Flutterby™! : "no sex" class

Interesting category over at Figleaf's Real Adult Sex investigating women as the "no sex" class, and how that assumption maintains a two-tiered system. Start at the bottom, where he rambles about why making men the initiators means that women have to be reactive:

... Except in the most abstract political sense neither "yes" or "no" are direct actions. Thus "no" can only be a *reaction* to an action initiated by another. To that extent it creates a limited right to be left alone *thereafter,* but not a right to be left alone in the first place. And, as Autumn of the now-dark Putting Perfection on a Curve frequently mentioned, it was wearing to be obliged to decline the (generally polite) advances of multiple men whenever she just wanted to sit down by herself at a table in a bar, have a beer, and spend the afternoon writing.

In other words the right to "no" is a critical defense. But actual power? Um, not. ...

Start at the bottom and work up.