Flutterby™! : Changing romance

Saw a bunch of links to this article: Vox: What broke teenage romance?, but didn't really follow up because I figured I kinda knew what it said. And, to be fair, I think I did, but I think there's something to take from Elf Sternberg's comment:

This article reminds me of a conversation I had with my kids. They claim that so many kids identify as queer these days not because they want to date their own gender, but because the queer community gives them a vocabulary that's not steeped in patriarchy and misogyny.