Flutterby™! : Settling

Just a comment I left on the Facebook link to Ben Werdmüller's blog post on "Settling":

I grew up moving around a lot, and into my adult years thought of places as things to be occupied as long as they served me. I think it was helped that, as a young misfit, I found "my peeps" online, so where I lived in meatspace was less important than the relationships I built with people all over the world. It was only when I hit 40 that I started to yearn for a more solid and stable community, for the idea that I wanted a real relationship with where I lived.

I wonder now if part of that was the destruction of those online communities, the intrusion of "the real world" into them that made them so much less than they'd once been, and I had to start finding other ways to filter in order to build structures of friendship.