was kind of a family," says blogger and porn performer Kitty Stryker.

One of my pupusa lunch regular friends is a part of this community and described painting and fixing the place up. It's good to see them getting some positive press.

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Entry: 2016-02-05 21:38:55.267698+00 Sex toy differences by Dan Lyke comments 0

RT Kyle Machulis ‏@qDot:

Interesting sex toy packaging differences (via @subgirl):
- women: lots of information
- men: vaporwave album cover

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Entry: 2016-02-04 03:55:07.647797+00 Good takedown of the Super Bowl by Dan Lyke comments 0

Good takedown of the Super Bowl "trafficking" myth, and why it hurts women and distracts from actual problems: http://www.bohemian.com/northbay/sex-fumble/Content?oid=2937150

[ related topics: Erotic Sexual Culture Sports ]



Entry: 2016-02-04 00:04:27.443553+00 Orthodox Judaism and sex by Dan Lyke comments 0

Orthodox Sexpert: An interview with Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, the Orthodox sex guru.:

Our youngest patients are about 17 or 18. One of my favorite patients recently was 84. I gave her her first vibrator. It was really sweet. She was a bird-watcher. She was so cute. A lovely Westchester lady who was in a marriage for a long time and was feeling really sad because she and her husband used to have a good sex life, and now they weren't. She was having a hard time orgasming, so we did some medical stuff, and I introduced her to vibrators, and it changed her life.

Via the UnSlut Project.

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Entry: 2016-02-01 01:56:15.6835+00 No X in this Y by Dan Lyke comments 1

So Len L ‏@DammujedGuds tweeted:

"I don't have a horse in this race." "I don't have a dog in that fight." I want to make more "I don't have a [animal] in this [sport event]"

to which I responded:

I don't have a lion in this coliseum. I don't have a bear in this dumpster. No raccoon in this trash can...

And this led to Peg ‏@ethnobot:

@danlyke @rivenhomewood I don't have a squirrel, or even a rat, in this wall.

Dave Polaschek ‏@DavePolaschek

.@DammujedGuds @danlyke Don’t have a donkey in this porno. Don’t have a monkey in this poo flinging. Don’t have a cat in this drowning.

and:

.@DammujedGuds @danlyke Don’t have a cock in this fight. Don’t have a bull in this pit. Don’t have a cuckoo in this clock.

or:

.@DammujedGuds @danlyke Don’t have a flea in this circus…

MrCompletely ‏@Mr_Completely:

.@danlyke @DammujedGuds I don't have a piranha in this carcass

J. Eric Smith ‏@justericsmith:

@Mr_Completely @danlyke @DammujedGuds I don't have a tapeworm in this colon.

@Mr_Completely

.@justericsmith @danlyke @DammujedGuds I don't have a dildo in this orgy

Thoughts on the Dead ‏@ThoughtsOnGD

@justericsmith @Mr_Completely @danlyke @DammujedGuds I don't have an oyster in these pants.

MrCompletely ‏@Mr_Completely

.@justericsmith @danlyke @DammujedGuds I don't have a candidate in this election

Hey wait

and:

@justericsmith @danlyke @DammujedGuds I don't have an unstable derivative in this financial catastrophe

or:

.@justericsmith @danlyke @DammujedGuds I don't have a rubidium atom trapped in this Bose-Einstein condensate

And what I thought was the crowning achievement, J. Eric Smith ‏@justericsmith:

@Mr_Completely @danlyke @DammujedGuds I don't have a flute solo in this Tull song.

Dave P again:

@justericsmith @Mr_Completely @danlyke @DammujedGuds Ain't got no hound dog in this pickup truck.

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Entry: 2016-01-29 20:52:51.394399+00 Dearly beloved by Dan Lyke comments 0

If I have any preferences around any memorials held for me, they largely involve a gathering at a pub or similar, but this could sway me back to funeral parlors: Grieving family's horror as hardcore pornography played at funeral for father and baby son.

“It took them nearly four minutes to turn it off, people couldn’t believe what they were seeing.

“To the priest’s credit he handled it extremely well. He apologised on behalf of Cardiff Council and said that in 30 years of doing the job, he had never seen such filth.”

Yeah. Please remember me that way.

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Entry: 2016-01-22 21:27:37.493709+00 Thatsnow penis! by Dan Lyke comments 0

"I'm really sorry that I deleted your [snow] penis"

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Entry: 2016-01-09 00:26:37.756854+00 OkCupid goes poly by Dan Lyke comments 0

Very interesting social shift: OkCupid Adds a Feature for the Polyamorous:

The move comes in response to a rapid uptick in the number of OkCupid users interested in non-monogamous relationships. According to the company’s data, 24 percent of its users are “seriously interested” in group sex. Forty-two percent would consider dating someone already involved in an open or polyamorous relationship. Both numbers represent increases of 8 percentage points from five years ago. The number of people who say they are solely committed to monogamy, meanwhile, has fallen to a minority of all users, 44 percent, down from 56 percent in 2010.

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Entry: 2015-12-31 19:46:04.32498+00 queer for a vanilla het monogamous butch guy by Dan Lyke comments 2

Just copied over for safe-keeping from a Facebook thread, in which I observed that "I'm pretty queer for a vanilla het monogamous butch guy...", and I've been working on clarifying that statement in a couple of contexts, so a few comments down I wrote:

When I square dance call, especially for gay clubs, I will often wear my "Gay Caller's Association" badge, and have gotten into several conversations of "so... you're clearly straight, why is that your chosen affiliation?", and that's led to a bunch of thinking and discussion on why sexuality and gender identity matter and why they don't.

And I guess I'm kind of coming to something along the lines of "unless we're going to get naked and intimate together, none of those things really *should* matter, and my sexuality involves a level of closeness that I really don't have the bandwidth to maintain with more than one person at a time. So if sex is off the table, then it's kind of my responsibility as an ally to muck with people's expectations around sexuality and gender."

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Entry: 2015-12-18 18:43:41.624363+00 Arkham model railroad by Dan Lyke comments 0

Welcome to Arkham: The (HO) Model City. Model railroading meets H.P. Lovecraft.

There's still a squid auction at the Obed Marsh warehouse every Thursday, and occasionally one can still see a big squid like in the old days, like this prize 27-foot Architeuthis just hauled up from Innsmouth. After the auction, it will be cut up and rendered in the trypots for squid oil.

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