Flutterby™! : Rape, abuse and porn

How Stoya Took on James Deen and Broke the Porn Industry's Silence:

She was in San Francisco when it happened, Stoya said. She and Deen were not at work. I asked her what words she would use to describe it now. "If you hold someone down and fuck them while they say 'no' and 'stop' and use their fucking safeword, that is rape. But when it first happened, I felt numb. And I went to work the next day. And I went to work the day after that. And I did a scene with him two days after, maybe three days after, I'm not sure. Then I felt like I'd been violated by someone I trusted." She said this was relationship violence. She said she would try to bring it up with him: what happened, what had he been thinking? He would tell her, she said, that her tears were "abusive".