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Having questions is how we build friendships

2026-06-08 17:47:36.519601+02 by Dan Lyke 0 comments

In talking about the BoingBoing link to Vadim Drobinin: Am I a Bad Friend? , an observation of something I've felt, from ‪Elf M. Sternberg‬ ‪@elfsternberg.bsky.social‬

It was at one party that I ran into a couple of friends I hadn't seen in a few weeks, and after a round of "How ya doin?" we ran out of things to talk about because we were so on-line we KNEW what was going on in their broader lives.

Elf M. Sternberg ‪@elfsternberg.bsky.social‬

We didn't have the gaps that took time to fill, that justified talking to each other, that justified spending time together.

Maybe the rise of TTRPGs and the like is a way to create a context for being together and trading synthetic experiences since the real experiences we used to trade are gone.

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