Flutterby™! : The Tinder principle

The Tinder principle

2025-04-27 19:48:58.246438+02 by Dan Lyke 0 comments

Catherynne M. Valente @Catvalente@wandering.shop

I’m going to say this slowly.

If Andrew Tate & his ilk were right about ANYTHING they’d have no audience.

Guys would listen briefly, apply advice, & be WAY too busy with their new gfs, side-pieces, & high income hustles to bother tuning in.

It’s the Tinder principle: if you’re happy, they lose a customer.

Their business model is your unending misery.

"The Tinder principle" seems to apply to a whole lot of things, and it's reinforcing my feeling (that keeps getting shot down) that we need some new open protocols and formats for connecting with each other in more structured-data ways, without the pressures of externalities and advertising and Google for discovery.

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